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Q: Since its winter time my face is getting very dry , does anyone know any good daily face moisturizers. Thanks

Olay mostrurizer with spf 15. it works great and its only like 20 bucks..

Q: well is it wrong to like someone elses boyfriend? Well, i have this friend who is one of my best friends and she has a boyfriend who i think is wicked hott..and i sometimes have dreams about him but not always. I mean this best friend is wicked nice and i love her to death& i would take a bullet for her..but she has boyfriends all the time & i never had one boyfriend..and i wanna be happy& shes always happy.and im never happy. i mean its not like im gonna go steal him away from her cause im not that kind of friend or girl. but i dont know what to do or think.. should i just forget about this and just keep liken the boy ive been liken for a long time now or what? need some help..

To answer your question, no its not wrong to like someone elses boyfriend. You cant control your feelings. Also, your a good frtiend for not trying to steal him..and I think you should let it go and find someone else to like. Eventually your friend and the guy you like will break up so who knows. Just be patient..your time will come when you have a boyfriend!

Q: ok i know this might be weird but what does 1st base 2nd base and 3rd base mean?? not like in baseball!! **PLEASE DO NOT DELETE THIS!*

1st-is kising, 2 is feeling up/fingering, 3 is oral, and 4 is home base..sex

Q: I'm 13/f and I'm a little over 105 pounds. This is pretty normal, and I'm happy with my body, but my tummy has been a little pouchy lately and I want to know how trim it down because my uniform for track is spandex and is really tight and I don't like my stomach sticking out. If you have any ideas what I can do-----plz help!!!!!!

Doing situps, pilates(get a video at walmart or a book at any book store)..pilates hurt soo bad but they work so good:)

Q: My best friends hang out in 1 group and always have but now 1 of my friends, Nicole hates One of my friends,Aimee and she is turning Megan against her and is so ubsessed with Ehris no one eltse can talk to her with out Nicole listening in, now I think lilly is going on there side to and when I ask people for advice they say its none of you buisness they arnt hearting me but they are because they are hert ing aimee and I'm the one she comes to when she needs a shoulder to cry on, and when she is hert so am I. WHAT SHOULD I DO? Groupies=Nicole D., Ehris U., Megan W., Lilly P., Aimee R., and me Lindsay W.

This is totally cnfusing. But I'll answer because no one else is. Hopefully I can help out a little. OK soo basically your group is choosing sides and splitting up. How about getting everyone to talk about it. This sounds really gay but have everyone say what they want to say without being interuppted. Like getting everything off their chests..nd then at the end you can all talk about it. See if you guys can make up..if not...and everyone still hates eachother..well then theirs nothing you can really do!

Q: i am 13 years old an have two really good friends. One of my friends asked me and my other good friend over. we both could go so we were excited. but that day my good friend got invited to go somewhere else and told me and the girl whos house we were going to she couldnt come. She said she was leaving people out. And she had told the girl whos house we were going to she couldnt go. I think she should have come. And i need to talk to her about it. What do i say?

Well, ask her why she went to her other friends house. Thats all you could really do..and if she says like "Because I wanted to hang out with them" then you need to let it go. Everyone has different friends, your not her only friend.

Q: Has anyone seen the movie The Day After Tomorro?
Well after those horrible tsunamis that killed like 120,000 people...i got thinking. Then i was watching the weather channel last night and i saw that texas had a lot of rain..then 12.5 inches of snow..and then tomorro its supposed to be 80 degrees! I live in ny and our winter is extremely mild..only like 5 inches of snow in TOTAL for the whollle winter so far. And it might reach 50 degrees in a few days! Does anyone think we are heading in the direction of where the Day After Tomorro went? or something less drastic?Its kinda scary...Global warming...

Yeah i dont think its happening. Even though I havent seen the movie..but here in Southern California its soo cold. Its like 60! brrr...anyway, if it was happening scientests and people would already know and tell us!

Q: I'm 35, and married for three years. I got married cause I was lonely and married the first guy who came around after my boyfriend and I split. In the meantime, boyfriend married someone else and has two kids. Recently boyfriend and family needed a place to live. They now live with us. I'm still in love with him. We've had sex, with our spouses approval... It was awesome as always. I want him more than my husband... husband is lousy in bed. Boyfriend loves his wife, and really only wants her, and a traditional marriage... without his ex being in love with him. I just need some advice... or a friend... someone to understand me.

Well, maybe you should have your ex boyfriend move out because if he doesnt want a relationship with you..and you do..that will cause problems if your living in the same house. Maybe you oculd help them get a palce to live or something? If your husband is lousy in bed..I think you need to tell him..well dont tell him straight out because that will break his heart. But ask him if you cvould try new things..you know? And yeah it sounds like jerry Springer but Jerry Spriner is fake because not that many people wanna marry their moms and stuff!

Q: I'm contemplating having the bariatric surgery done. I'm 140lbs over my "ideal" weight... and the diabetes and other probs are too much to deal with for the next 10 years. I've been this same size plus or minus 20 lbs for longer than that...and I have hated being heavy... now we have insurance that will cover it!! I think I need to do it... Just wanted to see where you stand on the issue... and see if you're supportive of the idea.

Heyy. My friend from church did this surgery as welll. I think it was called Gastiric Bypass but maybe their are other names for it. You need to understand everything that can go wrong in a surgery like that and also whats gonna heppen in your body. You cant have sugar, ever! My friend is like loaded on Splenda haha. But i think its a good idea if you wanna lose weight and do it fast! Hope everything goes well:)

Q: Im on JV bball..and our coach flipped out on us a couple days ago. I dont mean just yelling..but he started hitting the bleachers behind him...quite scary. He thretened to quit.Hes frustrated because we arent doing things right..we are an ok team but we arent good.
I like him as a coach..he just has his little incidents. Is there anything i can do to make him not quit?

Have a meeting with your team (wthout the coach) and tell them that we(we as in you and everyone else) need to step it up at practices so he doesnt feel like quitting. because if he quits, theirs a chance your team wont play. And dont make it seem like your the best player on the team and your attacking everyone esle. because that'll cause more probs!

Q: is there anyway to loose weight reallly fast and still see improvement?

Their are ways to lose weight really fast, but their not healthy at all. You have to go slow, take it day by day, exercise and eat right. I know it sucks..but thats what you want to do if you wanna see long-term weight loss

Q: Okay, i've been using photobucket for a while and just recently my pictures stoped working. I'm pretty sure it's because too many people direct linked to me. Does anyone know how I can know whos using my stuff, and also when my graphics will start working again? Also are there any better sites you know of to use? Thanks if anyone can awnser this.

Well did you send your friends your photobucket oink? Why not have one just for your personal use that no one knows of...because i never get that problem because I dont send it to people. I think Photobucket is mostly for re-sizing and editing.

Q: 2 of my friends are starten 2 act like whores it dont exactly turn me on and they think it does becouse they are always wherein whorey clothes and acten like they are prosttutes around me and my friends how do i tell them that the whorely style doesnt turn me and my friends on

just tell them straight up! Be like acting and dressing slutty wont get guys to like you. They might just wanna hook up with them but they'll be viewed as easy trashy girls..so yeah just tell them!

Q: i am a guy and i am in middle school and there is this girl that is like my best or 2nd best girl friend lets call her hilary. so hilary asked me out and i said yes then about a week later she dumps me. then a few days later she asks me out again and i say yes cuz i still liked her. then 3 days later she breaks up with me again. and then about 3 weeks later hilary asks me out agian and i said yes then she dumps me five days later and i have a feeling that she is gunna ask me out again wut should i do if she does?

I agree with Storage. Shes playing games and I think you shoudlent talk to her all together. Stop falling for her, shes not worth it.

Q: okay im sorta new at this and i really need help so anyone that can i need to know how farr is too far on a first date?

Too far is oral sex or sex. I think if you really click with the person why not kiss or makeout with them..haha hope I helped:)

Q: what is the best college?

Well, everyone has their own opinions but the well-known good colleges are UCLA, Yale, Harvard..and thats all i know of but theres lots of colleges and it all depends on what you want to be!!

Q: Just today i went on my column, like i do everyday, and all my info was gone and my pics and everything! And i never gave anyone my password.....how can i change my password so it doesnt happen again??

Heyy, that happened to me too but I doubt anyone got on my colum. its prolly just a bug advicenators need to fix but havent got around to yet! xoxo-sherry

Q: Ive been with my boyfriend for along time and he wants to have sex and i dont no i love him soo much and he loves me i no he does and everytime we r together its soo perfect and he said hes not guna force me but he thinks this will lock r relationship and then we ll be together forever and ii rele think hes telin the truth...should i do it?
Sexually confused..

Thats a load of bull...lol He just wants to get in your pants..seriously..sorry to break it to you..your love will be lcoked? haha..funny...look hes a guy, hes horny! have sex with him if you want but dont believe the locking relationship/forever thing.

Q: Okay maybe i'm just over-reacting, but, me and my boyfriend have just recently become sexually active, and we had sex the first time without a condom, i know i know bad decisio, but it wasn't hardcore sex.. it was a put it in take it out kind of thing. Like an experiment. But non-the-less, it wasn't protected. But we've had sex about 3 or 4 times since then, in the last 3 months. I had my period after the first time we had sex, and I know for a fact none of the other condoms have broke. But, for some reason, I haven't had my period in over a month, going on two! I've taken two pregnancy tests and they both said i wasn't pregnant, but i just cant' shake this feeling that I am!! Why haven't I had my period!? I know this is long, but I really need advice. Please help!

Keep testing yourself every two weeks or so. Just to see if anythings changing..and see if you have any of the signs of pregnancy!

Q: I really really really hate my moms boyfriend and everyone thinks he's so nice and that im crazy but im not. It's hard to explain but what should I do! Im thinking of moving with my dad is that the right choice? I've talked to my mom but its like she wont listen she always tells me to be open minded but shes the one who need to know that I cry every night and I'm really hurt inside because I dont like him. please help!

-moms boyfriends a jerk

Well its your moms boyfriend so yeah. I dont think she'd wanna leave him. Why dont you move in with your dad if you hate her boyfriend so much. them, their wont be as many problems! Talk to your mom about what you wanna do and see what she says:)