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what can i do when my girlfriend dump me just because i did`nt go to her home when she invite me on december holidays and i spent two weeks without calling her.and you know what i still love this girl what can i do to get her back

By making an effort.


Talk to her, tell her you're truly sorry and if you give her another chance you won't do it again, explain how upset you've been lately about it etc etc.
You know this girl - not us. So you should have an idea of the right things to do and say..

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14/f
i've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half.
weve been fighting the past three days and we usually never fight. but we came into a discussion that really bothered me.
apparently he said he could do better then me. so then i asked, how? and he said "listen i love your personality, and how you make me feel, i seriously love you, the only way i could do better then you is in looks" he kinda then saw me tearing and he told me he wasn't calling me ugly. and then i told him to just drop the conversation and we did but the rest of our day was good. i just really never thought i was ugly.. but i didn't think i was gorgeous.. just average you know? i mean other guys have asked me out in the past but yeah. so i guess im ugly.. what do i do now? :(

That's the most stupid comment he could have ever said. How on Earth did he want you to react to that? I doubt he would like it if you said it to him. Infact, not only would it hurt at the time, it would lower his confidence and make him feel inadequate - always. Anyone would feel the same actually.
Do not let his comment put you down, okay?
I take it he's regretting what he said now..
Have a little chat with him if it'll make you feel better - just to get the disappointed feeling off your chest.
and if he continues to put you down, you do not need someone like that in your life.

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I want to get my nose pierced, what are the chances of it getting infected? And how much, roughly, would it hurt?

Everyone has a different pain tolerance. I've had mine done 3 times. First 2 times didn't hurt much. Third did and bled alot.
The chance of it becoming infected is impossible to say. Go to a reputable piercer, follow their instructions and do not keep touching it and transferring the bacteria from your hands into your fresh piercing.
If I'm being honest, they're a pain and can take up to a year to fully heal.

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"On your first date with him, give him a lovebite on the top of his shoulder from behind! This turns him on completely! This is the perfect thing to do when you're in the cinema. (this works with most guys) "



whats a lovebit? please be specific

A lovebite is the English way of saying hickey.
and if you don't know what a hickey is, it's basically a bruise from sucking the skin for a certain amount of time. They work best on the neck.

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Ok I have a boyfriend named jesse and he's a skater........I'm a emo I dont want 2 be with him anymore I'm in love with a guy named josue who is also emo but I don't want 2 brake up with jesse because I don't want 2 hurt him......please help me out my heart belongs 2 josue

Suck it up and just do it. The longer you leave it, the more hurt he will be. How can you possibly have a boyfriend when your "heart belongs to someone else"? It's unfair to him. It's unfair to you.
Break up for both of your sake and do it in a decent way - face to face - and just simply tell him you don't feel the same way anymore and you'd be happier if you were just friends. Yeah, he will be hurt, but it's better than you stringing him along.

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14/f

so i have my period and i have a doctors appointment tomorrow. what do i do? as in wear a tampon. etc...

also, this is an akward question but are you supposed to keep your bra on or take it off in the doctors office?

It depends what you are going to the doctors for, obviously. If you're on your period, by all means, wear a tampon or pad.
and yes, of course you can still wear a bra.
but be prepared to take it off if you're going for a specific problem where he/she may need to examine you in that place.
Don't worry about it. If you need to remove anything, you'll be told anyway. and if you have to wear anything (gown etc), they will be provided. You'll be told everything that's going to happen.

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is it normal or okay to have to wear a tampon bc the discharge is so heavy??

Whilst it is normal to want to stop heavy discharge if you have it, you shouldn't really be wearing tampons too often. Try to keep them just for your period and use a small pad/pantyliner instead.

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Hi im 14/f and i want dead straight hair but without using straightners or heat does anyone know how to get straight hair any hairdrying techniques or special things to use thanks a lot!!!

Sandy

If your hair is naturally curly or wavy, there's no magical way to make it super straight. It can be tamed, but to get "dead straight" hair, it can only be achieved with heat, I'm afraid.
These can help you on your way:
*You can blow dry your hair straight using the cool setting. It's less damaging than heat. OR if you don't mind the hot settings, use them. and use a paddle brush as you do it.
*Use straightening products - shampoo/conditioner/gel/cream etc
*As your hair is drying, brush it frequently with a paddle brush.
*Wrap your hair (wrap it around your head and pin into place) - it's time consuming and quite tricky to do alone. It's also best to do it at night and sleep on it.

If your hair is straight but you want to achieve a flatter/straighter look, again, products (shampoo etc) will help alot, along with a paddle brush. Paddle brushes are best to tame hair and help make it straighter.

If you want a specific technique, like how to blow dry your hair straight, Google has all the answers and will probably explain better than me.
So good luck. :)

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Sounds whiney but here's where Im stuck. He means everything and theres this gorgeous girl that goes to my school. She's Latina and Absolutley perfect in every way of course - and ... he likes her. I know that he does. Maybe not Loves her, but at the same time I know he likes her alot and it just hurts me so much. I've tried confidence tactics.. everywhting. We're quite close... but now we're drifting, because of her!! It seems shes faultless as well.. and he stops tlkaing to me so much now, and I know that hes talking to her in the meantime. The worst thing is, she's nice. She's slim. She's gorgeous. Im slim, Im not a touch on her though. I know he likes me too... but... I just need help. What should I do XD? This is making me down all the time and I just dont want to waste the best years of my life down. I wanna beat her - I want him, I know I can have him. But I cant beat her confidence/sexiness/effortlessness she has. She doesnt even try and she has him... I try... and where does that get me XD? Sorry. Im moaning. Help very much appreciated, though =]. Ta Very Muchly:)

If you've tried everything but it doesn't seem to be working, why don't you tone it down. If you're lucky, he might start to notice you're not paying him much attention any more and he might make some effort towards you.
If you haven't told him straight out that you like him more than a friend, do it. It could change things between you.
At the end of the day though, I know it's not what you want to hear, but you can't force him to like you more than her. You can't always get who you want. and throughout your life, you'll realize this because it'll probably happen more than once.
but don't give up without a fight (which you've been doing) - at least this way, you know you tried your best, and it's him who's missing out.

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Seems like a vain question but recently I've been looking for a nice foundation - all the ones I've found recently are too orange, or too expensive! My friend recommended Estee Lauder, because they match to your skin tone, but its twenty two pounds and I don't have that kind of money to burn on a pot that'll last about 2 months. I only get fifteen pounds a month! I'm not particularly complaining about that because I'm sure people get less, and also I haven't been able to get a job yet, but I'd really like to know anyone's suggestions on where I could buy a natural looking foundation that is affordable. I have quite a pale skin tone :) (I live in England so any American branches are kind of a bit far off for me :P)
Thank you very much! :)

Hey, I live in England too and it took me forever to find a decent one because I'm pale. Whatever your skin tone, it'll match it. I think it's £12 ands it's called Colour Adapt by Maxfactor - I got the natural shade. and it's a decent size so it'll last.
I'd imagine you can get it anywhere. I got mine in Boots. :)

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So i overheard these guys talking about a girls vagina and they said it was "phat", what does that mean? Is it a good thing?

Definitions of Phat are;
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=phat
So I'd say that's pretty good, wouldn't you?
Unless it was "fat", then that wouldn't be so good I'd imagine. :)

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what do you tell to a hella cute guy that keeps asking you "you wanna mack on me?" but he says it in a joking way coz I KNOW he's just joking


and i definitely DO NOT want to mack on him but i dont wanna be mean and say "NO!" or "Hell No!" coz i dont wanna seem conceited.. you know?


But this guy is cute .. and sometimes i act the act that people do when they like some one.. ok well whatever my main point is what do u say to a guy when someone asks you "wanna mack on me"? (but you KNOW he's just joking!)

If he's just joking what's your problem with saying no? You can make it sound jokey too.. or if you don't want to sound "conceited".. say yes. but you know it'll carry on more from that point.

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where can i find a good clean website with lots of tests quizes polls and surveys?! thanx! :p

www.bzoink.com

If they're not "clean" you will be told beforehand. :)

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Sorry if it's in the wrong cat.!

Right, I'm wondering whether I've done ''too much stuff'' or not.
The first time I made out..like with tongues with a guy was when I was 13.
First time I kissed someone properly w/o tongues was when I was 12.

Since I've made out with about 10 or so guys. And had about 5 boyfriends.

I've had my hand in a guys pants..but like just in his trousers..not boxers =/

And I've played very flirty with a few guys.

Is this too much..?
I'm 15/F

If you're questioning whether it might be too much, it clearly is in your mind, whether you realize it or not.
and in my personal opinion, yeah, I'd say so.

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I know people ask this question like 50 times on this site, but I actually have some details. My period came last month (Dec 25), and I had sex with my boyfriend in January, but we ALWAYS use protection; however, I am about 4 days late now, could I be pregnant or am I just freaking out for no reason?

You can get pregnant no matter what you use. Is it likely? No. but it can happen.
Give it a few more days. It just might be late.. and you stressing over being pregnant certainly isn't helping.
If i doesn't arrive, take a test to confirm.

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i don't understand why i always got headace, how can i get rid of it beside medcaine? please help me, is it becuase sleeping too much? what is cause having headace? so i can aviod it.

There are lots of causes for headaches. Yes, it can be caused through sleeping too much or too little, along with stress, if you're a girl - being on your period can cause headaches, too much caffeine, allergic to certain foods, etc etc.
There are also different types of headaches, such as migraine, cluster, tension...
If you can't pinpoint where yours are coming from, see a doctor. You may need treatment.

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ok well my boyfriend was fingering me like really hard but i was ok with it cuz it felt really goood! but likei twas weird cuz i was moving as he was doing it because it was so hard is that weird at all?

If it felt good to you, then no.

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so i have pierced my belly button before, many many times. and out of all those times, i failed to either get it through, or to leave it in for a while. so basically now i am stuck with scar tissue that is very thick, about 3/4 cm thick and i want to know how to get rid of this. i plan on getting my belly button pierced profesionally when im 18 so what can i do to get rid of this. and please dont say time cause first time i tried to pierce if was when i was 12 and now im 16 and scar tissue is still thick. so what should i do to minimize the scar tissue?

You can try, but it's not guaranteed to work. Try massaging the area with special creams etc specifically for scar tissue. Ask in stores near you for them if you can't find them yourself.
The good news is you can still pierce over scar tissue, you just have to find a decent parlour and be able to tolerate the extra pain.

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OK should i be stressing if my bf is talking to his EX? ANd cause he's trying to hide it from me. ( trust me I know) And if so, what do I do?

Your boyfriend is free to talk to anyone he likes, as are you. He might be keeping it from you because he doesn't want to hurt you.
Don't jump to conclusions.. just talk to him about it and tell him there's no need to hide it, because that'll make you feel more uneasy as it is.

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16/f

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and 7 months. He has been talking to some stupid girl from another state and it bugs me wicked badly. So one day I was on myspace and I purposly looked for a guy from my school who is completely gorgeous. We started talking and became best friends. He knows i have a crush on him and he tells me he has one on me. I feel so attached to him. I really do like my boyfriend a lot. I have already broken up with him twice for this kid and we got back together because i cant help but be with him. By the way, my boyfriend hates this kid because he thinks he tried using me for sex, even though we never did anything together but hug. My boyfriend would be wicked pissed if he found out that we talk. It is extremely complicated and i dont know what to do. I need advice desperatly. Who should I pick? If you need more imformation I'll send you some. Thanks.

There's no point being with your boyfriend when you like someone else.
You're going to continue to hurt him because you're selfish.
He was talking to someone from another state. What damage can that possibly cause? At least he didn't dump you for her, twice, and is secretly lusting after her behind your back.

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