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not pretty enough.
14/f
i've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half.
weve been fighting the past three days and we usually never fight. but we came into a discussion that really bothered me.
apparently he said he could do better then me. so then i asked, how? and he said "listen i love your personality, and how you make me feel, i seriously love you, the only way i could do better then you is in looks" he kinda then saw me tearing and he told me he wasn't calling me ugly. and then i told him to just drop the conversation and we did but the rest of our day was good. i just really never thought i was ugly.. but i didn't think i was gorgeous.. just average you know? i mean other guys have asked me out in the past but yeah. so i guess im ugly.. what do i do now? :(
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get away from this kidd. you want a boy who appretiates you for who you are. i am sure your gorgeous. its the guy whos being an ass (as always). *no offense guys*. but seriouslyy, there are probably 10000 guys out there who wouldnt talk to you like that, because a good boyfriend would only want to make his girrlll feel like shes the best thing in the world. you could do better than him. dumppp :]
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He had no right to say that to you. Every girl is beautiful in her own way. Boys have different tastes. If this whole "ugly" thing is bothering you then try something new with your look. Thats what i do when i get bored with looking the same way. i change my hair style or something. any girl can look gorgeous, you just have to apply the right methods. Good luck with that guy of yours, i hope yall work all this out.
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very few girls that think their ugly actually are.
let me tell you a little something about guys. were all stupid, like short bus stupid, when it comes to girls.
ive said many things i regret seconds after saying them and it happens again and again, we never learn. so show a little forgiveness when he says something retarded, but let him know what he said was wrong or he'll never learn.
and as for him thinking he can get a better looking girl, every guy thinks that, and almost all of us are dead wrong. he thinks he's a lot more attractive then he is, and he assumes girls will flock to him if he was single. its a male flaw that has led many a man to stupidly break up with a girl only to come crawling back alone a few weeks later and finding her with a new boy already.
my suggestion is if he mentions that he could do better again, you should mention that you could do better too, which im going to bet you can. jealousy is a powerful thing to a man.
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That's the most stupid comment he could have ever said. How on Earth did he want you to react to that? I doubt he would like it if you said it to him. Infact, not only would it hurt at the time, it would lower his confidence and make him feel inadequate - always. Anyone would feel the same actually.
Do not let his comment put you down, okay?
I take it he's regretting what he said now..
Have a little chat with him if it'll make you feel better - just to get the disappointed feeling off your chest.
and if he continues to put you down, you do not need someone like that in your life.
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Someone telling you they could do better is a sure sign that you need to move on. No one that cares about you would say something like that to you, even in the heat of a fight. That said, you've been together a while and you may want to tell him that what he said was unacceptable. The problem is there isn't much of a defense he can come up with to explain himself, what he said is having a serious effect on your self esteem.
To be perfectly honest, you shouldn't be with someone who talks to you in that way. You should never settle, and maybe if he thinks he can do much better, that he shouldn't "settle" either. I guarantee you can do better.
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the thing is...if he was the right guy for you, he would never say that. The thing about love is that inner beauty and outer beauty are very connected when you love a person. Despite weight, bone structure, acne, a big nose, bad hair, any of that shit, if a person is truly in love they are able to appreciate flaws and even love a person for their flaws. this guy is clearly not deserving of you, in my opinion you should dump him, because if he's telling you you're not pretty, this relationship is definitely not going to last. If you continue to be with him he's going to say worse things and when he does finally dump you you will feel like crap. So be a big girl and stand up for yourself! better guys will come along, who will think you are the most beautiful girl in the world, even if you don't look anything like models in magazines.
beauty is so subjective and what's beautiful to one guy could be hideous to another, so don't act like you're either ugly or pretty and that's all there is to it.
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Guys never know how to say anything the right way, and if he thinks he can do better than you he's wrong not everything can be perfect for him and what he said wasn't nice at all. You probably are gorgeous but guys always expect more from girls and don't understand anything. Pretty much,....guys are stupid! :P
You dont have to do anything now! Just love being who you are and love the skin your in
Hope I helped!
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