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Hi,
Ok so I've jsut finished my first year at college (I am 16/17)
When I started at college I sat with my group of friends and everything was fine. However, theres this one girl who joined our circle in year 10 and she talks to me and my twin as if we are inferior and I've always felt unwanted when shes there (which was all the time)
So in the end me and my twin went off every lunch time to sit on our own. As you can imagine, there gets to be a point where this is very depressing.
So how do I get back in with my group of freinds again? Btw I'm pretty shy.
Thanks (link)
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It shouldn't depress you. It's her problem not yours. Don't move away if she is there but focus on your friends and ignore her behavior. Don't let her have that kind of power. She wins and you lose by moving away and eating elsewhere.
What you should do is go eat with your friends and mention that you have missed their company lately. With the girl present say "I don't know what your problem is with my sister and I but I refuse to let you treat us like shit in front of my friends any longer."
That will put the brakes on her. And your friends will get it if you add "And that's why I have made the mistake of not eating or socializing with people I like."
I KNOW you are shy but you must stand up for yourself or people will continue to pop up that get away with treating you like shit. Don't let them. Confront her in front of everyone and she'll really backpedal and or reveal the reason why she's been snotty. After that pay her no mind and focus on your pals.
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I'm sorry this is so long. I just got carried away. I just want you to really understand who I am and my situation, and I didn't know how to be concise about it. I greatly appreciate all help, you don't even know how much
How do you get over that shame and insecurity? I still feel like hiding away from everyone in my own bubble, when that isn't productive. There were periods where I even had suicidal thoughts, but they the cons always outweigh the pros. I just don't know how to get out of my funk. I want to actually experience good things in life, I don't want my life to be ended before I do so
I just finished high school and I just feel really ashamed that I didn't live up to my potential at school and outside of school I hardly had friends, I suppose because I didn't try to conform to anything I didn't like, despite me being moderately physically attractive and being nice and nonjudgmental to everyone. I still don't understand why I couldn't have that teenage experience with a first boyfriend, best friend you have sleepovers with and can share your deepest thoughts, or even get invited to a few parties and other gatherings. Every year I thought this could be reached, but I feel like every year just became worse and worse, since 5th grade. Is it just because I allowed it to, or was it out of my control? I feel like it's mainly my fault
I started going to a therapist but I still don't understand what I did wrong, and I hope college will be better but I'm afraid if whatever I'm doing that's repelling people will continue. The therapist said she didn't see anything wrong with the conversations we were having, so I'm so confused. I don't know if my race had anything to do with it, being black and living in towns that were diverse, but with mostly white and asian people. I don't know if race was important to other people because I don't think that way about other people, and had a few "school friends/acquaintences" of various skin tones. I feel like the best friends I had were in elementary school, which is the only part of my childhood I still feel the most fondly of, and my best friends were Italian, Chinese, German, and a few family friends
I don't know if race was a factor some kids had with who they invited to hang out, as people began to get older, or idk. Anyways, so yeah now I just feel like a mess and don't feel like connecting with others and I spend a lot of time on the internet, too. My mom is concerned and tries to now block computer time (which I hate intensely), but I don't drive, so otherwise my home feels pretty much like a prison, since nowhere around me is in walkable distance. I've basically grown up online, since I was 8, and supposedly that's why I have social issues? I don't know. I don't think I'm socially inept; I think I notice social cues. I love meeting new people and I'm friendly.. but I've rarely felt such a deep emotional bond with others, to where I feel I can just share anything with them. It's easiest for me to do that on the internet, or to a therapist, because it's confidential. I'm like afraid that if I tell people my insecurities it will just give them more reason to abandon me, or look at me with a negative light. So pretty much last year I'd act like everything was fine in my life when I was basically allowing things to crash down. But I didn't want to give people who didn't like me something to look down on me for, so in the end, when it crashed and burned people must of thought it came from nowhere. but then again, why should I care what they think when they weren't my friends? well, because I wanted friends, unfortunately. or at least one. i wish i could have just been like a robot and been really efficient but no, I let stupid feelings destroy me in high school
It's like I'm now afraid of getting close to others because I've been friends with many people who over time, seemed to lose interest in me and stop being my friend. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I'ts not like I'm a boring person.. I feel like people first are excited to get to know me and then the interest fades. Am I supposed to be inviting them to things first? It's so frustrating. I once invited a girl to something we both wanted to see, and even paid for her ticket, but I never heard from her again except her on a few rare occasions, acting like we were friends at school and saying a comment to me.
So I feel like all these years have been a waste and I can't even stand watching sitcoms about teenage life anymore, when it 100% hasn't been like that for me. Teen shows seem to be in some completely different reality. I don't even understand myself, much less other teens. I don't understand why I've been so cruel to myself by doing things against what will truly make me happy.
But I want to succeed in life. Perfectionism has also contributed to my downfall, because it's caused me to procrastinate a lot by going online (for comfort. since I'm not getting invited to social events, it's how I feel connected to the world) in lieu of schoolwork (which is really hard for me because I take very long to do it "perfectly", and have since a very young age). So I just feel like I've let everyone down; teachers, parents, and myself. And I don't know how to come out of it. I really want to make a difference in this world and people have gone through far worse than me and achieved such great things. What are their secrets? How do I get willpower? Cause I feel like I want to do things but then something stops me, and then I just feel guilty and hate myself for it and not even basically crash and burn than doing my best and getting a result that I feel is "less than my personal best".
I just hate being alone. I'm so relieved high school is finally over, but especially last year, for my senior year, I was achingly lonely and music and the internet were where I went for comfort, but I can't go to a dance with an Animal Collective record. I can't go with an internet friend, who lives hundreds of miles away, to a movie. I need to make real friends and FIX my life so I don't repeat these same mistakes in college (and in middle school I thought I wouldn't make these mistakes in high school.. I thought I'd take the smart approach to high school, ugh) and I want to just do things that actually make me happy and will very much HELP my future instead of just screwing over my high goals through my self destructive attidude, just because I didn't have "the teenage experience" (link)
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Realizing you have a problem and desiring to fix it is a massive first step. I like the fact that you're talking to a therapist but ask yourself how much of the session is them listening to you rather than giving you the keys to turning this around?
You aren't crazy and need not be to visit a psychiatrist. You need to see one so they can find the issues as to why you cannot relate to others, have friends, or function like a normal teen and actually give you the tools to turn it around and work on your social skills on-top.
They can also do something no therapist can and deal with the depression and heartache you feel and medically treat it. That would clear up a lot for you.
The thing with people at school is that they truly didn't know you, your inner-beauty, talents because you were scared and didn't know how to act. They backed off of you in a big way because they could feel there was an issue with confidence in the way you acted with them.
When it comes to people just treat them like you would a relative and talk about things that interest you and likely them and relax as they can't bite you.
College has TONS of clubs for every interest under the sun and student government. You should join both as it forces you to get to know people and make friends. It would be foolish not to. Also, see if you can join an improv class or drama class in town because that will open up the world to you with dealing with all types of people and having fun. Doctors advocate that.
Next, I don't buy this nonsense that you can't get out of the house because you don't drive. I want you to go online and learn the local bus schedule plus one into the nearest city as well as subway map and get a weekly or monthly pass.
Look online for cooking, acting, self-defense especially and other courses you can get to by bus as well as theaters and concerts and start filling your days and nights with that and you'll surely meet people.
If your parents who sound too overprotective and shouldn't allow what has happened all these years worry about street-smarts they need to be told not to. As long as you have a cell-phone you are fine and start out taking the bus or subway 1-3 stops first and get off and have them meet you at that stop until you feel A-1 with it.
When it comes to the computer you need to be off of it and social media as much as possible. It may be hard at first but limit it to going on right when you wake up for an hour and right before bed for an hour. Sounds hard but isn't.
In the time in between I want you totally out of the house at all costs. It doesn't matter where you go, what you do and doesn't even have to cost anything but go out daily for walks, to the mall even to walk around, library anything outside or doing something away from the computer.
Now, you are probably asking how do I get to go to all those movies, concerts, classes, plays etc I'm talking about? What you need to do is ask your family for a monthly allowance say of $200.00 and use that for all meals, clothes, CDs whatever and get a chequing account at a bank.
They would provide this until you land a job. I want you to actively pursue that and try places like McDonald's and the movie theater as they hire people constantly for work there. That will teach you responsibility for your own self and to deal with others better.
Next, NONE of these problems have to do with race, religion, culture and can change. You may think life so far has dealt you a bad hand and perhaps it has but you have to take the shit from the past, forget it and push it aside and use it to propel forward as illustrate above.
One thing is for sure your therapist is not a doctor or mental-health specialist. What you need is a psychiatrist as a lot of what you are dealing with is a mental-health issue of which all of what you illustrated are the byproducts of. If you see a psychiatrist they can make drastic changes to help you especially if you are depressed and lonely as stated.
I'm also NOT letting you off the hook. I'm looking for you to connect with me as much as possible on your progress as I want to make you my project until I see your life is starting to change. And above all show mom and dad you wrote this and the response. I've been in your shoes and wouldn't tell you all of what I did if I hadn't made it out the other side myself.
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Hi!
So there once was this guy from church that I was seeing for like a whole year.As many relationships start off , it was nice and wonderful at the beginning . In a span of 2-3 months he said that he loved me, we had done "some things " together and he had also told me that he wanted to take me to his grad next year and that by then, he would like to make things official with us. As the school year came and went by , we would always have our ups and downs. we would always bicker about what our relationship was and how he wanted our relationship to be hushed. Because we were never official, things got complicated as we continued to act like a couple even though when really we never were one.
He would always make excuses about how half of the time he felt like he would date me and how half of the time he wouldn't because he didn't want anything to be serious at the moment. Although i knew i shouldve took it as a red flag, I would always ignore it because I didn't want to lose him .
So ,when the following year finally came he told his parents that he was going to take me as his grad date. But instead of being ok with it, they were shocked and disapproved of it . They gave him a whole lecture about how it would be best if he dated someone outside of church . And their reasoning behind this was because they didn't want any rumors and awkwardness happening around in the church.
To sum things up, in the end he took a different girl to his grad , I got jealous and he broke up our so called bond. Although he said that we could maybe get back in the future and that things would never change between us, the whole friendship became really hard on me because things were changing and he wasn't texting me as much as he used to.
And now that I think about it, I feel like he never tried hard enough to make it work.
I feel hurt and used, that now whenever he does text me, it feels that it is only just for the sake of it.
And as for that , I haven't answered his text yet. I don't know what to do !! Is it best if I continue to ignore him , or should I continue to talk to him and be a friend?!?!!
Please help !
Thanks
Ps sorry for the long message haha (link)
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If you get burned once do you put your hand on the same oven ring? Put simply he screwed around with your emotions and led you on for ages. You may have feelings for him but boy are you better off not being with him.
The person you need in your life is someone who values you for who you are. This person would NEVER hide you and likewise would never want you to hide them. Something is really fishy there. Maybe he had more than just you as a girlfriend or whatever he refused to define you as. Guys are proud of their women. They don't act like this schmuck.
I can understand parental pressure with dating but his whole change of girl for that graduation and excuse that parents don't like you and don't want church rumors doesn't wash. I mean what in the hell would you have had to have done for that to be even legitimate a viewpoint? I wouldn't be friends with a guy like him. Ignore all texts, e-mails etc. as he never treated you right or stood up for you. You'll be miserable if you do anything else but that. Someone deserves you but it ain't him. Let him kick himself in the head later when he sees what was worth having and officially recognizing. What a piece of work and his parents too by the sound of it.
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I have been sexually active for 6 years. I have had a number of different partners of different penis lengths, widths, sizes, shapes, and talent. Although I've had such a variety of different sexual experiences, one thing always remains the same: I can't orgasm during intercourse.
Not only am I unable to orgasm during intercourse, it just simply doesn't feel good. I love my boyfriend dearly, but sex has come down to having a 200lb man thrust himself into me until he cums or who makes me get on top, knowing my insecurities about my body - which just makes things even worse.
The most embarrassing part about this entire issue, is that I will soon be attending graduate school to work towards a PhD in Human Sexuality to help others overcome their sexual problems. How in the world can I feel comfortable counseling others when I can't even counsel myself?!
Some points to know when replying to my question:
1. I have been with the same man for quite some time. He has been sexually active for 6 years, but had mostly long term partners, where as I, on the other hand, have have more short term partners.
2. The only way I have ever been able to achieve orgasm, even by myself, is for me to by laying on my back with my legs straight out and clenching my legs very tightly while stimulating my clitoris. On very rare occasion, I can climax by my stimulating my clitoris and my man stimulating my gspot with his fingers.
3. We have tried almost every position in the world, but we are always up for more suggestions!
I could really use some advice on how to achieve orgasm during sexual intercourse.
Thank you,
20/F (link)
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It makes me sad to see how much damage this has caused to your self-esteem and relationship with your partner. Instead of being able to enjoy sex you both are to put it mildly resenting each other. He's definitely not helping as he's interested in his climax and not as much yours these days.
The problem you have affects roughly 20% of all women. They can't achieve orgasm easily or at all through sex (penetration) alone. It could be a physical issue (see your gynecologist) or just the way your body reacts or doesn't.
These women need clitoral, oral and other stimulation in conjunction to intercourse to climax. And that's okay. Your partner needs to stimulate you as well and you have to learn on your own what feels good and clue him in and relax as being too determined to have one can work against. Try to put the fun, spontaneity and even imagination (fantasize) into it as all the articles on this say that.
Next if you are a PHD or even have a shot at one it's because of your brilliance as well as compassion and knowledge. You will be excellent as a counselor in your field and not because you have 1 orgasm or multiple yourself. In fact, last week I saw a show on sexual problems where an ob/gyn admitted she had problems with it herself.
If you have found re: point 2 you made that this position and activity gets you to climax that's great and nothing bad if it's all for now. You should keep exploring on your own through self-pleasure as that's probably key to unlocking this issue and discovering ways to enjoy sexual experiences with your partner.
Here's a good article for you on myths and tips to combating inability to climax http://www.sogc.org/health/health-myths_e.asp
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I am about to be 15 and I've had sex. Should it hurt to wear a tampon? And how do Oh put it in and what's the best brand? Please help! Thanks so much. (link)
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It shouldn't hurt to wear one. I'm not a girl so you'll need someone else to tell you about brands. I think it depends on flow. This web site called Being Girl has a lot of information including instructions (diagrams) on how to use them that is narrated. It's a site put out by Tampax so it's quite comprehensive. http://www.beinggirl.com/article/how-to-insert-a-tampon/
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OKay so i had a condom in my pocket the other day and it was in good condition, not experied and no holes. but it was in my pocket and went through the washer and now im not sure if its still good. i feel like it would but i dont want to take the chance so i need to know if i can use it or if i should go and buy some new ones. also im going to a party tonight so i kinda need to know asap seeing as i plan on finally doing it with my boyfriend after the party. (link)
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You can pretty much bet your life it's not. There's no way the spermicide or integrity of the condom would last after being in the wash. Unless you want a baby or risk of STD don't chance it. Get new ones.
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14/f alot of stuff has happened in my life and so i never got a chance to really date in middle school. because alot of family issues and shit took me away from social life there was only one guy i liked and we were just really good friends and i think he liked me too. but we dont talk really anymore, though i want to change that hopefully. im going to date this year but idk i was just thinking like some people think 18 is old. but like anyone can say that im a really fun and all that, so im definitly not uptight about alot of stuff and i would not mind or care if i lost my virginity to my bf but my only thing is that i would do it when i want to with him and when im ready but i would be in a serious relationship though. but my sister is 18 and shes never really had a serious boyfriend, guys ask her out and shit but she turns them down becasue she doesnt want to waste her time on someone if shes not attracted to them or most of them were dbags good looking or not, thats mostly what happened with me. guys were never a priority to me or her but for her it was like all her life she basically was like if it happens it happens. and my sister is very like she dresses stylish but classy like she doesnt wear low cut stuff, me i dress nice too but if i go out with my friends i like to wear tight clothes sometimes, not slutty becasue i like my body plus me and her have different body types. shes short but very lean not a lot of muscle, skinny she doesnt do sports, and not really curvy. but im short and really curvy and skinny, and i do sports so im sure if she had my bod she would dress the same. anyway if you were to wait until 17/18 or even 19 to have sex with your boyfriend that you've been dating for a year or two is that like old? i know people are gonna say whenever your ready but really is that old? even if you guys say it is it doesnt mean im gonna lose my virginity to some dude when im 15/16 so idc just say what you want. thanks (link)
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It's about MATURITY and NOT age. It's about being prepared, ready mentally and certain that it's 100% what you want and that the person is right. It's way more than a physical act. It's giving yourself over mentally, spiritually in addition to physically or it becomes a regret later.
It's not a competition to reach a goal by a certain age. It's about when you are ready and that can be at any age be it 18 or 30 even. That's not unusual so don't feel pressured to do it before you are ready. You'll find your partner and others with respect you for waiting until it was right.
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So, I think i may have diaper rash but from a pad. So i'm calling it pad rash. I looked and it's all red and stuff and It's irritating. I'm a little embarrassed to tell anybody. So i went on here. Any help? (link)
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Put it to you this way what's worse suffering silently or doing something about the problem. Trust me any female you approach be it your mother, friend, aunt or whomever knows what this is like and will help you. Mom's also seen every part you've got before so telling her shouldn't worry you. Believe me she might be equally as embarrassed but you'll get through it.
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I'm 15 and pregnant my mom wants to take me to have a abortion she said she would make me do it no matter what I'm stuch need help she does not like the farther of the baby because mostly because his a coloured and I'm white but its my choice not hers I see where she is comeing from and I reli know its hard and a lot of work but I realy want the baby my partners familie are exited for me and him but my familie will like kill me they are a very rastest familie I hate it I was never born to be like that but I realy need help please ! (link)
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NOBODY can make you have an abortion. If she took you to such a clinic you could tell the doctor you were force and have no intention at all of having the procedure and have them deal with your mother.
If I were you I would go directly to your teachers, counselors and anyone who will listen about what is going on at home. I would pack enough clothing and then go stay with your boyfriend and his family where they are accepting of this unborn child and you.
Your mother has an irrational fear driving her actions that life for the baby, yourself and most important her will be bad because of the fact it's inter-racial and worries how people will see her more so than you. She needs counseling on that especially with what she's threatening. Her head's not on straight. You can even have the baby adopted. It's an option.
But yes you NEED to get out of this environment and living with someone else as what your mother is trying to force on you is immoral for anyone to try and force someone to do. Where does she get off? If the boyfriend's family is excited tell them what's happening, live with them and get a lawyer to keep your mother from you if need be until the kid arrives.
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hi im 12/f,
in two days its going to be my bday usually im extremely excited but not this time:”(
well im really sad because my brother is treating me like crap and all i hear is 'your not gettin anything' from my families mouth like idk wat to do now _ im always like “wtf ma mom should've aborted me”;{
im at the point where idk wat 2 do with my life;{
any advice????:}
THANKS!!!!!!! (link)
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Trust me there are people who are twice your age that don't have life figured out. The secret is nobody does and we all have lessons to learn and do our best with what we have. You have the whole world and life yet to unfold so stay in there and wait to see what opportunities come.
If you want to die now than that's wrong and perhaps something you better see a doctor about as it's not normal behavior to think this at all much less at 12. You could be clinically depressed even. Could your family be pulling your leg trying to throw you off of a gift or your brother being a snot? That's likely it.
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why michael jackson became white? (link)
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Vertilago--It's a skin disease that eats at the pigment. In African-Americans it makes their skin look white.
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Whenever I am out in public I get nervous, my heart races, I get tensed and paraniod. I always feel like I stick out like a sore thumb, If I am in the check out and the worker makes friendly conversation I forceably smile and I become extremely uncomfortable. I often avoid going places I may fid myself having conversations with people. There have been many times where someone is talking to me and I suddenly loose interest. I've been told all too often I have terrible eye contact and I talk under my breath to where I barely talking.
Why may this be? (link)
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A medical problem. To put it another way an anxiety issue that can be treated with a psychiatrist's counsel and medication. You should seek medical assistance to curb it because right now you can't function. Actually you could visit a hospital ER and the on-call psychiatrist would see to you as any problem where you can't function normally is considered a medical emergency that will worsen without their intervention.
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SORRY THIS IS LONG IN ADVANCE . Okay so I am a 14 year old girl & am going to the 9th grade . For most of my life I have these moments when I wake up and just am in a bad mood for absolutely no reason . I am no longer cutting & my friends are helping me with my drinking & drug problem . I know you're probably thinking what is a 14 year old doing that stuff for . Well to tell you the turth i do it to escape the real problem . I have a great boyfriend who supports me 100% & a lot of friends that to as well . I can go from laughing & havimg fun to a dark place where i just get a blank look on my face & anger , sadness,& hate just take over & i have no reason as to why , but i'd really like to get better for my friends & myself . When I tell my parents about it they just say that im acting . they know that i have cut before but i nnever went to therapy to talk to anyone about . & as much as i hate talking about my feelings i even asked them to send me to one so that i could get help . they fight all the time & take it out on me which make me grab the ciroc & the vodka & the knife . Please help me . (link)
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I'm bipolar myself. I'm not a doctor but this disorder usually takes your life and puts your brain into warp speed. In a sense it backfires and you cannot make logical connections in your head with thought. It also gives you up and down rapid cycling mood swings.
Unless you are seeing that which isn't there, hearing voices, having non-stop rapid thought, like a freight train and delusions or feeling omnipresent or in control of the universe etc etc. odds are you aren't bipolar or in a state of mania.
You probably are depressed or have a different mental illness that is actually driving the addictions that you have, moods and desire to self-harm. That's KEY to figure that out by seeing a psychiatrist not a therapist (vast difference) and getting it treated.
Your parents baffle me to be honest and pis me off on another level. They should KNOW how serious this addiction, self-mutilation and dark thinking is and that you need help not scorn.
What you NEED to do is find an adult you can trust be it a teacher, counselor, friend's parents, relative, coach or whomever and tell them the problems you have, that you're scared and really want professional help but that your parents think it's an "act" They'll get you the help trust me and deal with your parents so that they get that you aren't. After all an "actor" would NEVER go to the length you unfortunately have to if they weren't thinking they were in legit trouble. Also--show them this site and that you wrote this. That should speak loud and clear for you.
Also, you can legally see any doctor you wish or go to an ER for any reason at 14 in Canada or U.S. to my understanding and tell them what's going on with your thinking, self-harm, addictions and deep, dark thinking and mood swings and ask for peace of mind for a psychiatrist to assess and treat you if need be. They can get your parents on your side as believe me this kind of thing and inability to function is an emergency room thing.
In a case like this keep telling adults or anyone who you think can get you help this until someone gets you professional help.
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Hello,
Recently I had my laptop repaired. When I got it back I had to install some new dell drivers, including audio ones.
Recently, I've had a few problems with sound:
1. When I listen to music with headphones, it not as loud as it used to be. I've checked the sound levels, and done all the tests. My headphones work fine on other devices
2. If I watch a youtube video, suddenly the sound will stop working. If I refresh the video (or even unplug the headphones and re-plug them in, if I'm using headphones) the sound will work again.
Is there any way to fix this?
I use Vista, and it's a dell inspiron if it helps.
Thanks in advance folks! :) (link)
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Hopefully you have your invoice from the repairs as it was really recent. Phone these people up and tell them you just repaired my machine but it's worse than it ever was before going in. Point out the sound issues weren't there before you put it in and only developed after the repair.
They MUST have a warranty on their repairs and could in fact be responsible for fixing this or free. Approach them first unless another columnist thinks of something to fix your sound without. That's what I would do gripe to the person who fixed it and ask why the problem that didn't exist before I picked it up?
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Okay so I am 16 years old and i cant do with just fingers anymore. I want to get a vibrator online (since i cant go to a store underage). And i have the money but how do i recieve it without my parents finding out? I dont want them to find it in the mail...and they always check the mail :( what do you guys suggest? also where would you suggest i hide it incase i somehow get one? (good hiding places!) (link)
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You do need to be 18 in both cases and the holder of the credit card it's billed to online. These products are meant to be sold only to adults. As for the second question companies that ship these products always use discreet packaging to protect their customers.
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Hi, 19/f
I know you guys aren't doctors or anything- I just wanna know if anyone has went through this before and what not.
Anyways, I'm sexually active. I'm not pregnant-know that for a fact.
Last year- I went to the ER for stomach cramps. It wasn't like 'period' cramps it felt like someone was twisting my insides up and squeezing them- the doctors took a pregnancy test-negative- and gave me some pain relievers- said they had NO idea what was wrong. Took a cat scan- and nothing. The doctor told me that what I was feeling was 50x worse than a woman have contractions & giving labor with no medication.
Well, that lasted about a week. Worst pain I've ever been in. I took some Prevacid and suddenly it went away. (So I'm guessing, it might have been acid reflux, & gas)
Well, for the past 4 months everytime I go to bed, I feel like I'm going to throw up, but I never do- Sunday night, while I was laying down, I started having similar stomach cramps as a year ago.
I woke up every hour to poop (it was diarrhea);; went to work && the pain got worse from there.
All day yesterday, I diarrhea'd every 30 minutes-1 hour and had constant stomach cramps.
I took a pregnancy test- and it came back negative.
Now today, my stomach is still uneasy- I'm still diarrhea maybe every hour and a half- two hours. My butthole itches & burns while I'm pooping and after. So i'm thinking it might be raw? Or is there something wrong in that area too??
Any idea whats going on? I took another prevacid- and nothing; and I took something for gas- and nothing.
My normal bowel movements are usually 2 a day.
So? (link)
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Go to a different emergency room and insist that they put you under and have a gastro-intestine specialist put a scope down your stomach to look for the source of the pain, constant desire to puke and diarreha. None of this happening constantly is normal. The scope will show them exactly what's wrong with your stomach and insides. Best way to find out.
Pain could be associated with gallbladder as that's one thing the scope can find. Why they'd do a cat scan when it's a stomach issue I don't know. Not a doctor but been in a situation where this was the next step if it got worse. Have the gallbladder checked too as a ton of pain exists with that as does vomiting, weird taste in the mouth that feels like you will and sudden build up until you do if it feels like a vicious cycle. All this from personal experience. As far as the runs could or couldn't be related at all.
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hi im 23 and husband 27,been together for 6years.and in these years all he does is accuses me of doing things,he doesnt trust me,even though i do nothing wrong.he tells me how to dress and live my life.i really dont no what to do? (link)
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6 years of this? You should have never tolerated it this long. I'm afraid it's only going to get worse. The trust problem is HIS alone and there's not much that will shake it as it's in his head.
As long as you have never given him reason to act this way than he has no justification other than insecurity. Perhaps other women cheated on him before but you're not him. It's clear he's in need of professional help here to first SEE that he has a problem, second what it's doing to YOU and third what he needs to fix or it's pretty much headed to a divorce.
Accusations, distrust, and telling you what you can and cannot do is not signs of someone behaving normally at all and who knows how this can escalate. He's getting away with it because you haven't stood up to him and shown you have a backbone in 6 years.
You need to tell him to get some help or you're out of there and follow through on it no matter what. You have spent 6 years miserable with this guy and NOBODY husband or not has the right to control you. I fear if you stay that you'll become even more miserable with him. You have reached a crossroads either get him help and stay or break free of something so unhealthy. This isn't what love's about. You deserve a lot better and hopefully one way or another you'll find it. But he definitely has to see you're not someone he can continue to treat this way without a problem.
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Ever since i was born, i was always the shy girl and quiet. I've been trying to changed and asked God to change my life. But i am still the same girl. I am 23 years old, im a women now. I have been hurt so much. I cried almost every night because my heart in pain. I graduated from high school in 2008 and have not have a good job. Beside now i am a housekeeper. which is my worst night mare job ever. my dream is to go to college but i cant passed testes to get in.I have been tried about 10 times to get into school. And i couldn't cuz of my dumness. I have no friends. No one likes me. I dont know why. all i ever do is being sweet nice and innocent. Every day im thinking about dying. I am really hurt. The longer i live the more hurt i get. The only people love me are my parents. My siblings are not even like me. They always ignored me. I have a phone but no one ever call me. I am hurt and lonely. So, what is the best way to die? What kind of pills should i take? Please tell me. (link)
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WAKE THE HECK UP! You have a choice lay down and die (wrong) or get up from being knocked down and for once in your life fight back and become the confident and happy young woman you dream of. If you are in this much pain take the card you were dealt and make it work for you. Deal with the depression you have and GET HELP for these issues and turn things around.
This is your wake-up call from life. It wants you to make a positive move and fight back rather than curl up into the fetal position and give up. It will keep kicking your ass until you realize you need professional assistance. The disease of depression or something more is and has been running the show and convincing you of the wrong things and you have bought into its distorted view of you. What you have described isn't the real you. It's like looking into a mirror that is covered with dirt. Let's remove the dirt and help you see the real you for the first time.
Find a psychiatrist and do yourself the ultimate favor by seeing one at an emergency room tonight. Anyone wanting to die and do themselves in is in mental health crisis. At a hospital there will be someone who can diagnose this kind of depression and provide treatment and counseling so you can live a normal life and will in fact change yours forever.
Your problem is that you're only expecting bad things to occur all the time to you that you shut yourself off to any good that is and will happen.
As for friends, let's face it you haven't really tried and your attitude towards living life is something they can sense as wrong. It's putting people off. You really haven't approached others, joined clubs or taken classes drama or otherwise to socialize or attempt to. Who knows if you did what would change.
I don't believe for two seconds that you're dumb beyond belief and neither should you. So what if you tried ten times? A lot of people don't get into university easily. Instead of whining about it do something. Get a tutor to learn the skills you need or try a trade school where you learn a certain skill, try beauty school, and keep applying for jobs that interest you even or school until you find something and you will.
You just have given up and that's wrong. If you hang in and bone up on skills or take night-school or credit courses to get you in better position to get into school you'll be fine.
As far as dying goes you would be crazy to consider it even. You have no idea once you get the treatment you need and you do have a mental health issue here let's face it you'll be soaring. You're only 23 and it may not seem it right now but you have the whole world open to you and ample reason to keep going.
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Female. 18. Sometimes I will take in a quick breath and I will get a sharp pain in my chest, feels like my heart, but it will go away quickly. But right now I am having pain in my chest and shoulders. I hardly slept from it. It is more internal pain than anything else. Could this be anything serious? What is wrong with me?
PS. I have been around my grandpa, a smoker, all my life. He lost his battle with cancer in Feb.
Thank you. (link)
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It would be in your best interest to see a doctor at an ER tonight and get these symptoms checked out at the hospital and dealt with. You should not at 18-years-old be having chest pains that ebb and flow, breathing problems or severe shoulder pain.
All we can do here is hypothesize and not give what you truly need-- swift medical diagnosis at a hospital as it sounds like an emergency and advice. If we even hazard a guess and got it wrong that could be detrimental to your health but something doesn't sound right.
Definitely, check this out as it's something big screaming out for attention at you that is an issue of some sort but magnitude not known yet. Don't leave it as it could get worse. You should check it out a.s.a.p at an emergency room.
As far as your grandfather probably unrelated but again all of this needs to be discussed with a doctor. If you are having chest pains, shoulder pain etc. etc. that keeps coming and then fading like you indicated bypass the doctor's clinic and go to an emergency room pronto as I'm stated more than once here. If anything gain some piece of mind.
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Hi everyone!
I'm with this man now, we were on and off for about a year, but for the past month and a half we decided we cared for each other too much and really got serious. And I can honestly say I love him, which I've never felt before, he's my second serious bf but the first who ever took me out and introduced me to his friends. To me he's perfect! (though 5 years older than me, which occasionally causes trouble but we usually forget about it)
Anyway, my problem arises more so with my father, my parents never were very faithful to one another but I believe they loved each other, about 2 years ago my father cheated once again and my mother had had enough of his betrayals so wanted a divorce... This was a messy, angry divorce. My dad cut all contact from me, I had no birthday/Christmas cards and he had been telling everyone I should be making the effort to call him, as if he was the victim. This was as I was doing my A-levels and preparing for uni, so I had alot on my plate.
So basically, ever since I'd caught him cheating and seen how hurt my mother was from a younger age, it seems to have stuck with me. I can't trust men very easily, not with that at least, I'll do anything for my man, but when he is asleep, and his phone is there I have to fight every fibre of my being to not look at it, since he forbid me too really... He gave me his fb password and his phone password based on the trust that I'd not use them to snoop and I have done very well considering my history, but what I want is a way to get over the paranoia!
I haven't told him, because I know I'm being stupid and I know he loves me. He's a man that enjoys many friends and his freedom and I don't want to restrict that, but as I'm a uni student we have to spent holidays apart, and I read into the smallest thing all the time :(
Is there a way to just get over this one trust issue? without involving him too deeply preferably :) thanks (link)
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You have to convince yourself that this guy isn't your father and hasn't done anything to make you suspect he will act that way. I think what you need to do is turn to a professional (not a therapist) and get some help to work through what happened with your father, your current relationship and how not to let that affect or influence you with this guy now. Thank goodness he's so understanding. Marry him! Someone like that is a real catch as most guys wouldn't give you that access.
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