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My husband doesn't trust me?
hi im 23 and husband 27,been together for 6years.and in these years all he does is accuses me of doing things,he doesnt trust me,even though i do nothing wrong.he tells me how to dress and live my life.i really dont no what to do?
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6 years of this? You should have never tolerated it this long. I'm afraid it's only going to get worse. The trust problem is HIS alone and there's not much that will shake it as it's in his head.
As long as you have never given him reason to act this way than he has no justification other than insecurity. Perhaps other women cheated on him before but you're not him. It's clear he's in need of professional help here to first SEE that he has a problem, second what it's doing to YOU and third what he needs to fix or it's pretty much headed to a divorce.
Accusations, distrust, and telling you what you can and cannot do is not signs of someone behaving normally at all and who knows how this can escalate. He's getting away with it because you haven't stood up to him and shown you have a backbone in 6 years.
You need to tell him to get some help or you're out of there and follow through on it no matter what. You have spent 6 years miserable with this guy and NOBODY husband or not has the right to control you. I fear if you stay that you'll become even more miserable with him. You have reached a crossroads either get him help and stay or break free of something so unhealthy. This isn't what love's about. You deserve a lot better and hopefully one way or another you'll find it. But he definitely has to see you're not someone he can continue to treat this way without a problem.
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hello,
Well, you obviously need to speak to him. A relationship will NEVER work if there is no trust: people will go on being suspicious and accusing, and the strain (if not anything else) will eventually end the relationship.
If you really love him, and want to stay with him, sit him down and tell him how you feel. It may not sounds like the easiest or least awkward thing to do, but you need to do it. Explain that he needs to trust you, and it's your life, and you will decide how to dress and live. Be understanding however, because there must be a reason he feels this way.
If he cannot accept what you say, then it's probably best to take a break for a while. If yet it still doesn't work out, then a divorce may be the option. It's better to end things now, than to wait another 10 years or so.
But like I said, it's really best if you speak to him.
Good luck, and let me know how it goes! :)
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