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is 17/18 really too old to be a virgin?
14/f alot of stuff has happened in my life and so i never got a chance to really date in middle school. because alot of family issues and shit took me away from social life there was only one guy i liked and we were just really good friends and i think he liked me too. but we dont talk really anymore, though i want to change that hopefully. im going to date this year but idk i was just thinking like some people think 18 is old. but like anyone can say that im a really fun and all that, so im definitly not uptight about alot of stuff and i would not mind or care if i lost my virginity to my bf but my only thing is that i would do it when i want to with him and when im ready but i would be in a serious relationship though. but my sister is 18 and shes never really had a serious boyfriend, guys ask her out and shit but she turns them down becasue she doesnt want to waste her time on someone if shes not attracted to them or most of them were dbags good looking or not, thats mostly what happened with me. guys were never a priority to me or her but for her it was like all her life she basically was like if it happens it happens. and my sister is very like she dresses stylish but classy like she doesnt wear low cut stuff, me i dress nice too but if i go out with my friends i like to wear tight clothes sometimes, not slutty becasue i like my body plus me and her have different body types. shes short but very lean not a lot of muscle, skinny she doesnt do sports, and not really curvy. but im short and really curvy and skinny, and i do sports so im sure if she had my bod she would dress the same. anyway if you were to wait until 17/18 or even 19 to have sex with your boyfriend that you've been dating for a year or two is that like old? i know people are gonna say whenever your ready but really is that old? even if you guys say it is it doesnt mean im gonna lose my virginity to some dude when im 15/16 so idc just say what you want. thanks
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It is defiantatly not bad at all to still be a virgin at 17/18 years old, if anything thats good! I lost my virginity at 13 and the regret I put myself through for that was unbearable, trust me, young girls should not bring sex into a relationship. It's far too complex and makes things stressful. Sure it may be great when your happy with your significant other but that doesn't mean sex will keep him around. To sum it up it's better to not have any sex until you know your ready not because all of your friends are doing it, or because a guy tells you he wants to. It's your body and your decision . Good luck and best wishes!
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I am 21 years old and have had three sexual relationships in the past, including the one that I am in now, since I lost my virginity at 18 almost 19 years old. I think that most people are around that age when they lose their virginity, and it is a good age – in fact, I personally wish that I had waited longer; however at the time, I felt like I was really old to be a virgin. Most of the guys that I have had sex with, aside from my current boyfriend who lost his when he was 17 years old, became sexually active in their twenties.
I personally think that you should be out of high school, have been employed, and have shared other adult life experiences before you decide to have sex. I also think that it should be with someone that you care about, have been with for awhile, and are serious about. WAY too many teenagers give into pressure because they feel like they are too old to not be having sex, since all it seems like ALL of their friends are doing it (some are, and some aren't).
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Definitely not too old. I am 20. When I went to college I met lots of 18 year old virgins. Better to be a virgin rather than getting a reputation as a grimy slut...haha
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Nahh....i don't think so
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As the answer for your first question at the top, I don't believe that there is an age that is too "old" when it comes to virginity. You have to realize that there are also people who remain virgins until marriage by choice. That is perfectly fine because they made that choice themselves. It comes down to being mature and responsible enough to handle the consequences if something were to go wrong like getting pregnant and basically being ready and willing. On the other hand, I do believe that there are people that are having sex at too young of an age.
Now for your second question, at the point of a real, true relationship, it's really up to the people in the relationship. If they feel that they are ready to engage in that kind of commitment to each other, then they have every right to do it (as long as they are of legal age and both people consent). If they decide to wait, that's fine too.
Despite what some people may think, virginity isn't something that you should give up because you feel you are too old. So basically what I'm saying is that being too old shouldn't be important. Losing your virginity is a big decision that many young people get pressured into for that reason and peer pressure from others especially a boyfriend or girlfriend. The important thing is to wait until you are sure you are ready (physically and mentally) and you make it special with somebody that you love. I hope this helped and if you have any more questions or want to talk more about this, feel free to leave a message in my inbox.
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It's about MATURITY and NOT age. It's about being prepared, ready mentally and certain that it's 100% what you want and that the person is right. It's way more than a physical act. It's giving yourself over mentally, spiritually in addition to physically or it becomes a regret later.
It's not a competition to reach a goal by a certain age. It's about when you are ready and that can be at any age be it 18 or 30 even. That's not unusual so don't feel pressured to do it before you are ready. You'll find your partner and others with respect you for waiting until it was right.
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