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I kinda love this kid and i think were ready for intercourse.
But i am only 12.
What do you think i should do? (link)
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You "kinda" love this "kid" and you "think" you're ready for intercourse?
No.
You don't want to do something you'll regret. Wait until you are older. I mean you don't want to look back knowing you lost your virginity when you were only 12.
Not only that, you could end up pregnant, contract STI's, and it will hurt like crazy since you are so young.
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I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 months now. He comes off too strong, he blatantly cares too much & it's a really bad turn off on the way he acts. He's just too nice, for example... The other week, we were watching a film and he burped really loud, but because it was silent, it made me quite jump and I looked at him and said, " I wish you wouldn't do that!" He was nearly crying saying, I'm really sorry, I'm so sorry. I just looked at him weirdly and said it's fine. But by this, it's pushing me away. I feel as though he's treating me like I'm some sort of Queen that NEEDS to be worshipped, I feel like I've lost respect for him because he's too nice. Some of you will be like, why are you complaining? But it's not that, even when I'm in the wrong, he's apologising too much. I know, even if I did something that really hurt him, like cheated, etc. He would still take me back, repeatedly. Even though I wouldn't. It's really boring me with him, but I do care, even though I feel like my feelings are kind of fading. After the first 2 weeks, he was telling me he loved me & he got upset at the fact I didn't say I loved him, but I don't. We are both 17 and I don't feel like it's the time for all the love to come in. He showers me with many compliments and gifts and I feel it's too much. I've told him this, but it's kind of not got through to him. I know he cares and I adore that, but what can I do? Has anyone got a experience to share with me? Also, another thing. He always asks me if I'm cheating, if I'm going out meeting other guys, but over ans over again. I went really mad, because he always asks me and then he got really upset and started crying saying he was sorry he will never ask me again. I feel as though I'm being suffocated, but if I end it, I look ridiculous... Thank you so much for reading, I appreciate it. (link)
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He sounds really clingy. Especially saying I love you when you were only dating for two weeks.
You need to sit him down and have a serious talk with him. Don't point fingers at him because he'll probably get all emotional again. You want to be blunt but kind at the same time. Don't get angry, even if he starts apologizing. Tell him he needs to tone it down. Tell him that you're starting to feel suffocated and it's going to affect your relationship.
If he continues, try taking a break from him. You don't want someone who takes all the time in your life and drives you crazy.
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Its been a couple of years since I left my bf. We had many fights, I got to a bad state where I started cutting. He said he could do better and I was lucky to have him. Stopped talking to all my friends, and I fought with my family on daily bases, told me he was ruining me. After I left, and the crying stopped, I thought I was well, I was smiling, having fun. Now Im in a constant state where I feel like I need some one around and no one is there. I don’t want to be in the situation I was in before, But I feel like Im going to end up falling for anyone that gives me attention. I don’t know what to do and Im fearful. (link)
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The relationship you were in seems to be an abusive relationship. Even if he may not have physically hurt you, it seems like he was mentally abusing you.
It's a good thing you got out of the relationship.
I know girls who were in a dependent relationship. Where they depended on someone to make them happy or always felt the need to have someone there. It ruins them when they get into relationships with people they don't truly care about. They also fall apart when no one is there.
You obviously don't want to be like that. During times like this, you need to focus on yourself. Right now, don't go looking for a guy. Wait until you are ready and don't feel the need to have someone there.
Just remember that you are your own best friend. No one should care about you more than yourself.
Go out and have fun. When you're feeling sad and lonely, go get some friends and go enjoy yourself.
You can also start doing things you like or try new things. Doing things like this helps you find things that you are good at and it ultimately makes you feel better about yourself, which you need.
It's fine to be alone. You don't need anybody and you don't need that mindset. Just remember that being alone is a choice. There are plenty of ways to meet men so you don't need to rush and grab somebody who gives you the slightest bit of attention.
You'll be fine. Just work on it and eventually you'll be happy being single and when you do get into another relationship, it will be much better and worth it.
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I have a neighbor the same age as me, 13, and he used to be my best friend when we were three. I am a girl and when I was little I never minded the gender difference. We always used to be together since we are neighbors. Flash forward about two years. We were in kindergarden together, but then he switched schools. Over the years we talked less and less and around seven or eight stopped completely. Flash forward again to sixth grade. I met my best friend. Seventh grade she met my old best friend, and became best friends with him and started crushing on him. I tried to become friends with him again, but it never worked. I didn't have any classes with him so I never talked to him. I hope to have some with him next year, but I'm curious because according to my friend he said he wants to be friends with me again too. I'm just scared and puzzled because the weird thing is I feel I have to protect him because he was like my brother. Should I let it go or try to befriend him again? And if it helps with a solution, I'm pretty good friends with a lot of his friends. Thanks! (link)
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Well I'm sure you know that when people grow up, they change. You won't always be friends with kids you grew up with.
But sometimes it is possible. So if you really want to be friends with him again, then go for it. You honestly don't have anything to lose.
Just start talking to him again. You probably won't start out as good friends right away. It's almost like making a new friend because you both have grown up so you both are into different things. So start with small talk. You can talk about school, life, your interests, his interests, ect.
But just remember that people do change. He may or may not be someone you want to be friends with. You'll realize if you still want him as a friend once you start talking to him again. So just go for it and see what happens.
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I'm a 17 year old teenanger one day when i was with my my boyfriend he put his penis maybe 4 or 5 minut and i told him that it hate and he remove it and then he put his finger and the thing is i never bleed and i want to know if i'm still a vargin or not (link)
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A virgin is someone who has never had sexual intercourse.
So you did have sex. You're not a virgin.
You don't always bleed when you first have sex.
Educate yourself.
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What do you think my dad meant about the visit being educational? (link)
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Probably just talking to your mom. When you talk to her about how her life is there, you'll learn what it's like.
You'll learn what it's like, what she does, what she eats, ect. And that's educational.
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i need help on this !
Weel am having trouble forgetting about my ex . we dated two times. The first one i he asked me out (he had asked me out a zilllllion of times) but i said yes without liking him.
Then after we broke up like a week later i realized that i couldnt stop thinking about him ! So a month passed and i decided to go up to him and ask him if he still liked me and he said he did still like me and thay when we broke up that he went to smoking to realse strees and stop thinking about me .. and so we were really happy that second time we got back together but i realize him and my "friend " were flirting alot infront of me so i broke up with him but now i miss him again what should i do ???! (link)
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What I would advise you to do is move on. You both don't seem to be compatible with each other. You don't want a guy who flirts with other girls, especially one who flirts right in front of you with your friend.
You don't want to be the girl who keeps bouncing back to a guy. So you will miss him, you'll always miss someone you had good times with. But people do change and sometimes they just aren't meant to be in your life.
So find a way to move on. Go out with your friends, try new things, and meet new guys. You will eventually stop missing him.
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Um, So I asked a question a few days back in the summer vacations, when my boyfriend and I broke up. When school started, he tried talking to me but I told him I couldn't. Then two days later, after I heard from some people that he's been saying shit about me, I went and slapped him in front of EVERYONE. we had a massive fight where he threatened to do a bunch of stuff. But another two days after the fight,he would come up to me and make jokes and say "slap me one more time" and laugh and all that. Sometimes, he flirts with girls a lot too. And then, we don't have a lot of eye contact because I don't want to look at him but I can feel him looking. Is it possible that he still likes me because sometime after the break up, in a span of four days, he told three girls he likes them. And I don't understand why he DOES look at me so much. Does he still have feelings for me? (link)
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Well I guess there always is a possibility of feelings being there.
What I don't understand is you caring about this. Do you still like him? If you do, then maybe it's time to move on. Since he's flirting with other girls and saying things about you, it's not a good sign he REALLY likes you. There could be lingering feelings though.
Or he just notices when you're around. I've looked at ex's when they are around when I didn't have feelings for them.
Anyways, if you don't have feelings for him, then this really shouldn't be an issue. If you do, then either fix things with him or move on.
As for answering your question, it could be either or.
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Okay so I'm a 21 year old female and I was in a relationship with a man on and off for a couple years. At first, he was everything I could've imagined. He was the most gorgeous man I had ever seen, was funny, and always made me take risks. He was also constantly getting into trouble. My family hated him because he would always start fights with me for no reason and I was always on an emotional roller coaster. Then about 2 years ago (the last time we dated) he was introduced to crystal meth. He went from getting scholarships to play college football to a downward spiral of addiction. He was a completely different person.
I stayed for several months, always feeling guilty if I ever thought about leaving him. I tried to get him into rehab but ultimately, quitting wasn't important to him. Some days he would cry to me about wanting to quit, others he would make me fear for my life because of how high he was or because of the sketchy situations he would have me in.
I finally left him and cut off all contact- moved away, changed my number, everything. I DID NOT want to go back to him or have anything to do with him. I had smarted up and knew that there was nothing I could've done to "save" him and that to continue that relationship would only harm MY LIFE. To a certain extent, I believe that he loved me. In fact, I KNOW he loved me, but he had issues that were rooted in him since he was a child that basically made him incapable of giving the kind of love that people deserved.
He not only screwed ME over, but he was awful to his own family. He would say mean things to them and then later would tell me how awful he felt and how he just couldn't change. I stayed for so long because not only did I love the man, but I felt so bad for everything he had gone through and I saw him in his times where he truly wanted to be a better person.
Anyway, I haven't seen or spoken to him in over a year. I've even met someone new who makes me feel wonderful. Yet the past few nights, I've had dreams about him and I find myself missing him terribly. It's like I feel no more of the sting of the hate or anger I once felt, I only feel the warmness I felt when I was with him or how safe I felt in his arms. There's no way on earth we could ever reconcile and no chance of me calling him up in hopes that he's changed.. that being said, how do I stop missing him? (link)
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It's good that you are trying to move on, but it's obvious that you haven't completely moved on. You probably just haven't let yourself get there emotionally yet.
You have to accept that all those good times you had, are now memories. He was never a good match for you even though you loved him.
Keep yourself busy and enjoy the time you have with the new person you met. It will take time, but you just have to accept it. You'll most likely miss what he used to be, but he was never the right guy for you. As long as you realize that and you let yourself move on, you will.
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i think im bipolar.. ive read alot about it online and in books because ive had people ask me if i was.. what do i do? Do i just have to live with it? My emotions do change rapidly all the time .. (link)
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Don't try to self diagnose yourself. There are different types of the bipolar disorder or you could have some completely different.
I know a lot of people who think they have different disorders. I've known tons of girls who self diagnosed themselves with depression, bipolar, anxiety, ect. Turns out they didn't have it or it was something different.
You may have it, but it's best not to self diagnose.
You need to see a doctor because if you do have a disorder, they'll prescribe medicine to you and that should fix everything up.
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Right So I'm 13 and I've just had my first kiss well.. Snog really and after it I couldn't look at him again and I don't know wherethr it was because I was shy or embarrased!! We hugged afterwards and I just cudnt look him in the eye (he's 13 aswell) please help wats wrong with me (link)
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You were most likely embarrassed or shy. Unless you didn't really enjoy the kiss and you wouldn't look forward to it happening again, then you know that you just weren't into it.
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Is it true that you can love at first sight? (link)
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It's really a personal opinion.
In my opinion, I don't think you can. I do think you can be extremely attracted to someone and really develop a crush on them at first sight, but to actually fall in love at first sight, I can't believe that.
So it's really your own opinion. If you met someone and you think you fell in love with them, then maybe it is true.
This kind of question is something people can't exactly prove. So it's whatever you think.
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Okay, so there is this unbelievable cute guy who works downstairs at my building's welcome center. I saw him when my supervisor was showing me where to get our mail in the building.So ever since then I've been crushing on him from afar. Like I only talk to him when I ask him if I can check the mail, and its so quick that there's like not a chance for me to introduce myself. And like today i went down to get the mail and I was leaving and he walk by and I smiled and he looked away. Am I weirding/freaking him out? Cuz i have check the mail on the days i work, so its my job, but I only work 3 times a week and go down there once on the days I work. So I don't know, what to do? and im getting close to the point of giving up, but i don't want. I just get really nervous when i talk to cute guys ugh, help! (link)
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Like the person below said, you can either say something or you won't. I mean you can't always leave it up to him to say something to you so you might as well take the initiative and introduce yourself.
I doubt you're freaking him out. You only go down there a couple times out of the week.
I think he'll think it's nice that you introduced yourself. Just build up the confidence and say something like, "I've seen you around a lot and I never got your name." So then just introduce yourself as well. Then when you go down there you can say hello and eventually start having small talk, ect.
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Hi. My boyfriend has a really hard life, and I'm the reason he's not given up and tries to stay strong. If he loses me, he'll lose everything and I'm pretty certain he will commit suicide. But I'm not happy in the relationship, and I need to break up with him, but I know that he will kill himself if I do. I know people might say it's his problem not mine or something like that, but I still love him and care about him deeply. If he kills himself because of me, I will never be able to live with myself. I'm really afraid. He's not threatening me, he's really nice, but he has an awful life, and I'm the only good thing in his life. He has no one else. I don't know what to do. Please help. (link)
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I understand how you feel. Even though we don't know the reason why your not happy in the relationship, you shouldn't feel pressured to stay with him.
So you definitely shouldn't stay with him because you're afraid he'll commit suicide. You should talk to someone, maybe his parents (If they're still around) or go see a counselor who can direct you on a good way to handle this situation. They'll probably be of more help since they were trained for these things.
If he seriously will consider suicide, he also needs help. You can't depend on people to make you happy just because you have a hard life. It's nice to have people who make you happy around, but you can't depend on them. So I think he also needs professional help. So try to encourage him if he does bring this up to you.
As for the break up, obviously be kind. Don't be mean or point fingers at him. Just be straight and tell him that you just aren't happy. Hopefully he'll understand. If he begs you to stay with him, sit down and explain this to him. It just wouldn't be fair to either of you.
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is it because it is impractical when practicing swimming? Does a girls stomach distract the boys in the class or something? It is funny because boys are allowed to wear their swim trunks and nothing else (link)
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I think it's because they can easily slide off. Most girls who wear bikinis is just to lay around, not do actual swimming. Just pretty much get in the water, maybe swim a little bit, but most don't do actual swimming in bikinis.
When you watch professional swimmers or even girls who are on the swim team at school, they'll wear a one piece bathing suit.
When you watch professional swimmers who are men, they wear the speedos, jammers or full body suits and it might be weird for boys to wear those in class.
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I'm a 13 y/o girl and i recently got a boyfriend about a month ago. When ever i try to talk to him on facebook or texting him he uses short replies and doesn't tend to be interested in talking. He never initiates the conversation and i have to ask questions to keep the conversation going. He hasn't even asked me on a date since our second date, which was ages ago. I don't want to keep pestering him, so I don't ask to meet up with him either. I'm starting to think that he doesn't actually like me :/ Is it normal for teenage boys to not necessarily talk to you? Or is he just afraid of annoying me? Should i break up with him?
Thanks :) (link)
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Most guys I know don't care for texting.
You should probably just talk to him about this. He most likely doesn't even realize he's doing it. Just tell him how you feel and in the end, make sure he realizes that your conversations should be initiated equally. If he doesn't like texting or messaging on Facebook, then maybe phone calls will work. Try to compromise.
You'll never know what he's thinking or feeling if you don't talk to him about it.
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Hi, me and my boyfriend been dating for 3 years and we live together. he's very reserved sort of person but not very open but when he's drunk he says, 'you're the love of my life and love you to death.' does he really mean all this or is this just a drink talking? we do say i love you at least 3 times a day . thanks (link)
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You'll hear different things when it comes to alcohol. He most likely means it since you guys have been dating for three years and live together and say I love you a lot.
Some people spill out their feelings and emotions when they are drunk but some say things they don't even mean. So really, it could be either way. But most likely, in this situation, he means it.
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Can you go swimming on your period WITHOUT a tampon. (link)
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Well you can...but it's not recommended. If you don't, you'll most likely bleed through.
Wearing a pad won't be as helpful either. They do have menstrual cups but I don't know much about those. You'd had to look into that.
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Well becaused i moved it doesnt really matter but my best friend that ive known for 7 of the 13 years of my life didnt belive me over some girl shes only known for a week. I was telling the truth about what happened but the girl made up this whole sob story and made my other two best friends side with the girl along with my 1st bff. i didnt do anything to the girl but what i really want to knoe is how come they didnt belive me? (link)
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She most likely wasn't a real friend.
If she doesn't believe you over a girl she's known for a week, then she's never really valued your friendship.
As to why she didn't believe you. Who knows. You'll probably have to ask her about that. Maybe she had a good reason or maybe she's just gullible and will believe what other people tell her.
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Omg lately my brother has been acting like a girl...hes eight but i think hes turning gay...he asked me if i could paint his nails....but i dont know if hes kidding or not.....but then he acts totally gross and gets on top of me and my sister and i push him of and beat him and tell him to stop but hes gross and he wont listen (link)
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People don't "turn gay".
Anyways, I don't think that's your problem. I think your problem is that he won't listen. You won't be able to make him listen, you'll have to talk to your parents about that.
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