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recovering from a past relationship
Its been a couple of years since I left my bf. We had many fights, I got to a bad state where I started cutting. He said he could do better and I was lucky to have him. Stopped talking to all my friends, and I fought with my family on daily bases, told me he was ruining me. After I left, and the crying stopped, I thought I was well, I was smiling, having fun. Now Im in a constant state where I feel like I need some one around and no one is there. I don’t want to be in the situation I was in before, But I feel like Im going to end up falling for anyone that gives me attention. I don’t know what to do and Im fearful.
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The relationship you were in seems to be an abusive relationship. Even if he may not have physically hurt you, it seems like he was mentally abusing you.
It's a good thing you got out of the relationship.
I know girls who were in a dependent relationship. Where they depended on someone to make them happy or always felt the need to have someone there. It ruins them when they get into relationships with people they don't truly care about. They also fall apart when no one is there.
You obviously don't want to be like that. During times like this, you need to focus on yourself. Right now, don't go looking for a guy. Wait until you are ready and don't feel the need to have someone there.
Just remember that you are your own best friend. No one should care about you more than yourself.
Go out and have fun. When you're feeling sad and lonely, go get some friends and go enjoy yourself.
You can also start doing things you like or try new things. Doing things like this helps you find things that you are good at and it ultimately makes you feel better about yourself, which you need.
It's fine to be alone. You don't need anybody and you don't need that mindset. Just remember that being alone is a choice. There are plenty of ways to meet men so you don't need to rush and grab somebody who gives you the slightest bit of attention.
You'll be fine. Just work on it and eventually you'll be happy being single and when you do get into another relationship, it will be much better and worth it.
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I understand you. I to feel that way. I was once so dependent on one to help me feel happiness and feel like you will fall for anyone who gives you attention well my advice is to keep you heart open yet closed where you don't get hurt again. You will find someone but make sure he is right for you.
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