You just wait, and don't think a lot about kissing, just focus on what exactly is happening right at the minute, that way, when you go to kiss someone, it will be unexpected. But remember, do not set your kissing rate high with her, meaning don't expect for you guys to have that unexpected kiss, or a kiss, because if you expect it too much, and you don't get your kiss, you'll be very upset, and you need to let things happen instead of mapping out what will happen.


-TheTeenGirl

Confidence is very hard to raise, let me warn you of that. But it can be done if you are actually willing to raise it, and you want it. A lot of times, if your confidence within yourself is too high, it could be high enough to the point where you just don't care about lots of things, and it can be bad and good. The good in it, is that you've got the guts to speak your mind in front of everyone even if it means saying something stupid or something that nobody else agrees with, yes, that definetly takes self confidence. Now, to reach my point of your question, everyday, set a goal in your head, that you will try not to say anything rude, or bad about yourself, and if you catch yourself doing it, say "hey, thats not what I meant, boy, I'm being cute right now, I made a mistake like other human beings" I know it sounds cheesy and stupuid, but just work on it. Remember to believe in yourself about it.


-TheTeenGirl

You've got to remember that guy who hits girls, they never change basically, unless they seek help, and you friend needs to hear this from you. If she cared about you, she would stop dating the guy, and she wouldn't tell him to just stop because she needs to know that this has happened in the past, too. She may think this is love, but its actually not, and she needs to get rid of him, or she will be hurt too.


-TheTeenGirl

I'm thinking you should wait a while, I mean, you should start planning this later on when you know he said yes, and you guys have been dating for at least like 2 or 3 weeks. But about that, you shouldn't be moving so fast to get your first kiss, I know it sounds like its the most important thing in the world and it makes you more experianced and cool, but it actually doesn't, now don't get me wrong, kissing can be really good and sweet and really precious, but you should be patient, that way when you think back you'll just know that you went at your own pace with that kind of stuff in life. But if when the time comes, I'm sure he will approach you at kissing first, and if not, you can go first and give it a try. I hope he says yes though!

-TheTeenGirl

I know it can seem pretty tough with the fear of rejection, but most of the time, the girl usually just waits until he asks, but you just have to remember that if you are going to ask this guy out, that you're prepared for what you may feel if you're rejected. And you have to remember that just because you are rejected, it doesn't make you any less pretty, beautiful, or less attractive. It is only one guy, and there will be lots of guys who like you, and lots who won't. So, you just have to believe in yourself, and I hope he will say yes if you do!


-TheTeenGirl

You need to ask her, and if she admits shes playing hard to get, you need to say, "hey, listen, I basically gave up my life for you, not because I had to, because I wanted to, and I don't feel its fair the way you're repaying me, or showing that you love me back." and then, if she really means that she wants to be friends, just say "are you sure, because I am under the impression that someone has filled your head with ideas about playing hard to get with me." And just be calm about it, don't yell, it will help her tell the truth better.


-TheTeenGirl

Well, she could be suddenly busy, or anything, but thats why you should ask, she probably won't be upset because you're her best friend and you're concerned. And make sure you tell her that you feel ignored if its not like a family problem or something big.


-TheTeenGirl

Actually, its pretty great that you've got a mom type figure instead of a friend your age, an adult with lots of experiance will actually give you more help. So, still talk to her, shes obviously helping you, and you just shouldn't have to get id of something that helps you.



-TheTeenGirl

This guy is pretty attatched to you, and I know how it feels to have a very sweet guy like that, I have one myself actually, and every sweet thing you described mine has. (uh oh...lol kidding.) But hes too attatched, you need to tell him how much it hurts you when he does that and if he wants to make you happy, to stop for you. But this guy, I'm afraid, sounds like he could become controlling of you, and I don't exactly mean controlling like bossing you around, I mean like cry and pitty, cutting, pills to make you feel bad controlling. Now listen, I totally understand that he may seem too nice, but if he already does this because of a phone call and just thinking of you, just think of what will happen if you were to just go see maybe an old friend or hang out with your friends? And your family? I think this guy could be ill. I highly doubt that he will just quit in a snap, and not that he doesn't care enough for you not to do it, hes just ill probably. I'm not saying to break up with him, I think you need to support and help him with it, and make it as easy for him as you possibly could. Because, I think we all could take a wild guess what would happen if you left him. If anything further with the self injuring happens, he will have to get help, either he is doing it because he wants to show you and impress you with his love, or this is really a problem. And both of those things aren't really good. Basically what I'm saying is, he may promise you, but there is a high chance he will break it.


-TheTeenGirl

She kind of sounds like a little rich snob. I don't think you'd wanna befriend someine thats self centered, and that girl sounds very self centered. And no, I'm not saying this because I think all rich people are snobs, thats far from truth. But she is one of those people. So, maybe try either getting to know her more and then decide, or just move on and just talk to her when you don't feel like talking about yourself. (sorry to be rude about that, brags just shouldn't do this.)


-TheTeenGirl

You've gotta talk with him, ask him, he had the guts to ask you out, so I'm pretty sure he'll tell you why he wants this relationship a secret. And if he says "just because." Say something along the lines, "Well, without a good answer, or the truth, I feel like nothing to you in public, all of the signs about you treating me like air in public are signs that you are ashamed to be with me, so it would just be really nice to know the truth." And if he doesn't explain it still, you need a new guy, and don't worry, you will have that feeling about another guy like you have for this guy, it takes time. You need a guy that would even kiss you in public. And you will have that guy, you're still young, so your just searching, lol.


-TheTeenGirl

You should probably find out what exactly it is that is making you cry. And if you've got no idea, you need to write things down that bother you the most, and if you catch yourself crying, those will be one of them. Be truthful to yourself, even if it something stupid to cry over, like a small break-up. And its obviously not stupid because it bothers you for some reason. You should also try talking to someone, about how you feel.

-TheTeenGirl

Theres really no age limit, but I suggest you babysit when you reach about 13.


-TheTeenGirl

Adoption is great too, it really shows you love them, and just take care of them just like they came from you, and as long as you don't single out one of them just because it isn't really yours. But yes, adopting is very beautiful.


-TheTeenGirl

I'd wish I knew why you were sending me the weirdest random questions.

hmmmm, well, I knew I had a reason, let me think.....I don't remember, sorry, I just had it.

Maybe you don't need to talk to him,how about maybe yelling, just say "fine, unless you can give me proof that I'm a bitch, then you're wrong." Then walk away, or even call him up and then hang up afterwords. And if you don't want to do that, just quit talking to him, theres no other choice.


-TheTeenGirl

Its way wrong, even 14 and 17 year olds DATING is horrible, my god, thats just so sick, your friend is with a big fat pervert, thats for sure. Tell her parents, I bet they don't even know about the 17 year old guy thats dating there minor daughter.


-TheTeenGirl

Well, I'm not really sure, if you guys ended, and its better this way, its only better not to bug her, and she probably doesn't even hate you, you should just go on with your life, and you said things were better off with no friendship with you guys, and telling her you care might bring her back to you and then the same thing will happen all over. So, I think that if you do decide to leave a comment, you should prepare fo the possibility of being friends again.

-TheTeenGirl

Everything you're about to complain about think about the good in it and say it out loud. Never the bad, thats actually called being optimistic, lol, I'm a silly head, anyways always look for the good in everything, like if its a rainy day, just try saying "well, at least the flowers are going to grow, and it will be more beautiful on a sunny day." Even if its stupid, like that one!



-TheTeenGirl

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