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having kids
when i get older im thinking about like adopting 2 kids and having 2 kids, does anyone have any ideas on why this would be a bad idea? i want to adopt because i dont want all my kids to have the same traits as me, but then i wanna have 2 of my own because having a baby that came from you is..good, right? do you think i would favor the kids i created over the ones a adopted?? suggestions, please??! thank you~~~!!!!!!
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Adoption is great too, it really shows you love them, and just take care of them just like they came from you, and as long as you don't single out one of them just because it isn't really yours. But yes, adopting is very beautiful.
-TheTeenGirl
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Wow I just want to say that is really inspirational and a great idea. I understand how you want to have your own kids I do too. That is really cool and I think it'd be a great idea! I have seen it work out before. My neighbor had a boy then adopted a boy then had a girl. She loved them all the same. Althoguh she was worried becuase the boy she adopted didn't look like the other 2 and might feel left out when he grows up. However, the fact that you want to adopt 2 and have 2 is great becuase then they have some one to relate to. Good luck!
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Well you should love em all the same..and just cause you say this now doent mean your going to do it.. i mean you said when your older so your apparently not old enough to want kids now so i think what ever makes you happy then do it..in the future..much luv dez
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no! that sounds like a good idea, a lot of my freinds are going to adopt too because there are so many kids in the world now with out parents. and one of my friends now, his parents have adopted 3 kids i think, and i think theyre addopting another, so that would make either 3 or 4, i dont remember, because he has other siblings that actually came from him paretns too! I think its a great idea, they are all your kids so just teat them the same way!!!
*Kels*
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Well it really matters who you are, but first of all if you adopt, make sure the kids know that you adopted them!! If you adopt and have kids I dont see anything wrong with that!
Good Luck!
-Rachel
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Well you can choose what you do when you finnaly make the decision personally i dont think it is a bad idea but if you do adopt make sure the kid is just a baby so it wont rember its family
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you're weird.
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ok well it could be a bad idea about the fact youll have like 4 kids in your house. other than that i think your doing a good thing by adopting kids. have a kid from you can be good, its all on your opinion on it. i mean if you dont want to go through the prgnetcy then you dont have to. but if you want to have a kid between you and your husband at the time go for it. i dont think youd favor two over the others. when you have your own youll grow to it, youll have this special bond that no other could have. the adopted youll have another special bond by knowing you took a life in that someone couldnt afford having with them so they put it up for a good home that could go to yours and be cared like it wouldnt be with its mother. i think its good that you want to adopt two kids, its just two more thatll have a good home and not stay in the adopting center or what ever its called
hope i helped you
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I think it's a good idea. I know my mom was the only kid in her family that came from her parents. Her two brother and sister were adopted and you love all your kids just as much!
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why dont you wait until you actually have a kid. they are a handful and you mightn't want 4!!!
~ANGE
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I think when you adopt them you'll end up loving them all the same. However, having your own might have you be more loving toward them. Also, adopting means you have to give them that awful "I'm not really your mother" speach... and thats never good. Ont he bright side, at least youre giving them a good home. Its al up to you and you husband/future husband. hope i helped
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Adopting a child is very hard. It's an excruciatingly long process. You need to go to an adoption agency and they look at everything about you and your husbad (You must be married in order to adopt for a common couple) They look at how much money you make, your jobs, your income, your house, and they even look at how often you have sex with one another. About 1/50 couples will actually have a successful adoption. It can take up to 4-5 years to actually adopt a child if you are approved. But, no it's not a big deal of you adopt two kids and have two of your own. No one can tell you for sure if you'd favor an adopted child over your own child. You're young right now because you said "When I get older" so you really shouldn't be thinking about kids at all yet. You need to finish highschool and college and get yourself an education and a job before you can support 4 kids like you want to.
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