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ok..i skipped a period and i'm not sexually active.what is up with that? i do't know what it is supposed to mean, it is kidna weird. Can anyone tell me what is wrong or what is up? thanks in advance!!

Don't worry about it for now. For the first few years of your period, they sometimes aren't regular anyway.
They can come early, late and some people can skip them altogether.
There may be a reason why you skipped yours, the most common being through stress/worry/a change in your diet. There are other reasons, too, such as excessive exercise, medications you may be taking etc.
If you get any more symptoms, or you keep skipping them, I suggest you see a doc. but for now, don't let it worry you because it's fairly common.

maybe this is totally wierd and it dosent happen to anybody else, but whenever im really close to or dancing with a guy i like, afterwards my legs start shaking like insane! why is that? andd how do i stop it?!

thanx!

You're just probably nervous or scared. Being excited can do it too. I bet you're not alone in that situation though, so don't worry.
How to stop it?.. my guess would be to just relax and think of him as one of your friends. I bet your legs don't do that when you're dancing/are with them, do they :P

in your opinion, do you think its better to be yourself or to follow others and why?

Depends how you look at it. If you want to follow others to fit in, then that's obviously silly and leaves nothing to the imagination. You should be yourself - You are an individual. You are unique. You're entitled to make your own decisions and have your own opinions. No-one is the same as you, so stand out in your own way. and if others don't like you for it, then they're not worth your time anyway.

my room is upstairs, so if i open my window and smoke by it would my parents be able to smell it any ?

Just because your window is open doesn't mean it gets rid of the smell. I know from experience when people were smoking in my room.

I like a lot of old (not that old) music and a lot of my friends like all the good stuff (to tham) and it's like rap and everything i like rap but not the rap now and i think i will be unpopular if i don't like the music now what do i do?

If you think you'll be unpopular for having a different music taste than the rest of those sheep, then I think you have other, bigger issues to worry about.
It's YOUR music taste - not theirs.
Never change for anyone.
You can give it a listen but if it's simply not your thing, that's absolutely fine.. and if they were good friends, they'd understand.

okay so im 15 going on 16. im african american. and i HATE my hairy arms it like bugs me but no on else ever notices. some of my friends say they shave their arms. so to get to the point i was just wonderign which one should i do?? or should i even do either one??

Thanks for your question.
I wouldn't really shave them if I were you. They'd grow back prickly and I imagine you'd have to do it quite often and it would be quite a pain.
You could try waxing them, using hair removal cream, or bleaching them.
They are your best options.
Remember though, you're doing this for you.. not for others. Everyone has hair on their arms - Just some are more noticeable than others. It's really nothing to worry about.

yea well i got my carialge percied and i orderd these real earing onling and there real white gold and i only have my percing in for like 2 weeks and i wanna change it . would it be okay if i change it and kept it in for the rest of the time??

please answer!

The only time you should ever change it before you're supposed to is if the jewelry you have in at the moment is poor and a poor fit.
It wouldn't hurt alot if you did change it now, I suppose, but just this once.
If you keep changing the jewelry, it means you keep aggravating the fresh piercing and doesn't allow it to heal.

i have all the symptoms of starting my period.But its just not happening.i am 13 turning 14.
Here are most of my symptoms:
*Breast hurt alot and very tender.
*Very tired not getting enough sleep.
*I have so many mood swings getting very irritable.
*I feel very depressed.
*i have many different weird food cravings.
*When i eat a little it feelslike i have eaten alot but i havent(meaning bloated).
*i have constant headaches.

i am very worried because i havent started my period and these are alot of the symptoms.

Thanks for your Q.
Periods are like that. You just have to wait I'm afraid.
Also, the symptoms you are having may not even be related to starting your period at all. They also may not be related to each other and there might be separate causes for all of them.
but don't forget, you are a teen and your body is going through alot of changes right now, so it's normal to be experiencing alot of what you've stated.
I know you're probably anxious and waiting for it to hurry up, but there's nothing you can do to speed your period up. Just wait and see.
May I also add you are almost 14.. it doesn't mean you should have started it by now - some people start later on.
Don't worry. Just make sure you're prepared for when that day comes. :)

i know my friends are right about it, but how do you know you have an STD before you go to a doctor? if i went how could it be confidential so that my parents wouldnt know? and i know that when you go to a doctor you have to pay to get seen or w.e. would i have to pay for it so my parents would than know?

You will usually find yourself with symptoms, although in some cases, whatever you may have (assuming you did have something) can lie dormant and you won't know you're infected.
A list of symptoms are here
http://www.ourguideto.co.uk/sex/sti_symptoms.html
but since you did oral, you may get symptoms inside your actual mouth and throat. So if you notice anything unusual or you get a sore throat etc, see a doc.

If you made the actual appointment and made your own way there, your parents obviously would never find out.
but since you're not paying the bill, I have no idea how that works out since I'm from England and don't have to pay to go to the doctors.
(If you have money and there's a way you can pay without them knowing, do that.. assuming you need to go to the doctors at all!)

If it did come to the point where you needed to see a doc, tell your mum a random reason why you want to go, but tell the doctor the real reason you're there. As far as I'm aware, they can't tell your parents and whatever you tell them is just between you 2.

Remember though, you're most probably worrying for absolutely nothing. If you're this scared now, either refrain from oral sex or have him wear a condom. :)

mmkay; So, i'm pretty much sick of everything,
like i dont care anymore about [ANYTHING] and
it is geting the best of me; -Friends, Boys, Family,School,Everything -my family fights so much; my friends have been [whatever] with me like i cant talk to them about My Problems & thats what friends are for to be there for you blahblahblah; & the boy i like has a girlfriend [WONDERRFULL right?!] & school; i can't even try with that; i know nothing with school; it's just like [lately] everyones leting me down' i'm NOT the type of person who crys about her [Problems] but i have been; it's like whats the point in my even liveing? [not saying i'm going to do anything to kill me xD]

-It's Just i Dont Know I Need Some Real Advice On This; [Anything Could Help Me At This Point]

Join the club.
Things will get better though, at least that's the bit of hope I'm holding on to. What's comforting to know, although not everyone's problems are the same and some of mine differ to yours, too, is that most people go through it at some point in their life. Especially teens. Growing up IS hard, isn't it?
Just think you've been put here for a reason. All of the problems you are coming across now are a test - to see if you can be the bigger, stronger person and beat them.
If your friends are lame - find new ones.
Don't dwell on that one boy - there's so many more out there.
Family problems happen - hopefully you'll get through it together.
Yes, life is so mundane, but there must be things in it you enjoy, so for now, focus on them. and focus on yourself and do well in your teen years - I can't stress that enough.
You think it's hard now.. wait until you get older. but hopefully what you're experiencing now will help you at those later dates. and in future, you will have things to live for.
You're not alone right now. So do try to cheer up and look at things from a different perspective. Think of the good. Not the bad.

I had my belly button pierced last year in January. I was cheap did it at this guys house who was supposed to be good,but maybe I had a reaction or something either way I got an infection.

It was infected for like 7 months. I'm sure I did not properly clean it. But it got to the point where there was a layer of skin holding it in there, like piece of paper thin,no lie. So I took out the ring and ripped the skin off. (It didn't hurt,but was kind of gross.) I didn't know I shouldn't have probably done that.

And since about October I've had no belly button ring, figured out that the red mark would go away, until I looked it up on google to find I probably have an Abscess infection or something.

Since I ripped out the ring, and I still have the red mark do I need to tell my doctor to treat it? Like to get some medicine.
And will I be able to have it repierced in the same spot?(Top part of the belly button.) Or can I get/have to get it on the bottom part?
Thanks for any advice!

You're right, you shouldn't have done that. That thin piece of skin is where your body was rejecting the piercing. If you would have left it, eventually, the piercing would have just fell out. Or better still, took out the piercing and left the skin alone.
Either way, you should see a doctor. It's impossible to say whether you need treatment because
1) we can't see it
2) noone here, as far as I'm aware, is a doctor.
You may just need a course of antibiotics if it's infected.. or whatever the redness etc is, it might go away on it's own.
See a doctor though, to put your mind at ease.
As for repiercing it in the same spot - you CAN pierce over scar tissue. but you must allow it to heal, I'd say about 6 months beforehand. and expect it to hurt alot more.

i hate girls and i wanna tell my friends that i hate girls but i don't want them getting the idea that i hate my friends so how should i word this?

Why do you hate girls? It's obviously not all girls if you don't hate your friends.
If it's a certain type, then say whatever type that is.
Or better still.. don't tell them at all? It does sound a little odd, especially if you don't have specific reasons behind it.

my bf's ex gf from like a year ago WONT leave my boyfriend alone. like she will try anything to talk to him.. but my concern is i think hes actually talking to her telling her he loves her. i dont know what to do.. i want to break up with him but.. omg. AHHH
what should i do? confront him?
17 f

Just come straight out and ask him. If there's anyone you should be able to talk to about things, it's with your boyfriend.
What makes you think he's telling her he loves her?
You need to talk it through with him. I would if I were you. Who knows, you could be totally misunderstanding the whole situation.
Good luck.

okay, i have just recently give my boyfriend a blow job, my friends have said you can get an STD, i'm really worried but i dont want to go to a doctor cause than my mom would have to take me or something else, what do i do? PLEASE HELP!!

Hey, thanks for your question.
Your friends are right. You can get sexually transmitted infections/diseases through oral sex.
The most common which can be contracted, are:
Chlamydia
Gonorrhea
Syphilis
Herpes
HIV
If you notice any symptoms, you will have to see a doctor, unfortunately.
It comes with the price of being sexually active. If you're mature enough to participate in the act, you should be mature enough to see a doctor about it if necessary.
For now, I wouldn't worry, as what's done is done.
But it would be wise in future for you and your boyfriend to get screened.
Remember, if you do see a doc, your parents won't have to know as it's confidential.

hi im 13 and haven't started my period yet and i think i might be so here is what's happening,

.i am having gut pains and cramps,
.i haven't been felling well (as in i fell sick)
.my gut and stumache are bubbling almost for like always,

please tell me if these r signs that i'm going to start my period!

-worried

It's impossible to say. You may be started your period, or you could be experiencing some form of tummy bug/other illness.
People have different symptoms with periods. You will get to know yours after experiencing them a few times.
For now, I'd suggest wearing pads just incase you happen to start.

Here are the most common symptoms:

* acne
* breast swelling and tenderness
* feeling tired
* having trouble sleeping
* upset stomach, bloating, constipation, or diarrhea
* headache or backache
* appetite changes or food cravings
* joint or muscle pain
* trouble concentrating or remembering
* tension, irritability, mood swings, or crying spells
* anxiety or depression

i think i MIGHT like one of my teachers. there is only a 6-7 year difference.. i mean its weird but i don't know, is that totally wrong?

It's fine to like someone. Alot of people will go through it, whether it's with a teacher or just happens to be someone older.
What you cannot do, though, is allow it to lead on to anything more.
He is your teacher. He is responsible for you and shouldn't be having relationships with you, or any other student.
It's probably just a crush which will soon fade out. Focus on boys your own age, or if they're immature for you, ones that aren't teachers :P

My ex has been saying things about me to a friend that really upset me and he says it was just a joke.
I am so mad to the point where I don't want to see him or talk to him or think about him and i really want to hit something!
What do I do!

It's what exes do best -_-
Just ignore him, as you've said. It's the best thing to do anyway until it all blows over and he is mature enough to not spread crap.
You have every right to be angry, but don't let him know it's getting to you. He's probably secretly loving the fact you care about what he says.
It'll all be okay soon. Just keep above things and tell your friends it's simply not true and not to believe it.

if you delete an incoming message on facebook. is there anyway you can get it back =( !

No. Do you know who sent you one? If so, you could as them to send it again. If not, sorry. :[

Ok. So I (not so) accidentally logged onto my brothers msn (dont ask why) and I noticed that he had blocked my cousin. I'm dying to find out why! Especially since I'm currently having a fight (more like awkward tension) with that cousin.. what should i do?

You could bring your cousin up in conversation with your brother and see if he says anything.
Or when your brother's on MSN, go talk to him and pretend you just saw your cousin was blocked.
It's not wise to say you logged on as him and saw who he blocked, though, because as you know, you were wrong to do it.
Have fun finding out :P

http://www.inboxdollars.com/members/signup/landing2/0/0/

is this for real?

Of course it's not for real.
It's a scam - just like the tonnes of other websites like it.
If you are lucky enough to be one of the few that make money by it, it's NOT ALOT AT ALL.
Infact, I just researched it. They send you annoying emails. and you'll be lucky to make $3 a year apparently.
don't bother. and remember, if something's too good to be true - it probably is.

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