This must really be hard on you. Well, theres a few options you have, either you can tell him your feelings, (yes, I may sound insane, but heres why it could be a good option.) and you sould probably tell him because he might feel the same way, if he doesn't, at least he will know that its not a good idea to bring his girlfriend around. And you can tell him, like this, "look, I've been thinking for the past few days, and ever since you've had this new girlfriend, I wanna feel happy for you, I really wanted to, but inside of me, I was pretending to be happy. This is really hard to say, but I feel like I want to be more than just your best friend." He'll get it after that, it will be hard, I know, but you can practice in the mirror, and tell yourself inside to be strong, and keep repeating it. And your option of getting over him, the only way to get over someone is to not be around them, so I think you know what you need to do if you're wanting to take that option. Now, which ever option you take, I would be really honered to help guide you through it, just tell me who you are and what situation you are in, describe it, and I would be really glad to help you. Just tell me in my inbox.

-TheTeenGirl

You may love him, but that does not mean that its for sure. You have to know this, if a guy cheated on you, hurt you, or even hit you, you have to lay down your options. Hitting, you would dump them, and even if they beg and cry to you that they love you, saying they will never do it again, that is what always happens, but you always end up with more bruises if you take them back, so you need to know that just because its love, its not forever or for sure, no couple survives on just love, it takes more than love to be with someone, because unfortunitly, love isn't enough. Maybe seeing other people is not what you need to do, maybe its for sure that you need time. Now, for the cheating on his part, yes, having sex with someone else while still dating you is FAR beyond wrong, we both know that. But just because you were gone, it does not give him any permission, or right to go off with another girl, I believe that is a pitty excuse, and he hurt you, and he showed remorse for it, and cried, and you felt pretty sure he wasn't going to do it again, but just remember this, oh its never too late to break up with him, I hope thats not stopping you. You needed advice, you needed time to think and you can break it off with him anytime or anyday, I know you don't want to, I can tell you don't, trust me. It will take time to get over this, you havn't yet, but you just have to deal either way, you have 2 options, either you can break it off until you feel like your over it and ask if he will wait for you until then, or you can stay with him and let him help you deal with this. Thats all I can tell you, I hope your relationship with him goes back to what it used to be.


-TheTeenGirl

I will try not to give you a follow your heart advice, but I will tell you, you have to make a decision as soon as possible, and I think you should cut the one who doesn't even know you exist off of your list. I saw that you love that guy the most, but just try bewtween those guys.


-TheTeenGirl

You should be done with your friends, how dare they do that to you, after years, they say something about it and get rude in embarresed in public. Get done with them, right now, don't speak to them, and if they say anything to you, don't say anything, at all. Even if they curse at you, not a word, they will get tired of being ignored, theres nothing more a person wants when they can't attention, and they get angry, so get them angry with the power of not saying a word. They are not friends, they just sound like stuck up snobs.

-TheTeenGirl

Well, hopefully you are aware of the these issues, what exactly they are. Obviously something very disturbing happened in your past with him. You should probably ask him whatever it is that bugged him so much with these issues, will he ever be able to get past them. And, if he says a long time, then you could probably wait, but, I think you'll grow pretty sad being alone for a long time knowing that you guys can have something, but you don't.


-TheTeenGirl

I'm not sure if your friend should really think for you. I know you mentioned it, and felt like you needed to do it, which is ok, this is your decision, but if you really love this guy and you regret doing it, it might have been a bad choice, 45 minutes away isn't as far as it seems, but not seeing him so much isn't really healthy either, unless you just wanna use the phone all the time, or you can stay with a friend and spend time with them both for a week in the summer and a weekend during school, but the thing is, you would probably end up hurting your friend by being with him too much, so I am not sure if you should be in a long distance relationship if you're not that type of person, so, its basically what you feel that will tell you whether the decision you made to break up with him was right or wrong. And let your feelings do the thinking and talking, not your friend, she can help you through it, but just don't don't let her "get you to do it" you've got to think with your mind and whichever decision you make with your mind, your friend should support. But you should probably talk to him, try saying, "listen, I know this is hurting you, it may not show on me that I am hurting too, but breaking up with you was hard for me too, and you're not the only one whose hurting here, ok?" try assuring him that you don't feel any better for doing it, which you may feel better because no more 45 minute away boyfriend, but that might be about it.

-TheTeenGirl

Well, you could try a pool party with all of your friends, and have her bring you and hers' favorite music. And maybe at the end try making it calm, like go through all of your best memories, and share them, and make unbelievable confessions you've never told each other. And have you and a couple of friends make a poem and put it in one of those huge cards and have your group read it aloud together to her. And, you can even watch home videos if you have any of you and her when you guys were little, or younger, and look at pictures. And maybe to make it unique like you want, do something crazy that you've both never done before, something so insane she'll never forget it. Something like, getting a muddy part of your backyard all soaked up and just jump in it, and get as muddy as you can. My friends, one time did something crazy, we had an icing fight, we threw globs of icing at each others faces and hair. And you could try shaving cream fights to, food fights (outside, lol.) But yeah, thats what I can come up with, something crazy is something that will never be forgotten.


-TheTeenGirl

Either you should find yourself a new job, or try talking to the managers again and say "I really wouldn't try getting her fired on purpose, but is she ever rude to you guys in any way? Because she treats me like she doesn't like me at all." or you could ask her what problem she has with you, and if your managers don't believe you, get one of them to watch, and after that if its still not working out, I say get a new job, its not worth all the trouble.


-TheTeenGirl

Well, you should probably have a talk with your parents and just start out like, "Ok, I feel really wrong about everything, I try to do the best I can at helping, and I feel like I'm not pleasing anyone, but I feel like I need credit for trying or somebody to ask nicely to do it the other way if its not right." If you'rec willing to give me more detail, or take my advice and have me help you through it, I would be really flattered to have a E-mail in my inbox stating who you are and what situation you were in.

-TheTeenGirl

Ok, first thing, you can stop thinking about that guy, and get him out of your life. And you need to go see a doctor immediatley. You better keep that guy out of your life, and let your friends and family support you and this baby, I hope that child lives.


-TheTeenGirl

The only way they will know is if you tell them.

-TheTeenGirl

Well, since you're so crazy about her, you should probably ask her how she feels about you honestly before you start thinking of how you're going to see her. And, if she kind of struggles with saying how she feels about you, then say "ok, I can go first if you'd feel more comfortable about it." and just put it out there for her, that way, if she had feelings for you, she'd say so right away. And if it turns out that you guys are close friends or maybe a couple you can ask your parents to take you there sometime where you lived.

-TheTeenGirl

I definetly doubt that you're jealous, you and your brother are close, and you need a talk with him, I'm sure everyone else has said it, or talk to her for that matter, the next time she does something, say "howcome your always like this with me, I don't act this way with you." Just say that and see what she says, but I am hoping that your bother will either get rid of her, or will talk to her, remind him that you feel like and know that she should respect you, because if she had respect for your brother, she'd have respect for you, and if he starts to stick up for her, stop him and say "listen, I would never lie, or make any effort to break you guys up, I love you, and I wouldn't do this to you." I hope it works!


-TheTeenGirl

Nope, or millions of people would have died as a teen or before that, if you have a tumor, thats when you should worry.

-TheTeenGirl

Well, I can definetly understand why you'd stop trusting. But then theres a part where when you decide you're ready you move on and trust again, and with your guys support, and your moms', you can get through it, you should ask about past relationships and tell him that you're just really worried, and make sure he knows so he can show you. And just think of it this way, that was one time this happened in the past, and now hes the past, so you should deal with the present like the past never happened. Which is hard I know, but you have to take chances, and if you're still not getting the trust in, then you will probably have to wait for a boyfriend until you feel like you can take chances, time heals (that only goes for some things.) But you've got to prepare yourself for trusting the guy before you enter the relationship, I hope I helped.


-TheTeenGirl

Think about it. Did you say anything rude about him to anyone at all? Did you make fun of him behind his back? Did you make fun of him in front of him? Did you laugh at him? Did you talk to a guy that he hates, or maybe he is jealous of? Did you hit him, hurt him at all? Did you say something that could have hurt him but he said nothing about? Think about the last time you guys talked when you were getting along, remember the conversation, did you say anything that could have made him upset? and if you say no after thinking to the point wher it hurts, I say to just ignore him, and if you find out or guess then ask him if it was that and apologize, but I say let the guy come to you.

-TheTeenGirl

Tell them to quit asking now, and say "if you don't quit, and I find out about it, I will be upset with you and not talk to you." Give them a threat that you're serious and want it to stop.

-TheTeenGirl

I am pretty curious of what kind of 'he couldn't keep your hands off of you' flirt it is. If it was like always tapping you, that fine, and cutish kind of flirty, but if you're talking touching areas where guys shouldn't be touching, hes way not worth it, I know this is most likely not the case, but I say go for him if this isn't the case, and you say that part of him wants you, right? Well, remember, just because he likes you, it does not make it wrong or should be forced on you to like him. So I hope you're doing this because you're truly feeling this for that guy.

-TheTeenGirl

Well, let me tell you, theres really no answer for this one, the thing is, your guy probably, or could have most likely been lying to you, I am thinking this because he didn't tell you. And it sounds like he felt the need to hide from you, and you will probably end up splitting up because of his cheating problem. I knpw hearing this sucks, but unless you think you could talk to him, then I am thinking dumping him is the way to go.

-TheTeenGirl

Ok, is this the situation about where you had this guy and you left him and then got back with him? Because if it is, I had no idea you had a baby with this guy, so, are you the girl that I described up there?

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