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Hi, I'm Emily. Call me Emily or Em, I prefer either. I have been a featured columnist 2 times now. After disabling my account I had about 3 years ago, a lot has happened which made me want to come back. I feel as though helping people with their problems, helps me solve mine, even if that doesn't make a lot of sense to any of you. Don't hesitate to ask me anything, I will answer fairly quickly depending on the question. If you want a hard-thought out answer, which is what I usually give, it may take a little longer- it benefits everyone in the long run.
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I want to be skinny really really bad and I read about anorexic. Thats what I want to do now and I didnt even eat anything today. My mom kept asking me why I wouldnt eat dinner. I kept telling her I was full but she didnt buy it and tried to make me eat some peas. How can I hide being anorexic from my parents? Because theyre going to be mad if they find out and theyll do something like force me to eat or something. I want to be skinny like the models and like Mary Kate Olsen was. Really really skinny.
Anorexia isn't the answer to skinniness. Never an excuse, and never a cure. It can kill.
Get the idea of anorexia out of your head, and focus on dieting better and going to the gym to work out. Eating healthy and exercising on a daily basis is the key to loosing weight. If you loose weight the wrong way, it can permanently affect your health for the rest of your life. You need to eat, it's what gives you energy and the nutrients you need.
Eat what your parents feed you. If you exercise and eat healthy on a daily basis, you will feel so much better. Anorexia isnt the way to be skinny. Being really really skinny is not attractive and just not good. Don't do it. Be smart.
i know this sounds stupid but ive never got into anyone before ( snogged) so i was wondering how to?
Theres different tecniques for everyone, and everyone likes and prefers a differen thing.
But, i learned and found it easy to write the alphabet with my tounge on the other persons tounge. My boyfriend caught on and now tries to guess what letter I write. Make it your own, and make it fun, and make sure the first time you do it, is special. As you only get that first time once. Enjoy, and have fun!
Ok so when I wear a bathing suit or a tight shirt i feel super concious cause i am really curvy.I am 38" around my chest then 23" for my waist then 42" around my butt.I feel like i am being stared at I get told it makes me look "sexy" But i just feel super concious.Any advice??
thnx in advance!:)
TINK2359
Nothing to worry about! Its a good thing, and boys like it especially. But as the person below me said, make sure you avoid the bad ones. Dont be self concious!
Okay I was dating this guy for 7 months. We dated 3, almost 4 years ago and we broke up because his mom said our maturity levels were completely different. I was 14 and he was 17.
Now Im 17 & hes 20.
The day after we broke up, he made me a pinky promise that he would propose to me on my graduation day in 2011.
A couple of months ago, he came by to see my family because while we dated, my family got really attached to him. When he came over, I got butterflies, and I felt as if my knees could colopase. Its been 3 years, and yet he still gets to me. The way he says my name made my heart skip beats like crazy, and the way he smells just gives me chills. Butt we was sitting in his truck and he was bringin back old memories that I barely remembered, and that made me happy because he didnt forget. He told me once again that the pinky promise he made me was still going to happen, and that he was going to ask me back out when I was 18 because of the age thing. He cried, and he said he was still in love with me, and it scares him because he has got over all the girls he has dated, but not me.
Why do I still have feelings for him? Are my feelings real, or was I just excited and nervous to see him? And how do I know if he's being serious? He broke my heart once, I dont want it to happen again.
Your story really moved me. From what the start of it sounded like, he really loves you, and is a really sweet guy and you should go for it. But reading the parts you added, it makes me question if he really meant what he said.
But, I think you 2 are meant to be together. I also feel as though the feelings you are feeling towards him are real. He was your first love, which is always something special. I'll always have some sort of feeling for my first love...as does everyone. Don't let this one slip between your fingers. He seems really sweet. And if what he said bothered you, talk to him about it. Do the "Shutup and Kiss Me" move!
13/f
i have this one guy in four of my classes and hes so sweet and funny but i think he likes me and i just wanna be friends cuz i like this other guy...so i dont want to send him the wrong message but how do i let him know i wanna be just friends?
Sticky situation I see...
Boys don't adjust well to the 'friend' concept. You may be flirting with him and not even know it. Just let him know you are friends. Hint around. "I am so happy we are friends, any friends of yours that you could hook me up with?!" Along the same lines as the person below me said, not taking the credit for that one. Try not to make physical contact and try to work with different people other than him if given the option to work with someone in the classes you have him in. Good Luck!
my underarm hairs grow really fast and i have to shave them like every day or they will be stubble and you can notice the hairs because they're dark. i really dont mind shaving them often to be honest. i'm just curious if this is normal. is it normal to shave your underarm area every day to keep it smooth and hairless or am i weird?
It's completely normal. Your hair might just grow really fast, which is something silly to worry about. Most people do it- as do I. You can try VEET or Nair, I have heard good things about those.
sooo i'm 18 and i've been with my boyfriend for two months now and we reallyyyy like each other, found out today he is moving to alaska for college which is farrr far away. I feel like he hasn't really talked to me about it or thought about what's going to happen to us, I don't want to bring it up I want him to. Any advice? :/
Even though you guys really like each other, you guys need to do whats best for both of you individually, not as a couple. But with that being said, it doesnt mean you guys still can't be together or can't talk. Theres facebook, skype, and always old fashion phone calling. And, im sure he will up for holidays. Talk to him about it. If you wait, you are going to feel more hurt and he wont know its making you upset. Good luck!
Ok here's my embarising problem I'm a 39yr old male and I have reoccuring hemroids I checked on line and found out there is inner and outer and in my case its outer the swelling is bad at times like right now as I speak iv tried everything over the counter but its only temporary it will eventualy clear up on its own but takes weeks to do so then it will come back .I don't know what to do it robs me of daily activities where its so painful at times that sitting down is unbareable I don't want to see a doctor if I don't have to but its getting to that point so what other options do I have .can anybody give me some advice please .
Definitely see a doctor as soon as possible.
It could be something serious. You know what they say, better safe than sorry. They will fix you up in minutes instead of wasting money on treatments that don't seem to work for you.
I am going to go travel to Mexico next spring and I want to be able to speak some Spanish there. I don't have to be like FLUENT but a decent amount is good. I don't want to look stupid and say words wrong so I need some audio or an instructor that can listen to me and help me pronounce the words right. Where can I find some place to teach me how to speak Spanish?
Try purchasing Rosetta Stone. If you don't want to spend the money on that, figure out what your going to need to say and type it into an internet translator and just make notes. If you have any questions, feel free to inbox me on here or email me, ejfeil@comcast.net, im fluent in Spanish.
I was in a slightly abusive relationship for about seven months. He was my first boyfriend, he was two years older than me (I was fourteen, fifteen now). He pressured me and physically forced me to be fingered/give a hand job/and blowjob. I was really screwed up at the time. Looking back, I regret everthing and I know the person I was then is NOT who I am now. I let him hurt me and use me and make me feel like shit. I have gotten so much stronger since the break up. It's hard to say he flat out abused me... Because at the time I felt like that was just how he showed he loved me. He would say horrible things though, and he never really hit me but he held me down and forced me to do things and he did smack me a few times. He always used his size as an advantage. He's pretty tall and strong for a guy and I'm pretty much just small... If he wanted something he'd have this way of towering over me or pressing me against something or squeezing my wrists. He was very controlling. It's been about six months since we broke up. And even though it was a really hard thing to get over, I am better. My friends were amazing for me and even though my family didn't know the whole story they supported me through the rough months after we broke up. It was hard to not go back to him... I am somewhat involved with this new guy but I have a hard time trusting him. Being alone together makes me nervous and he can tell... I told him I've had a difficult past but I'm not ready to tell him everything. It's hard to tell people what happened. It's really hard to admit that you were os weak and controlled... I'm just not ready to tell him. He's sweet and caring and respectful and I'm tired of not being able to get close to him. I know it's gonna take time but I know I'm huritng him when I jerk away from him trying to hold my hand or refuse to let his arms get around me. He says he understands that I've had a rough past even though he doesn't know what's happened. I know he undertands but I feel so guilty. I know it hurts him... What do I do?? (I'm fifteen sophomore and he's seventeen junior)
Let me just first say, I am very sorry about the relationship you were in. No girl, or person for that matter should have to live with that. I admire you for being so strong.
Anyways... You do not have to tell the new boy everything that happened, just tell him he was really controlling. You have the right to keep that a secret if you really wish to do so. As you spend more time with him, you will learn to trust him. I understand you might be 'scarred' and have trouble with future relationships, but you cannot be scared forever. Just see how it goes, and if you dont want to tell him, dont. Its the past and you have the right to forget about it.
i want to no if i should get a job at the age of 14?? because im tierd of being broke and all my freinds have money and like i never do.....
To be honest, most job facilities don't hire anyone under the age of 16. I just turned 16, and just got my first job. If your lucky, you can snag one when your 15, but all depending on where you live. Be patient and soon enough, you will have boatloads of money to spend!
how do i cut my own hair into choppy layers?
My friend just taught me how to do this same exact thing too! Its really easy.
1. Take your hair as if you were putting it into a pony tail. Instead of hair tying it, twist the pony tail to either the right or left and just start snipping the ends. (REMEMBER TO SNIP DOWN)
2. Untwist, and repeat, twisting it the opposite way.
Let me know how everything turns out!
After I ate dinner today I just went in the bathroom and threw up. Like, out of the blue I got sick for no reason. I haven't thrown up since or anything and I wasn't sick before I ate. What does it mean when you just randomly throw up or something? The vomit looked normal to me and not like bloody too
Whatever you may have eaten probably didn't agree with you, or your stomach, so it needed to dispose of it. Nothing to worry about, it happens to everyone.
One night at a party, and I was running around outside with my friends until i tripped and i lost my necklace. I asked a boy to help me look in the woods for it, because that's where I lost it. While we were in the woods, he said "What do I get if I find it?" and I said, you'll find out when you find it! And sure enough he found my necklace, then he asked for his "reward" and I said he gets nothing but a thank you.
So school started this week, and today a boy walked up to me and said "HEY, if i find your necklace will you give ME head?" and I was really confused. Until one of my close friends came up to me and asked me if i blew a kid who found my necklace at a party. Of course I said no.. because i didn't! And people in school keep bringing it up.
I guess I'm just asking if you have any tips on how to cope with it? Ignore it? Etc.
Thankssss.
You answered your own question- ignore it! People at school want you to get upset, but if you dont, they'll eventually stop. Soon enough, something will happen with someone else that they will be fixated on, then your news, will be old news. Just ignore it, and tough it out, it will pass soon enough :)
15/m
The other day i had open house at my High school, i'll be a freshmen this year. I noticed in most of my classes that i have almost no friends in the class. I know most of the people but are not like friends if you know what i'm saying. In lunch so far none of my friends are in it. Some people that i know are but they are girls, or popular or both. I know popular people but don't usually hang out with them to much. And girls well they sit with girls so yeah.
Any idea's what i can do to make friends? or to make my first Tri-Mester easier?
Just be yourself! If you have projects in a class with no friends, work with different people everytime to meet everyone in your class and get to know them. I went through the same thing freshman year, and it wasn't as bad as you think it's going to be. Just relax and be yourself. Your friends love you for you, and so will the new ones you meet in your first tri-mester.
Ohkay..so my boyfriend gave me my first hicky. how do i make sure my parents won't see it?? how long does it take for it to go away? thanks.
Makeup. Use lots of concealer, but make sure it blends in with your skin. If you use too much, or its not your skin type, it might look a little blotchy and make it even more noticable. Wear your hair down, assuming its more towards the back of your neck. If its not, still wear your hair down, they still might not notice. It takes about 3 days to completely fade. But, after 2, its not so noticable.
Okay I have decided That i want a STEADY advice buddy which means that i want to have one specific person (that actually LOVE giving advice) That i can write to wheneva i need advice. Im senseing that some of the advicee that is giving to me is not serious. I wont someone that will actually think the advice that they are about to give to me and not go off their own disappointments. Example: If I ask someone what should i do about my boyfriend I dont want the response to be...(FORGET HIM!!! HE'S NOT WORTH IT) Just because that person have had some problems in their relationship. I wont a person that I can send direct msgs to. I also want someone that wont take FOREVER to respond bacc because I really do need help on some situations. So please, if you feel as if you can be a great advice buddy then please respond. Thanks
Knowing from experience, I used to talk to a advicenator themself and ask them questions whenever I needed it, and it was a really good feeling having someone by your side helping through you through problems when and where you needed it. If you would like to test it out, I would love to help you. I love giving advice, and I give advice outside advicenators too. I have been through a lot, as a teenager, and I know what it feels like. You can inbox me on here, or email is fine too. ejfeil@comcast.net
Good Luck!
16/f
i have a problem. within the last 2 months, my armpits have been sweating like crazy. i live in the south so its already hot but not i have to wear a hoodie to school since i sweat a lot. i don't believe i smell, i carry perfume though but you can see the sweat stain. i have tried a lot, anit persperent, cotton clothes, special body wash. . .
please, i cant even raise my arm to answer a question without my hoodie.
from,
embarassed
Dear Embarresed, (which you shouldnt be)
Dove makes a deoderant thats for people like you. Its called Dove clinical protection and it reduces perspiration, which will eventually reduce it under your pits. I also used to have the same problem as you, and I started using Secret, and it really helps. Try looser clothing, tight clothing can make you sweat and it also clings to your pits, which makes the sweat even more noticable.
I'm feeling a little bit pissed off at two of my friends (they're not like my best friends or anything, more like really good acquaintances). I had my b-day party yesterday and they thought it would be funny to "pie me" in the face...but they didnt just do a little whipped cream or whatever the two of them got me with **two** real pies. It was a total surprise and I didnt know what to think at the time but it was funny, although more than anything just a total shock. But I was totally covered in the stuff and now the shirt I was wearing is stained and it wont come out, that was like $30 and my jeans have stains on them too that won't come out and they were really expensive too. Besides I sat at my party, where i really wanted to look good, covered in bits of pie for like 2 more hours, I mean I cleaned up but it was way too messy to clean up totally... so I looked like crap of course!
So anyway should I be pissed off or just take it for what is was supposed to be, a joke/surprise? I mean I know they weren't trying to be mean, they just wanted to be funny. Like i said it was kinda funny even for me but now that its over it kind of sucks that I am left with stained clothes plus I looked like crap for most of my party.
Thanks - Kate
I think they wanted you to feel happy that they surprised you like that. I don't think they meant to stain your clothes or to be mean about it. It was your party and they probably wanted you to have fun! Who cares if you looked like 'crap', it was your party, and I am sure no one noticed :)
As for the stains, get some really good detergent, and some tide-to-go and use that before putting it in the wash. If the shirt you had on was white, you could use a bleach pen on it and then throw it in the wash. Or, take it to a dry cleaner and they will know exactly how to get it out.
Recently I want to buy a present for my friend,and I found a handbag on coachoutletcom.com .The first black one.but I don't know if she likes.Can anyone give me a suggestion?
I am more than certain that any girl who recieves a nice fendy purse from a friend would be more than thrilled, especially if its a nice one like coach! I have been eyeing one too, and I know if I got one, I would be thrilled to have gotten it. Go forward with it, and buy it for her :)