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Freshman Year
15/m
The other day i had open house at my High school, i'll be a freshmen this year. I noticed in most of my classes that i have almost no friends in the class. I know most of the people but are not like friends if you know what i'm saying. In lunch so far none of my friends are in it. Some people that i know are but they are girls, or popular or both. I know popular people but don't usually hang out with them to much. And girls well they sit with girls so yeah.
Any idea's what i can do to make friends? or to make my first Tri-Mester easier?
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Just be yourself! If you have projects in a class with no friends, work with different people everytime to meet everyone in your class and get to know them. I went through the same thing freshman year, and it wasn't as bad as you think it's going to be. Just relax and be yourself. Your friends love you for you, and so will the new ones you meet in your first tri-mester.
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Don't worry about people liking you. You just got to be yourself and do what you want to do. Then next thing you know people are going to love you.
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during class I suggest focusing on the work and when appropriate, show how fun you are by laughing, making jokes, draw cool pictures, whatever you do. if people see you are interesting they will want to be your friend. also, find things that you have in common with them and talk to them about that stuff.
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My freshman year I was a nervous wreck about what I would do for friends. I was never a social person in grade school and because of that I have acquaintances,but only TWO best friends. And those two best friends went to a different high school then I did. I asked a girl who I was pretty good friends with if I could sit with her at lunch. She said sure.
You could always do that, chose the person you know most and ask to sit with this at lunch.
The first day I re-met a girl I knew from 2nd grade and we became best friends by the end of the day. We no longer speak to each other, but right after we met she introduced me to my current best friend.
During classes I didn't have with them, I made small talk with the people I sat around.
I decided I needed to get over my fear of speaking to knew people and start friendships myself if I wanted to make any.
Of course that wasn't always the case. One of my really good friends now came up to me first.
What I started doing, was finding someone in class who looked nice, but didn't seem to know any body in class either. I would go up to those people and ask if they wanted to work together on things. Ask how their summer was, etc.
This is coming from someone with poor confidence. If I could make new friends, you can too.
Good luck!
16, junior.
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My advice is to just be friendly. Talk to anyone and everyone. No one's mean enough that they'll push you away, and if they do, they're not someone you want to be friends with anyway! Ask the girls your friends with if you can sit with them at lunch, they probably won't tell you no. Then you can be close to the other girls they're sitting with too. It's not that hard to make new friends, it's just about being social with everyone. Even simple things like joining a new group for projects or group work in your classes helps. Or something even simpler like try talking to the person who's locker's next to yours.
I had a similar problem when I began high school, but you'll eventually meet new people you like and get along with, and you'll figure out it's a lot easier to make new friends then you thought.
I hope this helped, good luck!!
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