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So i am 18 years old i liked this guy i worked with since the first time i saw him. We flirted a lot and he made it known he was in to me. I soon found out he was married and had two kids. He took it to the next level and gave me his number but was casual about it. I knew where it was going. We texted a lot and he told me everything a girl would want to hear. he seemed so sincere. I truly believed him. He wont respond to my text or calls. What do i do? I think i love him. I told him once that i didnt want to talk anymore but then told him i didnt mean that. do you think he may be sincerly hurt by the things i said or does he just care? Please give me advice. (link)
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It's never smart to be a homewrecker. It only brings drama, unless you like that. If he's not responding to your calls it means that he is probably around his wife or scared that the calls may lead his family into something. You need to realize that he is in a relationship and has a family. What if you had a husband who you loved that was cheating? It would not make you feel good. Also if he is interested then he will only cheat again if you gain a relationship with him. you say he made it known that he was into you. it seems like he just cares about you and he doesn't want anything more than action. i would need more details to fully assess the situation. good luck. just remember he has someone at home who he is committed to.
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So on the weekend I met a guy. He's 34 and I'm 19 and he lives about 3 hours away from me. Basically I made out with him the first night we met. The next night we slept together, and again the next morning and he was such a gentle person not just sexually but emotionally, didn't pressure me to do anything I didn't want to do. Now, I'm finding myself to be thinking of him constantly. He told me he cared about me but he wouldn't be able to see me much because he's always busy working long hours, which is fair enough considering he works a good job in the city. I can't talk to him until Thursday because at the moment his phone is being fixed and he won't have it back until Thursday, he said he'll contact me when he gets it...But I don't think I can have a Friendship with benefit thing with him seeing as I'm slowly falling for him and I don't know if he feels the same. Maybe he does like me in that way but wouldn't date me because of the distance, either way I'm afraid to tell him because I don't want to hear the "We can only be just friends" speech. And what makes it 1000 times complicated is that I have an ex who is still madly in love with me and got insanely(and aggressively) jealous of me hanging out with this new guy on the weekend annnd I have an online boyfriend who is coming to see me start of next year. You may think I'm a horrible person for this but this guy is just all I can think about and it's driving me crazy.
What should I do? I'm so stuck and feeling so lost :( (link)
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dear stuck,
this is a hard situation. first of all i want to say that anytime you sleep or kiss someone you get attached, in some way, to them no matter what. They have a bond with you and you with them, even if it is a fling. It seems like he is not favoring the idea of dating you. distance scares guys because they are physical and generally need touch/sight to keep a connection with someone. If he doesn't contact you then he probably isn't interested. I wouldn't tell him you are in love him because it seems too soon and it will scare him away unless he is 100% sure he feels the same. I understand how you feel though. Just focus on other more-promising relationships and better yourself everyday. Someone better than him will come along and feel the same way as you.
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My friends always ignore my opinions! And when I tell a story, they will talk about another topic! And I feel nervous now because I know about their plan. Their plan is to make my life suffer and when I have a crush they will hunt him down and tell him and lie about me and tell bad things about me that aren't true and make my other friends my enemies. Now what will I do?! My life is going to be ruined in three months! And did I mention they will post a picture in a website with me with no underwear and no shirt or bra?! (link)
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you need new friends. prove you're mature and find new friends who appreciate what you have to give because it's so much! you are beautiful and wonderful and dont need anyone holding you back from being an awesome person.
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how do i cut my own hair into choppy layers? (link)
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if you comb your hair straight out you can cut it at an angle toward your head to create layers. the choppy look comes from pointing scissors straight up and down and cutting in different places.
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Hey guys I'm 18/f. Basically last week me and my bf had an argument over something really lame! It was nothing serious. For the next few days I ended up being moody with him b/c of it, and I knew I was in the wrong. I told my bf It wasn't fair that I was being moody with him all the time so said maybe for the best we should break up. I asked if I could think about it. He said yes but kept demanding an answer from me. I said I would make one the next day. The next day he says he is questioning our relationship now. I told him I wanted to be with him and he said he doesn't want to break up but its probably for the best. He kept telling me how much he loves me and wants to stay friends and he still said goodnight sweet dreams to me. I said I can't be friends with him it will be too hard. We are meeting up to talk about it. I asked if he can re-think his decision and we can talk about it and he said he isn't sure if it will make a difference but we'll see. Do you think there's any hope for us?? We both love eachother a lot and it was only last week he was telling my friends how happy he is with me, and planning surprises for my birthday. What should I do? (link)
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i think he is unsure of how you are feeling and doesn't want to be left in the dust so he is protecting himself by telling you the same thing. he wants to see now that you gave him an ultimatum how you will react when he gives you one. he wants to see you much you will beg him to take you back. if he is worth it then tell him that the break cleared things up and you would like another chance. also look at the situation and see if anything has changed since he was telling your friends how happy he was with you. if the only thing that changed is you then he wants to test you to see how important he is to you. good luck!
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Is it okay to call a celebrity who is semi-retired and reportedly loves his fans? if anyone needs details, let me know. need to know this thanks! (link)
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if you want to contact them, try mail first. its a little less intrusive and gives them time to reply. if you have the number directly to the celebrity i see no problem in calling as long as you don't act inappropriately.
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I have this boy best friend who I tease always. And do you know why I do that? Because I have a crush on him. And now he has this sort-of girlfriend and whenever I see him with her I feel jealous. And he doesn't know my secret. I used to have a crush on this person and still my best friend thinks I have a crush on that other boy. Now what do I do?! I'm so confused. And the other boy is begging to be my boyfriend. WHAT SHOULD I DO?! (link)
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don't worry about the person who is begging to be your boyfriend. if you don't feel like it, don't do it. if this boy is your best friend, talk to him and ask him about the girl. ask him what he wants in a wife. that could help you see if you're anything he would consider. you are beautiful and if it doesn't work, don't worry, someone who you like will like you but you have to be able to show them that you like them in some way.
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The other day i had open house at my High school, i'll be a freshmen this year. I noticed in most of my classes that i have almost no friends in the class. I know most of the people but are not like friends if you know what i'm saying. In lunch so far none of my friends are in it. Some people that i know are but they are girls, or popular or both. I know popular people but don't usually hang out with them to much. And girls well they sit with girls so yeah.
Any idea's what i can do to make friends? or to make my first Tri-Mester easier? (link)
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during class I suggest focusing on the work and when appropriate, show how fun you are by laughing, making jokes, draw cool pictures, whatever you do. if people see you are interesting they will want to be your friend. also, find things that you have in common with them and talk to them about that stuff.
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This is going to be a long post. It has been 8 months now since I broke up with my ex-boyfriend who was my first lover (but I was not his first). I did reconciled him after his birthday in May over the telephone but I did not tell him how did I felt deep down inside me. Over the telephone, I told him that I can't be his friend just yet because I need the time to heal myself. He told me he understood what I am going through and he knows what to do right now (distance himself from me). On early of July, I went to Bangkok with my group of friends for 5 days (my ex was there too). Things got awkward at first, but I did not want to affect my friends who were stucked between us and acted as though I am okay and cool with the situation between my ex and I. We had fun clubbing, eating, gossiping and taking photos together.
After the trip, I did not contact my ex at all unil last week, out of the blues, my ex messaged me to ask me out for lunch when I was working. He was still the same, ordering food for me like what he did when we were couples and it was his treat for the lunch. I did not think much and took it as though how a normal friend treats you.
Then 3 days later, I heard rumours that my ex is going after a girl but they are still not hooked up yet. I felt hurt, sad and hopeless like how I felt after I broke up with him. So I messaged him after having a drink at the bar and told him that I do not want to follow him down for work on thursday because I do not want that girl to misunderstand our relationship. My ex told me that "who told you I am after her? we are just friends. u're thinking too much" and the very next day, his best friend finds me on messenger. His best friend told me that my ex called him to tell him about that girl, he wants to get to know her first before making any moves (try to understand her, compatible anot when they were together). I do not know who to trust at that moment and my feelings of getting hurt and sad came back.
Then I tried to reach out to my ex by asking him to fetch me down to my workplace to settle my stuffs on thursday and he agreed but he has to settle his work first before sending me to my workplace. I went to alot of places with him to finish up his work and we did talk alot of things during our journey from his family, to his business and also his friends. During lunch time, I was suppose to treat his a big meal since I still owe him but it ended up he paid for the meal and he asked me to take it as I was accompanying him that day. He did remind me alot of things, he told me that my christmas present for him was the most outstanding colour and nice design out of his other underwears. And I noticed that he always flirts with me by touching my hand, arms and also thigh. I also noticed that when I was having lunch with him that day, he looked on my neck to see what necklace was I wearing. I did not wear the necklace he bought for me on my birthday.
When his mom called him, he was jokingly saying that his mom asked me to stay for dinner with them. Then he was supposed to fetched me home, but he asked me whether I was in the rush to go home anot because he asked me to go for a movie or to go out for a walk with him before sending me home. He even told me that he can be that particular someone to taste my food since I know how to cook now because he's my boyfriend. He even gave me a mysterious smile when he sent me back home and said I still owe him a big meal. I thought of treating him during lunch, but he rejected and told me next time, you will see. My ex also did questioned and tried asking me who am I dating right now but I made him curious by not letting him know. But when it comes to me teasing him with that girl, he went again "she is just a fren".
Does a normal friend treat their friends this way? Or I should put it in a way does ex treat their other exes that way? I do want to reconcile him again, whats with those flirting!! My other friends who are boys never flirt with me that way!! Is he still keeping tabs on me because our break up din really go well, we did not have a proper closure. I really do not know what his actions really meant or am I too sensitive in handling all this signs that he is giving me? (link)
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he should be able to tell you how it is with that girl or not. you dated him and not his friend so if i were you i would trust him more and not his friend. he is probably keeping tabs on you and possibly thinking about getting back together. i only ask exes about who their dating if i am thinking about starting the relationship back up. he might just care about you and want to see you happy so he is asking about who you're dating. he is obviously showing signs of interest. a man will not pay for your meal unless they know there is some potential, either relationship or a great friend. some people feel like they should pay if it's their idea to go out to eat, especially if its one on one.
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So a few months ago... i was involved with some guy. I didn't know where it was going. we knew each other from random mutual friends for years but lived in different cities and only ever talked on msn. he knows alot of people close to my circle and life... we went to the movies once as friends since he moved closer to town. and then a few months back he showed up at a party of mutual fiends where he asked me to try to set him up with a girl i knew. anyway we starting hanging out more, and she totally hated him (OMG was she right or what!). so we grew closer over that months and i decided to hang out a little more with him...
things went vague from their and we started making out over a span of a week or two... i've never made out before so it was kind of a fun thing... thing is i want to keep it a secret (crazy town) but he has a huge mouth and probably told his friend. one day i don't recall exactly what i said but he answered that what was going on was basically a fling and i was a cheap means to a need so to speak (not in these words per se) so i asked what that's supposed to mean and i guess it freaked him out so we stopped hanging out (he blocked me from msn, stopped texting and stuff) and frankly i didn't bother going after him... which to be honest is fine by me since i knew from the beginning i was in it for some fun... the problem is he's acting like a child and people will notice the guy that ducks under the tables if i walk into a room, let alone hear the gossip spread by his big mouth... i am totally not a clingger but he's acting like a child and he's embarrassing me... i won't have the opportunity to talk to him and set him straight... though i did tell him right from the gecko that what ever happens happens as long as he sets me straight and man's up to the situation and we could get out of it as friends... as usual he pulled a typical guy move on me... and now i am freaking out about what he'll say. he's told his friends and they yap... i really don't want this spreading around especially that my parents would freak about this since we come from two different cultures (believe me my family does not mix well with his) .... i am really mad at his dumb behaviour and would really appreciate some advice on how to get maximum damage control and perhaps as a bonus maybe, strike back and set him in place...
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this is hard if you have no way of talking to him about it. isn't it like a guy to not man up to the situation and talk about it before spreading things that aren't true? so try telling people who you talk to the real situation. let them know that he is being childish and that you aren't interested in being in a relationship with someone so immature.
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I went out with a guy for about 2 years and he was my best friend. He cheated on me a couple times and was a complete jerk...but he's a nice kid. his actions are stupid and i was wrong for taking him back. right before my birthday last november he broke up with me, telling me he wanted to take a break...yet he still loved me.
a month later he got a girlfriend and i hooked up with a guy. but then later that year in around march...we became friends again and he told me that the girl was just a rebound. my ex and i were friends but then got into a huge fight . he called me names and told me he doesn't care about me one bit and to get the hell out of his life. it was horrible. ever since then he hasn't talked to me.
yesterday was the first day of school and he seemed different. he called me by my nickname to his friends, held the door for me and little things..yet never talked directly to me. i'm so confused..and it really bothers me that i still think about him after 10 months. all my friends have boyfriends and are so occupied with them that i can never talk to them about this ..and when we do get together they talk about their boyfriends/text their boyfriends. i have no one to talk about this stuff. please help.
why does my ex choose to be friendly..yet not talk to me ... (link)
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he probably doesn't want his friends to notice any difference or he is sorry for what he said and wants to show you he's not mad while still showing you he doesn't want to be involved more than what he is doing. i know about friends and their boyfriends. its hard having someone be so happy while you are breaking down. tell them you are happy for them but really need to talk about this problem, if they're true friends they will see your anguish and want to help you figure this guy out. if all else fails try talking to him online or text him.
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I was out swimming yesterday and didn't put sunscreen on or whatever and got sunburned really bad. I've never been sunburnt like this before and it hurts and is ugly. I don't want to finish out the school year with nasty red skin. How can I get rid of a sunburn really fast or overnight? Is there anything that can get the "burn" out of the sunburn too because it hurts? :( (link)
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i have had a severe sunburn once every year since i was a little girl. I just get it once then it fades to tan until the next year. I do use aloe vera for the peeling but it never really soothes the skin. the best gel I have found is called burn free. paramedics carry it with them to calm minor to more severe burns. It takes the heat out and can be found online or at a first aid store.
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Ill start out by saying I work work two jobs and I bust my ass just to make my wife happy its like all she thinks about is money .one job I have is not a steady scedual it has its peaks and lowes if it rains can't work if it even looks like its gooing to rain people don't come in for business so I get sent home early .but the days we have good weather we get bussy .I make hourly plus tips and sometimes the tips are pritty good but my wife will always ask if I maid tips today like why should it matter to her when both my paychecks go to the bank but anyways I tell her my tips where fair .and there is times she wants to hold my tips like I'm not responsable enough to do it myself .its my money anyways .she works also .but when I get sent home early or don't get to work at all she will always ask me did you get to work today ? And I'm beggining to wonder if I'm just here for a paycheck .what do you think ? (link)
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I agree with the first answer and would like to add. If you're really wondering about just being there for a paycheck, look at how she treats you when you don't bring in as much money. Talking to her about the problem will be most beneficial. If she is questioning about you getting to work it may be because she doesn't fully trust what you are doing with the money. If so, then reassure her that you are working hard and doing it because you want to see her happy and that money isn't everything.
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hi..i hav many hairs on stomach how to get rid of hairs...m vry fed up wid ma hairs on stomach..i want to remove permanent... (link)
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if your hairs are light then laser hair removal won't work on them. I would suggest waxing or using an epilator to bring the longest hair-free period.
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Im 17/f , & I will be 18 in Nov. Michael is 16 & will be 17 in Oct. He is the youngest guy I have dated. We have been dating for 4 months. He's my first serious relationship I have had since my ex Thomas in 06'. When he first asked me out, I said yes, but I felt like I made the wrong decision cause I was scared of what people would think of him cause he isn't the cutest thing in the world, but he's sweet. I gave him a chance, cause I didn't want to be shallow & miss out on a good guy. After 2 months, I told Michael that I had an ex (Thomas) coming over to see my family cause he was really close to them, & Michael didn't care at all; he trusts me. Thomas & I sat in his truck just bringing up our past, & it brought back a lot of memories. He said he still loved me, & that when im 18 he was going to ask me back out, cause he is 21 & his parents weren't okay with the age difference. He was aware about my new boyfriend. We didn't do anything, NOT EVEN HUG. After he left, I started having mixed emotions about if i wanted to be with Michael or not, so I talked to him about it, & explained how I felt to him; days went by & I had a feeling inside me that I felt guilty, but I had nothing to feel guilty over. I finally broke up with him; I felt happier; but than again I felt as if something was missing. When I left him, he cried & was very hurt; we talked & got back together cause we both thought it was Thomas's presents that I was feeling this way; and we also thought that it was the fact that we barely hung out with each other. So we started hanging out alot more & the mixed emotions went away. We had sex once a couple of weeks later. Ever since then we have been fine until Friday; I told him I wasn't in love with him but I do love him; he said he was in love with me. My mixed emotions are coming back. I brought it to his attention again, & he says its cause Im on my period, cause last mixed emotions happen while I was on my period also. I feel as if our relationship is boring. We have tried new things, but our relationship doesn't get any better to me. When we hang its like we are bestfriends, but I know I like him as more. Looks aren't everything, hes a good guy which makes me like him more.We use to be able to talk on the phone for hours, & now I dont like talking to him any longer than maybe 10 minutes on the phone cause he irritates me. The littlest things he does gets on my nerves, & I don't understand why. I use to love to kiss him, but now I don't. I have no problem cuddling with him, but its only when I want too. I dont want to hurt him, cause he has treated me the best that I have ever been treated & he had a rough past where people would just walk out of his life & I dont want to be like that. Sometimes I find him immature, even though he really isn't. He just doesn't think before he speaks. He has tried to change himself to keep me, but I dont want him being something he's not. I know its not lust, cause we aren't all over each other, & I dont like doing sexual things with him. I just really don't know what to do.I've been thinking that maybe it's the fact that I like the idea of having a boyfriend, but Im not too sure. I don't want to break up with him, and than regret it, but I dont want to stay with him just to get him more attached to me and than hurt him more. Its like when I break up with him, I feel heartbroken & I want him back, but when I take him back, I dont want to be with him. Im lost, and confused.
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This is crazy because I have been through this exact same scenario. What I did was wrote down all the good and bad qualities about both relationships. I suggest comparing the two and pray (to whatever higher power you believe in) and sit on it. Take some time for yourself and see what is best for you. I have the problem that whenever I date someone long enough I start to get annoyed of little silly things they do. I then have to realize my own mistakes and it helps me see what i'm dwelling on isn't all that important. I say this as well "is this something that will change? is this something that i can't stand? or am i being too picky?". If you answer these questions, it will help you see either that this person isn't compatible with you or you are being difficult. When you leave someone its hard because there is a period where you miss that person and the joy they brought to you. you need to always remind yourself why you broke up with them in the first place. When you take them back all the joy is there but the negative things bubble to the top and that's what you tend to dwell on. when/if you break up with him remember why you did it and keep your ground. Its hard but time will heal. hope this helps.
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Hey my husband is deploying to Afghanistan October 31st of this year and i want to get a tattoo to show my love and support for him. I thought about the yellow ribbon with dog tags but talking to him about it he isnt a fan of the yellow ribbon and i want it to be something we both like. Any ideas at all would be greatly appreciated! Thanks in advance (link)
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when getting a tattoo you want it to be classic. i would suggest looking at his rank or doing a flag. It should be something symbolic to you. Maybe his initials?
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I was at a party last weekend. I hit it off with this guy, he's a senior, I'm a sophomore, he goes to a different school. I thought we really clicked. And we were back in the woods at this bonfire. We were just sitting by the fire, talking, for like three hours. People started drifting off but I didn't even notice and soon it was just me in him, I was sitting on his lap but he pulled me down so I was laying down and he was on top of me. I guess it was a little weird but I didn't mind too much at the time. I guess you could say we were dry humping, but he was really really forceful, like pushing really hard and kissing really hard and grabbing really hard and stuff. Granted, he is six foot four, 190 lbs of football/basketball/baseball toned muscle and I'm 105 pounds of 5'5 haha soo... I think he was trying to be gentle? I told him a few times, "not so hard" and it wasn't so bad when I was on top of him. We went out last night too, and he told me he really likes me, but we didn't make out or anything. I really like him and stuff but I'm worried our physical relationship might be bad... What should I do?? (link)
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I don't think a relationship where one person feels rushed is ever a good thing. Confront him and tell him you like being with him but you're not comfortable with how far you've gone. The only thing is to be honest and have good communication. good luck
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Whenever there's a cute guy around or any type of guy in general that I may be interested in, I get so nervous..and I don't know what to say to them. I don't really know what happens...when they talk to me, I respond but like I don't talk back much. Or if they make eye contact with me, I turn away. I have a few guy friends, and I'm fine with them! But it's my senior year and I would really like a date to prom with someone who I actually like...not just a normal guy friend who I hang out with all of the time. I'm somewhat shy...but I'm easy to get along with and I'm in a lot of clubs at school, etc. I'm the type of person who doesn't shut up when I'm around my friends but when I meet someone I'm shy, you know? I have decent self-esteem; guys always tell me that they think I'm pretty, nice, etc. Oh and also, I've never even had a boyfriend before! :(. I don't know...do you think you could tell me what I can do to not be so nervous? Thankyou! (link)
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I am the exact same way. What I have found is that when I am looking to date someone I have the hardest time finding anyone worth my time. The only times I have started to date someone was when I wasn't wanting to date. I don't know why that happens but it has worked for me so try not being interested in anyone for awhile. It will help with the nervousness but about not knowing what to say...I can't really give advice about that without being there. And the reason you are shy when you meet someone is because you are determining their character and deciding if they're worth your time, all humans do that. Just always remind yourself of your good qualities and how this person would be honored to hang with you. good luck!
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