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he's too rough, but i like him
I was at a party last weekend. I hit it off with this guy, he's a senior, I'm a sophomore, he goes to a different school. I thought we really clicked. And we were back in the woods at this bonfire. We were just sitting by the fire, talking, for like three hours. People started drifting off but I didn't even notice and soon it was just me in him, I was sitting on his lap but he pulled me down so I was laying down and he was on top of me. I guess it was a little weird but I didn't mind too much at the time. I guess you could say we were dry humping, but he was really really forceful, like pushing really hard and kissing really hard and grabbing really hard and stuff. Granted, he is six foot four, 190 lbs of football/basketball/baseball toned muscle and I'm 105 pounds of 5'5 haha soo... I think he was trying to be gentle? I told him a few times, "not so hard" and it wasn't so bad when I was on top of him. We went out last night too, and he told me he really likes me, but we didn't make out or anything. I really like him and stuff but I'm worried our physical relationship might be bad... What should I do??
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I don't think a relationship where one person feels rushed is ever a good thing. Confront him and tell him you like being with him but you're not comfortable with how far you've gone. The only thing is to be honest and have good communication. good luck
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Next time you are together, say something like:
"Rupert, I like you and would like to get to know you better and (be sure you say 'and' not 'but')
I feel that we've gotten way too physical too fast. Can we dial it back?"
The 'and' and not 'but' is a big difference, it's almost as if 'but' wipes out everything you said before that word.
If he doesn't want to take several giant steps backward, I suggest you end the relationship.
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Well for one he is older and he is more experienced, your younger and nieve so he is seeing how far he can push you. Dont think he is the only guy that will do this. cause he's not. Next time it happens tell him that you dont like moving that fast. and not be so rough. and you could be right, maybe he isnt trying to be rough and he is just bigger han you. Just talk to him and if he doesnt stop, call it off.
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