Hey everyone,
I'm Sydney and I love life! I love my family, friends, and most importantly God. I just really hope I can help anyone that needs it, so if you have a question about anything or need help, I will try as much as I can to give you great advice to help. Alright, later!
LoVe
~ Sydney(:
Gender: Female
Member Since: September 5, 2010
Answers: 8
Last Update: September 11, 2010
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long! (link)
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Dear Confused,
Well for one, i think it's a little strange he made a facebook group about your relationship and your personal information unless he was just bragging about you. I would just tell your boyfriend the whole situation and be honest. Tell him you saw it on facebook and that you're not really happy that your personal information is online for others to see. If then he decides that he is going to lie about, i would have to say it probably would not be the best thing for you to stay with him if he isn't be honest with you. And don't cry over a boy! Everythign will be fine just keep your head up!
~Sydney1o1
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My first day of school is on tuesday. I want people to see how i have changed. I want to seem more confident and also mysterious. What can i do to convey that and what should i say in conversations? (link)
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Dear Confused,
I think that when you go to school it shouldn't be about what you convey to people or what you say in a meaningless conversationS when you talk to people. I think it just matters who you are on the inside, the real you, which may not be who you want to be, but just be you! If you do this, I think people will see the real you. Just don't be worried with what others will think of you, because in the end it only matters if your happy with yourself. Just have fun in school and let the real you shine! The conversations and the rest will follow!
~Sydney1o1
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Why do I always get nervous around cute guys? I connect really well with guys and i have mostly guy friends but today two cute guys talked to me and I just cant seem to act like myself. I am pretty shy around someone until i feel comfortable and i feel like I'm not being judged. How do I come about acting cool when a cute guy starts up a conversation with me? (link)
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Dear Nervous,
I think the reason your having a hard time acting yourself around attractive guys is that your just shy, but I think you can overcome that by just gaining confidence in yourself. Your beautifully and wonderfully made! Just make sure you know your beautiful inside and out and just be yourself! Also, don't EVER worried about people judging you, because like I said, your wonderfully and fearfully made. Just remember that and you'll be fine! Hope all goes well!
~Sydney1o1
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Hi I am 18f. I have a boyfriend that is the same age. He is respectful, understanding, loving, and the first nice guy I have really known. I have known him for five months and we have been dating for the last two of those. Before him, I used to think that I should always be single, just be friends, and not date. This is because dating can be complicated and all the guys I have known are jerks. Also, I have been hurt to many times by people in the past.
He lives 35min away from me, we talk almost everyday, and he comes to see me whenever he can. He has a warm heart, open arms, and I have never felt this way towards a guy before. He makes me smile.
He is the kind of guy where I just want to be friends with him, yet I feel like I want to be with him for a very long time. He does have a huge flaw that I don't know if I can get by. He doesn't love some things that I love.. and it makes me question whether he is the guy for me. I know you have to look past flaws, but this ones hard. Also, I know I should live in the moment, but I keep thinking that I might be doing the wrong thing, maybe cuz its new... I am just unsure. Please tell me what you think, thanks
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Dear Unsure,
I think that this guy sounds amazing. The way you describe, I dont know, I think you can just tell that you are really falling for this guy. The fact that he doesn't like the same things you like is actually normal. I mean guys and girls have different interests unless the things you like and he doesnt is your family or somthing big like that, then I think you shouldn't be too turned off by the fact that you don't have the same interests. I honestly think that you might just be subcontionsly scaring yourself out of this relationship because you've been hurt before. But I'm not you and I don't know whats in your heart. You have to make the ultimate decision if you want to continuing dating this guy. I hope everything works out!
~Sydney1o1
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Whenever there's a cute guy around or any type of guy in general that I may be interested in, I get so nervous..and I don't know what to say to them. I don't really know what happens...when they talk to me, I respond but like I don't talk back much. Or if they make eye contact with me, I turn away. I have a few guy friends, and I'm fine with them! But it's my senior year and I would really like a date to prom with someone who I actually like...not just a normal guy friend who I hang out with all of the time. I'm somewhat shy...but I'm easy to get along with and I'm in a lot of clubs at school, etc. I'm the type of person who doesn't shut up when I'm around my friends but when I meet someone I'm shy, you know? I have decent self-esteem; guys always tell me that they think I'm pretty, nice, etc. Oh and also, I've never even had a boyfriend before! :(. I don't know...do you think you could tell me what I can do to not be so nervous? Thankyou! (link)
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Dear Nervous,
Well I think this reaction around guys is completly normal! But basically what I would try to do is to before you get in a situation where you know you'll get nervous, just take a couple of breaths and try and relaxx. I would also get a couple of guy friends or or guys cousins or something and maybe try and practice having a conversation with them. You could also practice in the mirror if you want! Just have a plan about what your going to say ahead of time so you don't feel stupid i.e. you wont feel shy. Also, just remember that your beautifully and wonderfully made and that you should just be confident in yourself. I think that if you truly believe that, then your confidence will shine! And just have fun when your talking with guys and everything will be fine(:
~Sydney1o1
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ok so ive had this freind since freshman year lets call her L. L got a crush on a guy (calling him B) during that year. Its been two years and she still likes him. so i got this new friend whose a freshman (calling her D) so D was talking to B on facebook last night and asked if he had a date to the dance and she said she would have asked B to the dance if it weren't for someone else and B said i might have said yes. and now D is starting to fall for B. problem is L was gonna ask B to the same dance. They both really like
B so i do not know what to do. Should i tell D to back off of B or do i warn L to step her game up. i feel like i don't want to tell L this because this might crush her but i know if something happens between B and D it will hurt even worse and D is just a young girl and i don't want her to get hurt please help (link)
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Dear Torn,
First of all wow haha this is a problem. Well, I would tell L that as a friend, maybe she should really try to get over this B guy because obviously its causing problems. I would tell D about how another person likes him and she should try not to get to caught in in this one guy. But really, even though your trying to be a really good friend and trying to protect your other friends, I would really try not to get in between their situation. Whatever happens is going to happen. Just tell both L and D that whatever does happen, you'll be there for them. Because chances are, if you intercede in their problems, you'll probably be the one that gets hurt. Just let everything play out, and just focus on trying to be a good friend to L and D. Hope everything works out!
~Sydney1o1
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well im dating somone and i havnt kissed tham cause i dont know how...im 14....
uhhh this is kindahh embarrasing...but i need tips on how to kiss^^ thankies! (link)
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Dear Confused Kisser,
Hey girl, your only fourteen! Which I am sure you hate when people say that, but before you try and kiss your boyfriend I would really take a moment to think if this guy is really really really special. Your only 14 and you will probably date more guys in your life. Just remember, you only get to have your first kiss once! Don't waste it! (But the kissing part just comes naturally;) Just make sure your ready and that this is the guy you want to share it with) Hope this helped!
~Sydney1o1
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Okay I was dating this guy for 7 months. We dated 3, almost 4 years ago and we broke up because his mom said our maturity levels were completely different. I was 14 and he was 17.
Now Im 17 & hes 20.
The day after we broke up, he made me a pinky promise that he would propose to me on my graduation day in 2011.
A couple of months ago, he came by to see my family because while we dated, my family got really attached to him. When he came over, I got butterflies, and I felt as if my knees could colopase. Its been 3 years, and yet he still gets to me. The way he says my name made my heart skip beats like crazy, and the way he smells just gives me chills. Butt we was sitting in his truck and he was bringin back old memories that I barely remembered, and that made me happy because he didnt forget. He told me once again that the pinky promise he made me was still going to happen, and that he was going to ask me back out when I was 18 because of the age thing. He cried, and he said he was still in love with me, and it scares him because he has got over all the girls he has dated, but not me.
Why do I still have feelings for him? Are my feelings real, or was I just excited and nervous to see him? And how do I know if he's being serious? He broke my heart once, I dont want it to happen again. (link)
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Dear Confused Still,
Well with the new information you gave me, I'm so sorry but I would definitly have to tell you that dating him would not be the best thing to do. If hes a "sexaholic" thats just red flag right there that he may just want to be with you again to have a good time. Also, if he may be a cheater that is a definite no. Never date a cheater, trust me. As for the communication issues you have that also doesn't help you to have a good healty relationship. I would just get out of it now:/ I wish i could tell you something different but you already said that you didn't have a good feeling about it.. but whatever you do is ultimitly up to you. Good luck!
~Sydney1o1
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