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torn in between two friends
ok so ive had this freind since freshman year lets call her L. L got a crush on a guy (calling him B) during that year. Its been two years and she still likes him. so i got this new friend whose a freshman (calling her D) so D was talking to B on facebook last night and asked if he had a date to the dance and she said she would have asked B to the dance if it weren't for someone else and B said i might have said yes. and now D is starting to fall for B. problem is L was gonna ask B to the same dance. They both really like
B so i do not know what to do. Should i tell D to back off of B or do i warn L to step her game up. i feel like i don't want to tell L this because this might crush her but i know if something happens between B and D it will hurt even worse and D is just a young girl and i don't want her to get hurt please help
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I think you should tell L to get over him because you saw him flirting with another girl, and since he is flirting with D it's his choice and from what I know B probablly likes D not L who he hasn't flirted with, but he's flirted with D, so....his choice, find out who he likes and comfort the friend he doesn't like. Make sure D doesn't get hurt or blamed because she's younger tell L to be mature about it if it's not her and tell L to try to be nice to D if it's not her. And tell D she's a beautiful girl and will find someone better who will love her! if she's not the one B likes. Hope this helps! Get back to me!
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Ok honestly i wouldnt say anything, You said L has had a crush on this boy for 2 years....and she hasnt made a move yet? Sorry L but D has only been around for a little bit and shes already going for B...it just shows you snooze you lose. If this does get out to either girls you need to let them know that neither of them can help the way they feel. I hate that rule where u cant go out with the guy because ur friend like him but they are too shy to say anything haha...that sucks big time. sooo try to keep your mouth closed but when it comes down to it you need to let D know that L might be a little upset with her and let L know that you know she is sad but she has had 2 years to get a chance. And in order to have a chance you have to take one. I would suggest to L that she still has a chance before D takes him for good :) Good Luck hun!
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Dear Torn,
First of all wow haha this is a problem. Well, I would tell L that as a friend, maybe she should really try to get over this B guy because obviously its causing problems. I would tell D about how another person likes him and she should try not to get to caught in in this one guy. But really, even though your trying to be a really good friend and trying to protect your other friends, I would really try not to get in between their situation. Whatever happens is going to happen. Just tell both L and D that whatever does happen, you'll be there for them. Because chances are, if you intercede in their problems, you'll probably be the one that gets hurt. Just let everything play out, and just focus on trying to be a good friend to L and D. Hope everything works out!
~Sydney1o1
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