Question Posted Saturday September 4 2010, 8:09 pm
Whenever there's a cute guy around or any type of guy in general that I may be interested in, I get so nervous..and I don't know what to say to them. I don't really know what happens...when they talk to me, I respond but like I don't talk back much. Or if they make eye contact with me, I turn away. I have a few guy friends, and I'm fine with them! But it's my senior year and I would really like a date to prom with someone who I actually like...not just a normal guy friend who I hang out with all of the time. I'm somewhat shy...but I'm easy to get along with and I'm in a lot of clubs at school, etc. I'm the type of person who doesn't shut up when I'm around my friends but when I meet someone I'm shy, you know? I have decent self-esteem; guys always tell me that they think I'm pretty, nice, etc. Oh and also, I've never even had a boyfriend before! :(. I don't know...do you think you could tell me what I can do to not be so nervous? Thankyou!
Sydney1o1 answered Monday September 6 2010, 3:13 am: Dear Nervous,
Well I think this reaction around guys is completly normal! But basically what I would try to do is to before you get in a situation where you know you'll get nervous, just take a couple of breaths and try and relaxx. I would also get a couple of guy friends or or guys cousins or something and maybe try and practice having a conversation with them. You could also practice in the mirror if you want! Just have a plan about what your going to say ahead of time so you don't feel stupid i.e. you wont feel shy. Also, just remember that your beautifully and wonderfully made and that you should just be confident in yourself. I think that if you truly believe that, then your confidence will shine! And just have fun when your talking with guys and everything will be fine(:
~Sydney1o1 [ Sydney1o1's advice column | Ask Sydney1o1 A Question ]
nicolegreenie answered Sunday September 5 2010, 11:49 pm: I am the exact same way. What I have found is that when I am looking to date someone I have the hardest time finding anyone worth my time. The only times I have started to date someone was when I wasn't wanting to date. I don't know why that happens but it has worked for me so try not being interested in anyone for awhile. It will help with the nervousness but about not knowing what to say...I can't really give advice about that without being there. And the reason you are shy when you meet someone is because you are determining their character and deciding if they're worth your time, all humans do that. Just always remind yourself of your good qualities and how this person would be honored to hang with you. good luck! [ nicolegreenie's advice column | Ask nicolegreenie A Question ]
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