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Starting to think I'm only interested in older men...?
Okay well I'm 17, and never had a boyfriend before. I've had guys ask me out a few times, but I always find a reason to say no. Just so happens, all of these guys were in my school, and around my age (or a year younger). But, when I go out sometimes and meet an older guy (20+), I just feel like I'm into them more. I even had an interest in some guy's who were in their early 30's (I know, too old for me). But, as of right now, until I turn 18, I don't think my mother would allow that, so I've never acted on anything. I just find guys my age to only care about sex, partying, beer, more sex, etc. And that turns me off, even if they are a nice guy. I'm not saying guy's in there 20's don't do all of that. Believe me, I know a lot who do. But, I noticed as they get older, that kind of stuff slows down. And I just find them to be nicer, more caring about personality not just looks, and just more caring than younger guys. A little information on me: I'm not the partying type, I rarely drink, never had sex, focused on school, and I'm mature for my age. Also, my parent's got divorced when I was 5; my dad and I don't get along and I'm not too fond of him, do you think that may be why I'm into older guys? Because my father and I have a bad relationship? I don't know if I'm really asking a question here...I'm just more so wondering what do you guys think? Thankyou.
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It's best never to box yourself in, and start to think there is only one kind of guy you like.
However, liking older guys is a pretty tame, common preference of girls with good father figures as well as girls without 'em. Frankly, I never quite understand what the attraction was to teenage boys. I wasn't interested in then when I was a teenager, and I'm certainly not now.
The truth is, many guys are speeding up 'that stuff' in their twenties, they have just also learned how to interact with people in ways OTHER than partying and flirting (even if partying and sex are still their main interests). So it's good to consider that the older boys you meet might also simply be better and more experienced at socializing, not necessarily more compatible with your interests.
There is no reason to consider it a bad thing (or worry that it has something to do with your parents - it doesn't). It's only a bad thing if you write it in stone, and refuse to consider that although you might generally like older people, you may still find a good partner your own age as well. You might.
Just be safe (legal) and sensible, and don't be afraid to date when you do want too.
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I absolutely understand what you mean. I'm sixteen and basically in the same situation (school-oriented, divorced parents, never had a boyfriend, etc.) I've always been attracted to older guys as well, for all of the reasons you listed, and because they all are so much more experienced. I don't mean sexually or anything, just in general. That experience and different outlook on life is incredibly attractive to me. I don't feel much towards any guys my age or even a few years older. I totally get what you're saying about the whole "sex, beer, sex, and more beer" attitude. It seems really immature to me. I don't know if that helps at all (probably not...) I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone in the least bit :)
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