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"Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place."
I'm an optimist. I can find the beauty in anything. I'm creative. I love spontaneity, peace, & parties. I'm the farthest thing from shy. There's not one person on this earth that I don't care about. I like deep conversations, change, & random acts of kindness. Every emotion I feel is ten times as strong as yours. I have alot of empathy for other people. I'm real open minded & liberal. All I want to do is make at least one person's life a little easier. :D
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This guy that I met about a year ago got my # and started texting me a lot, but I was already in a relatinship at the time. When my relationship ended, about two weeks later he asked me to hang out with him. Well, it ended up we started dating but only for a month and then he dumped me and gave me a stupid reason for it. We still talked after that, but only as friends.
Just recently, he asked if I was seeing anyone and I told him about the guy I just started dating a couple weeks ago. That's when he told me the "true" reason he dumped me before, in which it was not really his fault, but he was extremely apologetic. And then he asked if we could start over, but I told him I had moved on, and so he said that whatever happens will happen.
The problem is, now he texts/calls me pretty consistently throughout the day, as if I am all he thinks about. Is it possible that this guy could just be trying to get back with me because he wants sex? Because when we were dating, he would bring it up and I would tell him I wanted to wait. My first inclination was that he was only in it for sex, but now that I think about it, if he only wanted sex, then he wouldn't be spending all this time waiting on me because there's plenty of girls willing to hook up with a guy around here. Should I consider him?
Well, what was the real reason he dumped you? Was it honestly not his fault?
Personally, I don't think he's just trying to get back together with you for that one reason, becuase like you said, there's other girls that would have hooked up with him.
If you don't like your ex anymore and if you want him to stop texting you and stuff, just gradually stop responding as much. He'll eventually stop bothering you throughout the day and get the hint. But if he's constantly texting and calling you like that, it seems like he really wants you back. But it depends how close you are with your current boyfriend, I guess. Do you think you'd be better off with your ex or the guy you're seeing now? Before you make that decision, make sure you're ex isn't just going to break up with you again for the same reason as before.
Good luck. :)
My ex boyfriend moved to Sweden for two years, and we've talked on msn every day and stuff, and now he's moved back to our town.
I was so fucking happy when he called me and said ''I'm back in town, let's meet at Starbucks at 12''
So I go there to meet him, and I didn't see him anywhere.
I look around and there's a guy waving at me.
And I did a double take.
Before he left, he had blonde hair, messy, some piercings, and gauged ears.
Now, he has black long hair, more piercings and something that makes me want to cry, he's gauged his center lip piering to a 00g
( like this guy's lip:
http://www.bmezine.com/pierce/05-lips/A80502/high/npqe-rafa-e-dessa-9829.jpg)
Meanwhile I've had some boyfriends, and he's had some girlfriends, but I wanted to start dating him again.
But now...I feel so unattracted to him :(
I mean, I can't even kiss him. And he talks all weird.
And he's changed too. He's obsessed with gauging his lip now, and he thinks I should gauge my lip too.
What do I do now?
I still love him, but I feel like I love him as a friend, and he wants to get back together.
Help?
Ouch, wouldn't that hurt someone's lip if they did that?
If you feel like you can overlook how he's changed and if you still have feelings for him, give it another shot. You could just go on one date and see if it'll work. And if it doesn't seem right, tell him you'd rather be friends instead.
If you honestly don't think you want to get back together with him at all, just tell him that while he's been gone the two of you have changed (and from what it sounds like to me, that's true. And he had to have noticed it also), and you think you'd be better off as just friends for now.
Hope everything works out. :)
17/f. On my cheer team, i am one of the oldest girls. There are some girls 2 years younger than me. I am pretty mature and even at there age I was pretty mature. Pretty much every single girl is extremely immature. They all talk about baby shows and make fun of people in childish ways, and mess with people who are minding there own business. I dont want to like talk to them about it so dont tell me that, but like when we all hang out its hard to really talk to them because they talk about things that i was into 5 years ago. like there still in the boys have cooties kind of stage only not as bad. how do i like deal with this, and not seem all shy when they all talk about stuff i find very annoying?! I'm really starting to get sick of all of them. Thanks =]
ps. im not all mature, serious, boring and stuff, so dont take it that way. im just more into the high school/college stuff, while there still in the middle school stage =D
Ugh, that'd get annoying for me also.
Whenever they start talking about something immature, just change the subject. But don't like, abruptly change it or anything. As for them messing with people who are minding their own business - if they're about to walk over to someone and bother them, just suggest that you guys go do something different.
They'll grow up eventually. ;)
Good luck!
I have had ance now for almost 4 years now and i havent had one time were i have had clear skin. i have gone to a derematolgst(srry for bad spelling)and he gave me two creme meds. and i have been using them every night and i still dont have clear skin. if u hav any tips please!!!!! help me
Alright, so, first of all - is it mild, moderate, or severe? That determines how you treat it.
This is what works for me:
Once every night I use micro retin a (you have to get this from your dermatologist. and if it dries out your skin too much, use it every other night) Then for spot treatments I use the overnight clearing gel by dermalogica (They're products are at most spas, and if there's an Ulta where you live, it'll be there. Here's the site http://www.dermalogica.com/product_dir/product_detail.asp?ProductId=123&location=US®ion=B) And I take solodyn once every day (it's an antibiotic you have to get from the dermatologist). I've tried everything from ProActive to that whole no-milk diet and nothing worked till now. Most of what I suggested is sort of expensive, but trust me, it's worth it cause my skin's clearer than it's ever been.
As for make up, try Jane Iredale. It's really good and doesn't clog your pores or anything.
http://www.janeiredale.com/
Also, if you tan or whatever, make sure the sunscreen you use on your face is non-comedogenic (that means it won't clog your pores) cause that can make you break out real bad if it isn't. I had to learn that the hard way.
Hope I helped. :)
I just found out that i have kp, a very common skin disorder. Does anyone with it have any suggestion on how to keep in under control?
I know that its not curable but anything that helps will do. Thanks :D
This is going to be long. Sorry.
Mhm. Supposedly half of the population has it?
All the dermatologists will do is give you cream after cream. I don't know how bad your case is. Most people just have it on the back of their arms or on their thighs, but if it's a severe case, creams won't work. Trust me. Everyone who barely has it tries some lotion and it clears up cause they barely even had it in the first place. And since it clears up THEIR kp, they think it'll solve everyone else's problem. It doesn't. Some people think that if you take out certain foods from your diet it would help? That honestly doesn't help. The doctors treat it the same for everyone, and they shouldn't. Some cases are more severe than others. Some people are born with it - which is genetic - and with others, it doesn't start till their teens. I don't know which one of those fits you better, but that effects how you treat it, along with how severe it is. and I really don't see why no one researches it more if this many people supposedly have it, but whatever. Okay, I'm rambling. Sorry.
I've read about it probably more than most people. Androgen supposedly controls the amount of keratin produced, so if you can find a way to control that, it should probably clear up. Right? It makes sense to me at least. Anway, if nothing works, you could always try to cover it up, I guess. Try Dermablend's Leg and Body cover. It's sort of on the expensive side, but it seems to cover it up pretty well, and it won't make it worse or anything.
I don't really know what to tell you, but tanning seems to help it for some reason.
http://www.keratosispilaris.org/
Go there and read some of the posts. Some of them are actually sort of helpful.
Good luck! :)
Hey i was the girl that asked the question about my dad having cancer and me being depressed
so i was wondering if i could have you screen name so we could talk for a lil
thanks
Sure.
Okay, Im 16/f and here is some background info.
So my dad has had cancer since 2001 and he keeps getting rediognosed. and this realli makes me upset, i can barely handle it anymore. Im constantly crying and ive been having suicidal thoughts(i dont think i will ever accually do it, i just think about how much easier it would be for my parents to get my dad better if i wasnt here)
Well a few days ago (aka the worst day ever) we had to call 9121 because my dad was so sick and the ambulence had to rush him to the hospital...
Im pretty sure im depressed, i cant talk to any of my friends because i know they try but they can never help me the best thy can do it "im so sorry im here for you" and i commend them so much for dealing with me though
Im just always sad and nothing makes me happy, ive been crying so much more lately, sleeping massive amounts, and not eating. I dont knwo what to do? How can i get myself to be happy and not so depressed.. i try to stay positive. i pray alot, but nothing helps me at all. it seems ive tryed everything.... should i seek professional help?=[
thanks so much
I'm so sorry.
I can't imagine what you're going through.
Keep in mind that many people survive cancer. There are nearly 10 million cancer survivors living in the U.S. today. That's because scientists are discovering new and better ways to find and treat cancer. Throughout all of this, it will help you to have hope.
You're not alone. Right now it might seem that no one else in the world feels the way you do. In a way you're right. No one can feel exactly like you do. But it might help to know that many teens have a parent who has cancer. Talking to others may help you sort out your feelings. Remember, you are not alone.
Balance is important. Many teens feel like their parent's cancer is always on their mind. Others try to avoid it. Try to strike a balance. You can be concerned about your parent and still stay connected with people and activities that you care about.
It can help to learn more about cancer and cancer treatments. Sometimes what you imagine is actually worse than the reality.
Talk with family that you feel close to. You owe it to yourself.
Join a support group to meet with other teens who are facing some of the same things you are. Or meet with a counselor.
Spend some time at a friend's house.
Stay involved with sports or clubs.
Relax and get enough sleep.
Take breaks. You'll have more energy and be in a better frame of mind.
Get at least 8 hours of sleep each night.
Pray or meditate.
Make or listen to music.
Keep a journal to write down your thoughts and experiences.
Draw, paint, or take photographs.
Read about people who have made it through difficult experiences in life. Learn what helped them.
Eat and drink well. Drink 6-8 glasses of water a day to help prevent fatigue. In the evening, switch to caffeine-free drinks that won't keep you awake. Grab fresh fruit, whole-grain breads, and lean meats like chicken or turkey when you have a choice. Avoid sugary foods.
Be active.
Play a sport, or go for a walk or run.
http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/When-Your-Parent-Has-Cancer-Guide-for-Teens/allpages
Good luck, and I hope everything works out okay. ;)
what do people write in other people yearbooks? esp to people they dont know? just sign name?
Just say have a great summer or stay in touch and sign your name.
Or you could just sign your name if that's what alot of people did.
well i used to cut and my parents dont know but i did stop. anyway i might have to go to the doctors and i have scars on my hips and i'm worried that the doctors will ask me about it and stuff. what do i do?? plus i dont want them telling my parents because it is my business not theirs. i dont have any open cuts or anything like i said i stopped but i have scars. and there is no good explanation on why i have scars on my hips lol. thanks so much :)
Just say you ran into something. Hah, I have a scar on my side from that. I was at my neighborhood pool, and a friend accidently fell, and I fell into the edge of a concrete wall. You could just tell them that, I guess.
I don't think the doctor would ask about it though. I don't even know how they would see it, but I guess it depends on what you're going there for.
They wouldn't tell your parents. Unless you told them it was just some scar that showed up for no apparent reason. They'd find that a little bit weird.
There's this scar cream. I think it's called mederma? I don't know, but they have it at walgreens and stuff. And it works really good. Try that.
Hope I helped. :)
i'm having a lousy summer as usual. during school, i've been planning how this summer would be different and life channging, but nothing has happened in the past two weeks, i'm scared summer will jus fly by and everything will be the same. the past two weeks i jus been home, mostly by myself, and i barely get out. i jus eat, get on the computer, watch tv, and sleep. yeh, i sound like a big looser, and i guess you could say i am. i didn't choose my situation, and i don't have many friends, and no close friends, i didn't talk to alot of people due to depression. im 16/f, i can drive. ugh, what do i do, i'm not even motivated. i want to have fun, go to a beach, party, make some friends, hook up with a guy, you know w/e is fun. how do i do this, i have no connections with people, where do i go, what do i do? this summer has got to be fun.
i know this isn't asked very well, jus tell me what you're doing this summer and how you did it.
any help is appreciated :D
Do you have a neighborhood pool? Go down to that. You'll definitely meet some new people there. And if you don't feel like swimming, just lay out or something.
You said you have SOME friends. So, call/text/IM/e-mail them and ask if they want to get a group together (they can bring their other friends or something) and go see a movie.
Is there a beach anywhere nearby that you could just get a friend and go down to? Do that. The two of you will definitely make some new friends there.
Don't worry about just calling a friend out of the blue and them thinking it's weird or whatever - chances are, they're probably just as bored as you are. ;)
Good luck!
so i told this guy who was crazy about me that we should be just friends. and i said in a VERY nice way. he said he was cool with it. i didnt feel like we were clicking as more then friends, you know? but later that day, i could tell he was not happy about my decision, and he was really bummed. now i feel really bad. and i cant keep my mind off of him. what the heck does this mean?
do i like him? or is this a normal thing to do?
Well, you said the two of you were friends, so of course it's normal to feel bad. No one wants to see one of their friends sad.
Maybe you do like him, but you just didn't feel like being in a relationship? Haha, I don't even know if what I just said makes sense.
You didn't really ask this, but I'm just gonna say it anyway. I'd say to give it a try. If he really does like you enough for him to still be sad, then he sounds really sweet. Go out with him once or twice. You might end up liking him. Plus, your friend'll be happy. :)
I know this is kind of long, but its a big problem right now and i hope you can read this and help me fix it. well there are these 4 girls in my middleschool AND my neighborhood. I've known them all since like first grade too. We used to be friends but that friendship.. got annoying sometimes. One of the girls always was way too bossy, making up games that only SHE won, she always thinks she is always right even when she was clearly wrong, and expected us to take time to find her missing cellphone when im sure she wouldnt do the same for me. fast forward 7 years, to 8th grade. like sometimes, ever since first, i felt exculded. they're all indian/muslim kids and im the only black girl. i didnt get why we couldnt all be friends and share things cause a lot they had secret talks with one another and i felt left out. and this year.. i have no idea what happened to them. they're all really rude, always talk s*** about people behind their back, infact thats all they DO. You never hear them talking about themselves, what they're gonna do, what happened today. I got sick with being associated with them cause they really annoy a lot of people. And they always follow what another says. So one day I got mad, because that bossy girl yelled something mean to my friend when we left the school out the window of the bus, and i said that it was mean and i didnt want her to do it to her friend. then she got all stingy and said she was her friend too and im like.. how was she supposed to know who said it? and she got all pissed & crap. so when we came out i said they were all followers and i didnt like what they did. i ignored them and talked to my other friends on the bus and then they ended up sucking up to me after a couple days, then i didnt consider myself their friend but i wasnt their enemy. the bossy girl was.. nice for once in her life? then later on that same girl sat with me cuz someone took her seat. i let her since im in a 3 seater and hen someone needs a seat, i usually let them sit with me. but then that same girl got all bossy and mean when she wanted me to sit in the seat behind me, which nobody likes to. im like.. 'you can go sit there then' and she got all pissed. im like HELLO im the one who sacrificed my seat for you and you want ME to leave MY seat? which really isnt my seat since anyone can sit there but ya know, i got there first and i usually sit there anyways. then i talked to the other 2 indian girls and accidentally shared them a secret that this guy on the bus liked me in 6th grade. then they both blurted it out and said it doesnt matter since hes not a person and has no feelings. it really bothered me cause even though hes unpopular and i admit weird, i'd never treat anyone like that. so im like 'how dare you!' and i stop talking to them and tell my friend. the problem is that she is friends with one of the girls who shouted those things so she tried to be on both sides to avoid conflict i'd like to not be around them cause i try ignoring them, but they're always there since we are at the same bus stop and everything! like yesterday the girl whos my friend's friend on the bus, like i sat in her seat yesterday cuz someone else took my seat, not that i really care since its a free for all. and she got all mad at me and called me a stupid hoe, b*tch, and she always talks to people, shouting loudly indirectly talking to me. and all she says is false. i havent even had a boyfriend (not that i cant i just dont want one now) and neither has she. and i try to ignore.. i really wish i had an ipod on the bus to do that. its easier when that my friends on the bus but when shes gone is when that other girl like says all that crap. and like when her and her friends talk, its really loud and everyone can hear since everyones quiet. and then they accused me of eavesdropping. are you kidding me! i said the whole bus could hear them and they still didnt get how. So what should I do... like for comebacks or better ways to ignore them! Like i dont wanna say dumb stuff like "your mom" which they say. Like I want the kind of comeback that like really gets to them when they say dumb stuff about me like that. like they even think im all conceited and think im perfect which certainly isnt true.. im shocked since they've known me so long but think that at all. and i just happen to be an optimistic, moral person, who doesnt agree with all the dumb things they do to people, and talk about people. a lot of people dont even like them. people like me, unfortunately not a lot of my friends are on my bus, and they have the nerve to say nobody does when its actually the opposite. like i hear them saying how someone thinks they are annoying.. the people they annoy all think that, some have told me yet they still act the same. and they act so unconfident at school but on the bus they try to act like they take over. HELP!!!!!!! 14/f
Ah, middle school.
It sucks.
I hate to say it, but the more you talk to them, the worse you're going to make it. If they say something to you, just smile. That'll make them more mad than any comeback you could think of. All they're trying to do is get you pissed off so they can have something to talk about.
Just back off from them, and hang out with your other friends. And your friend that's in the middle - don't try to get her on your 'side.' And whatever you do, don't talk about them. It always comes back to you. All that will do is make things worse. Don't even TALK to the friend that it's the middle about anything that's going on. If she brings it up, just change the subject. Hopefully these girls will eventually grow up some, but until that happens, just stay clear of them.
Good luck. :)
im scared.
my parents are in a fight. THEY FIGHT ALL THE TIME. they cant go at least 3 months without having a huge fight. theyve fought for as long as i remember. i always cry when they fight cause they yell so much, and say such horrible things. but they ALWAYS get over it, and forget it ever happened. but my dad has such a bad temper. he doesnt abuse her or hit her, he just breaks things when hes mad. and today, someone punched him becus there was a party across the street, and some guy decided to be a wisecrack and park right in front of our garage. so my dad asked him to move it, and the guy punched him, and my dad punched back for self defense. and this really scared me. but im so sick of my parents fighting. i dont know what to do, or who to go to becus they ALL SAY THE SAME THING;; "itll be ok. theyll get over it." or "you should talk to them about it and how you feel." but NOTHING I DO OR SAY will help them. ive tried so many times. i really need help. i just feel like bursting out in tears. PLEASE. PLEASE. PLEASE HELP ME.
mm, i know how you feel.
my dad has a horrible temper.
yeah, talking to them about how you feel - i know - that doesn't accomplish a thing.
my dad sits there for an hour yelling at my mom when she did absolutely nothing. he makes sure to call her every name he can possibly think of. it used to really upset me, but it doesn't now. i just try to be out of the house as much as possible.
whenever they're fighting, just call one of your friends and go to their house. or just go for a walk. and if you can't do either of those, just go to your room and lock your door. do you have a brother or sister? talk to them about it.
maybe your dad's bi-polar (it's when he's all happy one minute, and then freaking out the next) or something. i swear mine is, but it's not like he'd actually go get help for it. but hopefully your dad's not like mine. ;)
my friends dad sounds exactly like your dad, and he's bi-olar. so, i wouldn't be surprised if your dad is. try researching it and see if any of the symptoms fit your dad.
do you know much about your dad? well, is his dad still living? you could try calling him and talking to him about it, or asking him about when your dad was younger. sometimes people act this way because of something they went through when they were younger - a parent died, their parents treated them the same way, etc. maybe if you found out more about his past, you could help him.
good luck. :)
Ok , in the past my boyfriend has done alot of hurtful things . That has made me lose my trust for him , all of it . & i feel like i NEED to be with him 24/7 to make sure there is not anything going on. but everyone knows we can be with someone all the time . I'm the type of girl that if i cant get in touch with him i flip out , i worry , it drives me insane & amillion things pop in my head & not good thoughts either. I really wanna get over this because i know you cant have a relationship with out trust & that it just wont work. is there like anything i can do while im by my self to like keep my mind off of it or to keep me calm . I want things that i can actually do & will work . Thanks
First of all, are you sure this is the best thing for you? If it hurts you more to be dating him than to be without him, maybe it's not the best thing for you.
Try talking to him about it. If you think he'll get mad or something, don't.
If you try calling or texting him and he doesn't respond, don't immediately assume the worst. Take some deep breaths and relax. Maybe he just left his phone somewhere, maybe it died, etc.
When you're away from him and you're worried, try to take your mind off it. Go to a movie place somewhere and rent your favorite movie, go shopping, hang out with your friends, go for a walk, Listen to music, go out to eat with friends, go to the gym, go swimming, read, etc.
I know it's hard to trust him, but you'll be able to trust him over time.
But for now, relax. :)
Good luck!
today i was in class and my friend brought up this girl's name, and I knew the girl and her sister as well. The girl is my age and her sister is MY sister's age. My sister and the girl's sister are friends. Well I kinda slipped out the girl's younger was a bitch in class to my friend. And the girl's best friend was sitting hearing everything, and i didnt know it was her best friend until she left the room and my friend told me. So apperently the girl's best friend told the girl I called her sister a bitch, and now the girl wants to go off on me and her sister is mad. But it is true, the girl's sister isnt exactly bitchy, he just acts preppy and thinks she knows everything, and i know this cause shes over at my house like every weekend hanging out with my sister. And it's the final week of school, and I dont want to get into a fight, and I didn't really mean to call her a bitch, more like braty or something else. And I have no clue what to do! I dont want my reputation to be ruined. I dont know if I should just apologize or what? Plus, i dont want my parents to find out otherwise im gunna be toast...! Please help!
15yrs/USA
younger girls are 12
Her friend could've just kept that to herself. What was the point in even telling the other girl what you called her? Ugh, immature.
If I were you, I would apologize to her. If she wants to start something, she won't accept your apology. But hopefully, she'll be mature about it. Plus, if your sisters are both friends, she can't hold some grudge against you forever.
Oh, and when you apologize to her, don't say, "Sorry. I didn't mean to call you a bitch. I meant that you were bratty." Ha, that wouldn't be good. ;) And don't try to cover it up by lying either (as in by telling her you never said that, you were talking about someone else, etc); that never turns out well.
Just tell the girl that you're sorry, and you hope she'll forgive you.
If you think she's gonna go off on you before you get a chance to apologize or after you apologize, you could always get her, her sister, you, and your sister together & talk it out? I don't know if that would be a good idea or not though.
Good luck. :)
Has anyone heard of the birth control Seasonique, it gives you only 4 periods a year. Is anyone on it? Did you find anything odd or different from normal birth controls? Is it healthy to only have 4 periods? What do you think?
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/35293
http://www.calorie-count.com/forums/post/45996.html
http://www.seasonique.com/?gclid=CK7dmLPVz5MCFRcfsgodMVgbjQ
http://www.seasonique.com/Prescribers/FAQ.aspx
Some may not like it, others may like it.
It varies. Some people have different side effects than others.
But I've personally never taken it.
As for it being healthy? I don't see why it wouldn't be. I haven't read anything saying it ISN'T healthy though.
Hope I helped. :)
17/f
I have the typical "scene-kid" hair cut.
You know, mullet style with side swept bangs. It's reaaaalllllyyyy dark brown at the moment, pretty much black. And I have three white blonde streaks.
I was thinking of going completely white blonde but my mum says it would look horrible. No one thinks I would look good blonde.
I have a fair complexion and very dark brown eyes.
I need a style change.
Anyone help??
Ah.
Never try going from dark brown to white blonde - TRUST ME.
I would know.
Ha, it's turned out a orange color & looked HORRIBLE.
Hm. You could try doing the tri-color thing. Get light brown highlights or something. Or you could dye the whole thing a medium or light brown? Just remember that if they show you the swatches with all the colors, anything that has even a tiny bit of red in it will make it all mostly red. Make sure that they'll put ash in whatever color you pick to cut out the red!
& get one of those deep conditioning treatments when you get it done, cause all of the coloring'll start to dry your hair out a little after a while.
Make sure you go to a professional salon though if you're highlighting/coloring it!
Good luck. :)
im not on my period or anything. and i dont believe im about to be. but i have been feeling sick for the past two days, due to anxiety. its not like something really bad is going on in my life, but i just feel really stupid.
i have major trust issues. i dont trust anyone. not even my own parents. i used to trust my boyfriend, but now i dont. i got drunk the other night and told him a lotta stuff that i never wanted to tell him. now he knows too much and i dont want him to know anything! well karma is being fair because last night, HE got drunk and told me a lotta stuff. but not as personal as what i told him. and he doesnt even feel stupid for it. i have reason to believe he was faking being drunk just to make me feel better.
how do i know for sure if he really was? and how do i know he's telling the truth when he says hes sorry? and also how do i know if he's even telling the truth when he says he loves me and will never hurt me again???
i have watched plenty of movies where guys say that, and then flush it down the drain with one stupid mistake.
please help me. i really love him and i dont wanna drive him away like i have with everyone else!
im 15/f btw...
So, you're asking how do you know if he's telling you the truth?
Plain & simple?
You don't.
You just have to trust him.
Trust isn't something that can be aquired overnight. You have to work at it. You have to be willing to put whatever happened behind you.
But in my opinion, if he wasn't sorry, he probably wouldn't have said he was in the first place -- he would've just broken up with you right then & there. If he says he loves you & will never hurt you again, give him a second chance. You said you told him some stuff you shouldn't have, & he told you stuff he shouldn't have, so you're even. The best thing to do now is to try to put it all behind you. :)
I don't know if these will help at all, but look at these:
http://www.wikihow.com/Regain-Trust-in-Someone
http://www.wikihow.com/Trust-a-Boyfriend-Who-Is-Unfaithful
Good luck. :)
so im 15/f.
most of my friends dont smoke. but most of my boyfriend (who lives 30 mins away) friends do smoke and has asked me to try it before but i said no. my mom and brother smoke and sometimes i dont mind the smell depending on the brand. my boyfriend is against smoking and said he'd never do it. and i told him i never would either. but for some reason i want to try it. and i hope you dont judge me for that.i just dont want to get addicted or have my boyfriend be disapointed or angry. i talked to his friends who smoke and they say i wont get addicted by just trying it once. i think i wont like it but i just want to know. i know most of you will say not to do it. but i'd just like a 2nd opinion. thank you and please dont judge me.
Well, some of my close friends smoke.
So, I won't judge you for it. :)
I personally don't smoke though.
So, I really don't think it would do any harm if you tried it once by yourself. If you did it with a group of friends, they would pressure you about it all the time, so I doubt it would just be a one-time thing. I mean, if you think you're friends or someone is gonna pressure you into it or something, go ahead & try it when you're alone so that it won't be possible for them to do that.
But trust me, It'll taste horrible, & you'll never want it again.
Plus, that way if you ever DO get pressured, you can have the it-tastes-horrible excuse. :)
Then again, there are a few people who can get hooked after one time. But I think that can only happen with more powerful drugs (cocain, etc.), so I think it's okay just once. But I'm not sure, so don't take my word on that.
Whatever you decide, just be careful.
Good luck.
so theres this guy and he's kinda my bf i guess and he says that he only wants me and all that stuff but like on his facebook most of his friends are highschool girls with slutty pictures. He's 22 so yeah thats kinda nasty but he says that he just accepts everyone that requests him. And he wants to try a threesome (with another girl) so i don't know i mean i don't think it would really bother me if he was cheating or not i just wanna know if he's lying to me.
any advice?
Er.
Are his friends basically ONLY like that?
If so, he's probably lying about it.
See if he comments them or talks to them, or whatever you do on facebook. If he does, then that probably means HE was the one who requested. Cause if they were the ones who sent the request & he didn't care, he wouldn't talk to them.
I guess you could try messaging one of the girls about it. Or get one of your other friends to if you don't want to.
Good luck. :)