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how do i know if he's forreal?
im not on my period or anything. and i dont believe im about to be. but i have been feeling sick for the past two days, due to anxiety. its not like something really bad is going on in my life, but i just feel really stupid.
i have major trust issues. i dont trust anyone. not even my own parents. i used to trust my boyfriend, but now i dont. i got drunk the other night and told him a lotta stuff that i never wanted to tell him. now he knows too much and i dont want him to know anything! well karma is being fair because last night, HE got drunk and told me a lotta stuff. but not as personal as what i told him. and he doesnt even feel stupid for it. i have reason to believe he was faking being drunk just to make me feel better.
how do i know for sure if he really was? and how do i know he's telling the truth when he says hes sorry? and also how do i know if he's even telling the truth when he says he loves me and will never hurt me again???
i have watched plenty of movies where guys say that, and then flush it down the drain with one stupid mistake.
please help me. i really love him and i dont wanna drive him away like i have with everyone else!
im 15/f btw...
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first of all, just remember: a drunken mind speaks a sober heart :) so i think it's good that you told your boyfriend personal stuff. it's normal to have trust issues a lot of people do. don't beat yourself up about it. and to be honest, i believe to that you can't really ever trust ANYONE except like your family maybe? but the whole figuring out who you can trust thing is a trial and error process. just always remember that you will learn from your mistakes. so i would take the chance on people that seem trustworthy and haven't told any of your personal secrest in the past. but if you've already learned that you can't trust someone, then you know you can't and you won't. its very simple, but you have to try to figure it out. but only try on people that seem like you can trust them. and i feel the same way about boys, i always think taht they are all horrible liars who just want to get in your pants, but some acutally aren't surprisingly. the way you can find out if your boyfriend really means what he was saying when he was drunk and if you can trust him is if you take a chance like you just did. so now if he tells anyone you will know he doesn't mean any of the things he said and you won't be able to trust him. but if he doesn't tell anyone you know he's actually a good guy who means what he says.
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So, you're asking how do you know if he's telling you the truth?
Plain & simple?
You don't.
You just have to trust him.
Trust isn't something that can be aquired overnight. You have to work at it. You have to be willing to put whatever happened behind you.
But in my opinion, if he wasn't sorry, he probably wouldn't have said he was in the first place -- he would've just broken up with you right then & there. If he says he loves you & will never hurt you again, give him a second chance. You said you told him some stuff you shouldn't have, & he told you stuff he shouldn't have, so you're even. The best thing to do now is to try to put it all behind you. :)
I don't know if these will help at all, but look at these:
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Good luck. :)
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