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Getting over this .
Ok , in the past my boyfriend has done alot of hurtful things . That has made me lose my trust for him , all of it . & i feel like i NEED to be with him 24/7 to make sure there is not anything going on. but everyone knows we can be with someone all the time . I'm the type of girl that if i cant get in touch with him i flip out , i worry , it drives me insane & amillion things pop in my head & not good thoughts either. I really wanna get over this because i know you cant have a relationship with out trust & that it just wont work. is there like anything i can do while im by my self to like keep my mind off of it or to keep me calm . I want things that i can actually do & will work . Thanks
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First of all, are you sure this is the best thing for you? If it hurts you more to be dating him than to be without him, maybe it's not the best thing for you.
Try talking to him about it. If you think he'll get mad or something, don't.
If you try calling or texting him and he doesn't respond, don't immediately assume the worst. Take some deep breaths and relax. Maybe he just left his phone somewhere, maybe it died, etc.
When you're away from him and you're worried, try to take your mind off it. Go to a movie place somewhere and rent your favorite movie, go shopping, hang out with your friends, go for a walk, Listen to music, go out to eat with friends, go to the gym, go swimming, read, etc.
I know it's hard to trust him, but you'll be able to trust him over time.
But for now, relax. :)
Good luck!
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Finding a hobby is always a good way to get your mind off things. You seem like an active person so i'd try something physical. For me kickboxing is a lifesavor...it takes my mind off the problem, and gives my body a way to release the frustration.
But if thats not your thing try an instrument, art, writing....there are a million things.
I can't promise that any of that will work because their kinda like a cold medicine, they only cover up the symptoms. The only real solution is to face the problem. You have to learn to trust your boyfriend again...if not, your going to drive him away. Love takes trust, so i suggest you talk to him, and find the answers your hearts looking for. That's the only cure.
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