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he wont leave me alone!
f/16
I have class with this boy, we'll call him bob. So bob is a year younger then me and asked me to prom two months before prom was scheduled and we talked and stuff, but we weren't acquaintences or anything, but I said no to him for prom, cause i didn't want to go with him and made some excuse. Well, at prom I saw him there while my date wanted to sit down and take a break, so Bob asked me to dance and i did for a couple of minutes and then broke free cause I didn't want to dance with him. Yesterday Bob asked me if I wanted to hang out and I said no because I wasn't going to be in that area. Then he asks me when I will be free to hang out (through a text) but I haven't responded yet, but he's not getting the message that I don't want to hang out with him. I don't know how to handle this situation and at prom I only danced with him cause I felt bad for him that I rejected him and went with someone else. The school i go to is pretty small and everyone knows everyone, but I want to get this guy off my back. Any advice? Thanks (sorry for the length)
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I know exactly what you mean!
Okay, the first thing you do is be totally distant when he talks to you.
Only say phrases like "K" and "uh huh" and "yeah"
Dont smile
Dont laugh
He will sooner or later lose interest
i know this isnt the mature way to handle things but trust me- it works like a charm!
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Well, this is a hard one. After class or at recess or something ask him if he would go for a walk with you. Start a conversation the when he is talking happily explain to him that you just want to be his friend and not his girlfriend and apologize for the confusion that you caused him.
If you don't like my advice, don't do it. If what i said above does not work, Totally Ignore him.
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I was in the same situation. A guy thought I liked him cuz I danced with him at prom, when in reality it was a pity dance. Then he kept calling me and stuff and asking my friends to tell me to talk to him. So I just ignored all his texts and calls.
Eventually he got the point. But...my high school has around 2500 people in it, so it was pretty easy for me to avoid him...I don't know what to tell you about that part..but I say you just ignore him.
If you keep talking back with him, he'll probably just think that you like him back, but don't have time to hang out right now. Guys can be dumb like that. Just ignore him..that way you don't give him the wrong idea.
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Okay umm this might sound like im being a jerk, but please know i am not in ANY WAY trying to be. Im just making it simple to see.
-suck it up and tell him the truth so you are not sending mixed signals
-the reason why he wont leave you alone is because the majority of guys have difficulties reading between the lines so you have to spell it out.
-my school is small too, like 300 kids in the high school, but you cant make everyone happy. you are going to break hearts and vice versa. If you dont like him tell him. Thats all there is to it.
-hayley
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Dear ticked off,
It sounds like this guy might have a crush on you, a BIG one at that. But the thing is even though he is anoyinng and all you don't wanna break his heart, and you expecially DO NOT WANNA SEND HIM MIXED SIGNALS. Like whenever you danced with him, he probley thought "man she's danceing with me, she must like me or somethin."
you need to set him free. Talk to him, don't txt, it's just not the same. Tell him that you really arn't interested in him, that you would really appriciate it if he would just forget about his feelings for you and move on.
IF HE TRUELY likes you then he should understand, & leave you alone. He will still like you but he'll understand.
Hope this'll help,
-a.m.l
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