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i broke up with someone i wasnt going out with.
so i told this guy who was crazy about me that we should be just friends. and i said in a VERY nice way. he said he was cool with it. i didnt feel like we were clicking as more then friends, you know? but later that day, i could tell he was not happy about my decision, and he was really bummed. now i feel really bad. and i cant keep my mind off of him. what the heck does this mean?
do i like him? or is this a normal thing to do?
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Well, you said the two of you were friends, so of course it's normal to feel bad. No one wants to see one of their friends sad.
Maybe you do like him, but you just didn't feel like being in a relationship? Haha, I don't even know if what I just said makes sense.
You didn't really ask this, but I'm just gonna say it anyway. I'd say to give it a try. If he really does like you enough for him to still be sad, then he sounds really sweet. Go out with him once or twice. You might end up liking him. Plus, your friend'll be happy. :)
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You had a reason for telling him that you just wanted to be friends. Decipher if the reason you told him is still true or not. If you have had some time to determine that this wasn't what you wanted, tell him. ONLY if it is what YOU want. Don't change what you said initially ONLY because he seems bummed out.
You are feeling guilty as a result of hurting someone's feelings. Is it normal? Yeah, it's normal to feel bad for hurting someone's feelings only if you are a good person, and you seem to be a good person, which is why he was most likely crazy about you and he still is. If you want to date him because of your interest then talk to him., If you don't want to be more than friends, stick to your guns with what you said at first. Don't go inviting him out and all that if he has feeling for you that you don't have - until he can accept that you guys are going to be FRIENDS only - because you don't want to lead him on which would only cause him MORE hurt later on.
Good Luck in making your final decision, be sure to make a decision that jives with your desires and wants...
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i think you feel slightly guilty and MAYBE regretful
Maybe you weren't clicking more than friends. But HOW do you know unless you give it a try???That's why people go on dates -to get to know eachother.
Either : Keep to your descion
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Talk to him and ask if you guys could go on a date and just give it a try because you're not sure what your feeling at the moment
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