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My name is Melissa. I'm a sophomore, and finally SWEET 16. So, I'll be driving on January 7th. I usually go by May or Mel. In the picture is myself and my AMAZING boyfriend Kyle. He's truly my entire world & I'm not sure how I got lucky enough to get someone like him. I don't like girls. They're fake, and I just in general dislike most girls. Little known fact? There are times I hate my best friend, I mean, hate hate. She drives me insane. When I'm close friends with a girl it's a big deal. As far as best friends go; I have Kyle, who's the most amazing boyfriend in the world; Jennifer Anne Reese aka: PIECUP.. she's one of the few girls I'm close to. I'm generally a nice person, if I like you. If I don't, you'll know it.

In college I want to major in psychology; with a minor in wedding planning or some type of organizational planning type thing. I'm a planning freak. I ALWAYS have a plan, and if you don't plan stuff ahead of time, I'll probably kill you. I tend to change my plan spur of the moment a lot, but I always have one. Lol, one of those weird things about me.


I'm not that much of a "laid back" person. In general, I have my opinion, and I'm going to win. Drama = stupid. But just like every other girl on the planet, I definitely start my share of the drama. I don't like it, but it follows me like a puppy, so I'll just admit I start stuff.

I like giving advice. I've been through a lot, and I want to help people in any way I can. If you'd rather email or IM me, feel free to ask. ♥

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Ok, my 3 best friends recently kind of just...left me. Like on the weekend we were gonna get together to go to the movies, and one was like "I just dont think it is going to work out" and then i found out later that they went! And we were all gonna do the Halloween costume theme deal and now I found out that they changed it to be the Fanta girls but they didnt want me to know and it is even sadder because I came up with us being the Fanta girls. And for them to make a Halloween thing with it just makes me mad. But I dont know what to do. I used to have so much fun with them, but now it is like they all hate me. And I have heard that they said that.

So I asked and they were like "No, we dont hate you..." and like if they someting totally mean and then brag about it and I dont get mad they will twist up my words like "We went to the movies and it was sooooo much fun and the most funny thing happened.." "cool" "are you mad at me? because oyu are acting like a total b*tch" please help, i dont know what to do...

I think I agree. Maybe it's time for new friends? You deserve to be treated a LOT better than that, and there are always other people to be friends with. Eventually, they WILL miss you. When they do, it's up to you what to do. (=
♥ Melissa

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hey guys i am wearing my hair curly tomorrow(scrunching it with scrunching gel) and i just took a shower tonight so im wondering whats the best thing to do with it now should i leave it down or put it up in a tight bun or what? im going to style it tomorrow i just am not sure what to do with it soo please help thanks

A little late, but.. (=

Personally, I think it scrunches better wet, so try wetting your hair in the morning next time.
♥ Melissa

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does he like me?

i like this kid who is in my group of friends that ij ust started really talking to at the end of the summer. he is soo good-looking with a nice body and everything and a ton of the girls like him. most of them barely talk to him and just like him because of his appearance but other do talk to him too and know he's a nice guy.
i really really really like him. my best friend (who's a guy) is good friends with him and he is going to ask him who he likes..but i want to know what you guys think.

-in gym class we had to do this thing where you had to sit on the lap of the person behind you..he was going to have to sit ona guy so he asked me to move behind him. hahaha.
-he comes over to talk to me a lot in gym
-he's walked to study with me both times that i've gone the same way as him (i usually go a different way and don't see him)
-in that same activity in gym i had to wrap my arms around his waist so i wouldnt fall (alright, alright..cause i wanted to) and he told my best friend about it later.
-in study i was sharing a seat with my friend who sits next to him so i was between them so i was sitting pretty close to him and i was trying to read his french (i take spanish) and he was laughing and turning red when i talked to him.
-when my friends and i went out to lunch he asked "is maggie..or anyone else coming?" (my name is maggie)
-when my best friend was talking about bio class he started talking about how he did bio homework with me in study. it was completely random..had nothing to do with what my friend was talking about except it had to do with biology..and the story had no point whatsoever.
-he smiles and says hi to me whenever he sees me in the hall
-after study he always walks out with me and walks with my until we have to go different ways.

that's all i can think of right now. please tell me what you think. i think he might but i don't know if he is just being friendly cause we haven't really talked a lot before.

Awww, that's so cute. I think he DEFINITELY likes you. GO FOR IT!! (=

PS- I love your name!
♥ Melissa

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okay so there is this guy that i met at the beginning of the school year and i liked him. well at least i thought so. well on fall break we went to the movies and other dates. this past week i thought alot about him and if i really liked him or not and i realized the only reason i liked him is because of all the attention that he gave me and i just really wanted someone to care about me. but i cant keep leading him on like this and play some stupid game. so how do i tell him without really hurting him?

Just tell him that you THOUGHT you really liked him, but you realize now it's just friendship and wanting someone to be close with. )=
♥ Melissa

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my bf and I never have things to talk about. What can we talk about?

Well if you're dating him then you should have at least ONE thing in common. If you have absolutely nothing, talk about stuff that went on in your day, jokes you've heard, movies, sports, just anything. And hopefully that will lead to another conversation. Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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hEy please help me if you can.! Okay, well ive been going out with the same guy for 7 months and im 13 if that means n e thing. We've done everything but sex, but im in love with him. The bad thing is that i dont do that stuff with him n e more bc i guess i dont feel a connection. I know he is in love me but how do i go about telling him that i dont want to be with him anymore? Im only 13 i want to go out with other ppl..also i think i just want to go on break with him..how should i go about telling him that?? PleAsE heLP! I know this is going to break his heart but i would rather do this than cheat on him!

Just tell him. Don't drag it out, you're only making things worse.

The nicest thing to do would be to tell him to his face that it's just not working out. However, if you can't do that, phone or internet. But don't have someone else tell him. If you can't even tell him in person, definitely do not have another person do it for you. )= Hopefully something works out!
♥ Melissa

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Hey everyone. I'm in a spot of a dilemma here. You see, I have this friend who I've been chatting to online for around 2 years now and he's coming down to meet (don't worry, he's not a pedophile or anything. we've spoken on the phone and web cam and all) anyway, we were planning to see green day together and he already bought the tickets and his plane ticket. Anyway, a few days ago my good friend who lives here bought me a ticket to see Green Day. It was going to be a suprise but then he found out I was already going and had to fess up. Anyway, the next time he saw me he HANDED the ticket to me, which I now have. My good friend bought the ticket for me as a present and I don't have to pay him or anything, and I'd feel bad making him give it to someone else. But the other guy can't cancel his plane ticket or sell his ticket (since he lives in brisbane and i'm in melbourne) advice please??

thanks

First of all, it's NEVER 100% safe to be meeting people online. Nomatter how many different ways you've spoken to them, it's still not completely safe. However, about the thing you ASKED about.. I would say pay him for the ticket, and then give it to another friend. If you're really wanting to meet your internet friend, there's not much you can do except go there with the friend who bought you the ticket, and then meet your internet friend there. BE CAREFUL PLEASE! Oh & have fun at Green Day! (=
♥ Melissa

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well my boyfriend matthew and i have been going out for three weeks. hes 15 im 14.
ive never had my first kiss :(
but EVERYONE thinks that i have.
he has had his first kiss.
so he thinks its weird that i dont want to kiss him yet.
i dont know how to kiss.
like.. friday he was like, we need to stop being shy or whatever and we kissed, but it wasnt a long makeout session or something because i had to go like right that second. so yeah, my first "makeout" i have no idea what to do.

* taken shy girl

Don't worry about it, you'll do fine and if he likes you it shouldn't matter anyway.
♥ Melissa

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Does anyone know how to get music from this site: http://www.musicgalore.net/ onto iTunes?

Will rate :)

Save it onto your computer, or find where you've previously saved it. Then put it on your desktop. Right click, and insert into iTunes. It SHOULD work.
♥ Melissa

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how do i get rid of stress? i feel bad after breaking up with some1...like realllllly bad..please give me some suggestions♥

You can't "get rid of stress. It's not that simple. Just try not to focus on it as much.
♥ Melissa

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14/F--

I know it's early...but my mom is asking me to conduct a christmas list for gifts early.

What might be some things I could ask for?
I want MOVIES but I need some suggestions for good ones new/old alike.

As far as C.D.'s go I like Country music...any suggestions?

I already have an Apple iPod (mini)

These are just suggestions & my personal opinion. (= Hopefully it helps a little.

Movies-
The Notebook
Dirty Dancing
A Lot Like Love
Bad Boys 2
Mission Impossible 2
The Rundown
How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days

Country CDs- [I love country!]
Tim McGraw
Keith Urban
Keith Anderson
Faith Hill
Jason Aldean
Trace Adkins
Sara Evans

Hope that helped a little! I'll edit more of the music when I get home and have my iPod handy (=
♥ Melissa

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okay, so this guy i am "together with" which means we are pretty much going out without the label. anyway, he says he likes me alot, but doesnt think we would be able to have a relationship because he doesnt think i would want him to finger me, or i wont give him head. and the truth is, i just think it would be akward.. but ive gone out with him before.. and i really want a relationship with him.. he doesnt want to have sex with me.. just do everything else. but ive never given anyone head, and ive never been fingered.. im 14.. and i didnt think i should be doing that stuff.. what should i do?

Regarding the sex part, that's YOUR personal opinion. If you don't think you should be doing it, then don't. It's that simple.

As far as the relationship, there's no reason you can't have a relationship and not be doing anything sexual. That shouldn't affect whether or not there's a relationship.
♥ Melissa

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ok, my friend andy invited me to sleepover on friday night. hes having a sleepover and i really wanna go. the only thing is... im a girl... and andy is a guy so my parents will probably say no. my friend tia is going too... but i dont think that will help convince them much. im thinking about saying im sleeping over tias and then going with her to andys... but im scared my parents would find out... what should i do? please help me...

Lol wow definitely have been in that situation. Do whatever you think you need to do. If you know you're going to get caught, or think it's wrong that you do it, then don't. If you want to do it, then do it. It's up to what you think you should do.
♥ Melissa

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You know like the code for a line break in myspace is < br > but w/out spaces...?? SO like do i need it to be WORD HERE or just < br>

Type whatever you want here.< br >
Without the spaces (=
♥ Melissa

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I was having dinner at a friend's house, and some other peole were thare, and we started talking about the dinner before the homecoming dance.
My friend invited a guy to dinner with her, her date, and her friends and family.
Then she suggested that I go as his date, but I said I didn't want to go even though I did. When me and her were talking about this, that guy pretended that he wasn't listening.
Then later on when someone asked him why he wasn't going to dinner with me, he said, "She didn't want to go."
Does that mean that he would have wanted to go with me? And that he likes me? Or was he just saying that?

(by the way, I'm a freshman and he's a junior.)

Thanks. I rate 5's.

I think it looks like he would want to go with you.. Try talking to him. Or have someone else talk to him (;
♥ Melissa

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I recently met this guy and we're now dating. We aren't exactly what you would call the cutest couple because well, some people don't believe we belong each other. Those some people being my friends.

I'm what you could call the preppy high school cheerleader that hangs out with other preppy cheerleaders/jocks.

He is...well I'm not sure what he is. When you look at him you think oh, just another punkish looking emo druggy kid. Which is what my friends think. But, he really isn't. He did voluntarily dye his hair black and has an eye brow and lip piercing. Along with another one that is below the belt that I haven't seen yet ;P.

But anyway, back to the point. He's a sXe(straightedge). If you don't know what that is, it means that he doesn't drink, doesn't do drugs and doesn't believe in casual sex.

I was recently involved in an accident. The accident should have never happened because we'll the driver and I were drinking. Fortunately, I'm still alive. And because of the accident I've decided not to drink anymore. (I met my bf after my accident).

My friends think that my bf is BS and that he's just kidding himself. And obviously, do not like him. His friends and I get along fine and he doesn't mind my friends, except for the fact that they don't like him. What should I do?

Talk to them. I agree you can't just "not care" even if it is stupid, because I can honestly say how stupid some things are, but I still care. Just try talking to them, and asking them to try.
♥ Melissa

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I am going out with this boy and we really "love" each other, but he is really shy. He can barely hug me without laughing. He is really cute and sweet, but feel guilty because his friends make fun of him. I don't know what to do, i want to kiss him on the cheek on monday, i know that he would be cool with it, but then his friends would never let him down for it. What should I do? I feel soooo stupid.

Lol, his friends are jealous. Don't worry about what they say, it's cute that you guys care about each other. Don't let stupid boys get in your way!!
♥ Melissa

Editttt; Awww I'm glad that things are starting to get more open with you guys! Hopefully you guys have a great relationship! (=

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does anyone know any good music code sites for myspace .. i rate 5's

That depends upon which way you're doing it. If you want one song, simply search for the band [on myspace] then click "add song to your page". You can change it as often as you like.

If you're using some kind of layout, that's easiest. If you make your own using a "myspace editor V.. whatever" then there's a space for a song link. You can get those of xanga or myspace. And you can override it by using the "add song" on a band page.

If you need more help, PLEASE IM me, I could explain better that way. (=
♥ Melissa

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i know this is the dumbest question ever. but my and my boyfreind are going on being together a month. do we celebrate by the date (it was september 16th btw, which will be four weeks on tuesday) or do we celebrate it by the day of hte week? i have no idea wether i should do somehting for him on tuesday, or wait until the 16th?

16th, definitely.
♥ Melissa

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okay, for starters there's this guy named connor.he's my ex but the only reason we broke up was because his family was moving to richmond.
but the thing is during this summer, when he was suppposed to move to richmond, his dad got a job offer that was really great over here.so now he's my neighbor and it's really weird cause i have no idea how to act around him.i mean i got over him this summer but something in my head is telling me that if we were still together then we really could have had something.is it wrong to think that?

It's not wrong to think that. But if you don't like him, you don't like him. It's not a big deal that you think you could've had something. Everything happens for a reason, so just wait it out!
♥ Melissa

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