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Q: okay well I'm pretty good in volleyball. the best thing I could do is pass; I'm a really good passer and can play best in the back row. well I tried out and DIDNT make it only because I didn't have a serve! the coach said that anyone who doesn't have a serve doesn't make the team, so I didn't make it. he said I would definitely make it next year if I have a serve, but the problem is that I can't serve ANYTHING! I cant do overhand, roundhouse, or even underhand! I can kind of do underhand but the problem is that it never goes over the net and I throw it up when I serve it. same with overhand and roundhouse! I can hit it but they never go over the net? can someone tell me the right ways to serve underhand, roundhouse, and most definitely overhand?(I need a overhand to make the team as well as underhand) thank you sooooo much!

I had the exact problem 1 year ago. I know how frustraiting it can be!! Trust me!! Well serving underhand isn't all hard.. if you are right handed hold the ball about at your hip level and in your left hand, but in front of your right hip. opposite if you are left handed
then put your right hand into a fist and make contact with the volleyball on the bottom. Make sure that you dont throw the ball up in the air before you serve it!!!
Serving overhand can be really really tricky. So lets say that you are right handed. Hold the ball arms length infront of your right shouler, but hold it with your left hand. Keep your right arm up with your elbow above your head. Throw the ball in front of your right sholder approx. 3 feet in the air. then contact it in the middle of the ball and follow through..
opposite if you are left handed
sorry if this sounds confusing,,,
but remember that practice makes perfect!!
hope you make the team next year!! Good luck~

Q: 16/f
I really like this guy [hes 18]. All of my friends including him know i like him. He stays at my house alot cause he is my sister's good friend. And all my friends are always like 'did you make a move' and im like no, because i dont really know how to make a move..like what should i do? Im use to them making the moves, and im not sure he likes me like that so he wont.

thankss.

Well if he is one of your sisters good friends, try talking to her anout it. She might give you some input anout him, and the things he likes to do, so try asking him out to a movie if you want.. but i would definantly takl to your sister because she could give you valulable info about him!!
hope things work out!!

Q: how do i lose my baby fat?

Im not really sure if this is true or not, but i think that you just grow out of your baby fat. You can always exercise and stay in shape, so when your baby fat is gone, youll have a hott body, but im pretty sure that you just have to wait and grow out of it!!
hope this is right and helps!~

Q: 13/f
hey everyone! i have a problem. I pretty sure that some girls in my school think im a slut. I DO NOT do any slutty things at ALL...but these girls are kindof immature like that. I mean, i was at a birthday party and we went to the movies. My friend whom i kind of like, put his arm around me and i put my head on his shouldler. Then later i danced with him a bit. THAT WAS ALL!! i do not see whats so slutty about that. I dont know how im sopposed convince my friends that im not a slut! Its not even me, its them! I really dont want them to think of me as a slut because im not. I did talk to them about it, but im sure that there is doubt in thweir minds. Please, how do i convince them?

If they are treating you like that, by saying you are a slut, then maybe they arenot really your friends! I know this may not be the perfect advice, but try looking for other friends, that will respect you, not call you names! Good luck~

Q: What's a good way of overcoming 'shyness'?
I mean, I have trouble talking to new people, especially ones I don't know. I would really like to be more confident, or what ever will help me with approaching someone. Any ideas or relations to this?

Well, I think the best way to face your fear is to DO your fear.. What i mean by that is go up to someone new, and say Hi! Or try asking about homework in school, maybe you could get someones attention that way.. so just try walking up to somebody and saying something.. usually people will respond to you!!
hope everything works!!~

Q: Could someone have a computer program or a thing that would let someone know about what website a person visits or what they do on their computer?

Yea, actually there is...
Buy I think that if you have some sort of spy sweeper, or virus protecter, you shold be ok..
Im not really too postitve about how to stop people from following you around online.. but yes, people can follow you..
hope things work out~

Q: how do u no when to pick between him or them? my best guy friend ,who is my former BF, and me are very close but our so called friends talk about us behind our backs about how its weird were still so close and awakward for them if the see us hug..this has made me more mad than him..but it hurts both of us..i feel that i now have to chose between "him" or "them"...

Well if they are saying these mean things behind your back, maybe your friends are not really your friends. Id try talking to them and asking them why they are being so rude, and making you feel like you have to choose between them. Try taking you former bf and your friends all out together for 'bonding', i know that is sounds corny, but sometimes it really can work!!
hope everything works out~

Q: ok so i wear my hair straight & the same way everyday. it gets pretty old. i started braided my hair at night (2 french braids) and then i take it out in the morning and it looks all crimpty . my friends LOVE it and think its really cute, and even my sister does (for a change). but now i ear my hair crimpt at least once a week, sometimes twice. is that to much? do u think crimpt hair looks trashy. i wear hollister and abercrombie and with crimpt hair... i don't wont to look cheap. thanks ;)

no, i doubt that it looks cheep. You should wear your hair however you want to wear it, well cuz it is yours!! try not to push it all that much though, try other styles too, but im sure 2 times a week is fine!!!~

Q: i am a 13 year old boy. i met this girl and we started to talk alot but then when i asked her out she just walked away. about aweek later i started talking to her but she will just run away and i dont know what to do. please help.

well see if you can find out any other info maybe from her friends, to find out why she isn't talking to you. sometimes rumors spred like that you wanted to do it with her or something like that, so maybe thats why she isn't talking to you. there is a lot of possibilities but i think that you should walk up to her and ask her why she isn't talking to you, tell her that you are hurt, and you want to fix the problem. Since you don't know why she isn't talking to you, try telling her that. If she runs away again ask her friends for help!
hope things turn out ok!!!~

Q: me and my friends (girls and boys) made this kind of crazy bet last week. i won't go into detail because the moderators might delete my question, but now one of the boys (we'll call him T) is starting to get a little too friendly for my liking. i mean, he's cute and all, but this problem has been happening to me for at least 5 years now. T just can't keep his hands off of me! he'll touch my butt & run, come up behind me & "accidentally" bump into me, or put his hands on my chest.& on top of that, he keeps callin me his girl! i guess it's my fault for letting him do it, but i do tell him to stop & try turn the other way when he reaches for my chest. i guess what i'm trying to ask is,how should i deal with this? i don't want to gget him in trouble by reporting him to the principal, because that seems like i'll be taking it a little too far. if anybody can give some suggestions, that would be great!!!

Well I think that you are doing the right thing by not going to the principal, but you really need to make him stop. Guys can act like little kids sometimes, so try treating him like a little kid. Get up in his face, and yell stop, and really let him know what is wrong, and that what he is doing is unacceptible. Try telling some of your closer friends, what he is doing, and im sure they would help you watch your back. I know this may not be a total solution to your problem, but i hope it helps!~

Q: i heard this quote from elizabethtown:

"I'm impossible to forget, but hard to remember."

What does that mean?

well i just watched that movie last night, and clair told drew that. She ment that you can't forget her and her attitude, but it is hard to remember what they did, and things shes going to be doing..
Hope this helps~

Q: What animals are the smartest, easiest to train and are loyal? I'm talking about pets, but no animals that would be to dangerous to keep.

Definatley dogs because there so fun to cuddle with and they do what there told! Plus ther are easy to train and they are like you own personal friend, that knows everything! They can tell when your sad/upset oor really excited! talk about smart! hope you find the right pet!~

Q: Ok so I am about 5' 2'' and I weigh about 160pounds. I hate my body. I don't look 160 more 140 or so. I wear a 9 or an 11.
I need to know how to lose weight easily and quickly (if possible lol). I want to be a size 5 or 7. I want to love myself, but right now that seems impossible!!!
I would feel better about myself but my sister is like a size 3 and my mom is always saying how skinny she is and how pretty she is and I never here her saying it about me.
Like for my sis's prom my mom was all ohhh you look so beautiful and your sooooooo skinny. It just hurts being compared to her all the time.
Please let me know what has worked for you!

I know that this may not be the answer that you are looking for, but i hope it helps. I really don't think that there is anyway to become skinny really fast.. but you should ask your mom if you could join a fitness center, and become phisically active, and start running, i know that running helped me cut a few puonds off.. Its not all that easy to loose a lot of pounds, you are gonna have to work for it, but i think you could do it. Then after you work hard, you'll love yourself and your body! Also try eating healthy, and cutting off candy and sodas...
As for your mom saying how pretty and skinny she is, you should sit down and tell her that what she is saying is hurting you..
hope it all works out~

Q: There is this Jack Black movie where he is a wrestler in Mexico (I think). Can you tell me the name of it? He always seems to be in funny movies.

Thanks a lot! :D

Nacho Libre:)
havent seen it yet, but im imagining if Jack Black is in it that it should be funny!
~

Q: iknow
seniors =12th graders
junoirs =11th graders

anyone wanna help me out of the others?

senior=12th grade
junior=11th grade
sophmore=10th grade
freshman=9th grade
hope this helps~

Q: okay. i just got an mp3 player. the brand is memorex. the first few days i had it, i could get songs on there really easily. now it won't let me. i know there's room left cuz it says there's room left. like i hit start synch & it says windows media player has encountered a problem while synchronizing the files or something like that. then it tells me to click web help for more help. i clicked that & did everything it told me to & still nothing works. i don't know what to do & i would like to get some more songs on. please help!

I think that maybe your computer has a virus.. that is probably why it won't let the media player load... if its not your computer, try contacting the company..April~

Q: i cant really explain it,

but does anyone know how to do something to the bottom of your shirt so its like knotting it. like if youre wearing a big baggy shirt and you wanna make it up to your belly button for example, instead of knotting it, theres something else to can do.

if you find a website with pictures step by step, or if you can explain it that's be helpful!

thanks!

You could just take it, then twist it, and tuck the twisted part of the shirt under the rest or the shirt, or another way is you take the bottem of the shirt and stick it through the neck hole and pull it through...
hope that made sence~

Q: so i like this guy..but i hardly get to see him. he used to have feelings for me awhile ago, and he asked me out. but i said no to him because i liked some other kid who was an ass hole.
i havn't really hung out with this guy before since the homecoming football game back in september (before, we only talked online). and now that i know him better, i realllly like him.
i asked his best friend (and one of my best guyfriends) if he knew that if he liked me. his best friend said that he wasn't sure but he said that if i asked him out, the guy would probably say yes (this was back in November). i guess his friend started talking about me more around him, and asked him if he liked me. he said he liked me back.
whenever we do see eachother, we talk soo much. he's wicked easy to talk too. i'm not sure if he really does like me though..or still likes me for that matter. i want to tell him i have feelings for him, but i don't want to say it and have it be so random and akward if it turns out he likes me back. do i just say the basic "i think i have feelings for you." and walk away or what?

please help me. i'm not sure if i completly made sense but, any advice would be helpful :)

thank you.

I think that you should totally tell him that you like him, but you don't have to go up to him and say hey i think i have feelings for you. try asking him if he wants to go to a movie with you, like as a friend, and see what happens. If you are not ready to be alone with him, then say that he could invite some of his friends, and you could invite some of yours... see what happens.. but from the info that u gave, it sounds like he likes you! good luck~

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