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Hey! Im Nicole. This is my second advice column. I really ♥ to give advice. I am rated pretty high here too, even though ive only answered about 260 questions. I have pretty much answered every type of question && i can certainly give you some advice. It may not always be what you want to hear, but i'll give you wat you need to hear. Also if your having trouble with finding something on the net, i am really good at that! haha. well please feel free to ask me anything! id be really glad to help you!

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ok...heres the story...
boys starts liking girl, girl doesnt like boy, boy and girl hang out for some time, girl starts liking boy but doesnt know what to do!!
*by the way, the boy is shy and the girl is far from it...please help!!!!!!

Well if boy still likes girl, then she should ask him out. Or just tell the boy how she feels.

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Im 14/f and i just got back from a vacation with my family and my friend. well my friend is gay and is four years older than me and i am completely like head over heels in love with him! i got to sleep like right next to him and we took long walks in the park together and stayed up all night just having fun. he is not the most attractive person but he has the beest personality in the whole world!! the only thing is that i cant hold it in ne more i need him! i masterbate to him and everything! i mean what should i do?

He wont change most likely so you need to accept that. You shouldn't really tell him because nothing will happen. You may feel this way about him, but he doesnt.. so all you can do is move on. There is plenty other fish in the sea!

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Hi does anyone have any good tips or know any websites on how to style wavey/curley hair without using a curling iron or a diffuser.

Thanks will rate high for good answers.

Well you can go here for styling kits..

http://www.studiohaircare.com/solution-kits/styling_kits.htm

WAVY HAIRSTYLE TIPS:

http://www.about-hairstyles.com/wavy_hairstyles.html

well just search the web hun.

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Hey, I was wondering does anyone know any cute hairstyles? I have straight, long black hair. I was thinking about long sideswept bangs and layers, but that seems sort of blase. I'll rate high!

Well that sounds good to me.

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My parents won't let me remove the hair from my legs, but I do anyway because I use my dad's razor. I want to get my own razor or hair removal device but my parents won't let me buy them or else they will kick me out of the house. My friend gave me a disposable razor but it ran out and she is out of town until September. How do I get a hair removal device and how do I hide it from my parents when I have it? If it helps I am 13/f. I will rate high for good advice or a good try.

Well ok, 13 is plenty old enough to shave so i dont know why your parents wouldnt let you. I suggest you talk to them. Or tell one of your other relatives to talk them into it. Or you could get another one of your friends to buy you one. Thats all i can think of sorry.

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basically i feel like im losing my friends and lately i have been really depressed. Nobody would really know because well i put up a front and i feel like im losing all the friends i had. I dont wanna hear advice like "try to get together with them" or "sorry" i just wanna know what to do to feel better and be more social.

All you can really do is keep trying to be their friends & try to talk to them. Try to fit in with them still, or just go find new friends. There is plenty of people out there for you to become friends with. If your friends aren't willing to be your friend anymore, they arent worth it. To be more social, just talk to people you dont normally talk to, go to more parties & dances & events like that & just meet new people. I dont really know what else. Sometimes you just have to let it go, everything happens for a reason. Maybe your meant to have other friends & maybe those werent right for you. To not be depressed anymore go do something that you really would like to do and something you enjoy. That should make you feel better. If you have any friends you are still good friends with then go out with them for the day.

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i wanna make my boyfriend know that i like him. like i dont want him to break up with me cuz i feel like i havent been the best. and two other girls like him and i personally think they're prettier than me =/.. and i just really dont wanna loose him..like i feel like telling him i love him isnt enough but i dont wanna sound corny if i say more..help!

Just sit and talk to him and be honest. Tell him you really care for him and you dont want to lose him. But if he is still with you now he probably doesnt want to be with the other girls. Dont worry about sounding corny, with your boyfriend it shouldn't matter.

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my best friend is depressed. and it makes me so sad! she says shes fat when shes NOT she says shes ugly when shes NOT and this one guy was like do you have a myspace so she gave him the link and said ew your ugly and signed off.. so she is really sad about that.. i keep telling her that if she thinks shes fat she should just go on a diet and i would go on it with her. she doesnt need to make herself prettier cause shes pretty enough! what can i do to make her feel better?

Sometimes Im like that too a little bit. So i can somewhat relate. She's self contious about herself, and that is pretty normal. It's not healthy to feel this way though. I dont think there is much you can do. The only thing i think you can do is keep telling her that those things arent true. And have other people you know tell her that too. It really helps to know a lot of people dont think your ugly/fat. This is pretty normal for teens to go through this though. If this gets too serious have her go to a doctor or something.

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I'm SO sick of my room. Its medium size and I used to share it with my sister so I have these two huge canopy beds in there and that takes up a lot of space and are very heavy so can not really move around. I just want some ideas to make it look a lot better without moving everything around. please help =)

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You could do something with the other bed, like use it for your stuffed animals, or something like that and make it cute. You can get a rug or something like that, to make it look cuter. Also make your room have a theme. Like either a color theme, or something that you like or something. And then find stuff that goes along with your theme. Also, you could put a lot of pillows on your beds to make it look even cooler. I think more pillows is always cute. Well for ideas & things for your room you can go to http://www.bhg.com/bhg/decoratinggallery. i cant think of anything else really for you. Except you can put up a ton of posters up or something.

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my mom is always saying im ugly. last sunday for church, i let my hair dry into natural curl/waves and she said it was ugly and i should brush it (badddd idea) and wear some makeup because my face looked "bad". i didnt wear earrings & she always says i look bad when i dont wear them. when i do wear makeup for other occasions she says i look like a prostitute. i dont know what to do anymore! i cant always be best dressed and miss cheerful like she was when she was my age. shes always telling me how thin she was and how everyone liked her figure just to rub it in my face that i have no womanly shape. my dad says i look ok because he sees what it does to my self esteem. everytime i get the slightest blemish, shes the first to point it out. i hate it! someone please help me! any advice will help! ill rate 5s...

Aw that is soo sad, and horrible!! Thats really messed up. Well, what you should do is tell your mother that she needs to stop. That you dont want her opinion about your looks anymore. And that not everyone is perfect like her. And that its your life. You can look how you want to look. Dont try to impress her anymore and dont listen to how she tells you to look. Do your own thing.

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my best friend is moving to new zeland today she is 16 and really does not want to go. Her dad says she is not allowed to come back home to england till she is 18. What rights does she really have and could she come back before she # is 18.

Thanx nicki xxx

Stay in touch as best you can for the next 2 years & then she can move back. I dont think she has any other rights at 16.. but i have no idea. well this really sucks for you. but email, IM and call eachother all the time. And visit eachother as much as you can. Atleast its only 2 years, it could be worse.

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Is 13 old enough to have a boyfriend...not like pair off and go out on an actual date or anything...but to really like a boy and have a first kiss or sumthin...it's not like I want to, but when I see kids in my grade kissing and holding hands and stuff and I'm just curious to whether it's right or if it's silly or if it's age-appropriate...?

Well, i am 13, i havent been kissed. And there is nothing wrong with that. But i think when you get to highschool is the appropriate age. Do it when your ready.

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Ok, my friend is really shy about everything. Like making out, holding hands, etc. Is there any way he can be less shy with girls? Thanks!

No, you cant change that about him. But I think after awhile he will become more comfertable with it.

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i have like horrible sleeping problems...like sometimes i dont even fall asleep till almost 3 in the morning. does anyone have any like tips or something to help me fall asleep?


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Heres something i found for you on the web that might help you out.

Tips for better daytime habits:
Do not nap during the day. If you are having trouble sleeping at night, try not to nap during the day because you will throw off your body clock and make it even more difficult to sleep at night. If you are feeling especially tired, and feel as if you absolutely must nap, be sure to sleep for less than 30 minutes, early in the day.
Limit caffeine and alcohol. Avoid drinking caffeinated or alcoholic beverages for several hours before bedtime. Although alcohol may initially act as a sedative, it can interrupt normal sleep patterns.
Don't smoke. Nicotine is a stimulant and can make it difficult to fall asleep and stay asleep. Many over-the-counter and prescription drugs disrupt sleep.
Expose yourself to bright light/sunlight soon after awakening. This will help to regulate your body's natural biological clock. Likewise, try to keep your bedroom dark while you are sleeping so that the light will not interfere with your rest.
Exercise early in the day. Twenty to thirty minutes of exercise every day can help you sleep, but be sure to exercise in the morning or afternoon. Exercise stimulates the body and aerobic activity before bedtime may make falling asleep more difficult.
Check your iron level. Iron deficient women tend to have more problems sleeping so if your blood is iron poor, a supplement might help your health and your ability to sleep.
Tips for a better sleep environment:
Make sure your bed is large enough and comfortable. If you are disturbed by a restless bedmate, switch to a queen- or king-size bed. Test different types of mattresses. Try therapeutic shaped foam pillows that cradle your neck or extra pillows that help you sleep on your side. Get comfortable cotton sheets.
Make your bedroom primarily a place for sleeping. It is not a good idea to use your bed for paying bills, doing work, etc. Help your body recognize that this is a place for rest or intimacy.
Keep your bedroom peaceful and comfortable. Make sure your room is well ventilated and the temperature consistent. And try to keep it quiet. You could use a fan or a "white noise" machine to help block outside noises.
Hide your clock. A big, illuminated digital clock may cause you to focus on the time and make you feel stressed and anxious. Place your clock so you can't see the time when you are in bed.
Tips for a better pre-sleep ritual:
Keep a regular schedule. Try to go to bed and wake up at the same time everyday, even on the weekends. Keeping a regular schedule will help your body expect sleep at the same time each day. Don’t oversleep to make up for a poor night’s sleep – doing that for even a couple of days can reset your body clock and make it hard for you to get to sleep at night.
Incorporate bedtime rituals. Listening to soft music, sipping a cup of herbal tea, etc., cues your body that it's time to slow down and begin to prepare for sleep.
Relax for a while before going to bed. Spending quiet time can make falling asleep easier. This may include meditation, relaxation and/or breathing exercises, or taking a warm bath. Try listening to recorded relaxation or guided imagery programs.
Don’t eat a large, heavy meal before bed. This can cause indigestion and interfere with your normal sleep cycle. Drinking too much fluid before bed can cause you to get up to urinate. Try to eat your dinner at least two hours before bedtime.
Bedtime snacks can help. An amino acid called tryptophan, found in milk, turkey, and peanuts, helps the brain produce serotonin, a chemical that helps you relax. Try drinking warm milk or eat a slice of toast with peanut butter or a bowl of cereal before bedtime. Plus, the warmth may temporarily increase your body temperature and the subsequent drop may hasten sleep.
Jot down all of your concerns and worries. Anxiety excites the nervous system, so your brain sends messages to the adrenal glands, making you more alert. Write down your worries and possible solutions before you go to bed, so you don't need to ruminate in the middle of the night. A journal or "to do" list may be very helpful in letting you put away these concerns until the next day when you are fresh.
Go to sleep when you are sleepy. When you feel tired, go to bed.
Avoid "over-the-counter" sleep aids, and make sure that your prescribed medications do not cause insomnia. There is little evidence that supplements and other over-the-counter "sleep aids" are effective. In some cases, there are safety concerns. Antihistamine sleep aids, in particular, have a long duration of action and can cause daytime drowsiness. Always talk to your doctor or healthcare practitioner about your concerns!
Tips for getting back to sleep:
Do visualization. Focus all your attention on your toes or visualize walking down an endless stairwell. Thinking about repetitive or mindless things will help your brain to shut down and adjust to sleep.
Get out of bed if unable to sleep. Don’t lie in bed awake. Go into another room and do something relaxing until you feel sleepy. Worrying about falling asleep actually keeps many people awake.
Don't do anything stimulating. Don't read anything job related or watch a stimulating TV program (commercials and news shows tend to be alerting). Don't expose yourself to bright light. The light gives cues to your brain that it is time to wake up.
Get up and eat some turkey. Turkey contains tryptophan, a major building block for making serotonin, a neurotransmitter, which sends messages between nerve cells and causes feelings of sleepiness. Eating foods containing tryptophan raise the levels of serotonin produced in the body, which in turn increase a person's feeling of sleepiness. It is best to eat tryptophan on an empty stomach. Other foods, besides turkey, that contain a notable amount of tryptophan are: milk, cottage cheese, yogurt, ice cream, chicken, cashews, soy beans and tuna.
Consider changing your bedtime. If you are experiencing sleeplessness or insomnia consistently, think about going to bed later so that the time you spend in bed is spent sleeping. If you are only getting five hours of sleep at night, figure out what time you need to get up and subtract five hours (for example, if you want to get up at 6:00 am, go to bed at 1:00 am). This may seem counterproductive and, at first, you may be depriving yourself of some sleep, but it can help train your body to sleep consistently while in bed. When you are spending all of your time in bed sleeping, you can gradually sleep more, by adding 15 minutes at a time.

hope that helped..

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ok so i have brown hair down to the middle of my back. i always wear it down and thats all. this year i wanna change the style of it, professionaly. any suggestions?

There is many things you can do. But i personally love when hair is longer, and i regret cutting my hair. But you can layer your hair if you want. Cut it short, or something. The bangs to the side are really cute. I also think you could get highlights. That would be really cute. And its not TOO drastic. Just search on the web for cute styles you like. Then get it done like that.

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ok so im going to be a freshman and i want to dress really good this yr but i dont want peole to think im al self absorbed bc im not! i just want to look nice but not snobby bc i want to meet some new people
thanks!

ok well if your not snobby then no one should think your snobby. Dont worry about that too much. Well i like aeropostale, red eye, hollister, abercrombie, bliss (for accesories) and american eagle. theres more, but those are a few nice stores.

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Hey guys. Well there's this guy that I like and the only problem is that it's my best friend's bro. He's younger than I am (I'm a 8th grader and he's in 7th) and I'm pretty sure he likes me too. Everytime one of my other friends asks him he denies it but he always flirts with me when I go to her house. I REALLY like him but of course I can't tell my friend or else she'd freak! PLEASE HELP!!!! I'll rate 5's!!!

Well, i think you can just tell her. If shes a good friend she wont freak too much. Even if it is a little weird at first. If it is okay with her, then you can see if he likes you. And then ask him out, or whatever. Age really isnt that big of a deal, but immaturity is. But id just go for it.

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ok I have been doing about 60 situps a day and now my stomiac hurts in the bottom of it. REALLY BAD to. Whats wrong and whats going on. I will rate all 5'd 4 good answers. (Please exuse the misspelled words) Thanks

Well i think thats kind of normal. Wen you start out doing too many, that may not be good for you. But i think after some rest, your muscles will just get stronger. Also try some other excersizes & things too. That may make it better. Hope i helped.

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is there any way to tan easier or faster without using sunless tanning products or tanning booths?

Well ok, my friend got really tan by just tanning outside & stuff. It really does work. Just lay out. You may get sunburned but it fades into a tan.

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can anybody suggest a really good men's cologne for me. I'm 15/m and i'm looking for something masculine, sexy and powerful, and it has to last. My price limit is $100.

axe, lol.

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