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Today, my family and I (14/m) were out playing sports. All was well for a while. Untill my lil brother started to misbehave and be uncooperative.I got vexxed, but i controlled my rage untill we got home.
At home, i was still vexxed.
(since my birthday is about a montn away)My mom asked me what i wanted for my birthday. I told her "i want my brother to be gone for my birthday. that would be the perfect gift."
She got vexx at me. so vexx she couldn't speak. Sheleft the room.
I went to look for her later and i found her crying. what i said really got to her emotionally. she just looked at me like everything was lost.
that look got to me. i am sorry i told her that.
but i dont know what to do.
What should i do?
i can't let her feel like she grew me up wrong- i am her 1st born. she will just give up with the others too.
please help.
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I would go and profusely apologize to your mom, and just explain to her what happened that made you so mad at your brother. She will understand that brothers bicker sometimes, and you will get mad at him sometimes.
I doubt that she would feel like she raised you wrongly- it's common for brothers to fight, and she probably feels overwhelmed with raising the two of you. Remember- She will always love you and your brother no matter what, and she won't ever give up on the others.
Hope I helped :-)
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I'm a bit overweight and so I've always been a little bit embarassed to exercise in front of people. It seems to just make things worse for me, because then I don't feel like I get enough exercise in the day, but I hate running because I'm slower and always afraid somebody will see me, and I don't even like doing stuff at home because my mom and dad might see me. Any good tips for conquering my fear or ways to exercise alone? (link)
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If I were you, I'd go to a place where everyone is exercising, like the exercise room at the YMCA, or a fitness center. At these places, everyone's there to exercise, and they won't judge you by how you look.
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ok, my birthday is in 5 days and my mom usually asks all her kids what they want and where they want to go out to dinner for their birthday. well, she didn't ask me anything yet and she forgot 2 years ago and i think she forgot again =/. i feel like she doesnt even care and i've tried to hint to her that i actually have a birthday unless i'm delirious and its not april 21st today? (link)
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I wouldn't worry about it unless your mom has a lot on her mind and a lot on her schedule. If she does, then you probably should just remind her that it's your birthday in five days, or more subtly tell her, "You know, for my birthday I would really like _______, and I can't wait to see if I get it on April 26th!" Don't worry about it at all, because remember, it's your special day, so someone will always remember.
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For the last few days a bunch of boys in my class have been looking at me funny. At first I thought that I mite have had somthing weird on my face or maybe my outfir looked redicules to them. Then they all started talking to me. Not at once, but boys would come up to me all threw out the day and talk to me. This one boy even said that his best friend (one of the boys who wouldn't leave me alone) had a crush on me. I didn't belive him. Another one, was always trying to make me laugh, anouther one was always starring at me. The boy I have a crush on is really cool and always talking to me too. I can tell he has a crush on me. I think all the other boys have crushes on, and it really freaks me out!!!!!! A bunch of girls have been giving me the cold shoulder, or being really mean. My crush is my best friend too, and we are always together, some stupid boy calls us the love birds. I really don't know what to do. Should I just stay away from all boys in general. (link)
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It's a part of growing up...boys will start seeing you differently, like finally noticing that you're attractive or you're so nice to them. The girls are probably giving you the cold shoulder because they are jealous of the boys that you are friends with and the ones who have a crush on you. Don't worry about the immature jerks who call you "love birds": they are just people who have nothing better to do. Don't stay away from boys- feel proud that people like you, and don't let other people bring you down.
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Well this is so random but my dad is my soccer coach and when ever we are at practice and i say daddy he says i am not gunna respond to that call me coach.. and i get really sad (link)
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Don't get really sad, it's not worth the energy. Your dad probably feels a little embarrassed that you're calling him daddy even though he shouldn't be. I would talk to him about this and tell him that you really don't want to call him Coach, because he is your dad and you have a right to call him so. He will most likely give you the reason that he wants you to call him coach, and if I were you I'd listen very intently and make sure I understand why. This will help you communicate with him better.
Hope I helped :-)
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PLEASE DONT DELETE THIS ONE. There is this guy and he is 17 and im a girl and im 14. Well we both like each other alot or at least i think so. well anyway there are these two other girls and they like him and he says he cant stand them but then i catch him flirting with them sometimes. and also we makeout and stuff and i dont know if he is just useing me and then goes and makesout with these other girls.what do u think i should do and be specific. and do u think the age difference between us matters? (link)
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The best thing to do is go and ask these girls if he is flirting with them and hanging out with them, or making out with them. No girl wants a cheating boyfriend, so if this guy is double-playing you, you need to go as a group to stop him.
And no, if he isn't actually cheating on you, the age difference doesn't really matter if you like each other. Sometimes it's hard to grasp the fact that he is this much older than you, but remember- when you are in your twenties (let's say you're 21) and this guy is 24, it doesn't seem like much of an issue, does it? You just need to talk to him like you'd talk to any of your friends, and the age difference won't matter.
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ok.. ive liked this guy for a while now and now he knows and i can tell he likes me too but i think that were both afraid to talk to eachother :(.. i really really like him and i wanna be able to talk to him but im really really shy. and plus ive never had to go and talk to someone, theyve always came to me. but anyways.. its been a few weeks and i jus wanna get it over with and talk to him...but the thing is.. i dont kno wut to say, and when or w/e so can u pleasssee help me?? im starting to get frustrated with myself cause i cant do it. I dont have any classes with him so i cant send a note or anything,plus hes not that kinda kid.. and i really wanna do something tomorrow so i can talk to him.
I rate high!
*depressed and sad
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What I think you need to do is just take a deep breath and go up to him and start a conversation. It doesn't need to be about how you like him at all, it can be about anything; your favorite teachers, math class, his fav band, etc. Once you two are more comfortable with speaking with each other, it will be a lot easier just to come out and say that you like him a lot.
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My friend lets call her Ashleigh well Ashleigh always is assuming she is fat.. and she is gunna dye.. she is never thinking positive.. she is always thinking negative things about her self.. i really want to help her control her self.. she told me it's mostly b.c of her dad and brother..
her dad has cancer and doesn`nt have much time to live mayb 2 more years..hopefully god will help him and her brother just got released from jail.. and i feel bad for her..if you know ANY way for me to help her please tell me i will rate high if thats what you want
Meli (link)
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Your friend is almost definitely suffering from either depression or an eating disorder, or possibly both. She feels that everything in her life is out of control, and the only thing she can control is how much she eats, or what she feels on the inside. I think for your friend's own need you need to tell a responsible teacher or the guidance councilor at your school, or if you want larger help I would ask your parents to contact someone who can truly help Ashleigh through this. Good luck, and I really hope "Ashleigh" feels a lot better.
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My mom is like soooo annoying! She constantly makes me repeat myself and takes everything the wrong way(for example: i'll say something like completely random and not in a mean way or anything and she'll take it as an insult and i'll give her an insult and she thinks its like a joke or something). Also, she still treats me like i'm about 3 years old and I'm actually 14!I try to put up with her the best I can but I usually end up being mad at her for severaly pissing me off. I know it doesn't sound like that big of a deal, but believe you me it gets extremely frustrating after 14 long years! Also she always points out the odvious and asks stupid questions and never listens to any answers! plus I just wanted to send in a question cuz this is my first!:) (link)
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I get mad a lot at my mom too, but it happens a lot when they realize that you are growing up: they don't want to lose the darling daughter that always listened to whatever they said and whatever they told her to do. You need to remember that she's not in the same generation as us, and she won't know that the things we say aren't insults but playful jokes, etc.
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thanks for the advice but heres the thing. you just made me realize i am kinda a hipocrite or however u spell it. because yeah i feel left out but i am not gonna even try to say anything cause ive seen my other friends try to tell them that and they go oh my god ur so gay and get mad...and when one of my friends got left out i kinda did the same thing.. i hope that doesnt make me a bad friend? but i cant help it..wow i feel terrible not but someitmes i try to leave my other friends out cause they can get reallly annoying and i bet i get annoying to my friends and its just a whole big circle.. Please HELP!!! (link)
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I understand that you're going through a lot of peer pressure to act the same way as these friends. No, I don't think you're a bad friend: You're just under a lot of pressure to be flippant and mean to the girls who try to get included. If these 'friends' are treating you this way, I think you need to get some better friends who don't pressure you into acting this way and don't make you feel awful and left out. I'm sure that you can do it. I've been in situations when my friends seem a little annoying to me too, and it makes me want to exclude them sometimes, but you need to remember: these are the people you turn to when you're down, the people who cheer you up, the people who really care about you. If they don't treat you that way, you need new friends.
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Im 13, and im in 8th grade. Theres this girl, her name is Ashley. She is VERY annoying and she constantly follows me and thinks im her best friend. Shes not my best friend! I have 3 best friends and she is tearing us apart becasuse whenever I leave her for them, she gets mad, and I can't even talk to them without her there! I don't know how to get rid of her because I really want me and my best friends to hang out again without her! I know it's mean but I dont have a choice and shes very geeky and nobody really likes her! Please don't tell me to tell her to go away because everyone is telling me to do that and I don't have the heart to. What should I do?
~Kylie~ (link)
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I understand what you're going through, but I think that you need to step into her shoes. If she feels like it's necessary to pretend that she's your best friend and follow you around, then she's probably feeling insecure because so many people don't like her or think she's 'geeky.' I understand completely that her following you around is driving you crazy. If I were you I'd talk to her gently and calmly about this, and ask her to come over your house, or do something together. Maybe the reason she feels the need to follow you around is because she feels insecure in the fact that you two are friends. If you prove to her that you're friends, and you have other friends too that you need to hang out with, she should understand if she really believes that she's your friend. If she doesn't back off a little bit after this, I would start ignoring her a little bit. That should send the message that you feel a bit annoyed by her presence with your friends, and she should back off.
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ok so i have this friend and she went to this one school untill the end of 6th grade and then she moved to my school and she is my friend now (im in 8th grade now) and so we went to the track meet and i met some of her friends from her old school and so i talked to them and then when i got home i taked to them on the internet and asked them who they thought was hotter and they said that i was and so when i went to school the next day she wanted to know what they said about who was hotter and i told her that they said that i was hotter then she was and so was like no seriously what did they say and i told her that they said that i was hotter and she goes stop lying and i was like im not lying b/c that is what they said and she was like no tell me and i said it again and she was like oh well then they must have just said that to make you feel better about yourself and i was like no b/c i talked to them on the phone too and she was like im sure that they were just making me feel better and they thought that i was hotter and my friend (lets call her Lee) well lee isnt that pretty she weighs more then me and her hair is all frizy and i am 5-2 1/2 and weigh 105 and my hair isnt frizzy oh and she has acne too and i dont ppl keep telling me that i am prettier then her and her boyfriend told me that too so i dono y she would say that they were lying to me and i am a teen runway model can someone tell me whats wrong with her? i rate 5's for good and not stupid answer
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First of all, I think it was a little bit harsh to start asking these questions to her friends. This is almost like betrayal for her: She feels as though they are judging her in all manners, not just by her looks. Also, you seem to be doing the same thing- I understand the fact that you are prettier than she is on the outside, but remember that when you talk about things like "hotness" it's starting to become personal and it's making her feel self-concious about her appearance. I think the only thing that's wrong with her is that she feels really hurt right now, and she wants to turn to her friends but she feels like she can't because they're judging her by her appearance. If I were you, I would go tell her that it's not appearance that matters, but what's inside, and that you are sorry for what you said. That should solve everything. Good luck.
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I have a "friend" that is sort of mean to my other friends. She excludes them and is very posesive of me. She gets angry when me and my 2 other friends do things together, without her. My other friends basically hate her, but i don't want to break the friendship off because i don't want to make an enemy. I hat being stuck in the middle!!!
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This "friend" probably is acting this way because she feels left out and sad. You need to go and have a talk with her about why she's acting this way and why she is being so possessive of you. This way you can figure out the problem and help her solve it, and maybe the four of you can become great friends.
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If it matters, I'm seventeen, and a girl.
Okay, so I've been really close with this friend of mine for about two years. Then all of a sudden, she decided she was too good for me. She dwells in every issue she has until she makes herself depressed. She's getting all "emo", for another thing, and pushing EVERYONE away, except our mutual friend, who happens to be a guy.
Now, she even admitted to him that she had a crush on him for awhile, but she "got over it". Somehow, I don't think she did. We're in a choral group and she always manages to position herself next to him, which bothers me - not because I like him - because I'm used to hearing his part in my ear. I'm used to listening to him. We always used to practice together for concerts, we sit next to each other in choir because we blend, and all that.
Anyway, so the main issue I have is, what do I say to her, if anything? She suddenly decided she was too good for everyone except one guy - oh, and her "college friends" which are her only "real" friends. Most of my friends are in college, and I still don't act like that.
I almost want to confront her about her pompous attitude, and about her supposed crush on our friend, but it would make everything awkward, I know.
What would you all do in this situation? I'm just curious.
I rate ones for stupidity and fours for bad grammar and spelling. =)
Thank ya for your opinions. (link)
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What I think you need to do is reach into yourself first and make sure that you really don't like this guy. Somehow I'm getting the vibe that you do feel something for him, just a little bit, and you're feeling a bit awkward now that someone that you know likes him.
If you don't like him, then I think you need to have a conversation with him about this girl, and if you two need to intervene. Personally, I would go right ahead and kindly and supportively talk to her, because there may be something else that's triggering this change in your friend that she might need to talk about.
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there's this guy at school and he always like bumps into me, and says sorry. before i didn't think anything of it, but now it's happening like almost all the time! does he like me? or is this just some weird coincidence?! (link)
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Personally, I think this guy is trying to muster up the confidence to talk to you, but he is not sure what to say, so he just continues to try to tell you that he likes you by bumping into you all the time. I would go right ahead and start a conversation with him sometime, to put him more at ease and to help him talk to you back. You never know, he may just ask you out!
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ok well my b/f was sapose to come over to my house on fridy and he seemed like he really wanted to come like when i was on the phone with him he was looking up my house on map quest and he was telling my friends that he couldn't wait to come to my house but he also told my best friends thta he was scared..in the hallway i was like when r u comeing over and he go well my parents are goign to my grandpas birthday soo their gonna drop me off then and i was like u can't miss your grandpas party b/c of me and hes like yeah i can its the same thing every year and ive been waiting all week to come to your house then later he called me and told me that his grandpa was going to flip if he didn't go to his party so i was like ok and hes liek i really wanted to hang out with you though and was like i promise well do it over break so i was like ok well its his grandpas party...later that night i even drove by his house and there was no lights on but today someone told me that they saw him at a laxcrosse game on the same night..this really doesn't sound like something he would like im soo surprised that he did it b/c we have been going out for a whille and he acts liek he really likes me i dont know what to do please help me!!!1 (link)
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If I were you, I wouldn't care so much about what all these other people are telling you. You can never be sure if they are actually telling the truth or if they are lying unless you see it for yourself. There are many reasons why your friends might lie to you, like if they secretly also liked this boy. I would go for it and ask him out if he seems like he likes you back.
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One of my best friends has been dateing this guy for a year. we are both 14. well i have always thought this guy wasnt good for her, i mean he has kicked her, black mailed her, and even sent threats. the threats were jokes, but they wee serious at the time. like there was one rape one. well lately she has been ignoring me for him. it is true that he hasnt been so bad lately and it seems like her does love her, but i still cant take it. it doesnt seem fair that i have always TRIED to be with her, and he hasnt and she takes the side of him. what should i do? should i tell her? should i just let it slide? (link)
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If he actually has been treating your friend this badly, you need to intervene. She is your best friend, and you need to talk to her and tell her that you think this guy isn't right and is being cruel to her. Make sure that you are very kind and supporting to your friend, because she may not be ready to give up her feelings for him yet.
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Like any other annoying question...here it goes..
There's this guy..Scott..wow what a hottie..I've liked him since forever..7th grade..he gave me my first kiss..It wasn't even a kiss..more like a makeout session..but hey, that's even better! ..Turns out, I was just a stupid bet he won against the other guys..He said he was sorry..I accepted..we went out...broke up..went out, broke up..All this time while we broke up, I still had feelings for him...He said he still liked me, too...A couple of months ago, we went out..and this time, my feelings were even stronger..It felt like love..(I'm in 9th grade now) but he broke up with me because he said we weren't spending enough time together and that we were just "friends with benefits" I still like him..I really do. I am jealous when I know he's hanging out with other girls..I become depressed. I don't know what to do though...I live so far away from him and we don't even go to the same school...What do i do? (link)
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In the beginning, you forgave him, and you seem like you never were together for a long period of time. I think what you need to do is try to find someone else that can fill his place. He isn't treating you very well, and you deserve better. I'm sure a nice girl like you can find someone that you have feelings for. Good luck!
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I just got my report card this past friday. It said that my grade point average is 3.95 which is really good. but when i started look at what i got (A A-) it said I had straight A's, A-'s A+'s and I was confused. I get to see my grade a week before they come out, and my science teacher said i was getting a B- then, on the report card it said A+...i don't understand that..can someone explain?
TarA (link)
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I believe that you should ask your teacher if the grade is correct, just to make sure. Even though it might hurt your grade, isn't it better knowing that you actually have the grade that you got than not knowing if you actually earned it? If you aren't worried too much that it might be a mistake, then just ignore it. Be proud!
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okay. well i have been best friends with the same three people for 4 years now and we do everything together and i love them to death but now they have new friends and they will talk about plans right in my face and not invite me and so i do other things with my other friends but i cant help but get jelous. its like sometimes i dont want them to be happy unless there with me. I hate feeling this way. I hate being jelous, but i cant help it. Things have changed and i cant take it. I try to take my mind off it and do other things but none of my other friends are as close as they are. i cant just give up on out friendship. How do i stop the jelousy? and Should i tell them how i feel? cause they would probbaly laugh and get mad at me...
sincerely,
Sojelous (link)
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Don't worry, you're not alone. I have been in this situation before, and the worst thing that you can do is pretend it doesn't bother you. Just tell your friends straight up that you're feeling a little bit left out, and that you'd really like to be friends with their friends too, or that you'd like to make sure that you'll always be best friends. If they are purposefully excluding you, then you need to find some friends that will treat you better than the ones that you have. I'm sure that you can do it.
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