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One of my best friends has been dateing this guy for a year. we are both 14. well i have always thought this guy wasnt good for her, i mean he has kicked her, black mailed her, and even sent threats. the threats were jokes, but they wee serious at the time. like there was one rape one. well lately she has been ignoring me for him. it is true that he hasnt been so bad lately and it seems like her does love her, but i still cant take it. it doesnt seem fair that i have always TRIED to be with her, and he hasnt and she takes the side of him. what should i do? should i tell her? should i just let it slide?
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This boy is abusive, if there is ANY sign that his behavior is continuing, or he went through on any of the threats TELL AN AUTHORITY FIGURE or any adult that can be trusted, your friend may not thank you immediately, but it'll be better in the long run.
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If he actually has been treating your friend this badly, you need to intervene. She is your best friend, and you need to talk to her and tell her that you think this guy isn't right and is being cruel to her. Make sure that you are very kind and supporting to your friend, because she may not be ready to give up her feelings for him yet.
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OMG you sound just like my situation. I hated my best friends ex boyfriend. She used to take his side too. It pissed me off. I think friends should come before boyfriends. Boys come and go friends don't! Tell her how you feel, that's what I did. I told her that I hated the way he treated her and it could get pretty serious one day (the threats and shit). Someday hopefully she will realize that you were right. If she doesn't just let it slide. She will find out the hard way!
-Brianna
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The best thing to do is talk to her. Never let something that's bugging you "slide"... that could be the worst thing to do. Maybe its that she doesn't relise she's ignoring you at all, and she's probably not doing it on purpose. Tell her that your friendship means so much to you and some guy shouldn't ever get in the way. Don't make it seem like your mad at her, because that never helps anything. Try to be understanding but at the same time get out what you really want to say to her. She should be able to understand where you are comming from.
As me and my friends always say "Friends forever guys whatever." haha hope I helped,
~*ash
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First off if she really was a true friend she wouldn't leave you for him unless you told her to pick one or the other. That would be wrong by the way.
so i hope you didn't do that. But if you still feel like you love her and miss her just talk to her tell her how you feel. That would be the best thing to do. But dont make her pick one or the other. It wouldn't be right to pick your best friend over the guy you love. I actually think it should be chicks before dicks but when your in love you dont care about anything anymore so try to understnad her. i am sure if you talk to her everything will be great
love always maria
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tell her how you feel. and tell her that if he has really threatened adn kicked her he is an ass and she needs to dump him. no girl, no matter how rude or bitchy, deserves that. we all have a sign inside that says, "handle with care." hope i have helped.
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If you see him hit her or anything call the cops. If he doesn't and you have already told her what you think of him, let it slide. She isn't hearing you so it's a waste of time. Hopefully she will wake up on her own before long. Those threats shouldn't be taken lightly either. Other than telling an adult abouot it I don't know you can do. She will be mad at you if you do.
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