Ask me anything, but I prefer questions about menstruation, spirituality, feminism, and history.
However, since there are so many confuzzled, "shy," young women out there, I usually end up answering questions about dating.
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i have a project in school.. does anyone know any good cases of women put to death!? please help!!
google and yahoo arnt much help. THANKS!!!
♥ xoseenbeenxo (link)
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If it has to be anything recent, sorry, I can't help you out. However, could you do the witch trials? Joan of Arc? Boadiccea? Henry VIII wives?
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well lately my friend has totally been flirting with my boyfriend.She knows she does it but she just shrugs it off.I hate it!!like we will be walking in the halls together and she will come right between us and rather close to him i might add.i dont wanna ruin our friendship, but me and this guy really love each other.we've been together through thick and thin.Please help me and i hope this wasn't to long. (link)
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Since she's unwilling to admit that she's flirting with him, I'm sorry to say, you need to find another friend; she's not respecting your relationship with yur boyfriend.
How about, when you're walking through the halls with your boyfriend, you hold hands so she can't get between you two? Talk to him about it and he might have an idea of what to do.
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I have been having sever pain around my bladder and that area. I know I have a cyst on both of my overies, and they could be getting bigger. I am scared to go to the doctor, because I don't like getting invaded. Should I go no matter what? (link)
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Invaded? Um...ok.
Either you could deal with the pain and whatever is wrong with your pubic area will just stay that way. Or you could go see a doctor, find out what's wrong, and get it fixed.
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I live in Utah and I expect everyone to have big opinions on my religion because it is different. My boyfriend is LDS (morman) and I am Lutheran. We have breifly dicussed if we were to get married, where would it be at. He wants a temple wedding and I want my chruch wedding. There is no way I would convert. But we seem to argue about this a lot. I am scared I might lose him because of this. How can I settle it without losing him? (link)
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You two need to discuss your core beliefs, such as God's nature and if people are inherently good. Once you find what core beliefs you share, build on those. You may find that you have more in common than you think. You two will see what's more important and both of you should probably be able to compromise.
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1 of my friendz who is a guy really likes me and he told me and asked who i liked and i said him so we are going out but i dont really like him that much because i like a different guy but him and the guy im going out with are friends.so if i ask the other guy out and dump the guy i am going out with he'll be really upset so what should i do??????? (link)
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Why did you tell him you like him if you actually don't like him? Tell him that you slipped up, apologize, and learn to say what you mean and mean what you say before you hurt anyone else.
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Hi,
I like this guy that one of my friends are going out with and she really likes him. I don't know what to do .should I be selfless and let her be happy or should I put my self first and take a chance on braking them up and losing a friend? (link)
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He's taken, he's not available, move on and find another guy. What makes you think that he'd go out with you, if you did try to break them up, since you would be so willing to hurt your friend? Find another guy.
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Hey..I just want to lose weight..i'm 5 foot 5 inches tall and weigh 126 pounds..i participate in sports all year round..and I just want a way to lose some fat..mostly in the hips..and just asking if anyone knows how.. (link)
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You're at a completely normal weight. You're healthy.
Since you do sports, how about weight training?
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A year or two ago i went out w/ this girl. i liked her, she liked me. i dumped her ,because i relized that she wasn't that actractive, and she hated me. she wouldn't talk to me look at me etc. now i see her in the halls and at dismissle. now she really actractive. i don't want to go out w/ her or anything, i just want to be her friend again.what should i do?
p.s. she has a boy-friend now (link)
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You are extremely dumb to dump someone just because she isn't "that attractive." Of course she hates you, you're shallow! Either grow up or go be a hermit.
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Okay, one of my friends who used to be a really good friend of mine is mad at me. She says I follow her every-where, and do every-thing like her. But I don't, I wish we could just be friends again, but she won't even talk to me. I don't know what to do, I'm so confuzed! Please help! I rate!!
Thanks, a desperate friend! (link)
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Find another friend, she obviously doesn't want to hang out with you. It's probably not your fault, she's probably just upset about something else going on in her life and isn't willing to put in the effort with you. Find someone who will.
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what is a bikini wax. and im a girl. am i supposed to shave the hair off.. down there?
please hellp! (link)
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A bikini wax is when ALL your pubic hair is waxed off.
No, do not shave or wax your pubic hair. It's supposed to keep bacteria and other unwated particles out of your vagina. just trim it every now and then.
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ok my boyfriend and i have been going out for 2 1/2 months and on sunday im going to his house for a couple of hours... ok well we kiss all the time and i want to be able to kiss him in other places. please give me ideas of where guys like to be kissed nothing like head or anything cuz we've both said were not ready for that. thanks bunches (link)
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You know how, when you scratch behind a dog's ear, it wags its tail and then follows you everywhere? That's because there is a very sensitive area right behind its ears. People have the same thing, only it's right under our earlobes, right behind the jaw. Kiss him there and he'll go crazy!
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Hey everyone, I was just wondering, I've never really just 'hooked-up' with a guy, meaning the only relationships I've been in, they had something serious part of it. I've never done friends with benefits. I was wondering what are your views on fwb and 'hook-ing/up' like what are the outcomes? benefits? feelings for one another? thanks in advance, i rate well. :--) (link)
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It's entirely a personal decision. If you don't want to hook up, then don't. I don't want to and I've never had friends with benefits or one night stands. I once had a friend who did nothing but hook up; I was fine with it because it's her decision, but I had to stop being friends with her because, every time we would hang out or talk on the phone or IM, she pressured me to dump my boyfriend (we're very serious) and to go hook up at some bars and clubs with her. It wasn't her decision that made me want to stop talking to her, but the pressure she put on me.
As said above, my boyfriend and I are very serious. Two years and four and a half months, woohoo!!!!
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My boyfriend always got love notes from his gfs and we were talking yesterday and he said I was the only girl who never wrote him any love notes so I was wondering what do you write in love notes other then I love you because I tired to write one but I dont think it turned out to be anything like a love note soif you can please help me out thx ill rate if ud like (link)
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You could write a poem, it could be romantic or silly. If you're not a poet, you could just change the Roses are Red, Violets are Blue poem into something cute. Whenever you're in a Walgreens or Osco or someplace that has a variety of cards, look over the cards section and write down (bring a writing pad or a notebook and a pen) stuff you like.
Instead of writing something, you could put a cute little drawing, even if it's just of two stick figures with a heart.
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So there are two boys that sit behind me in one of my classes, and ive noticed they've become very obsessed with me. They are always trying to get my attention, calling my name every 5 minutes, just making a bunch of annoying remarks. They even found out where i worked and showed up one time. Now they keep bugging me trying to figure out which days and hours i work. I avoided answering because im sick of them bugging me and showing up everywhere. As mean as it sounds, I dont want to have anything to do with them because they are just creepy to me. Im not very good at being honest about how i feel about people. So lately ive been ignoring them(after they yell my name about 4 times) and when they try to talk to me i just turn back around and dont say anything. Ive been doing this for weeks, hoping they'd get the hint that i DONT want to talk to them. But they dont get it! What am i supposed to do without being rude about it? (link)
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You have every reason not to like these guys. You're not being stuck up or mean or rude, they're doing everything they can to annoy you. Ask your teacher to tell them to quit or to move you to the opposite side of the room from them. You should be able to get your boss to make them leave you alone if they show up again.
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okay i have a BIG problem , i hate going to the school i go to and ive been really depressed lately. I try to tell my parents i dont want to go to that school but of course like most parents they dont listen. All i do is cry and i hardly get any sleep at night..i need a break from all of it i try to tell them i need a break before going to school to clear my head so i can actually pay attention. How is the best way to tell them all of this and how do i get their attention for atleast 5 minutes? Thank you sooooo much!! Xoxo (link)
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Have your parents seen you crying? That would probably give them an idea of how serious you are about hating your school. If you have a guidance counselor or a relative your parents respect, talk to him/her about it so he/she can talk to your parents.
If that doesn't work out, remember, you're 13, you'll be getting out of your school anyway when you graduate from 8th grade.
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Here's the deal. I am 21/f. My mother and father are divorced. My father has a son (with another woman) and he has my little brother(with my mom) my whole brother stays with my mom. Every since they split 10 years ago my father has not been doing much of anything for my brother. He only gives him something on christmas and his birthday. He hardly ever sees him and I am furious. I feel he should pay child support to my mother for my whole brother. My momma is having to carry all the weight that he should be sharing. My half brother gets to see daddy all the time. Why should my half brother get all and my whole brother gets next to nothing. If it matters My half brother is 13 (born out of wedlock) and my whole brother is 12) Should I push her to stick him for child support. She feels that since my dad and my step mom raised me she has no right because he didn't stick her for child support. My mom did things for me though. Should I push her or just back off.
The lack of money is keeping my brother from things he would rather do like piano lessons, boy scouts and movie going. I don't think its fair. Help me decide! (link)
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I think he's legally supposed to give you mom child support. Ask your mom about the specifics of the divorce settlement. You should encouage your mom to ask him for child support if the settlement states that he would help out. If he refuses, she should take him to court.
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i've been really doubting Jesus Christ these past few days. i believed in Jesus before and i trust that i'll believe in him once again, i just need some motivation and i need to be reminded again of his grace and glory. please help me turn my life back to God. (link)
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If this has been happening just a few days, don't worry about it. Periods of doubt are completely normal; even priests experience them from time to time.
However, if this continues for several months, you might try studying other religions and theological theories. There is nothing wrong or sinful about studying other religions.
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I'm a really good singer. All of my friends have said so, and are threatening to take me too American Idol when I'm 16. And I love to sing. But when I go to do it in front of some people I get really nervous and choke up. Any suggestions on how to get rid of my nervous-ness??
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You have to options:
1) Tell your friends to lay off. It's your decision, not theirs.
2) Sing in front of a couple of people. When you're not nervous anymore in front of them, sing in front of some more people. Just keep expanding your audience until you're not nervous at all.
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ok i have this friend and well he rlly wants to loose his virginity cause he feels weird at his age...(peer presure) and so he asked me if i would do it with him...im scared of wht ppl wouldthink (ive alraeady lost mine)...but i dnt wanna sound like a slut or anything
pleasee help me!! thnks!! (link)
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That's no reason to have sex, peer pressure. Don't have sex with him because of that. If he begins pressuring you, forget about him.
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my boyfriend and I have been dating for quiet awhile now.. (1/2 a year) and now he's thinking i don't like him anymore, when he's the one who shows a lack of interest in me.. what do i do? i'm so oblivious to the situation. I really cannot lose him, he means way too much to me... I'm not the perfect girlfriend, i do have my flaws as everyone does, but i never knew i had one of showing no interest.. help (link)
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He's probably just projecting his lack of interest onto you. Calmly talk about this with him.
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