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I have a few facebook albums, and these are what theyre called

We pregame harder than you can party
We dont borrow the field, we take it
Shot first, questions laterrrr
thats what theyre called. any ideas like that

so i play soccer and lax, and if you cant tell i like to partyyy

Not to be rude or dumb, but what is your question ? I'm confused.

Where would i get a work permit at in ohio? thanks for helpings?

Most of the time you get them from your school, but in most cases it's summer so school is out BUT there are usually some people still in the building plus things like summer school. I'm not 100% sure but I would call up to your school, and ask if you can get it there.

age:14
gender:female

I think im in love with one of my best friends boyfreinds.. you see im extremely close to him and we talk all the time .. She treats him very very bad and he still loves her and i dont understand why.. It kills me to hear him tlell me how much he loves her but i dont want to losee him . i just idno im not the prettiest or skinniest girtl and i dont think i would ever have a chance with him .. plus hes head over heels for her but idont think she lovs him back..i dont know what to do

help please!

First off, it should never matter how skinny or pretty you are. It should matter what's on the inside. You should never feel "not good enough" because of your looks or weight.

On to the problem. Talk to your best friend. Find out how she feels about him. Don't assume you know her feelings towards him because the only one that knows her feelings is her. So bring it up, ask her if she really cares about him as much as he likes her. Going from that. IF she likes him the same as he likes her, there's nothing you can do. You can try and talk to him about how she treats him. Try and convence him that he diserves better, but thats not a gerntee (spelling). You could even try and get her to treat him better. Tell her that you don't feel like shes treating him the way he sould be treated. However IF she doesn't feel the same way about him, as he does her. You should talk to her and tell her that shes leading him on. That it's not right. If her feelings for him arnt strong or there at all or she just doesn't plain care about him, he should know and she should tell him. If you wanted to be semi-backstabbing (not suggesting) you could tell him how she feels about him. Maybe he will relize that she's not good for him, and that he should have someone that treats him right. That doesn't mean however that he will go for you, but what you should want is for your guy friend to be in a happy relationship and not one where he is treated unfairly.

You could also tell him you like him. That it hurts you to see him hurt and that you think he diserves better. No harm in telling him how you feel about him. You're 14.. you can't help how or who you have towards, your best friend (girl) might get upset, but she should understand she can't treat him like that.

Long I know, and I'm sorry if it didn't help much. You can send another into the inbox or IM me : ilu x adoreme

wut does it mean when there is a nuber after a = sign the a slash through it
for example:
for the question, Express the difference: , as a single fraction in simplest form

Usually it is in the from of [ a letter ] then [ equal sign with a slash ] then last [ a number ].

What that means is. What ever the letter is (say its "G") G does NOT equal the number after the equal sign.

Kay hey um well im 14/f and i just broke up with my totaly awsome boyfriend becuase we are going to different school's so adter we broke up witch was last wensday the same say i got with someone else but i didnt really like him but he really liked me please dont judge me on this i am not a player or notin but me and my NEW boyfriend broke up today and my ex- boyfriend asked me out again and i said yes cuz he wants to come see me everyday and said he promises to so my question is do i stay with him or not ?? Please answer
love,
bubble gum

You like him right ? So why break up with him ? Different schools isn't the end of the world. If you guys like each other enough you can make it work =] Stay with him, if later things change you can always end it then, but again for right now, you like him, stay with him !!

This is a silly question but I am gettin braces 2moro. And I was wondering, can you still kiss when you have braces? Does it hurt? Thanks in advance.

Kissing with and without braces is the same thing. There's no difference. It doesn't hurt you or the person your kissing. So don't worry, it won't effect you kissing =]

What does it mean when someone says " he went down on me"

They performed oral.

well, I am quite dissapointed that when i cum i dont release as much cum as i usually do, maybe its because i masturbated to much this week. but anyway, when im with my girlfriend tonight she likes me to explode all over her face, how do i go about uppin the amount of cum i release by tonight?

thx

Hold up with the masturbating and you'll have a larger release of cum.

help i was just laughing really hard and i banged my elbow off the chair and it hurts what should i do?

Really the only thing you can do is put ice on it. The pain will go away soon enough, you might get a bruse, but you'll be okay =]

13/f -ok. i like this boy.i mean i REALLY like him. well school just let out=,( and i wanted to add him on myspace. but would it be too awkward to add him if hes the only guy with only 6 other girls? i really want to add him, but i dunno what to do. please help.

Add him. Simple as that. I doubt he is smart enough to think you added him because you like him. If he does think like that, you can tell him or even deny it. Add someone on myspace usually just means you want them as a friend, heck I don't even talk to half the people on my myspace. So don't worry, it wouldn't be akward. Add him =] Take the risk !

do they get to see who asked it?

Nope, only if you tell them or they are a level 2, 3, or 4 moderator =] Which like said before, theres only like 10 people with those levels. So don't worry, you name is safe =]

Please help i want my period to start im 13 how do i?
thanks in advance.

You can't make yourself start your period, and trust me, you don't want it =] So you get what you get when you get it, you can really change it =/ Sorry...

Ok so this guy and I have had sex like three or four times before. Once we had sex in the back of his car and the condom broke, that was like three days after my period stopped. Then we had sex unprotected in his dorm and then in the middle of having that he slipped on a condom. I haven't had my period yet and it's beed a month since I've had my last period. Actually to be exact I haven't had my period since April 14, 2007 and today is May 23, 2007. Could I be pregnant? Also can you have your period and be pregnant still? BTW I am 17 yrs old.

It's a possiblity. I'd take a home pregnacny test to be sure.

can masturbation make breast bigger?

Nope..

Every day I'd look at my best gal pal and she'd always be in lala land thinking about her boyfriend. They've been going out for a year, 1 month, and 3 days (i know it's weird how i know that, but she acctually counts the days and tells me)! We used to be so close to eachother, but now she's not that much of a best friend to me. sure she can be a friend to me and everyone else, but she doesn't gve me that much of a BEST FRIEND kind of feeling. I want to be there for her like she was there for me on those lowscale terms, but i just can't take it! She told me her boyfriend was moving on the last day of school but i don't know if i can be there for her, or if i should even be there for her at all. what am i supposed to do?

I know what you're feeling. I'm in the same situation. Best friend with a boyfriend, she's not always there anymore. I understand, but you have to remember.. she's your best friend. Before her boyfriend came along, she was there for you for (im guessing) alot of things. She was the one you ran to for everything and vice verca. Be there for her. If you are there for her when he leaves maybe she'll come to relize that you are a true friend and you might just get that old friendship back that you had before she spent alot of time with him. Best friends are sopose to be there for you. You being her best friend (even if it may not seem like it) have, in a way, a job to full.

okay well i have a really big problem. im 15/f. ok im going out with this guy and ive been going out with him for like 10 months.. which is a pretty long time considering im only a freshman. i really love him and stuff but like i just feel like i dont really want a boyfriend right now. i wanna just feel free and do whatever i want. especially since its summer right now. if i break up with him i dont wanna get into another relationship right away. i just wanna like be free. and also he gets jealous really easily so that makes it even worse because i really feel like i cant do ANYTHING. so what should i do? break up with him or stay with him? and i know that if i break up with him i will still hang out with him and stuff because im friends with his friends and stuff. thanks xo

You said so yourself, you want to be free and do what whatever. Personally, it sounds like you already made up your mind, you just need to know if its a good choice.. Breaking up isnt always a bad thing, sometimes you find out that your relationship is better off on a friend level, then a couple level. You're 15, you should be able to have fun and do what you want. If you break up with him and you relize it was a mistake, you still have him as a friend. You can build it back up to that level of liking, and maybe even loving as you say. I say break up with him, but it's not my choice... it's only yours to make. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be free. Good luck, hope that helped.

wat is metrosexual?? give me examples of people please

Guys, that yes are straight (into girls) but care about their looks. They know about fashion and care products. Things of that nature.

hey,
i've had a crush on my best guy friend ever since...around fourth grade we've been really tight ever since then, but ive always felt a little more for him, now for the past couple months he's been flirting a lot with me and calling me a whole lot more..his best friend asked me today would you rather be best friends or date him. his friend sent me a convo between them saying that he wanted to ask me out...i really want to say yes but would that destroy our friendship?

No one can say forsure if it will mess up your friendship. If he's a true friend, and loyal then I don't see why it would effect the relationship. You have to go with your knowlage of your guy friend. Is he the kind of guy that would act different if he knew you liked him ?

His friend sent you the convo saying he wanted to go out. Unless that friend is full of bull, I think you should tell him yes. You want to and according to his friend, so does he. It seems like he might have a crush on you, from what you discribed, but the fact that I don't know him or you, I couldn't be wrong =/. If you loose his friendship because of something like this, then (no offense) he wasn't a very true friend. I say take the risk.. it could be worth it in the end =]

Good luck.

my bf and i are planning on having sex for the first time soon, and i was wondering what the best brand of condoms are?

thanks

Trojans. Any condom comes with risk tho. So make sure you read all directions and use it corectly =]

I'm doing a report on the social injustices of Anti-Abortion laws. Does anyone have any pro-choice opinions on why abortion should stay legal, and general opinions on the topic?

I see both sides. I just tend to lean towards one over the other.

I think women should be able to do what they want. If they want to have an abortion then that's fine, it's their body their choice. I don't see it fair however if a women has unprotected sex and gets pregnant. She knew the risks with having it yet she went ahead and did it anyway. That is the only thing that bothers me. She should have to keep her baby and leave with the problem she put herself into. BUT if a women is raped and becomes pregnant, I don't think she should have to carry that baby to full term. It's not right. She didn't ask for it, and she didn't want it. She shouldn't have to keep the baby and carry it to full term when I'm sure it will just be a reminder of the rape.

Not sure if that helped much, but I think its right in some situations (baiscly its always right) but then in the other ones where women just made stupid choices, then no.. It's not right for them to kill it.

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