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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

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Am i pretty? Ugly? 1-10. guys- would you go out with me? Be honest...

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thanks.

First of all, you aren't allowed to ask this type of question. It's normally deleted. I don't know how it got passed.

And, I agree with the columnist below who said that if you need to come to a website online, then you might want to reevaluate your self-esteem.

And, while looks are somewhat important, I wouldn't say I would date you simply on how you look. I would need to know your personality and a lot more about you.

--Jack
(18/m)

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i asked a few questions without ever havin my own, but if i make one now will it show that it was me ? thanks !

When you sign up and are logged in and ask a question, you can choose to have the question show your identity or be anonymous.

--Jack
(18/m)

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i've always been wondering about these questions.

1. so what if there were two lesbians or two gay men, one acts girly and the other one acts manly. wouldn't that make them straight?

2. what if there were two straight people and the male acted girly and the female acted manly. wouldn't that make them gay or lesbian?

3. alot of people say you can only lose your virginity once, but my friend is bisexual and she thinks you can lose it twice. once to a male and once to a female. so does it depend on the sexual orientation on how you think about it?

The way you act is not your sexual orientation.

1. No. They are gay based on who they are sexually attracted to.

2. See number 1.

3. Some people say you can lose your virginity to a male and then lose your "female virginity". But, technically, once you have sex, you're not a virgin anymore.

--Jack
(18/m)

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Hey, i wanna be an elementary school teacher...what are some good colleges for that major? thanks!

I don't know where you're from, but I know that in my state, Michigan, there are a few schools that are really good for education. They are Eastern Michigan University and Michigan State University.

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--Jack
(18/m)

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My boyfriends birthday clashes right with Valentines Day. Therefore I want to make it extra special. I'm borrowing 2 heart shaped cake pans. My boyfriend loves yellow cake w/ chocolate icing. I on the other hand wanted to make a red velvet cake with cream cheese icing, and decorate the both of them.
I just really needed some designs. They can have names on them or anything. Something really romantic and cute. This is our first vday together, we've been together 6 months!
& I really wanted to make it special. Unique.

Here's some sayings you could put on the cake:

"I hope this cake is as sweet as you. Happy Valentine's Day :) "

Wait, nevermind. I don't have anymore ideas. But, you could decorate the heart-shaped cakes like the little heart-shaped candy with cute messages on them?

That might be really cute. lol

--Jack
(18/m)

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18/f. I just had sex for the first time with my boyfriend of 4 months. And he knows this, but when I was younger, I was raped. Several times. By my older brother. and that's caused havoc with my love life, like you wouldn't even know. I just shut down for no apparent reason, I just get really scared and I don't know how to deal with it and it's so frustrating. and It hasn't been that huge of a problem, I'm fine with everything, we can have sex and I'm fine, but when we hit third base, I just can't do it. I can't give him head, I go into a nervous break down and I can't bring myself to do it. and yesterday he tried eatting me out, and I was okay at first, but just looking down and seeing him sent me into this horrible flashback and I can't let him do it. It just freaks me out too bad. I don't think this is normal, but does anybody else have anything like this? How do I make it go away? I want to be intimate with my boyfriend, and this is severally barring it. Thanks so much...
Sincerally, 3rd base horror

This obviously has something to do with your being raped. Have you seen a therapist or something? I'm not saying you're crazy, but it might help to be able to talk out these problems and maybe you can help solve your fears.

Have you told your boyfriend? I mean, does he know the reason that all of this is scary to you? I'm sure if he doesn't, he should know, and maybe he can help you. And I'm sure he won't be mad and he will probably be really understanding.

I don't really know how to get over it without the help of the people you love, but maybe as you and your boyfriend become more attached you might become more comfortable?

--Jack
(18/m)

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So I'm 15. I like this guy who is 17, he's a senior now and I'm a sophomore. Is that a big age difference? He'll be 18 in a couple months so it would be considered an adult. We're friends and all so its cool. I'm just wondering about the age and how it would be when he turns 18.

No it's not bad.

When he's an adult, though, you need to be careful because anything you do sexually with him is illegal. So, just be careful with that.

--Jack
(18/m)

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Where do cute people lurk? Outside of Europe, that is. I live in America. All the adorable people I know are European. So where can I find someone cute lurking? I guess cuteness is relative and depends on your taste, but any ideas/opinions?

I am cute.

--Jack
(18/m)

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Not actually 'with' this guy, we just hang out/ text and stuff, only when we do, it;s never really great or good conversation, it's mostly just physical stuff..He only really texts when he wants something, and seems uninterested, I'm not dumb, I'm thinking to ditch this guy.
Opinions?

Oh yeah, totally get rid of him. If he isn't around to give you the time of day when he doesn't need something for himself, he's not worth it.

--Jack
(18/m)

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There's this one girl thats at this after school tutoring thing at my high school. I find her really attractive and I like to keep imagining she's my girlfriend and and I like going to the tutoring thing even when I don't need help just to see her. Do I have a crush on this girl? I've never had a crush before so I don't know.

Put simply, yes.

You're making excuses to see her, so you like her.

--Jack
(18/m)

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Recently, my friend has been talking about how hot he thinks his teacher his. He keeps saying he fantasizes about her and he worships her. He said he likes walking past her room having excuses just to walk by her and at the end of the day waiting to see her leave, he said he wants to buy the yearbook and school newsaper just to oogle and at any pictures of her in them, saying "pictures of my hot teacher are like what pornography is to other people. Worst of all, he said he wishes she was a pedophile and if she wanted to rape him he'd be all for it, and he also said he hopes her boyfriend dies. This sounds kind of funny but also weird to me. I guess you could find a teacher hot, but still. Is this normal, or has he gone too far?

friend is 16 teacher is about 26

Most guys are attracted to a teacher at some point, and most girls are, too.

It's normal. What he says is a little stalkerish and creepy, but, I guess as long as he doesn't like act on any feelings he has, it's whatever. Haha.

--Jack
(18/m)

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my boyfriend hasn't called in 4 days. i have no idea why. usually it has something to do with me being a bitch or something along those lines, other times its just him being busy, but even then he'll call after just a couple of days. the last time we talked was when he told me that we couldn't get together on new years, and i was pretty upset about it for a while but got over it quickly.

like i said, usually if he's acting like this, i know the reason or have a pretty good idea. but as of right now, i am COMPLETELY in the dark and totally confused. should i wait for him to call me, which might be never, depending on why hes mad (if he's mad), or should i wait for a certain length of time and call him? anyone have any ideas?

Call him. Girls are just as capable as guys are, and they can pick up the phone and call the guy.

Also, I wouldn't assume that something is wrong, but I wouldn't assume that nothing is wrong, either. Wait until you actually talk to him to judge the situation.

There are a lot of reasons people don't call. I'm sure there is a legitimate reason why he hasn't.

--Jack
(18/m)

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Hey, ok well this is sort of extremley embarassing and I never thought Id find myself asking this question but here goes..
Im 16/f and I noticed with my previous boyfriend whenever he em fingered me it really hurt I thought it was just him at the time being rough so I said nothing and just pretended to enjoy it,afterwards I noticed specks of blood (by the way this was the first time id been fingered by a guy) the second time was ok but still a bit uncomfortable. Anyway me and that guy split a while back.Im now with a new guy nearly 3months in a few days. So tonight was the first night we kinda messed around and it was sore again when he fingered me and yet again the specks of blood. Now Im really freaked out because I know its me..whats wrong with me? its supposed to be enjoyable I dont want to have to pretend all the time and feel discomfort but god how awkward would it be bringing it up with him? I dont want to make him feel bad and Ive noo idea how to even say it oh like btw your sort of hurting me?
Im now so worried that when I decide I want to have sex it will really hurt..well I know it does the first time but you know after that this is really getting to me and I dont know what to do I feel so stupid for asking this question but I am worried..I want it to be fun for me to and not have to dread it the whole time..is it something that will pass and Il get used to or what?
Please someone help :(
itd be much aprciated thank you
x

If it's hurting you, you should tell him. It shouldn't be embarrassing, and besides, if you're going to be intimate with someone, even with just fingering, you need to be mature and talk about it with your partner. If you can't do that, then you probably shouldn't be doing this.

--Jack
(18/m)

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i went to the doctor and got a pap smear and my doctor said i have a yeast infection, but i have never had any itching or bad discharge or anything that seemed unusual...im very confused by this

I'm not a woman and I don't know much about yeast infections, but I'm fairly positive that your doctor isn't lying to you. You may have one, but maybe it just hasn't bothered you.

Would you rather it did? ;]

--Jack
(18/m)

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So ii am currently 14 ;; going to turn 15 in September of 2010 ;; ii had a job last summer && it was great pay && everything but they got a replacement for me since i didnt want to work over school time ;; ii am currently looking for a job for the summer time ;; ii have experience in all sorts of office work such as filing, computer work, scanning, pulling files, etc. I have some experience with microsoft word, excel, & powerpoint. I would love to earn $300+ for 2 weeks with a full time position ;; full time/part time doesnt matter to me. I really want a job to support my family. Any suggestions? Must be around North Hollywood [[91605]] OR Glendale [[91204]]!!! Thanks!

I agree with Melody. Most jobs that 14-17 year olds get are in food service. You can't get a lot of jobs until you're 18.

McDonald's isn't your only option. There's other fast food restaurants and there are probably a million Coney Island restaurants near you that might need waitresses.

You might be able to be a hostess at some of the bigger chain restaurants. But it probably depends on the restaurant.

Unfortunately you probably won't get an office job unless your mom or dad works in an office and needs an assistant or something. Also, being only 14, it's going to be hard to get hired, since you're so young.

--Jack
(18/m)

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ok so im keep telling myself im over my freind let's call him ron, i mean he is dating my friends lets call her tracy. Ron liked her a lot it was really annoying and i had feelings for him at the time. so i got those two together and im happy they are. but everytime i see them together i get this sharp pain in my chest for a moment and than im fine. the thing is i want to be over ron so bad i've like him to long and i need to move on, but i just can't. I DON'T KNOW WHY!! it is so freakin annoying. Its my last semester in high school and its time to tie up lose ends but this problem will not go away. what should i do? i thought getting together would help and i be over this but its just become worse. UGH HELP!!!

I think if you really really like Ron, then maybe you should tell him. But, you're going to have to deal with the consequences of liking a taken guy and admitting it to him.

But, you have to respect his choice if he stays with Tracy.

--Jack
(18/m)

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what are some websites where you can just create a list online?

Do you mean like a blog?

www.tumblr.com works well. You can post lists, photos, quotes, videos, etc. It's actually a lot of fun. =]

If that's not what you're looking for, let me know and I'll search for something else.

--Jack
(18/m)

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Mother Teresa
Attila
Romeo
Judas
Choose one of the allusions above or one of your own choice and write a paragraph or short situation in which the allusion enhances what you are trying to say. In other words, if you are writing a character sketch of someone who is compassionate and giving to others, you might want to refer to her as a “Mother Teresa” to help the reader identify with the kind of character you are creating. Do not just throw in an allusion that doesn’t add to your character or plot just so you can say you have used an allusion!

I am stumped and have no clue what to wright? I'm not asking for you to do my homework, but I'm asking for any ideas or help you might have so that I can get a good start
Help please I have no clue what to do!

Ok.

Romeo would be a guy who is romantic. Maybe he kills himself for love?

Judas would be someone who betrays someone.

Jesus would be someone who saves someone else or is completely wholesome.

Albert Einstein would be someone really smart or ingenious.

Does that make sense? Basically, write a short story about a character, and based on a dominant character trait of theirs, assign them a well-known character. =]

--Jack
(18/m)

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15/f

It's embarrassing to admit and I feel like a complete moron but I just learned that you're supposed to wear a condom while preforming oral sex on a guy. I've just started having sex and have gone down on the guy three times without protection and am freaking out. I never knew you were supposed wear a condom and somewhat assumed that it was only necessary during vaginal or anal sex. I never thought of oral and now, the more that I think about it, the more I feel like a complete idiot for not thinking of it earlier. I plan to use a condom from now on but am worried that I could have caught something? Also, would it be strange for me, now even after I've gone down on him three times without, to from now on ask him to put on a condom? And I know I probably sound completely naive but do most people use condoms while preforming oral because out of all the people I know who are sexually active, they've never said anything about it.
thanks.

It's always best to protect yourself.

It may be more pleasurable for the both of you if you don't use a condom, but it's best to be safe.

If you think it's too awkward to ask him, you probably shouldn't be doing this in the first place if you're not completely comfortable with talking about everything.

--Jack
(18/m)

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i have this friend shes 15 were not best friends but were friends she has a problem every time she gets a boyfriend she acts like there the best in the world and theres no one other guy in the world but i think this guys no good for her he keeps telling her they should have a kid that he really wants her to be his baby mama we told her that shes crazy why is she even thinking about the answer should be no but she just does not get it she thinks he loves her but we don't i mean he cheated on her who cheats i need your help how do i help a friend who does not understand

Sometimes, you have to let people make mistakes. I know you want to help your friend, but it sounds like you really aren't that good of friends.

I would say try one more time to sit down with her and talk sense into her. If she doesn't listen, it's time to just let her learn her lesson.

If you are really concerned about her, talk to her parents.

--Jack
(18/m)

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