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unprotected sex!!!

Question Posted Monday January 4 2010, 6:26 am


It's embarrassing to admit and I feel like a complete moron but I just learned that you're supposed to wear a condom while preforming oral sex on a guy. I've just started having sex and have gone down on the guy three times without protection and am freaking out. I never knew you were supposed wear a condom and somewhat assumed that it was only necessary during vaginal or anal sex. I never thought of oral and now, the more that I think about it, the more I feel like a complete idiot for not thinking of it earlier. I plan to use a condom from now on but am worried that I could have caught something? Also, would it be strange for me, now even after I've gone down on him three times without, to from now on ask him to put on a condom? And I know I probably sound completely naive but do most people use condoms while preforming oral because out of all the people I know who are sexually active, they've never said anything about it.

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WiseOldUnicorn answered Tuesday January 5 2010, 1:40 am:
Most people don't use condoms for oral, no. Personally, I find it very hard to do--I hate the taste of latex, and it makes me much likelier to gag (which is bad, since I have a terrible gag reflex to begin with).

With that said, however, you're really supposed to, because it IS possible to catch or give an STD from oral sex. If you're only doing it with one guy and you KNOW that you're both clean (get tested to be sure) and that you're the only one he's having any kind of sexual activity with, then it should be safe to do it without one. If you have multiple partners, don't know for sure that your partner(s) are healthy, and/or don't know for sure that you're your partner(s) only partner, you should use one. Better safe than sorry.

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Cux answered Monday January 4 2010, 8:23 pm:
It's always best to protect yourself.

It may be more pleasurable for the both of you if you don't use a condom, but it's best to be safe.

If you think it's too awkward to ask him, you probably shouldn't be doing this in the first place if you're not completely comfortable with talking about everything.


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happybabe2 answered Monday January 4 2010, 4:24 pm:
i've never used a condom during oral sex.. i don't know anyone who has either.. i don't think it's as uncommon or taboo as you think it is..

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MARICRUZ96 answered Monday January 4 2010, 2:28 pm:
Ok then i think you should go to a free clinic too get cheek. and no its not strange too ask him to put one on. think of this would you rather be safe or or have aids or hiv.

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poa answered Monday January 4 2010, 12:57 pm:
Realistically, you could probably get tested - and if you trust him enough to think he's not doing anything with anyone else - avoid the constant taste of latex in your mouth, and the awkward situation of asking him to wear a condom during oral.

I've never met anyone who used a condom for oral.

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loveydovey224 answered Monday January 4 2010, 12:05 pm:
Most people probably dont use condoms for oral. It's definitely a good idea to though, especially if you don't know the guy too well. If i were you i'd get tested for std's, although if you have something serious it probably wont show up. You should also talk to the guy about it if you're comfortable doing so. Like how many other girls he's messed around with and what not. And if you're the only girl he's doing sexual things with now then there isnt really much of a point in starting to wear them because if there is damage than it has probably already been done. But thats only if you know he's not doing stuff with someone else, so it might be a good idea to have him start wearing one if you dont trust him. He'll probably be annoyed by it but dont let him persuade you to not use one if you're not comfortable with it.

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