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HI, I'm 14 yrs old and the boy next door is cute, caring and spanish. He and I are friends and we are able to talk to each other without discomfit. He is also the same age.
I really like him and he act kinda that way too i think. Should I tell? Cause his family is moving back to Venzuela in Sout Amereica in a month?

Well, you might regret it if you don't tell him that you like him, and regretting is something really uncomfortable and like a nag. So tell him how you feel and if he is interested in a long distance relationship or whatever, and you are too, then maybe something will come out of it. Just tell him, and the two of you should make a decision, to either stay as friends because he is leaving or whatever.

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So ive been dating this guy for about a month and a half. He is really quiet! People say he is only like this around me. I understand that probably means he is just nervous around me, but this relaionship is getting a little strainuous because of it. Conversations are so awkward, the very little amount of times we have them. We dont go to the same school, so i only see him when we make a date, and thats really awkward too. We never have anything to talk about...
Idk it's just... tough.. anything would be helpful, just dont say hes just nerovus give him time cause i already got that, thanks ;)
elise 15/f

Some guys are really shy around the person they like, he most probably really likes you and is too afraid to say anything wrong to ruin anything, he doesn't really know that by him doing that, he's actually straining the relationship. Have you tried talking to him? Tell him you feel that he isn't interested, that should make him jump to his feet. Tell him how you feel basically, it's how you feel and no one can blame you for YOUR feelings! I'm sure he finds the conversations and dates awkward. Don't punish yourself if it isn't working, if you feel like it isn't then, tell him that, it probably was better being friends and nothing more. You never know, the two of you could probably really good friends, and the awkwardness would fade, and maybe, just maybe, something more than friendship will come out of it! If it has to.

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my bf says it's really hot when i finger myself, && i've heard it from a few guys..

i was just wondering. why is this so hot?

Some guys feel that, the ability for a woman to share something SO personal is a turn on, and so that is why they most probably feel it is so 'hot'!

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Is it bad to have sex everytime you're with your boyfriend? I'm 17 and he's 18. We've been dating for almost 1 year now and people say it's bad becuase they think that's all we do, But is it really so terrible?

I don't get why other people are so nosy, it is your business and no, it isn't bad, unless you are hurting yourselves. If you guys love each other where you want to express it sexually, then, only the 2 of you know how you feel, other don't, so they should mind their business. Plus it is private, and whether you talk or have sex only is really not their problem.

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I have a weird relationship with this guy,
See we were together for almost a year, and he broke up with me right before we hit our year anniversary.
The main fights between us was that he never had time to spend with me, although everything regardless of that was great. I love him a lot. And even after we broke up he still claims to love me.
After we broke up we had a weird week... it was weird because of the break up, but then after that it's like we never broke up, we still kiss and hold hands and have sex.. but everytime it comes up, or if someone asks, he says we're just friends.
He says that he's not ready to jump into the relationship again and he needs time.
He says he wants it to happen "naturally"
But the way I see it, we're pretty much already together since we still act the same way and do the same things we did when we were.
And it kills me when he says we're just friends, because he doesn't act as if we were.
He calls me and kisses me and tells me he loves me, and I love him a lot, so i don't see our relationship as just simply a friendship.
It makes me mad sometimes because i feel like he's ashamed to say i'm his girlfriend, and i want to tell him to screw off, but i can't. i love him too much.
any advice would be helpful

Well, from what I see, he is using you. He wants a friends with benefits type of relationship, and people always get hurt in the end. So draw the line, and tell him how you feel. Tell him it kills you when he says you're just friends. And you don't see it as proper friendship, proper friendship doesn't involve kissing or sex. So give him an ultimatum, whether it is you along with a proper and serious relationship, or, nothing. It does hurt girls, because we are more emotional and have a close relationship with our feelings, so these thins do hurt after some time. Just give him an option. Enough is enough.

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What are some hot sexy things I could whisper to my boyfriend when fooling around in the goal to turn him on and make him wanttt me?

You could say things that are playfully kinky. Like, "I'm wet", or, "I think you're turning me on". Guys kind of like it when they feel that they are turning on someone, whether they like or not, it doesn't matter. Just whisper anything playful that may lead to something sexual, if that is where you're heading. I think actions are the best way though, like touch him differently, with some passion on his shoulder or thigh, just make every touch something more than it seems!

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Ok. Well there was this guy at my school. I liked A LOT. I mean more than anyone I've ever liked and we're (my friends and me) almost positive he liked me. But the last day of school we found out he's movin back to his country! I cried for weeks. I'm still really bummed that whenever i hear his name. I have to choke back tears! Can someone please tell me what to do?!?

Well, the first thing to do when trying to get over a crush or anything, is to change your thinking! That is usually what is stopping you from healing and getting over a crush. So try to stop thinking about him! Keep reminding yourself that he is leaving, and remember, you never asked him if he liked you! It's just you and your friends that THOUGHT he did! And sometimes you can be mistaken! He could just be flirty, and not intending on anything. Sorry for just crushing you like this, but if you want to heal ASAP and completely, then, I suggest this is the way to go! :)
Go out with your friends and get flirty and friendly with other guys, and when you're with them, try to forget your crush! And just have a good time NOT thinking about him! Whenever you hear his name, remind yourself that he is going to a DIFFERENT country and you don't know for sure about him liking you!

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so there is this guy and we met in like november. we talked until like january. thats a long story. but we didnt talk at all until about a week ago i said i was sorry fo rbeing a jerk cause i had just stopped talkig to him. he was cool with it and stuff and we talked for 3 days and on the 3rd day i told him i think were going a little to fast, i mean we went from not talking at all to flirting and him saying he wants to shower with me... weird but he was like haha ok i understand. so i thought we were cool but now he doesnt answer my texts ive sent probably like 4 in the past 2 days and no answer. he didnt im me yesterday and today he did but its not a real conversation, we kinda like die out and dont have anything to talk about. idk why and im not good at conversations when i have to think of everything to say! he normally is very talkative! but not anymore. i like him but not if hes boring like this, i want the guy i was talking to the other day when we were all flirty and stuff

Well, I suggest you tell him that you HAD feelings for him and now they are fading because he has turned into someone else, and you don't mind him being all flirty and stuff again. I think the reason he backed down and is acting like another person is because you told him you guys were moving too fast and so he decided to just slow things, slow things to the point where it is just dead. So tell him how you feel and see what comes out of it. He may change and everything may be alright again, the guy you liked may come back!

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I like this guy, it's my boyfriends best friend... kind of bad I know. This guy really isn't what most would consider attractive hes a real big guy but i love his personality he's really cool.. i have noticed this more and more since my boyfriend treats me like crap. I don't think this guy would do that to his friend though.. what should I do about this...? I mean me and this guy hang out sometimes.. should I tell him wussup

First le your current boyfriend know that you don't have the feelings for him you once had, and that feelings are growing for someone else, and the main cause may be that your current boyfriend doesn't treat you the best way he should be, and you don't feel like he's treating you well. See what your current boyfriend says and/or does, if he changes or something. I feel that the main reason your feelings have changed was because your boyfriend began changing, so if you are still open to accepting your boyfriend if he changes, then you can do what you want, if not, then tell your boyfriend's friend that you like him. And then see how things work... :)

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Ever since my boyfriends x from high school *his first "love"* broke his heart he doesn't get attached to anyone or tell anyone his feelings how do i get him to open up to me? I really do care about him and I wont break his heart..

Firstly, for someone to open up with you, it starts with yourself. So you open up and tell him everything, it is really hard for him as it makes him vulnerable, which guys don't like being. Let him know that whatever he tells you is confidential and you won't tell your friends or anything, you have to embed trust in him first, a reason to trust you. Tell him how you feel and how he is just amazing to you. Constantly tell him how you feel and things like that, tell him things that you would like to know about him too. Once you have told him about how you would like him to open up and how you would like to help him with it too, after you have said all that to him, don't bug him anymore. Don't keep asking him, don't make it an issue. It is an issue, but don't make it anymore than it already is. I am sure he is kind of hurting inside and really afraid to let go and open up to you. So just let him know he is safe and you won't hurt him like his ex. Just a little nudge to let him know it is ok. Reassure him that you do care and that you would never hurt him on purpose!

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OK so me and my boyfriend have been together for a month and a half...i think...And he said he loves me. and i said it back. But then, i started to like him less and less. But when i told him i didnt love him but i liked him alot. He started crieing and telling me how bad i hurt him and that i crashed his heart and stuff. And i asked if he was going to break up with me. He said i lied to him and broke his heart...well i want to break up with him because i just dont think things are working out. And im scared he may do something. Because he gets over stuff fast. Because after that huge fight we had, the next day he acted as tho nothing happened. So what do i say.....

He probably burries all his pain and emotions deep down. So don't just think that he has gotten over it and everything is fine.
Did you take the time to explain to him that you did love him, only now, you like him alot, it is just that the feelings have faded and you're just not feeling it anymore. Tell him you most probably don't feel the relationship and the love as much as the beginning because you two haven't met in so long, and so that is probably why your feelings have changed and faded. That change of feeling is totally natural, you need to want to meet each other as often to keep the relationship blooming.

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i have been hooking up with a guy from college every night we go out...say once a month, but thats as far as it goes..every time i see him were both so embarsed.he txt me few times and i got so sick of it goin nowhere i asked him 4 coffee,,, we went and it was fine but he hasnt got in touch since...his mates make it really awkward slaggin us...i dont know if i should jus forget him and end it...i know hes shy but does it sound like he doesnt care... well be goin out next wk again how do i find out wat he thinks?

Just be straigh forward and ask him, do you like me? And if he is too shy to say yes or anything then I suggest you just move on, forget him as anything more than just a friend. It will be his loss. But, if he says yes, that he likes you. The tell him you'll need more from him if he is going to want to be with you, more as in, he is going to have to be more open and not so shy with you. You must help him with his openness and comfort with you.

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How do i tell my boyfriend that i'm cheating on him?


Signed,
confused chicky
female

There really isn't an easy way to break it up to him, so just say it, straight forward. It is bad as it is, and he will be heart broken, if he really liked you, and there won't be much you can do.

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ok well me and my boyfriend are going out for about 5 days now and i like him and all..its just i dont get to see him..like at all..i dont know if i should break up with him because i like him but then i dont its weird what should i do?

Have you spoken to him? You have to tell him how you feel and what you would like, and if he can't cater for that need then, I guess you should just move on...

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ok so recently, through a mutual friend, i found out this guy liked me. me and him are hanging out along with taht mutual friend and one of my friends on friday night because i dont know him that well but i am positive he likes me becuase he has told a lot of people and hes super nice. i was talking to this mutual friend of mine recently, though, and she said something with him was new, but i would find out in a couple of weeks, and it was not her place to tell me because he should tell me himself. later that day i talked to another mutual friend of mine and she said he would have a surprise for me that i would get a hint to the next couple of days. i thought this meant he was going to ask me out relatively soon after we hang out because i know he likes me but my friends will not give me one hint. if u have any idea what this could mean, please help! thanks!

I can't say what it is because I don't know him or the mutual friend, I guess he wants the surprise to be genuine, so just be patient and it'll come... That way your reaction is much more real.

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i had a boyfriend fo 2 years we went through a lot he stole my phone i called the cops he put a restraining order on me because he thought i would press charges after all that and not talkng to him for 3 weeks i still love him and will look past it to be with him. he talked to me when hehad the restraining order on me sayinghow much he loves me and wants to be with me. He said he wanted to start talking to me but then he started being a jerk like he used to be and we would fight and he would say not to talk to him anymore. its hard to move on i dont want to and i dont want to give up should i look at the logic because after all hes done anyone would move on or should i stick withmy heart because i love him and i know he loves me we just argue a lot and take things way too far

I suggest you move on, after everything he has done he still says he loves you?! IF he did, he wouldn't have done what he did int he first place! The first step in getting over someone and moving on, is removing the idea that he still loves you. Just think about it, if he did, would he put a restraining order on you, it is just gone too far, and stealing a phone! Whether you like it or not, it still makes him a thief! Second, avoid all contact with him, if he calls don't pick up, but tell him first, that you are moving on and that it is a decision of your own.
Emotions are altered by logic and thought, so alter them by changing your way of thinking of him.

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my boyfriend is making me meet his family and friends it has only been 1 week into our relationship at the time.

now he wants me to meet some more friends and his sister and its been 21/2 weeks into our relationship

im coming off as shy because i dont know what to say or how to talk to them because i feel like we are rushing it. he on the other hand doesnt think so

how can i open up to his family and friends more.

what can i talk to them about or say because i want to be around them bc i really do like this guy so please help as much as possiblE

Maybe talk to them about work. Always show interest in the kids and just be really friendly and open (to a certain extent), be warm, give hugs and smiles whenever and wherever. Help whenever!! Offer to set the table and clean up and things like that, if you're sleeping at their house, make your bed every morning and leave the toilet clean. As they all say actions speak louder than words.
By the way, your boyfriend is probably really close to his family, and so he's really excited he has something to perfect, and so he wants to share it with them. This may not even be something big like, meeting the family for marriage or anything, it is probably just a get-to-know my girlfriend, just bluntly because I think she's perfect and I want everyone to know.

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What are some good conversations to have with guys (on the phone, in person, or on the computer)? I am always at a loss for words and conversations with them.

I think being comfortable and saying whatever comes to mind keeps the conversation going, guys like openness, so if you're willing to be open and say whatever that comes to mind, it should work! Don't hold back...

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my boyfriend is active and outgoing. he likes to go out and pretty much do anything. uve gone on dates to the park movies dinner golf but what else can i do with him to make our relationship to where he likes it? he likes sports as well but he likes everything lol!

Why don't you join him and show him that you like some of his type of fun too. Play rugby or something something physical that he'd enjoy and something fun, you will enjoy it too. Don't be afraid to get dirty and just have fun the good old fashioned way! :D Roll in the sand... Or, go swimming, have him throw you in or whatever, try kissing under water... Anything RANDOM and that comes to mind at that moment, that shows you're outgoing side (which everyone has) and the side that, you love to spend time with him, whatever the heck it is! It's great that he likes ANYTHING, so it leaves you with the choice to do what YOU want! A simple walk around the neighbourhood can't be terrible, so try it out! I advise you to just try out anything spontaneously, it reveals the desire for spontaneous fun!

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My boyfriend and i have been dating for 3 yrs. And he has never acted this strange. Lately he has been very mean and he hasn't been thinking about my feelings. This morning he started being nice to me again and that lead to sex.. After that he was being a total jerk. I talked to him about it and said that it bothered me and it felt like he has been using me. He then yelled at me and said "It's because....NEVERMIND!" I asked him what he was going to say and he just said forget about it i'll talk to you when i get off of work (which is in 12 hours). He then walked out of the house and slammed the door. He turned off his phone too. I just don't know what to do because now in this relationship anything he says goes. I feel like i don't have a say in anything anymore. I feel really used and i also feel like he doesn't trust me and i haven't done anything to destroy that trust. One time he accused me of cheating on him because i felt "loose". When i have been sooo loyal to him. And it hurts my feelings when he says that because i haven't done anything wrong. I really don't know what to do to prove to him that i'm not cheating. I'm also really frustrated b/c i feel like i need to talk to him now and work things out. But it's so easy for him to just ignore me. At the end of all our fights i'm always the one apologizing, even when i didn't do anything wrong. What should i do?

Stop apologising! If he finds you as someone bothering rather than a caring person, then... Maybe this relationship has run its course?! If all this is happening and he isn't going to do anything about it, FOR YOU, then, what is the point, don't you think?
I don't feel he actually has a proper reason when he says "It's because... NEVER MIND!" I suggest you wait for when he gets back, you both talk about it and see what comes out of it - he decides to change, because if he only acts nice when he wants sex and things like that, that isn't very good is it?!
Relationships fail because of the lack of communication. So talk to him first, tell him EVERYTHING... Like how you don't feel like he trusts you, AND you have NEVER done anything to lose it, and mainly because, you can't talk to him anymore, and what is the point of a relationship if communication is out of it?!
I understand where you're coming from and I totally sympathise with you.

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