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logiv or emotions?!
i had a boyfriend fo 2 years we went through a lot he stole my phone i called the cops he put a restraining order on me because he thought i would press charges after all that and not talkng to him for 3 weeks i still love him and will look past it to be with him. he talked to me when hehad the restraining order on me sayinghow much he loves me and wants to be with me. He said he wanted to start talking to me but then he started being a jerk like he used to be and we would fight and he would say not to talk to him anymore. its hard to move on i dont want to and i dont want to give up should i look at the logic because after all hes done anyone would move on or should i stick withmy heart because i love him and i know he loves me we just argue a lot and take things way too far
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I suggest you move on, after everything he has done he still says he loves you?! IF he did, he wouldn't have done what he did int he first place! The first step in getting over someone and moving on, is removing the idea that he still loves you. Just think about it, if he did, would he put a restraining order on you, it is just gone too far, and stealing a phone! Whether you like it or not, it still makes him a thief! Second, avoid all contact with him, if he calls don't pick up, but tell him first, that you are moving on and that it is a decision of your own.
Emotions are altered by logic and thought, so alter them by changing your way of thinking of him.
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People always talk about the head vs the heart, but I am of the opinion that that is an ignorant way of thinking. The heart does not feel. It pumps blood. The brain does everything. Thoughts and feelings are not separate. They are two extremely important parts of decision making.
Emotions should never be ignored. Thoughts that are not based on your feelings are not really your own thoughts - they are information or advice that you have collected from others that you insist on repeating over and over to yourself regardless of weather or not it applies to you and your situation. This is why many people squirm over following their head - they aren't following their head, they are following someone else's.
Real thoughts are based on your feelings. The entire concept of thinking is to take your emotions and analyze them. This is a thought. Rejecting your feelings and doing what others call logical is not thinking. It is just being a sheep.
That being said, if you love the guy and he loves you, you should probably try talking to him about it. You obviously have some issues with honesty (he stole your phone) and with getting alone (all of the arguments), but if you want to be with each other, it is possible to work through those problems.
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