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Boyfriend opening up.
Ever since my boyfriends x from high school *his first "love"* broke his heart he doesn't get attached to anyone or tell anyone his feelings how do i get him to open up to me? I really do care about him and I wont break his heart..
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time. it really is that simple. i'm the same way as your boyfriend is, and my [ex]-boyfriend used to get so mad at me that i wouldn't open up to him. i hated that, and it didn't help me to open up any quicker. everytime we'd fight, he'd make it a point to bring that up and throw it in my face like i just chose to not open up to him. give it time, he has to LEARN that he can trust you, it's not going to just come overnight. like the others said, being open about yourself will help alot and make him feel more at ease. it could take a long time, i know in my case it did, but just dont push the issue and remind him often that you care about him & he can trust you. overtime he'll open up.
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I agree that first you need to open yourself up to him in order for him to feel comfortable opening up to you. So, start talking to him and involving him in more personal issues. Show that you're ok going to him when you need somebody to talk to.
Then, sit down and have a serious conversation with him. Tell him that you truly care about him, and you want your relationship to be open, you WANT him to be able to talk to you about anything. Let him know you're always there to listen, but don't force him to share everything he's feeling with you. When he's ready, he'll start talking =]
-Laura. (16-f)
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Firstly, for someone to open up with you, it starts with yourself. So you open up and tell him everything, it is really hard for him as it makes him vulnerable, which guys don't like being. Let him know that whatever he tells you is confidential and you won't tell your friends or anything, you have to embed trust in him first, a reason to trust you. Tell him how you feel and how he is just amazing to you. Constantly tell him how you feel and things like that, tell him things that you would like to know about him too. Once you have told him about how you would like him to open up and how you would like to help him with it too, after you have said all that to him, don't bug him anymore. Don't keep asking him, don't make it an issue. It is an issue, but don't make it anymore than it already is. I am sure he is kind of hurting inside and really afraid to let go and open up to you. So just let him know he is safe and you won't hurt him like his ex. Just a little nudge to let him know it is ok. Reassure him that you do care and that you would never hurt him on purpose!
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