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Gender: Female
Occupation: Microbiologist
Age: 24
Member Since: May 3, 2006
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Last Update: September 8, 2006
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My mom won't let me date till I'm 18 whicu basically is never cause once I'm 18 I can date anyways so its never I want to tell her 13 is a good age but I'm too scared of a NO and I just need advice on how to tell her and what I should tell her like reasons point and ideas please help I do not want to get my first bf and 30 or my first kiss at 28 please help me...
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13 is far too young in my opinion. I think 16 is a good age to start going out on dates, for mature teens anyway. When I was your age I agreed with you totally and thought my mom was a total bitch for impossing those rules on me. Well guess what? Now I'm 24 and I am surrounded by single parents and divorced friends everywhere I turned. Why? People get into relationships before they are old and mature enough to really make intelligent decisions. Listen to your mother!
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my mom married my stepdaddy a couple of months of go and i told my friends about it at school and now everybody at school is making fun of me becouse my mom married a black guy iam not racist and i don't see what's wrong with a white person marrying a black guys it's just the color of your skin and we can't help it god made us that way,but how can I make my friends see it that way? (link)
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Who cares what those asses think? You guys are happy and of course there isn't anything wrong with it. People just are afraid of what is different. Ignore them.
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OK, this may seem like a weird question, but, I would just like other opinions about this subject. Now, I understand when it is cold outside, the importance of bundling up your kids so that they are not cold. Plain & simple, but, I am just getting so sick of people saying, "where's her hat, she's gonna get sick!" Just things like that. I believe that you get sick from the GERMS & VIRUSES in the air. Not just the cold weather. I mean how can just getting wet from the rain make you sick? How can you get colds just from some cool air? If that was the case, why don't we get sick from the fans & air conditioning? Because, it is what's IN the air that makes us sick, not just the air itself! I would really like any & all feedback on this because I don't have anything to back up my theory. It's just one persons opinion. Thank You. (link)
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I'm a microbiologist. You are right, bacteria and viruses cause illness but cold environments and "in and out" of cold weather wears down the immune system of the body (especially fragile children) and yes, that will make it much more likely that your child will get sick. You should most definitely bundle them up when you leave the house in the winter.
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my bf whos 38 and his son (14)have lived with me (37)for 9 months he just this month got a job
has not offered any financial help at all .
then yesterday he came home from work and said he was taking his two dogs to the desert. 10 hrs later at 1am he came back told me he was working on a new place to live and he had to bring dogs over to meet some one. then he says hell be moving in two weeks (by the way he looked like he just woke up) should i throw him out now or try to make things better weve been rocking this relationship for 7 yrs of witch he has only worked 3 of those years.so im the one always paying for everything i do love him but i feel he is using me and now that i made him get a job hes gone. so my question is should i wait the two weeks or get it on now (link)
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Sound to me like not only is he using you but he might have someone on the side. And on top of all that, he doesn't seem to want to be with you anymore. You should let him leave and be glad of it. I know it's hard when a relationship has lastest that long but from what you said, you sound like you'd be much better off.
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Right. This could be a bit long.
For the last few days/weeks, I have been thinking about having a baby. Me and my boyfriend are very happy and it definatly looks like we will be together for a long time. He has mentioned before bout kids and stuff. but I always said to him that I would but not yet. I am only 17 years old and I have got a 2 year course at collage coming up. also i dont know if he would actually want a kid yet.
but I have been thinking and I would really love to have a kid.
Can someone please help me change my mind because I know I'm to young to have a kid and I probly wouldn't be able to cope. Even though I'm pretty sure my mum would help me out if I did have a child.
Please help me change my mind because I really want a kid but I am only 17.
Any advise would be brilliant.
Thanks
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Your child deserves the best, right? Well, the best isn't having a mother and father who are still too young to even drink and aren't married. The best isn't needing your mother to help support you. You need to finish school (college too) and get a respectable and financially stable career. You need to make sure that you aren't missing out on life first. You may think this is what you want, but believe me when you are in your 20's and everyone around you is living it up and you can't leave the house, you'll regret it. Chances are very slim that you and your boyfriend will last forever, and I hate to say it (I know it's cliche) but it's hard to find love as a single parent. Most people would rather not get involved in all that. It's a romantic notion at your age but honey, the novelty wears off very very quickly.
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If I don't like a person for a good reason, usually my best friend doesn't either. (I'm not saying she has too, she just .. doesn't like them) She'll say bad stuff about them, totally hate them, and be completley rude to them. Then when I hate them the most, she'll go off and be friend with them and tell them she lied about not liking them for my sake.
It really sucks cause then those people hate me more, my best friend sucks up to them, and I'm left alone! What should I do? (link)
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Your friend is fake, to her and to you. I personally hate that but I think you should give her the benefit of the doubt in that maybe she really did just want to make you feel better when she was agreeing with you. Tell her that you would never force her to choose who to be friends with and she doesn't have to be dishonest to spare your feelings. Tell her that when you vent about this girl, she doesn't have to agree, just listen. That's what friends are for.
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Are tacos good in a diet are they unhealthy or healthy (link)
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Tacos are awesome if you make them yourself at home. Be sure to buy shells that are low fat (or fat free) and high fiber if you can. Add chicken breast (not ground beef) fresh vegitables and salsa. Try it with low fat cheese and fat free sour cream. It's healthy and even taste better then taco bell.
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I am overweight by about 40-50 pounds. Up until 2 days ago, I could take out a 2 liter of soda like it wasnt nothing. I've started drink water (for the first time in ages) and am trying to kick the soda habit. My back hurts constantly, to the point where it consumes all my thoughts. I need help. I'm also a 38DDD cup size. Someone tell me what to do I cant take this back pain ANYMORE! I also smoke. Yea I know I'm destroying myself! Right now I'm willing to do anything. I'd rather not quit smoking right now though because I suspect I need to lose the weight and stuff and I can't kick everything at once! I rate!! (link)
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You need to eat 5 or 6 small, healthy and low fat mini meals each day to keep your metabolism at it's highest (this will cause you to loose weight, believe it or not). You back almost certainly hurts because of your large breasts...outside of dramatic and expensive surgery there are two things you can do about that. 1) loose weight, your breast size will naturally decrease and be more managable for your body and 2) exercise. This will obvious help with the weight loss and also strengthen your back muscles to withstand the weight of your breasts. You are doing wonderful by kicking the soda habit by the way.
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Anybody got any suggestions on how to quit smoking? I've been doing it since I was 15 and I'm 24 now. I smoke a pack a day and I really want to quit. I'm trying to get pregnant so I know I need to and now's the time. Cold Turkey didnt work for me even though that may be the best way to go. It seems like I'll quit for a day or so then something I consider to be "hectic" happens and I feel like I cant concentrate or fix whatever problem I'm having until I smoke. All idea's would be helpful and I'll definatly take into consideration. Thanks. (link)
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I tried a lot of things, but the gum was the only thing that really worked. It is still really easy to slip up if you have a bad day or are around friends who smoke. Just don't go out and buy yourself a pack when you want just one, see if you can just bum one- otherwise you'll smoke the whole pack (because it's there) and be back to square one. Another tip when you first start to quit- go away someplace new, like on vacation. The change of environment will disrupt your regular habits and it's easier to just not smoke and use the gum instead. When you get back, you've alread past the physical withdrawl stage and all your craving will be only pyschological.
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Tomorrow is my first day of school and i'm really excited. But I have to get up at 5 in the morning to get ready and leave for the bus stop at 6:20ish. Problem is my shower is broken and we can't get the repairs done till 10 in the morning tomorrow.. ughh. My mom is letting me use her shower in her room but I can't until her boyfriend gets up 5:45! I really can't wait that long because it takes me an hour to get ready. It's not like I can't do some things before I take a shower like putting on my make-up, clean my ears, and stuff. I asked my mom nicely if she could get up at 5 and so could her boyfriend just for one day. And it's only a half hour difference. She started flipping out on me too. Do you honestly think I'm being selfish? and how can I convince her?, I've already cleaned the whole house! thanks for advice. (link)
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I wouldn't get up early it it were me. Why can't you shower at night?
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My 50-something year-old boyfriend lives in a household with his 80+-year old mother and a brother, also in his 50's. Last year his 50+ year old sister moved in with her daughter (his niece) and the daughter's 3 year-old son. (The niece has four other children who reside elsewhere.)
Recently, the niece moved out to live with a man but did not take the child. Now the family is in an uproar, claiming they don't want to take care of the 3 year old left behind by his mom.
I don't plan to get personally involved because these are dysfunctional, toxic people with bad attitudes. He keeps asking me for advice on what to do with the child, and he's angry that the niece (who obviously has problems) has left them with her responsibility. He also doesn't want his sickly 80 year old mother involved in the day-to-day care of a 3 year old child.
I am worried about the long-term psychological effects on a child who's being rejected by both his mother, grandmother, his uncles, just because they are angry with the mother. What confusion that child must be feeling, with all the hostility around him and an absent mother (his father is in jail)! This is how criminals and serial killers are made...
I say the kid gets abused if they force the mother to take him, gets abused if he's forced into foster care by the state, gets abused if the family is forced to keep him when they don't want to.
Do I sit and watch this horror unfold, walk away from them all and/or secretly call the authorities? I just can't seem to turn my back on this child.... (link)
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Yes, it is a no win situation but it seems obviously that the mother's priorities reside elswhere and the child would be unloved and neglected with her. This is often the case with foster care as well, so I would say that ought to be a last resort. It is unresonable for an elderly woman to care for such a young child as well. It looks as though the uncles need to maek a tough choice, can they bite the bullet and care for her? Maybe foster care is the best, as long as those family members who do care about her keep in contact and monitor the situation. At least then it would be harder for mom to randomly decide that she wants her child back one day.
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wat are some foods that have protein that you eat for breakfest (like a banana)help (link)
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eggs, lean meats, lean dairy products, nuts, beans, peanut butter.
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I was at work yesterday at the college I go to and there was a high school recruitment thing going on. This girl and her friend asked me a question about the Ticketmaster we had and I gave them the number for it. When I found out they wanted tickets to a country concert, one of the girls said she hated country. When she said she like Pink Floyd and stuff, I jokingly said "Haha what's your number? J/K" Well a few minutes later, her friend gave it to me. This girl isn't that attractive and goes to a high school far away from the college I go to. I didn't know that at the time and asked her out for coffee. When I confronted her about the high school thing, she got all sad and shit and said you prolly won't talk to me again. I'm not that mean and I said we should still go for coffee. She will not stop text messaging me. I don't know how to politely tell her I don't want to do this anymore and to get her to leave me alone. I don't want to hurt feelings but this has to stop. Any little interest I may have had in getting to know this girl has quickly evaporated. How do I tell her to buzz off? (link)
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Simply don't reply or contact her again, she'll get the hint eventually. It's no big deal and I wouldn't worry about "letting her down easy", this type of thing happens all the time to normal people so I'm sure she'll learn to deal with it.
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okay well i'm 14/f and i babysit for my neighbors who have two girls who are 4 & 2. now thats its summer and i don't have school, i've been babysitting A LOT. it feels like they are overworking me! i'm always so stressed out when i have to go there. the girls can not share togother and then it ends up with the youngest girl crying. and when she crys she SCREAMS! i can't stand it. i'm always babysitting for hours and they are always late when they come home. they also aren't very considerate about me missing meals. like they will have me work from 4-7 and that is like right in the middle of when i would eat dinner, and all they have at their house is junk food. like over the weekend i was babysitting from 9:30 - 3:30. also i'm always worrying that the dad will get mad at me if one of the kids falls asleep. i mean they pay me good ( 8 dollars and hour ), and the kids love me, but i always stress out about going over there.
i don't want to stop babysitting for them, because that would also leave them without a babysitter. but i need ways to help me not stress out as much about babysitting. like this week they only told me that they will need me to babysit thursday from 5-6, but then today i saw the mom and she said that their oldest daughter who is 16 will be going on vacation this whole week and that they will need me to babysit tuesday, thursday, and friday from 9-1! omg and i'm already stressing out about it! HELP!! (link)
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Obviously this is too much for you to handle, so tell them you can on do it on certain day (i.e. monday- thursdays) or certain hours (I can NOT come until 3 and MUST leave by 7) and bring your own food to eat. Or quit and find another family that is more calm (and pays you more, that really doesn't seem like enough). Don't worry about leaving them with a sitter, they are grown people who can take care of themselves.
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Well, I have to shorten this a bit, as I could go on and on, but basically the story goes like this: One day, as I was sitting in my apartment, I began to hear some teenage girls talking about me throug the walls of the building. I found this strange, but stranger as I came to find they were discussing my thoughts. As time went on, I started hearing them in the shower, then at work and while doing other things. They told me they were psychics at first, and that I was psychic as well. I started hearing family and friends drop by every once in a while in my mind as well. It took me a while, but I finally realized the whole thing was a sham, and that I was being spoken to not by man, but by spirits. At that point, I addressed them as demonic, but having little faith in the idea (Christianity being abandoned due to a hypocritical upbringing), was NOT able to banish them in the name of the Lord. Their words are mostly torment, or "taunting" as they once put it, but at times they are nice, and joke around or have even encouraged me. The thing is, they are liars, and always have been, and they will NOT leave. I don't see any good here, I'm sure these spirits are unclean. Any advice? Looking for something unconventional, if possible. Thanks. (link)
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You are almost certainly a Schizophrenic, especially if this started while you were in you mid to late teen or early 20's. You gave a lot of people negative feedback for suggesting this but it's actually a pretty textbook example of an auditory hallucination- the most common form of hallucination.
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Ok I always wondered if store clerks we allowed to go through costomers' purses & bags.I live in Missouri & I wonder if that`s the law or something. I heard that if the clerks do go through someones bag & they find nothing that was stolen they/the store can be sued. (link)
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It's illegal without the customer's permission.
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Im a guy,17,and i'm only 5'6.So do you guys have any idea what age guys stop growing?And what do I take to help my growing? calcium? protien? what type of food should I eat and what exercises should I do? (link)
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There is nothing you can do, and you are probably close to your maximun height. You might grow up to another inch or so, but now is the time to start accepting it.
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Alright this may say pretty gross but oh well..When I poop it hurts on the left side(on a scale to 1 to 5 its a bout a 3) and when i get done i wipe and its bloody, Do I have anything wrong? I don't try to push it out or anythin i just let it rip.. lol (link)
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OF COURSE there is something wrong, go see a doctor!
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Okay, this isn't the easiest thing for me to ask but it's pretty much anonamous, so here it goes. I'm completely unhappy with my privates. It's a point of severe lack of confidence for me and i have no clue what i can do about it. I am most hesitant about being intimate with anyone because of the way i look down there. It grosses *me* out. And it often hurts to masturbate because of the little, erm, flappers. I think they're called labia? They are all messy looking, and messy feeling as well. I don't feel like this is normal at such a young age.
Well I'm not sure what, if anything, i can do about this. Does fixing this problem absolutely require plastic surgery, or is there anything else i can do? Please help me! I am at a complete loss as for what i can do about this, and i think i mentioned already it takes *such* a toll on my confidence!
Sorry for the length of this, and I appreciate anyone who helps me out, greatly.
Also i apologize if this is the wrong category, but it seemed to fit better here than elsewhere. (link)
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Your problem isn't the way you look but the way you feel about yourself. Who are you comparing yourself to, and why? Why do you think you look so bad, and messy? Nothing you described sounded the slightest bit unusual to me, I think you need to spend more time accepting yourself and learning to love that area of your body, not trying to change it.
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i am into a long distant relationship. my girl is in school (university). i dont see her often but i talk with her several times everyday. most times when i call at night she is usually with a guy she calls her casual friend, hanging outside her hostel with him till as late as midnight, almost every night. i asked if the guy doesnt have a gilrfriend to hang with and she says he doesnt. i have had haggles with her about 3 times asking if she is dating the guy but she insists that they are only friends and even says the guy is looking forward to meeting me and taking me out whenever i come to visit her. she even once asked if she should give the phone to the guy so that i talk to him but i was too angry to reply her at that time. i dont know if she is telling the truth. how can i find out if she is telling the truth? is it right for me to ask the guy outright (on the phone or in person) if he is dating her? i will be going to spend one or two nights in the town she is schooling from Monday. (link)
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I'd say that she probably isn't right now but that is most definitely the path that she is going down. Ask yourself how much you are willing to put up with, and why she isn't doing more to ease your fear (I.E. stop hanging out with him). If he is just a friend then her relationship with you and your feelings would be more important.
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