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what should i wear to a rockish concert, with fall out boy? It will probably be warm, but idk what to wear. helpp!

p.s. i dont have a jean skirt or jean shorts..just normal jeans.. thankss

wear normal jeans and a t-shirt. You don't want to wear a sweater, jacket, or any type of clothing that will get in your way. Absolutely no jewelry. Don't bring a purse either, keep your money and cell phone in your pockets. As for shoes, wear comfortable shoes like converse or sneakers. Don't wear heels. I also recommend you don't wear make up. You're gonig to be in a crowd filled with sweaty people who push each other. THe last thing you want to wear is a skirt, heels, or make up(it'll smear). Jewely will get in your way and a purse is a hassle(or will get stolen)

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are hiv and aids the same thing? or what are they im confused

HIV is a virus that destroys your white blood cells. Without your white blood cells, you cannot fight infectious diseases. Once HIV has destroyed a lot of your blood cells, you are diagnosed with aids(aquired immune defiency syndrome) It means that you no longer have enough white blood cells that your body needs to fight off diseases. Once HIV leads up to AIDS, it takes way longer for the person with aids to fight off diseases. This is why people who have AIDS often die of infections such as pneumonia(the body cannot fight the invaders due to lack of white blood cells)

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hey,
i've had a crush on my best guy friend ever since...around fourth grade we've been really tight ever since then, but ive always felt a little more for him, now for the past couple months he's been flirting a lot with me and calling me a whole lot more..his best friend asked me today would you rather be best friends or date him. his friend sent me a convo between them saying that he wanted to ask me out...i really want to say yes but would that destroy our friendship?

I tend to stay away from dating advice but here's what I think.

There's a chance it could actually destroy your friendship when a good guy friend likes you and you refuse him. It just makes things awkward. However, if you guys are both really mature and cool with each other, it shouldn't damage your friendship.

But if he likes you, and since you feel the same way about him, then dating him might actually be a very fun thing to try out.

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My allergies are acting up really bad. My nose is stopped up, my throat is scratchy, and I can't stop sneezing! I would usually just wait for it to blow over, but I'm a singer and I have a performance TONIGHT. What can I do to clear it up for just a couple of hours?! I'm desperate!

Go to your local pharmacist and ask for anyting with anti histamines.

Thanks for the one rating. In case you didn't know, one thing that causes allergies is the dilation of blood vessels. If you take something with anti histamines in it, it reduces the dilation of the blood vessels temporarily and well hence temporarily stop the signs of having allergies.

Of course if taking the proper medicine to stop allergies isn't good enough for you, you can hang up pictures of naked men or women at the back of the crowd. Looking at naked people tends to prevent people from coughing or sneezing.

yeah antihistaminse make you sleepy, but if you're going ot be on stage, you're going to have at least some aldrenaline running, which tends to keep people awake. Unless if you go way over the recommended amount, you shouldn't be so sleepy that it's going to affect you. As for your sore throat, drink juice(preferably apple) before the play and inbetween acts. If you cough, take cough drops. If that fails, hang up the naked pictures in the back.

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What's a good amount of lunges to do? I don't want to do too little. If I did reps of 25/30?

It depends on what you are going for. If you want to increase size, I'd recommend putting on heavy weight, and doing 4 sets of 5 reps each. Set the weight so the last set is very difficult to do, and the last 2 reps of the last set feel extremely difficult.

If you don't want size and just want strength, I'd recommend 4 sets of 12 reps with weight. Once again, set it so the last set is difficult.

Reps of 25/30 won't do much unless if you're trying to lose fat on your legs. If you want strength, do what i mentioned above.

Other leg exercises you can try are squats, leg press, calf raisers, stairs, etc..

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when will the apocalypse take place? i heard that it will happen in feb. of 2027. that's in like, 20 years! is it true?

Mayan calendar says december 21st 2012

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i cant take school anymore. its annoying the shit out of me, and its getting harder and harder every day, especially math and science. ive always wanted to go to college and have a good futute but im now beginning to think that all of that doesnt matter anymore since i hate school SOO much. i dont understand ANYTHING in math, and i pay attention too. i fail EVERY quiz and my math grade was a B- last week, so this week's progress report i'm probably gonna get a D. my effed up teacher gives a quiz EVERY week i am not kidding. every week, we have a quiz or test in math and science and in science the questions are so fucking hard, they arent in the science book, they arent on google, they arent anywhere. i just dont know what the hell to do. i dont wanna talk to anyone or my parents or a school councelor or teacher. help me please.

First of all, there are special ways to study that can help you with school. Find a tutor and he/she can teach you some tricks.

Secondly, let's just assume you are the dumbest, non disabled person in the world. Even the dumbest nondisabled person in the world can make it past highschool and into college. All you need is a 2.0 average GPA to get into a college(although it will be a crappy college, but a college nonetheless). 2.0 is ridiculously easy. You can not show up for class but do all your homework and show up for the tests(and even fail them) and get a 2.0. Although i don't recommend you try to slide by the easily in highschool.

ANd why don't you want to talk to a teacher or parent? If you care that much about your future, you should be risking the embarrassment or awkwardness of asking for help.

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ok so im 100 lbs and in the 8th grade, and i want to be smaller. i used to be the thinnest of all... then i gained. i want to be the SMALLEST of everyone i know, and i know i can do it b/c i have before. i really want to become anorexic, PLEASE, ive heard all about how it screws you up and stuff, but i want ways to BECOME anorexic, not people telling me the dangers i already know all that. if youve been anorexic before, please tell me how you did it, b/c i want to be! i havent eaten all day and when i do, i just throw it up. i dont seem to be seeing much of a difference, so please tell me how to be anorexic.

Seeking therapy is an excellent way to develop symptoms of anorexia.

Anorexia also fails, it gets you skinny but not the beautiful type of skinny. It gets you bloated.

Anyways, you sound pretty desperate, so here is some real help. I'll tell you abotu the girls I've known and what they did to starve themselves. Please read this, especially the end. Don't think I'm trying to tell you not to starve yourself, because i'll mention a few secrets to starving yourself to in the true stories i'll tell you, so read carefully.

I've met a lot of girls wiht eating disorders, most of them I didn't know very well and couldn't care less about. I just hoped they didn't have kids so their genes wouldn't plague the gene pool of future generations.

One that I did care about was bulimic and anorexic. She was also in the 8th grade, just like you, when it happened. She wouldn't eat. When she did eat, she would go gag herself. If she ate a resturant, she would excuse herself to the bathroom and gag herself in there. She lost 50 pounds over a summer. No one thought she was beautiful, they all thought she was a freak, too horrendously skinny to the point where her self proclaimed beauty was just hideous in everyone elses eyes. Anyways, one day, she didn't ahve the energy to stand up at school. THey took a wheelchair and wheeled her out. They sent her to a hospital where she was fed through a tube(I heard it's fun). She went to therapy and rehab. She's made a complete recovery over 1 year. She's thankful she recovered, she called her eating disorder a living hell. She never attained the thiness she wanted because when you have an eating disorder, you're never too thin, even when you're 2 hours away from death.

Another girl I knew was anorexic as well as bulimic. She was eventually forced to go to rehab to check up on her weight. She would cheat the system by drinking half a gallon of water before getting weighed so she would gain water weight(which you lose quickly as you piss it out). She was very thin. On graduation day, when she walked to the podium, every fucking voice in the crowd whispered to one another about how horrendous she looked. Since she tried to lose weight by not eating, her body did the only natural thing it does when it doens't get enough nutrients.

1. Hair thins
2. Arm hair starts developing
3. Skin pales
4. Body bruises easier, looks like an abused child
5. belly protrudes outwards after drinking

Number 5 might strike you as odd, but when you're anorexic and you drink water, your belly will protrude out like a pregnant lady. It's not pretty.

Anyways, that girl got treatment over the summer and she eventually got better.

What did those two girls have in common though? They were fucked up insecure little bitches. One of them was raped and she was very self conscious. Another one had problems of some type at home. Emotional problems led to them venting out their frustration at life through eatnig disorders. They felt that if they were thin, all their problems would go away. The problem with anorexia is that even when you do become extremely, thin, you don't think you are thin enough and constantly want to lose weight. This happens up until the point you get help, or die. The fatality rate is very high for anorexia by the way. I believe it's the number 1 killers of teenage girls.

Anyways, if you still want to be "anorxic" here's my advice. First, develop some more insecurities about yourself so you're actually willing to not eat. Go get raped by a big black man or something. ALthough based on your question, you already have some problems, most likely at home.

if starving yourself is too hard, you can alawys maintain a normal diet and do speed or coke instead. Doing speed and coke allows you to eat as much food as you want and you'll still lose weight. It's also probably healthier to be strung out on coke all the time and eat then to not be strung out and not eat.

Or, you could always seek therapy. Try to find out what's wrong with you and why you want ot be skinny so badly and fix it. You'll end up a lot happier this way in the long run. I can guarantee it.

If you feel like I didn't give you enough tips to how to starve yourself, feel free to IM me at TheWallflower on AIM. The two L's in wall are actually upper case i's

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can you get into a good college if you have only one C or B- in math? and the rest of the grades are A's?

Yes. Just don't tell them you plan on majoring in engineering though. Of crouse, you can always major in engineering once you get accepted.

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I am definately not asking for someone to do my homework. I just need some ideas. I need to find a topic for an Argumentative Essay. Basically it's a PRO/CON thing & we pick a side. Everyone is doing the basic Smoking, Alcohol, Poverty, Abortion, Crime, Gay Marriage, Woman's Rights, etc. I do not want to do something like that. I want something that's interesting, not too difficult to find sources [we do not need them] & not too general that everyone will pick it. Any ideas? I did try google & I did not see anything that was interesting. Thanks!

1. The creation of Israel after WWII

Cons: Kicked muslims off the land they've been living on for hudnreds of years

Pros: Gave jews homeland

2. Abolishing homework

Cons: Reduces family time, stress, too much work, studies show doesn't help much towards learning(which i believe is bullshit)

Pros: Helps kids practice what they're learning. Kids are future, other countries kids are learning more than US kids

3. Decriminlization of hard drugs such as LSD, heroin, peyote, etc...

Cons: everybody will be fucked up, kids will have more access

Pros: Jails will have more room, save tax payers money

4. FCC censorship

Cons: Censorship, violates constitution(in a certain perspective), waste of tax paying money(argumentative).

Pros: OH WON'T SOMEBODY THINK OF THE CHILDREN?

5. Why socialism or communism isn't so bad

Cons: Power in few individuals, corrupt. Doesn't stay "marxist" for long

Pros: no one starves to death, works fine in small communities and will prevent starvation(temporarily) in 3rd world countries

6. Why democracy is the best government with system of checks and balances

Cons: Slow system, divided, inability to have drastic action in dire emergency

Pros: Majority wins, hard to corrupt

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lately there's been a lot of pressure to get into drinking/getting high. im wondering if when you're high, can you control yourself in any way, like around parents? im basically asking if there's anyway to hide either of these, or if i'll just have to do it and sleepover at a friends that night.

Few things you should know

1. Peer pressure is retarded, don't let it affect you.

2. Yes you can act perfectly sober when you're high, unless, you are really, really high. But I doubt anyone will smoke you out that much. Same with getting drunk. If you are going to drink, drink enough to get a buzz so things start becoming more fun, but once you feel buzzed, don't drink much more. You should be able to act sober under those conditions. Just don't think that just because you're high or drunk it'll cause you to act high or drunk, because it doesn't. Don't worry, relax, take deep breaths before going home. If you have a bad feeling about getting caught, sprint 40 yards a fwe times before going into your house. If you are really drunk or stoned, don't go home. ALso, don't drink and smoke at the same time, it magnifies how intoxicated you are.

Also make sure to cover up your breath, don't bring home friends who are spazzy and/or don't know how to handle themselves. your best bet would still be to sleepover at your friends house if it is your first time though.

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What does an abortion consent form from a parent have to have on it in the state of texas?

From what I know, in the state of texas, your parents must be notified 48 hours before your abortion. I don't think they have to give consent to it, they just have to be notified.

If the law is changed, which I don't think it is, a consent form would most likely require their signature.

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hi..i wanna know if there is anyway so that my body growth which has stopped shall grow again. i mean to say if there is any particular hormone for which i need to work on so that my ody becomes the normal like other people of my age. my age is 25.

Well, probably not. The chances of growing again when you are 25 are very, very slim. There are knees surgeries which stretch out your legs that make you 2 inches taller, but it's very, very painful.

Other than that, there is human growth hormone, but that probably not might work because you're already 25.

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15/F. Okay, so I like JUST started guitar. [accoustic] I know most of the basic chords. I'm trying to learn the BEGINNING part of Canon D. I know that it's "in the key of D" and the notes are D, A, Bm, F#m, G, D, G, A. I'm playing them... but it doesn't sound right? How many times do you strum each note? How many strings do you strum? How do you play Bm? How do you play.. AHHHHHH!

When you first start guitar, it's going to be difficult to get the chords to sound right. A lot of it will have to do with how you play each note. This is because when you start out, you're fingers aren't used to being in the awkward positions you put them in when you play guitar so you'll sort of place them in a somewhat wrong position. It just takes practice though. Playing perfect chords isn't something that's going to happen overnight, or, even over a month. It'll take years of practice to become a very good guitarist. Take the F bar for example, it will a week or more for you to get it right, and then a lot longer to get it perfect.

I'd recommend you find a guitar teacher. Ask around at your school from kids who have taken guitar.

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so whenever i do any crunches, i dont feel anything. i have tried doing like 300 but i still didnt feel anything. my abs are good, but not great, so i want to keep working on them. any tips?

thx!!

Keep your feet on the ground, keep your hands on your chest. Do your crunches slowly, don't jerk your body up quickly. Try doing crunches like those.

If it's still too easy or you are already doing that, try doing crunches with a 25 lb weight on your chest.

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I hate my family!
Everyone always takes my little sisters side because she is handicap and 8 and im 15.
"oh kelsey your so immature for fighting with her"
" can you just learn how to learn to shutup"
"leave her alone"

they always catch me doing something.
they never catch her and she is soo annoying.
she pisses me off so much.

and when i hit her its just a tap and she crys and crys and crys!
like i punched her in the face (i wish)

you know everyone feels to sorry for her because she cant walk.
other then not walking she is perfectly normal, like she can talk fine, just like a normal person.

!!
no one sees that, and its pissing me off.
because i cant tell her dad off without my mom yelling at me and my mom knows im right.

the only person in this family that i CAN trust is my older sister because she's already been through problems with my mom's bf. she she actually had the balls to punch him and got charged with simple battery.

please tell me what to do because im about to go crazy.

well aside from not being able to walk she is a perfectly normal person. Not being to walk isn't that big of a disability and since you're 7 years older than her, you have every right to be an ass to her.

Anyways, she's 8 years old. 8 years old are annoying as hell. You're going ot have to get used to it. Normally older siblings would get annoyed and yell at them or even in some cases, hit them. but she's also fucking handicapped. Not being able to walk is a huge disability. She'll never be able to run, she'll never be able be in the front row of a concert, and she'll never be able to dance at her senior prom. Oh yeah, it's also going to impair her finding a guy some day. Not being able to walk might obviously make her bitter about life which would explain why she is an ass. Now, you're moms boyfriend might also be an ass, but that doens't relaly have much to do with your younger sister. If yoru sister annoys you, don't fight back. Part of being older and being a better person is to have the ability to walk away from certain situations and not make a big deal out of things. There is a reason why someone who fights back and hits their younger, handicapped little sister will be labled as immature. Your little sister has it FAR worse than you, leave her alone.

If you do feel like you have to vent, talk to your older sister. If problems happen between you and your moms boyfriend, then you can talk back to him It wouldn't be immature to defend yourself from an abusive adult, but it would be immature to "defend' yourself from, although annoying as fuck, a crippled 8 year old girl.

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why is it a bad idea to make guys jealous?
j/w .

thanks in advanceee.

because it's immature and retarded.

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I'm doing a report on the social injustices of Anti-Abortion laws. Does anyone have any pro-choice opinions on why abortion should stay legal, and general opinions on the topic?

Well, check out these on google

Roe Vs Wade
Embryo development
Trimesters

The pro choice opinion is basically that the women has the right to choose what she wants to do to her body and the developing fetus is not human so it doesn't count as murder to abort it.

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ok well... I was thinking of having an emo hairstyle done over the summer... I have brown/dark brown hair and it shows up either black or reeeally dark brown in pictures. It is american and light and airy towards the ends but at the top kinda heavy. i always have little wild indiviual hairs sticking out. i dont normally straighten it but im willing to. the only place i can get my hair cut is walmart sooo.. my school doesnt allow dying of hair.. one time i dyed it black but it kinda fell out.. not all of it but a good amount... i had it treated with protein and im all better now... i have a face between circular and oval. i have brown eyes. i need a cool emo hairstyle that is different edged with but i dont want it at my shoulders IF POSSIBLE. maybe a little longer... and i dont want my face looking round! please! try ur best! thank you in advance *i love u people!*

To have emo hair, you must either have black hair or really light blonde hair. No exceptions. If your hair is brunette, you are not emo.

Your hair must be straight and picturesque. Curly hair is definately not emo, you must straighten your hair. Your hair should also obscure your vision. 75% of your face must be covered. Anything less than that is definately not emo.

The back of your hair cannot be more than 1.74 times longer than your bangs. If it is, you must spike the back of your hair. If you don't spike the back of your hair and it is over 1.74 times longer than your bangs, then it definately is not emo and you must cut until it is the proper length.(If it is EXACTLY 1.74 times longer, it still doesn't count, it must be less)

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Can a clinical depress patient recover completely and lead a normal life as before?

Yep. Clinical depression can be recovered from and the person can lead a nomral life. IN fact, 60% of americans experience depression sometime in their life

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