I am a wife and a mother of three grown sons. I live in New York and am an equestrian. Most of my free time is spent riding and caring for my horses now that my sons are out of the house.
I give down to earth advice, as I tell it like I see it...and I've seen alot.
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Recently, my little white westie has been coming back inside (after going out in her doggie door to the backyard) covered in these teeny tiny black bugs. You can hardly see their legs and they are NOT ticks! Our dog has had a problem with ticks before but these aren't ticks I can tell. I tried to do some research online and found this person is having the same problem:
http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://z.about.com/w/experts/Entomology-Study-Bugs-665/2008/08/bugs_7.jpg&imgrefurl=http://en.allexperts.com/q/Entomology-Study-Bugs-665/2008/8/Tiny-round-shiny-black-1.htm&usg=__X0qwGbDs88wtg6n5Km8tG0DoPNs=&h=480&w=640&sz=116&hl=en&start=2&tbnid=4FwxDQUIh5ZSzM:&tbnh=103&tbnw=137&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dtiny%2Bblack%2Bround%2Bbugs%26gbv%3D2%26hl%3Den
The thing is, no one ever really answered their question either :/ these bugs only seem to stick onto my westie but we can't find any one our yellow lab :/ please help I don't know what the heck these things are and they're getting all over the couch and annoying the heck out of my dog! thanks! (link)
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You could put some of the bugs in a jar and go to your nearest university and have some an entomologist look at them. He/she will tell you exactly what you're dealing with and could probably tell you how to eradicate them.
An alternative is to call a pest control company and have them do the same, but you'll have to pay for that.
The key is to find out what they are.
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Hi... I know that this isn't the easiest of questions... but I would appreciate it if you could give it your best shot... I'm kinda desperate ;)
I'm doing a project on cowboys. My topic is the origin of the cowboy. I've looked on the internet and Google-ed it but all I have is a general answer: that the cowboy is from Spain and originated from the Spaniards. But if I'm going to do an entire project on this topic, I'm going to need to be way more specific (i.e. why did the Spaniards need the cowboy? what opted them to become cowboys?). Also, by origin, I don't think my teacher meant the origin of the AMERICAN cowboy. I think he meant cowboy in general. I mean, before the Spaniards... I need myths, tales, and legends. You know, those kinds of things. It's a project, so I would need a LOT of information. But so far, I've only got like one paragraph that I've gathered from web sources.
Any additional information or advice? Thanks :) (link)
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Well, what is a cowboy? It's a person who herded and cared for cattle on ranches. When the cattle were ready to be moved to market, they rounded them up and took them to market. They did this on horseback as there was no other way. It was their job to keep all the cattle together and not lose one, because each head = $$$. They cattle couldn't get sick or lack water or grazing enroute or they would die and the cowboy was responsible. No different than it is now, only nowadays, the cattle are transported via truck. They get to market faster, but, some still die on the truck. The trucker is responsible for that head and must pay for it.
The cowboy originated from the need to transport cattle and also from the needed to have help handling the animals day to day needs. Feeding, watering, branding, etc.
As far as the Spanish cowboy...no difference. The was a need for someone to tend the cattle. Bottom line...if they had cattle, they needed a cowboy, or they were cowboys themselves.
Go to the library and use the encyclopedias. They will have a wealth of information that the internet won't have and it will be accurate.
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Hello, i used to go to church about 3 years ago, i was a pentacostal. I was into church and felt the holy spirt, sang in church, participated in all the youth activities,went to church camp and everything else. Now, i gave all that up and after i stop going to church, problems everywhere came..my health is also, not in good condidtion. i really do wanna go back to church but i just need a push to go..i dont know where to start. iwant to go back to my old church but then again i dont. Can anyone who went through this help? (link)
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Apparently, the Holy Spirit is calling you back to your old church, but you are fighting it. Just do what He tells you. You will not regret it.
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do some people have perpetual sunburn or are they just so pale that they are pink/red? (link)
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Some people are very pale and burn very easily. In the summer, they do have a perpetual "burn", if you will. They are extremely sensitive to the sun.
On the other hand, some people have a condition called Rosasea in which the face becomes red.
Then...there are people who drink alcohol and develop a red face, particularly the nose.
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okay so 2 days ago,my crush sent me a message and a “poke” on facebook so i sent him back a message and he still hasn’t replied…but i went on his page just now and it said that he commented on someone’s video in his recent activity and then i went back to his page 2 minutes later then he removed it from his recent activity, and yesterday he did the same thing…he added this girl on facebook yesterday and it was in his recent activity then i go back to his page and he removed it. I’m just anxious because my internet is going to get disconnected really soon so i just wanted a chance to get to talk to him, i mean i was shocked because he never did that before, i’m usually the one who says something to him first and i guess because the last time we spoke was when i went up to him to tell him he made my night at prom when we danced together. (link)
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Leave it at that. You're giving him the impression you're chasing him. Let him pursue you and if he doesn't, then there's your answer. He isn't interested. Nothing's worse than a girl who acts desperate.
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My whole life, so far anyways, has been one, big, miserable hell. I'm going to be 19 in September and I don't feel like I can trust anybody. I've been told I'm pretty even beautiful, but I am not popular. Everybody makes fun of me, all throughout school they've made fun of me. My friends make fun of me, my family makes fun of me, and they do it in front of people who just met me which gives them a bad impression of me. I feel like everyone hates me because of some of the stuff they say. Everyone talks down to me when I say how I feel and I just hate it! Everyone seems to want to know how you feel and then when you tell them, they yell at you! I hate my life, and I hate being alive. No one would miss me if I was dead, so why does God keep me alive? (link)
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People, no matter who they are, tend to pick on people who don't defend themselves. Stand up with one strong defense and watch them back down. Don't get wild and crazed, but put them in their place.
My younger sister is like that. Anyone can say anything to her and she doesn't defend herself. One day my older sister started up with her and, I guess she had just about all she could take. She let her have it in no uncertain terms and it shut my older sister up and she never did pick on her again. This was 10 years ago.
You can't sit by while people insult and offend you. The least you should do is say, "Don't speak to me that way. I would never speak to you that way, don't do it to me." Be very firm, without yelling. Voice your displeasure and don't apologize for it!
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I'm a 14 yr. old female. I always try and show God's love to everyone through how I treat them, but last year at school I started having real problems doing so because of something that started happening. There's a guy at my school who's basically nice, but he can't take a hint at all. He tries to be BFF's w/ everybody, particularly girls, and whenever we get our school pictures, he always orders a whole bunch, and then gives all these girls, myself included, pictures of him, even when some girls obviously want nothing to do w/ him. He's done this now to all of us in 6th, 7th, and 8th grade, and I guess he'll do it again this fall when we're freshman. he's given us all so many pics of hisself that he has basically become a joke at our school for doing so. Last year, a lot of the girls he gave pictures to starting throwing them into the toilet in the girls bathroom, and leaving them there for everyone to see and make fun of the guy, and he never had any clue what was happening. Some of the girls even pressured me to do that to my picture of him as well. A few times, I almost had accidents b/c I had to change stalls to avoid those pictures floating in the toilets. I wanted to know for future reference how to best show God's love to both specifically this guy, and also to the girls who have started doing this to his pictures and want me to do so, as in what could I say or do that would best convey God's love to them? I mean, is the more loving thing to do to tell the guy honestly what is happening to his pictures bluntly, or to not? What's the most loving way to respond when the girls start pressuring me to flush my copy pf his pic also, or to respond when I see his pic that they thrown in the toilet when I have to go? (link)
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I would simply say to the girls..."He means well and I wouldn't want to hurt his feelings. He's a nice guy. "Do unto others.""
To this guy..."I really like you, but, how do you know everyone wants your picture? People may get the impression that you're arrogant or conceited. I know your not, but not everyone thinks like me."
You can't do much more than that.
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http://image.examiner.com/images/blog/wysiwyg/image/combodress(2).jpg (link)
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It's not a trend, it's a style. This is an empire waist dress.
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hi im still confused on what "frizzy hair" means. is it like a dry, curly mess?
and i dunno if this question is related, but why do some people's hair look so smooth while others you can see individual strands sticking out?
compare:
smooth:
http://www.harpersbazaar.com/cm/harpersbazaar/images/HBZ0908BT026-de-59241324.jpg
to this:
(girl on right)
http://i409.photobucket.com/albums/pp174/LittleLionLamb/Hair/l_305cf13134e8a2fa4061d4900fa5a5e0.jpg (link)
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This is frizzy hair...http://arimages.kiwibox.com/ar/0807/37112.frizzyhair2.jpg
Smooth hair usually depends on how the hair is cut. Hair that is cut one length will be smooth and hair cut in layers will show individual strands.
If hair is damaged, then no matter how it's cut, you will see the damage as split ends, which will cause the hair to look frizzy. Dried out hair can frizz too. Not everyone has naturally frizzy hair, but many people do. Hair that tends to natural frizziness usually frizzes when it's humid out, like the woman in the picture in the above link.
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my fella walked out on me after 8 months of bliss for his ex whom he has a child with. she cheated on him and he left her then met me. we are both mad about eachother and still are,but he feels he will never for give him self if he doz not give her a 2nd chance for there little girl.he admited he doz not love her and that he is head inlove with me.she only wants him back because she sees him happy wit some one else and her fella dumped her and of course so she can have her socail life back.i no its me he wants. how can i make him see she is using him and he is making a mistake.and saying ''get a life'' or ''move on'' wont help me did any body here go through this b4 ??? (link)
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I've been there. My fella left me for his ex because she threatened suicide and he also felt he had an obligation to give it antoher try.
Long story short, I said goodbye, though I was devastated. It broke my heart, but wouldn't you know it...I ran into his best friend about a year later and he told me that my fella's ex left him again, this time for another man and she filed divorce. His friend said to me, "He always loved you and I know he would want to get back together again. Why don't you call him, he isn't the same person anymore" Apparently, he was a basket case knowing what he gave up with me and what he ended up with.
I never did go back with him, or even talk to him again and I'm glad I didn't. If he could hurt me the way he did (and he did) then, to me, the relationship couldn't be the same after that.
I did meet another guy that I fell in love with and married. Been married for 15 years next week and he's the best thing that ever happened to me. I didn't have the fireworks I had with the other guy, but, who needs fireworks when you have someone who will stand by you come hell or high water?!
Forget this guy and move on. There are just tooooo many good fish in the sea.
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So there's this guy. I'm a 14 year old girl right now, going on 15, and he's 33, going on 34. I'm very mature for my age, mentally and physically, so naturally, I tend to like older men. Well, when I met him, I thought he was a really nice guy. We hung out, and in the course of a year, I began developing feelings for him. We hang out a lot. I've known his parents since I was small, and he comes from a very nice family. I kept having dreams of him, and cannot stop thinking of him, so soon I was going crazy. Just a week ago, I couldn't take it anymore so I nearly exploded with emotions, and blabbed out that I liked him. He took it very well, and I was surprised because he said that right now he likes me as a friend, but if I was 18 or 19, he would seriously like me as a girlfriend. He explained that obviously he cannot say he liked me back considering I'm only 15, but he would wait and see if I still had these feelings in a year, and he'd keep checking up on me and when I hit 18 or 19 he said that we'd definitely talk. I really like him, and I feel that he likes me back. He's very sweet, kind, a great listener, and fun to be around. I'm just a bit worried, because of the age difference, if it ever did work out, I'd probably lose him and be widowed. If you truly love someone, I've heard these marriages work. Can I get past the age difference if I truly love him? (link)
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You're 14 and you have a crush. You will have many crushed throughout your life. This guy shouldn't be hanging out with you for any serious length of time. He is WAAAAY too old for you.
Get over him and move on. My guess is, he's being kind, knowing that you are a child and he doesn't want to hurt your feelings because he has been there and done that and knows how these crushes can be.
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I had so far two dreams that i was pregnant. What can this mean? As of now i know that im 100% not pregnant. Im just worried about the dream. (link)
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How do you feel about the pregnancy in the dream. If you have bad feelings about it, then in real life, you're probably worried about the possibility of getting pregnant. If you have good feelings about it in the dream, then you may be, subconsciously, hoping for a baby.
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Is there a certain base coat you apply to your eyelid to keep your eyeshadow on for longer and no smudge? if so, can anyone tell me of any good brands i can get that arent alot of money? thanks!!!
also, is it colorless? (link)
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I use Clinique's "Touch Base for Eyes". It isn't colorless, but you would match it to your skin tone. It's pricey at $14 for the little case they give you, but, it does last for a very long time because you only need a little to do the job. I've had mine for at least 2 months with plenty left for another 2 months. It works great. Eye shadows stay on all day long and won't crease or smudge. I live in NC and it's hot here now, but the Touch Base stays on from 8 am till 9pm. I'm out all day working with horses and even in 95 degree heat, my eyes look good! The rest of me wilts like a dead flower, but the eyes are great. I highly recommend it.
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alright. first of all ive been datin my boyfriend for almost 4 months, and im very happy. hes a really good guy, we hang out with my parents, hes hung out with my grandparents, hell pick me up if i have no where to go, plus hes a real gentleman and we get along great.
the problem is, my friends dont see it. they think that there is something fishy about it which i dont really understand because they dont hang out with him nearly as much as i do. i have a group of 4 best girl friends, but lately they dont seem like that at all.
my main best friend, 'Z', has a big party house. and her mom lets us do whatever basically, even hard drugs. ive done em a few times at her house and for the rest jus smoked and drank.
but the thing is, before z's house turned into a big party house, i chilled with her and our other friend and had fun with out that.
ive been growin up a lot this summer and i realized that i dont wanna spend my summer doin the same thing at that house everyday.
plus, her mom is very manipulative and possesive, and since me and z have been best friends for 3 years, shes like that over me.
so friday night, i got really drunk and went to a hookha lounge with my boyfriend to meet them there. then, we went to a party after that. they all left, and when my boyfriend drove me to catch up with him, 'P' (one of my best friends but i gotta watch out for her) yells 'yeah tricia, why dont you jus go give your boyfriend road head, we're goin to ihop'
sooo i was like 'fuck it lets just go back to the party'...and when i did, i made a horrible drunk decision to do morphine. i was feelin fine until my boyfriend found out and he went crazy! then it turned into a bad trip and i ended up sleepin on his floor freakin out that night. the only problem is i was supposed to sleep at Z's house...
so the next night i go over to Z's house to chill for a lil bit with my boyfriend (who they already dont like) and i told Z what i did the night before and thats why i didnt go pack, plus what P said. she acted cool about it so i thought everythin was fine. they wanted me to stay over and i was going to but then I DECIDED to go home so i did.
welllllllanyways.
z's mom calls my step-dad this mornin, and says that they have to get me away from my boyfriend. because im 'different' (i guess cuz im not goin over there 24/7) and that i did morphine BECAUSE of him (which isnt true & Z told all my friends) and that i was supposed to spend the night at her house saturday (not true)... and she said that im doing coke ! wtf
the first time and last time i did coke was WITH her.
i dont know. all my friends are turnin against me and theyve been my friends for so long.
i dont know what to do :/ help. (link)
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Your friends are sicko's and very bad news. They are not really friends, but a bunch of back stabbing low lives.
You are a fool for continuing to drink and do drugs, too.
I have no idea how old you are, but judging from the decisions you've made, I'd say you're 14 because what you have done is from a 14 yr. old mentality.
Your boyfriend sounds like a decent guy and perhaps you should listen to him. He seems, (from what you've said) to have a level head.
Really, you've gotten yourself into a bind because of your disgusting friends. They are liars and have proven that they will even lie about you. So much for friendship.
Z's mother needs to go to jail, which is where you'll end up (or worse) if you continue with this criminal gang of creeps.
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I'm a 15-year-old girl and I have always had a fear of heights. But my mother and sister love thrill rides. As a result, we often go to theme parks. When we do, I'll usually go on a couple of the "kiddie rides," which is what Mom calls "mild" rides. Mom and my sister try to drag me on the roller coasters, but I always say no.
After I refuse a few times, Mom will finally snap. The last time it happened she said: "You know what? I'm not paying for your ticket if you're going to wimp out and not go on any rides."
I have been driven to tears more than once. She won't stop even if my friends are with us. I wish I could stay home when they go, but then my mom accuses me of being "antisocial."
Please tell me what I can do or say to her to make her stop doing this. (link)
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Apparently, she doesn't understand your phobia. There isn't much you can do to make her stop pushing you if she doesn't understand, so, if I were you, I wouldn't go. I would just accept the fact that she thinks your antisocial for staying home and leave it at that. Sometimes, people don't understand what's going on inside of us. That's just the real world.
Don't let it bother you. It's not that big a del.
That said, you should seek counseling for your fear of heights. Phobias can get a lot worse if you don't face them and deal with them right away. You could even develop other phobias on top of this one.
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i've never been to an open casting call for acting.. so i'm trying to find out what it's like
do you need a resume? headshot? neither or both?
is there some paper you fill out that counts as a resume once you arrive? someone please help, preferrably someone who has been to one or really know the facts thanks! (link)
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Yes and yes. Just like any job interview, the more prepared you are, the more professional you look. If you're scrambling to write your name and address on a piece of paper while your at the casting call...well, what does that look like? Unprepared and unprofessional.
They may not ask for those things, initially, but if they like you they will ask for them.
GOOD LUCK! Sorry...break a leg.
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Will insurance cover ambulance ride if our daughter hurt her back on playground at school and couldnt move? Even tho they thought it could only be a bruised tailbone, our daughter couldnt move and we didnt want to chance moving her if it was worse and we wanted her to lay flat on board without much movement .If we took her in a car or other means she would be sitting in an upright position ,which could make her back even worse. (link)
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They, absolutely, will cover it. What if it wasn't just a bruised tailbone? What if it was a broken back? How would you know? That's why you are calling an ambulance! Of course they will cover it.
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this summer i went to china to visit my family members, and my dad and i came back home early while my mom and brother stayed there for an extra month because my dad had work and i am going to a summer program at a university.
i got back home 3 days ago and ever since then i have been depressed and i don't know why. i suddenly feel like there's no meaning in my life and i hate being alive. i miss being in china and my mom and brother but i leave early every summer and never have problems so i don't know why i feel this way this time.
i have a summer program at a university and after that i have dance camp which i really do not want to go to because i don't like the team members. i feel like i hate this summer because i have no time to relax and i hate the dance team.
even doing stuff i thought was fun before china like watching tv and getting out of the house now isnt enjoyable to me and i still feel depressed while doing it.
why am i feeling like this and how do i stop being depressed?? this has never happened to me before but my mom suffers from depression too so is it hereditary or something?? (link)
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That can happen when you have been somewhere, perhaps you loved it and want to know more about the country and it's exciting, to having to come back to the same old, same old. It's a let down. I've had that happen to me after traveling. You're coming back to, what seems to be boring, in comparison. That won't last too long. You just have to get back into the swing of things.
This is life in the adult world. Not everything you do is going to be fun and enjoyable. Some things just need to get done. I'm betting your father feels the same way, but, he knows this is something that just has to be dealt with and he's putting it aside and getting on with life. You will, too. Try not to dwell on it. You may also have jet lag, which can produce depression like symptoms.
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Ok I want to start off by saying that I am only interested in hearing from people who have done atkins. I am doing it in a very healthy way. So not lectures please. Thank you
Ok I was getting enough carbs in for like the first week or so, maybe after like 3 days I started losing about 2 lbs every 2 days. Which is great. Thing is I'm on a weird schedule wtih my love and so sometimes I am tired and I have to go to sleep and I don't get to eat all the 3 or 4 meals and for like 3 days I was only able to get 15 carbs in. That is when I started to platuea. I am back on a pretty regular schedule and it has been about 3 days now and I am still like rocking between 2 or 3 lbs on the scale. My pants feel looser though so I am wondering if I am losing inches. I am just wondering how long before this plateau generally breaks. Do you have any ideas on what I could do...Here are some things I have been eating:
Chicken legs, thighs and breasts: boiled baked or lightly fried with out batter
Soy Sauce
I cant believe it's not butter
veg oil
Spinich, cucumbers, red and green pepers (red i just started), lettuce (not ice berg), peas, cellary, broccoli.
Creame cheese (by craft which I was eating during the period I was losing with only 2 carbs per serving) colby jack cheese and cheader cheese
Eggs, sliced turkey (boars head and birch berry no honey added or anything) from the deli, fish
tea with no caffine (i checked) and a detox tea (which was fine during the first week) and that is about it. I would say about 2 liters of water or more a day along with the tea.
For exercise I have been going on walks, maybe for like a mile to 2 miles but I am willing to do some serious cardio too. Maybe like 30 min 3-4 times a day, is about what I could commit to.
Thank you
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I've been on different diets, including Atkins and, yes, you will plateau, no matter what diet you're on. You just have to stick with it and you will break through the plateau. There's nothing magical about Atkins. The reason you are losing weight is because you are cutting calories. Period. You could plateau for weeks, but if you stay faithful to the diet, you will break through. Your body is holding on to it's weight because it is now starting to burn with greater efficiency because it thinks it's starving. I lost 25 lbs. with Atkins and plateaued at around 15 lbs. I just kept doing the diet plan and eventually the rest came off. Exercise can help speed your metabolism, but you can't eat back all the calories you expend during exercise. Stay the course. You'll lose it!
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Long story short, I went to my boyfriend's yesterday afternoon. His apt is infested with bed bugs, and didn't know until I sat down and saw one crawl out of a pillow. Freaked out, left, and inspected myself.
I went home a nervous wreck thinking I have bed bugs now. I looked clean when I inspected my clothes and purse. I have no worry about my car because it sits in 100+ degrees heat anyway. My mom helped me clean my room, my bed, including the mattress, the sheets, she and I did my laundry, did everything! Dusted walls too. I kept inspecting for bed bugs several times yesterday, but found nothing. I found one small blood spot on my sheets afterwards, and I don't know if was me (because I have a skin infection, I sometimes bleed at night) or an actual bed bug. No evidence of fecal matter either.
Well this morning, I woke up with light red, small bumps on my hand. Freaking out, I again inspected my bed. Nothing again. Did research to try compare mosquito bites with bed bug bites. Only thing I got was bed bug bites have a white center, and mosquito bites usually don't. And bb bites last for a weeks; however mosquito bites last a day or two.
That being said, they were small, light red, and itchy. I applied calamine lotion, and relieved it. Well it's been approximately 7 hours, and the redness and itching already went down. My take is it was a mosquito bite, but never thought they bite multiple times..
I just need second opinions on this. Please, don't call me super paranoid, or insane. I already have staph on my skin, I don't need any more skin problems right now. It'll just make it worse.
Thanks.
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You have a right to be concerned about bedbugs. They can infest your home if you've brought a couple back with you from your boyfriends. If he comes over your house with some passengers, you have to worry, too. He should have his place treated by a professional. Bedbugs can spread like wildfire and their bites are often dismissed as mosquito bites.
Bedbugs like to hide in cracks and crevices. Crevices of headboards and mattresses are good hiding places. Look along the edges of your mattress and in the cracks of your headboard. They feed at night, so get up at night and pull back the covers. If you don't see them over a period of a week, then you're probably safe. They feed on blood, so you would be their meal ticket and they would have to come out of hiding to get to you.
You are probably safe. The concern is if you brought a female bedbug home with you, it could lay eggs. The eggs are very small and are curved and in a cluster and sticky. When you inspect your headboard and mattress, be on the lookout for eggs, too. My guess is, you are probably safe, but, every now and then check to see if they've taken up residence. I can't stress the importance of your boyfriend having a pro look treat his place. All you need is one female on him for an infestation. Good luck!
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