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I am a wife and a mother of three grown sons. I live in New York and am an equestrian. Most of my free time is spent riding and caring for my horses now that my sons are out of the house.

I give down to earth advice, as I tell it like I see it...and I've seen alot.
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Last Update: September 11, 2011
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Thank you so very much. You've been a lot of help. I will defiantly contact him this weekend. And i didn't post my age(16) because most people dismiss teenagers of not understanding love. But I do. And I'm not just saying that.

Thank you.

i cannot move for the next ten months as i am contracted to live in this house for a year...fromm what i have witnessed this ghost spirit or whatever is less actuve when their is a man in the house...more things have happened since i posted this question at the early hours this morning approx 3:30am my home telephone was ringing it rang twice..when i cam down the stairs the phone wasnt even on the hook and when i put it back on the hook i rang 1471 to see who called last and it said the last person that rang was 4 days ago....

thank you :D

its complicated, but she needs a relationship now..

Thank you. Although i'm a bit angry with god at the moment. There was no reason to take him so soon, so young! Then again, I guess god takes the good ones as he's afraid of the bad ones!

haha! thanks

Haha alright, thank you =]

ok...I don't think you are required as an individual...but I'll read up on it more. Thank you.

Thank you.

thanks

Thank. Actually, I asked this question just for people who may have a similar situation. I mean to say, this is true of me, but we actually met today. She was with her friend, and her parents were going to come, but they couldn't. We had a great time. We met in a public place. XD Thanks you.

yeah.. i knew i was missing it completely, haha.

I hope so.

Thank you so much! I will.

Thank you! That helped a lot.. it's now been 3 days, and I haven't seen anything yet. The bites I have, went down and going away already.. the internet said it's likely mosquitos. Only bites I got were on my hand, nowhere else. So, so far I am thinking I am safe. What do you think? I am glad you understand my concern! You're wonderful.

hey thanks=] but i didnt mean sex at all! im not like that ive never done it and dont wanna think about it for a good while yet and hes not like that either its only like making out ive only ever just kissed him and i think thats all he expects from me thats what i meant sorry for the confusion and thanks for the advice =]

Haha, thanks. I'll talk to him about it more. I dont want to hurt him but your right, he can't read my mind... And dont worry, definitly plan to stay in touch!

thank you. Didn't really answer my question but good answer :)

That's adorable, I love it. I might steal that...=)

Thank you :) didn't think about it like that :)

Thank you very much, that was very informative, and you also helped me to realize that i need to reword my question. :)

Thank youu .

Thank you so much! You have been very helpful. I appreciate your input and will take it into consideration.

THANK YOU :D

Thanks for answering my question. However, your advice to simply "force" myself is unlikely to work. If I could simply will myself to do things, I would have. I have tried many times over the past six years. My state of mind prevents me from making any significant progress. Psychology texts will tell you that you do not tell a depressed person to simply snap out of it and that seems to be your advice here. Also, your answer is very preachy, and since I made sure to indicate that I am atheist, your answer is not only useless in that regard but a bit pushy. As I am not here to convince you that God does not exist, you should not offer Him up as a solution to my problems. I understand that if you are a believer, this may be the only solution you see. If that's the case, you shouldn't have answered my question. Nevertheless, it does help to know that people are out there who care enough to write and offer a solution. I am sorry I did not receive it better.

Thanks so much! =]

Thanks =]

Very helpful, thank you so much! =]

Thanks for answering my question. I forgot to mention in my question but.. My mom doesn't pay for any bills. No rent, no utility bills or anything. She should have a wholeee bunch of money but she doesn't. And idk why. But thank you anyways.

thaaaank you. I feel so much better! =)

I fixed it. Thanks a lot.

Thanks so much

this summer's already been split in two... one part for each my mom and dad. thanks anyways though

I have financial aid for college so i'm not depending on my parents to pay for it. but i dont even plan on continuing with school. I know, i know,... its good to go to college. But the thing is, I have really bad anxiety problems, and that stands in the wasy of me succeeding in school. it makes it hard to even bring myself to attend classes. I did well my first semester (except for seminar that i failed, because i had to do a presentation infront of the class and i stopped going... and obviously never did the presentaion), and then I've screwed up 3 semesters in a row. I rrrreally cant deal with going to college. I've seen a Dr., I've been prescribed meds, I've tried going to therapy sessions.... I have not gotten any help. It might be really hard to understand why i have such problems going to class, but for me it is a big problem that i need help for... school is too much apprehension and axiety. And not just normal anxiety, but excessive and serious anxiety. This problem also stands in the way of me getting a job. ...So I cant go to college...get a career...work...nothing ... I'm worried that i wont be able to support myself, and I know i have to but for me certain things are just so hard. My anxiety is an obstacle that stands in the way of things in my life. I dont know what i'm going to do in my life. I dont know what i caaan do.... If i move in with this guy (after, of course, I'm sure that he is who i want to live with), then i will be happy, (unlike i am now), and he can take care of me.... I want to move in to be with him because i really want him, not just because I'm just trying to get away from my parents (even though i would like that). But what do you think i should dddddooo?? .... please help me =[ *crying*

:)!!! Thanks very much. I'll have a google.

Thanks :) I'm intending to stick to plucking from now on...

He's not into it, but his mothers friend does these "predictions".. I just don't want him to start getting paranoid and start believing her because then he'll expect bad things to happen. Thank you so much, you helped a lot :)

thanks.. iv tried to talk to her about leaving him and i keep telling her it will happen again, that she can find someone better cos he doesnt deserve her. but she wont listen to me or to anyone. shes my best friend and everyone keeps telling me to say to her that i cant stand back and see her get hurt and for her to choose between me or him... but i just cant do it!!! im not that sort of person and i dont want to lose her. my sister talked to her about it and she said that if i did say that, my friend wud probably choose him over me... i dont know what to do, its happened twice now and its just going to keep happening! each time i pick up the pieces and it hurts mee too much to see her like that, wat should i do? should i tell her to choose between me and him.. or just leave it??? =s

I know my friend is right but my father is abusive and seriously you're answer didn't help anybits, i want to fix what's been done....!!!

good idea..i just didn't think of targeting "boomers" my age group too...yes I do have a website. I appreciate the advice.

well i am 5'3 in height 17 years old and 120 pounds. i want to be back down to 110! its so gay beacuse i have been working out so hard all week expecting that i should have lost about a pound or something in fat!! and the scale says 1-freaking20! my mom said i could have gained muscle and canceld out fat? but its mostly cardio working out and ab workouts.. i have been feeling so sore too

Yeah i usually dont do the pursuing... but he doesnt have a phone to call so im kinda in another spot.... but i appreciate the advice! You have helped me TONSS! =] thx

Thank you very much. I never thought about asking my dermatologist but im going to see her in april so i will ask =]

Good advice really you did help some...oh and btw I'm only a sophmore in high school. Young, I know.

You didnt give me a site or any help at all

He's never eaten at one particular time per day; we just leave food out and he nibbles when he's hungry. Maybe that's the problem! Thank you so much.

Yeah...But like I said. I'm very aware of the fact that he could be up to no good. My age is on myspace, but where I live or what schools I go to or where I work are not. I still don't trust him and I don't give away personal information or anything to him. I will take your warning into major consideration.

I agree with you, i didnt list any advantages cuz i thought everyone knows, it makes me relaxed, carefree and thinking about fun. HYPER and etc.. This little detial i havn't mention, i live in egypt (im austrlian), so here there is no AA and etc.. u have a problem u need a doctor and i cant get one. Thanks anyways i will try to make stuff better.

thanks.

thankyou :] That's great advice.

That's a good idea, however there aren't really any trails that I know of nearby or anything.

Your right, he isn't going to change. I do keep busy,I have a 15 year old adopted son, I love very much. I do live my own life, but it just doesn't replace that want and longing for someone to be there, and be my special someone. I am planning a curise in Sept. to Italy with a friend, how much more fun it would be if it were someone special. I have what they call 'mindful moments'. I make sure I enjoy the important things of life. Thank you for your advice, I am grateful for it. I will use it.

Thank you so so much. Your answer is comforting for me. You gave great tips and you understand. again, thank you.

Wow that is so helpful. Thank you very much. I agree, I feel like my mom's dog would never hurt a fly, but this one needed to hunt. So that's what I'm going to do from now on, I'm going to learn more about the breed before I bring it into my home. :)

Thank you so so so much! I can finally learn it :)

Look up agnosticism and atheism. Very different. To be atheist is to believe in nothing, no higher power, nothing after death, etc. Agnosticism is more of a non-commital belief systm. I believe in reincarnation, and I do believe in "a higher power," I just don't feel comfortable with the term "God." If you read my question a little more closely, you'd notice that. Just a little hint.

hey thanks m'am, i m some what relieved and what by the Grace of God we both are really committed. any how you take care m'am and God bless you and your family.

Everything you said was wrong . Thanks though .

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