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I always try to live by WWJD, but this I'm not sure what to think of it
I'm a 14 yr. old female. I always try and show God's love to everyone through how I treat them, but last year at school I started having real problems doing so because of something that started happening. There's a guy at my school who's basically nice, but he can't take a hint at all. He tries to be BFF's w/ everybody, particularly girls, and whenever we get our school pictures, he always orders a whole bunch, and then gives all these girls, myself included, pictures of him, even when some girls obviously want nothing to do w/ him. He's done this now to all of us in 6th, 7th, and 8th grade, and I guess he'll do it again this fall when we're freshman. he's given us all so many pics of hisself that he has basically become a joke at our school for doing so. Last year, a lot of the girls he gave pictures to starting throwing them into the toilet in the girls bathroom, and leaving them there for everyone to see and make fun of the guy, and he never had any clue what was happening. Some of the girls even pressured me to do that to my picture of him as well. A few times, I almost had accidents b/c I had to change stalls to avoid those pictures floating in the toilets. I wanted to know for future reference how to best show God's love to both specifically this guy, and also to the girls who have started doing this to his pictures and want me to do so, as in what could I say or do that would best convey God's love to them? I mean, is the more loving thing to do to tell the guy honestly what is happening to his pictures bluntly, or to not? What's the most loving way to respond when the girls start pressuring me to flush my copy pf his pic also, or to respond when I see his pic that they thrown in the toilet when I have to go?
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I would simply say to the girls..."He means well and I wouldn't want to hurt his feelings. He's a nice guy. "Do unto others.""
To this guy..."I really like you, but, how do you know everyone wants your picture? People may get the impression that you're arrogant or conceited. I know your not, but not everyone thinks like me."
You can't do much more than that.
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What a bunch of little bitches. You should tell them when they ask you to do it, be like "No, that's mean & I don't want him to find it, because he is nice, & would you want me to do this to your picture? How would you feel if I did this to you?" Put them on the spot, & see what they say, & if they say like "I wouldn't care, its not that big of a deal.." be like.."well, you're probably just saying that, & even if it isn't a big deal to you, it might be to someone else, & you have no right to do this to someone"
i really hate middle school kids, i personally think that is the worst years of teenage years... -__-
& as for the boy, well maybe you could just be like.. "thanks, but you really don't need to keep passing these out of you every year, i feel bad because i (& maybe name some of your friends or something.) don't really give you one back & i feel rude, but my mom won't let me order a lot, so you really don't need to keep giving these to us." or maybe something along those lines.. thats if you really want to say something.
i kind of think though if you say something, it will open a big can of worms. because then all the girls will be like, oh yeah we just throw your pictures in the toilet or something, like that.
*sigh* i hope everything works out.
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