can you get rid of STD's? like without seeing a doctor. and please just answer with a yes or no. no long paragraphs. didn't mean to be rude!
Not a chance. Sorry.
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I was in pretty close contact with a guy for almost a year recently, as a job we were both doing required it. He sent me mixed messages throughout our time spent working together, but I always assumed it meant nothing as he had just started going out with another girl, and I had a boyfriend. I can quite honestly say that I never gave him reason to believe I had feelings for him. Now I feel that he acts as if he has some claim over me, as he's somehow managed to get hold of said boyfriend's number and has begun texting him and trying to probe into our relationship. I still see him around and he tends to flirt, as well as dropping nasty little comments about my boyfriend, telling me I'd be better off with 'someone who knows me'. I like this guy - and we really have shared a lot in the past year - but he's toyed with me from the start and I'm not sure if a friendship is going to be worth it if he keeps acting like this. I appreciate that I should talk to him about this, but I really would find that difficult and I doubt it would help - as I'm sure you assume, it's hard for me to describe how complicated the situation is in words. Please let me know what's going on.
Well, being blunt it sounds like he obviously has feelings for you, and is finally acting on them. I hate to say it but many guys seems to view a close friendship with a girl as a back-door to going out- he's hoping that after all the time you've spent with him you'll pick him over your boyfriend. The comments he's been dropping about your boyfriend seem to confirm this- he's checking the state of your relationship, and seeing if its fragile or not. If you did break up with your boyfriend I'd bet dollars to rubles he'd be around to 'help you through it.' This seems like fairly lame behaviour- he can't be blamed for being attracted to you but his attitude clearly stinks, it isn't honourable to attempt to drive a wedge between you and your boyfriend ( I mean, if you wanna win, you have to win fairly). Basically my advice is- if you really value his friendship then you'll have to keep him in line (a female friend recommends acting cold whenever he mentions your boyfriend). If he continues to act like this then seriously I'd say ditch him, he sounds like a bit of an arse anyway.
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What does btw mean?
'By the way.' Man, I love the easy ones.
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Male/17
Hey, I’m usually the one giving advice. I don’t need advice. I just have a question and I want to know your opinion. This question is for deep thinkers. Long answers are encouraged as well as comical ones.
I’ve seen quite a lot of “love” questions, asked by adolescences. What would you call "true love"? Many people have been saying “I have a boyfriend and I REALY love him” and “she said that he loves me” or things like that. I’ve seen these questions being asked by 13 year olds! Teens DO have deep affections for people, but I really don’t think that they are capable of TRUE love. How can there be love if teen relationships only last 2 months or even 2 years! 2 years is quite long for a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, but shouldn’t love last a LIFETIME? I agree that teens think that they are in love (I’ve been there) but I wouldn’t call that love. I would call it more like, “deep affection”. After all, if love between teens is really “love” then they shouldn’t break up, right? I think that teens are too young and “unexposed” to have TRUE LOVE. Even adults. They mistakenly call their relationships “love”. If it was actually love, then shouldn’t there be less or no divorces?
I think that yes, you are in correct in stating that many teens/ young adults mistake the first dizzy rush of affectionate feelings for someone as 'true love.' Nearly everyone will have that first special someone (usually someone you blew it spectacularly with) who's attentions were worth more than gold to us- a puppy dog obsession. That said, I think that once people become truly self-aware and self-possessed they can experience love at any age. However I truly believe that love can whither in the same way it can grow. As you said, even adults who claim to be 'in love' may break up which hints that maybe they are putting the wrong term to their feelings. I feel that a teenage relationship can remain forever sweet because it end in love- you part because your life demands it, but you do not forget. People always claim that you 'never forget your first' and I think that is certainly true. But I also think that once a person is in love, if they fail to work hard at it, or give the relationship the time it needs, then love can slowly dissolve. i think that the majority of people who fall in love truly mean it, but love doesnt necessarily last forever (unfortunately).
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What are some good songs by The Strokes, The Doors, and The Smiths?
Well I'll give you some of my favourites by each band: The Strokes- "Hard To Explain", "Soma", err... The Smiths I really like "Cemetary Gates"and The Doors- "Hello, I Love You" "Five to One" "Break On Through" and "Riders On the Storm"
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Hey, I really don't want to ask for specifics about drugs on this website...trying to help keep it PG-13. But, I really need good, reliable information about MDMA. I'm looking for dangers, precautions to take, statistics, etc. but from an unbiased source. Can anyone help with a link to the information or to a place where I can ask specific questions? Thanks!
www.streetdrugs.org is a fairly snappy website, its fairly down-to-earth and has some good links. That said its changed recently and has become a lil' condescending, but all the info is legit. Peace out.
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I'm 15 and one of my inner labias is about three times the size of the other. However, this wasn't always so. It started about 2 years ago when I started masturbating with the showerhead. (Could this be the cause of it?) Anyway, I figured it was just swollen, and the swelling would go down. However, as time went on, it only got worse. It's now a more purple-ish, darker color, and bigger. Anyways, point being, instead of it getting better like I assumed it would, it only got worse. And it's now two years later, and I haven't told anyone about it. I would really like to, but I am too embarrassed. Also, I'm afraid if my parents take me to a gynocologist or anything of that sort, they will find out I'm not a virgin anymore, WHICH CAN NOT HAPPEN. I've been a huge emotional wreck ever since, and I really need to find out more about this. Any advice, information, help, or ideas would be SO greatly appreciated. I rate 5's for any attempt. Thank you.
Go with Cailoisa on this- if you are continually worrying about it then you need to get it sorted, and her advice seems level- headed and well suited. Hope it works out.
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How do you give good advice? Should you include personal experiences or would that make things confusing. What are some good tips when you want to give somebody advice, like things you should make sure you do? I like to give advice and help people, but I'm not always sure how. I rate 5's for any answers - please help me out on this. Everyone should help so that anyone who reads can get better too. Thanks!
One thing I always try to stick to is to answer questions that you are SURE you can help with. A lot of the questions on this site ask questions relating to situations or circumstances that I have no experience of. I'm therefore not really qualified to give advice, and it would probably suck anyway. Look at the questions, and pick ones you can really help with, rather than the first one you see.
One other thing is- be polite, but you don't have to be nice. Sometimes the best advice isn't what people WANT to hear. You might get negative feedback, but if you pride yourself on giving good advice (which is laudable) then stick to yer guns. Peace out.
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hey i was just wondering if any of you know any songs about missing someone,
i know blink 182 i miss you,
but any others, i dont like R n B or anything like that more rockish kinda thing,
thanks!
Jimmy Eat World- 'Hear You Me.'
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iS THiS LEGAL ??
Alas no, downloading films breaches similar copyright laws to music and thus is illegal. I THINK however that if you already own the movie in question (and have a receipt to prove it) you can download it and keep as a copy.
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Me and my boyfriend have started to have sex (don't worry we know about STD's and pregnancy, and we have everything planned if any of that happens, but I'm just not liking it as much lately. It's getting a lot more boring. Like we've tried doggystyle, we've tried it regular, we've even tried to make it really romantic before hand, and to work out way to it, kind of like teasing each other then eventually giving it, and yes it was fun, the first few times, but now it's just boring. Any ways to make it more fun? Different positions, different games. And sites don't really help because my dad has parental blocks on the computer. Thanks in advance.
Aaaah, the old new-sex-spitshine's worn off? Tch, happens to everyone. The first thing, if its getting boring then you're obviously not satisfied with it. Are you having regular orgasms? If not, then you wanna take the time to explore yourself with your boyfriend. You really wanna get to the stage where, no matter how regular the sex gets, you should both be able to bring each other off. If its just getting boring then... well, doing it in different places, outside, use toys, dress up, tie each other up, strip poker, strip pool, strip toss-a-coin...
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This may sound disgusting, but my pee is hardly yellow at all and its really freaking me out. Please!!! help!!
Just means you're well hydrated. No sweat.
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Okay.. I know this question has probably been asked before, but I have never found an answer that actually answers my question.
I've been having sex for almost a year now. I can never actually feel an orgasm. I don't get that "feeling" people talk about.
Why is this..
Firstly you need to relax- the more you let this become an issure the less likely you are to have a good time. Secondly you need the realise that, unfortunately, most women don't orgasm through penetrative sex. Its gotta be oral, basically. Then you need to allow your partner to really get to know you because only you know whats right for you. Tell them what you like and concentrate on the things that make you feel good. Or take the time to do it yourself- if you're sure you've never had an orgasm before then you probably should explore your body a little bit- a lil' do-it-yourself can clarify what you like.
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ok here i go, i'm 16, and my gf wants to have sex, i'm ready, but i don't know if "it" should be shaved. help please??!!
Dude, whilst trimming can make your dick look bigger (which lets be honest can only be a good thing) shaving your privates is probably a non-no. Unlike the fairer sex you won't end up smooth and sweet-looking, just red and blotchy, kinda like a plucked chicken.
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Is it possible to be drinking too much water???
Too much water can mess up your kidneys (its common when people take extasy then drink too much water in a bid to stay hydrated). Having said that, you need to drink a LOT of water to cause kidney failure. Ask your doctor if you are unsure but i seriously doubt you have much to worry about. Be safe.
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I have been in my current relationship for 9 months. Previouisly my relationship was 4 years in which we had a child. since then her father hasn't seen or talked to her in 6 months. Now when she starts to get close to my boyfriend she takes three steps back. But if she meets someone new she walk with them and hold their hand and she won't do this with my boyfriend. This upsets him and I've told him maybe she's just afraid to get close with himbecause she's afraid he will leave her too. Please help me try to understand this better. (she's only 5 years old)
I think your first assumtion is probably right, but its also possible that she is uneasy about your boyfriend because of his relationship with you. She's already had one parent disappear for reasons unknown and may be afraid that your boyfriend will take you away too. By remaining cold towards your boyfriend, she may be attempting to keep you all for herself, so she won't be left alone. Just a thought.
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my firends, family, just people that i am around always ask me if i cut myself since i have cuts down my arm. i need to give them a good reason for why i have these cuts. theyre actaully old scars from a while ago but they relly refuse to believe that. can u plez give me...escuses(i dno wut else to call them) of why i might have these marks?
plez no smart ass answers,
ill rate 5s for anything that isnt
You know, i used to work as a night porter in a restaurant, and one night i was cleaning one of the steel vents, and some water dripped into the fat fryer. It spat out hot fat onto my left arm and i now have a series of regular scars about two inches long from where i was burnt. Try blaming it on cooking injuries, although it the cuts weren't TOO serious the scars will eventually fade.
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what is the evolutionary adventage of different color eyes. because i heard ppl only evolve things that they need.
I'm not sure if this entirely answers your question, but not all evolutionary quirks happen because they are needed. Sometime they are the result of 'benign mutation.' For example, say you have a bunch of pigeons, and one is born that, througha genetic mutation, is a different colour. The difference in colour doesn't affect its chances of survival so it survives to breed others like it. They didn't 'need' to be a different colour to other pigeons, it just worked out that way. i dunno whether eye colour is related to this, but not all evolutionary occurances have to have an 'advantage.'
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16/f.
i went 2 a party a few nites ago, and anyway ther was this lad ther who was sittin really close 2 me and flirtin wit me loads. anyway hes really geeky and weird, but apparently hes really in2 me! i dont kno wot 2 do, i mean i dont hate him, but i dont fancy him either, n if i did eva do anything wit him every1 wud laugh and my popularity wud go down the drain, but at the same time i dont want 2 b mean! wot shud i do?
Who says you have to do anything? Its not like your obligated to fancy him back, so you really don't have to change the situation. The thing you really have to be careful about is giving him mixed signals- if he thinks you're into him he might try it on. Make sure you aren't giving him cause to wonder, but you don't have to be mean or rude about it.
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Okay, I know I'm an advice columnist, but I really need help. My best friend Rachael, dated my other best friend Evan. And that was fine. Evan broke up with her numerous times. Then they always got back together. Rachael got sick of it and broke it off for good. Then while Rachael was at camp me and Evan started going out. I only did it because I knew Rachael didn't like him still. Rachael is the um.. JEALOUS type. VERY jealous type. But still, she didn't care we were going out. She was TOTALLY okay with it. Then last night she told Evan she still liked him, and was thinking about him. With Rachael, it's REALLY obvious when she lies, so when she said she didn't like Evan, I KNEW she was telling the truth. I think she's lying about still liking Evan. But I don't know. I think she did it cuz Evan liked her still.. until he started going out with me, and Rachael thinks he still likes her. And Evan is moving 45 minutes away from here. My question is.. should I stay with him? Or not? I REALLY like him.. And his brother would drive him here every week to see us. But his mom might not let him. What should I doooo? Sorry this is so long.
45 mins isn't THAT far away, and I'm sure you could probably make it work if you decided to stay with him. You could always find other ways to get there besides his brother and if you really like him it might work out. Even if his mum is unhappy with it... well, mum's can be easily outwitted and I'm sure you could make it work. The real question is how is Rachael gonna take it? If she really is the jealous type (and it sounds like she is, i think your hunch about her not liking Evan is probably correct) then she's likely to get more so, and your continuing relationship with Evan might become and issue between the two of you.
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