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I'm just some girl. I don't really stand out much unless I'm on a stage. I'm not loud unless I get angry. And I don't love unless its proven to me first. I've been hurt almost beyond repair by people I've loved and trusted. But I can only grow from that. I live my life by my own accord. I love my parents more than anything, they have given me an amazing home to grow up in, someplace I want to come back to. I have a boyfriend who has been my best friend for a long time, he's helped me get through a lot. We've been each other's rock when times got hard.

I have my dreams and aspirations, and while some may not come true... the most important things is to know I've tried my hardest. I trust my intuition more than I trust any living person. My gut has never failed me, but unfortunately, I have failed it.

Someone once told me that I don't live in the "real world", that I live in a box - fortunately for that person, they never lived my life. My life is real to me, and me alone. I've been through a lot... I've been hurt, I've laughed.. I've seen life, and death... tears of sadness and tears of joy. I've felt every emotion known to man. Hatred, Love, Sadness, Joy, Ultimate Bliss, Anger.. So don't judge me until you actually get to know me. There's more to me than just about anyone knows. Even my closest of friends.

I'm the "Dear Abby" of all of my friends.

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Today when i went to the bathroom i noticed that i had ALOT of discharge in my underwear what could it be? should i do anything about it?

If you are really worried about it, then you should go to your doctor and talk to them about this just in case it is something serious. But, I think its normal.
Good luck

Well, I'm new here...actually, I only signed up so that I could ask you this question. I am a singer and I need to know if you know how to make your voice stronger and sound better on high notes because all my high notes start cracking up. Thank you!

I am a singer also, and heres my bit of advice. You just have to keep on strengthening your voice. Drink a lot of water to keep your throat hydrated. And also, biggest piece of all, don't push your voice on a note that you know you can't reach yet. Your voice will get strong enough to reach those notes in due time.

Does any one here like the sims?? if so please tell me some cheats.

Do an online search for Sims cheats, and you will find a whole load of them.

I was dating this guy for two years. Last year we broke up because I wasn't treating him the way we deserved to be treated and he cheated on me. We got back together a few months later and things were better than ever. We would constantly talk about marriage and we loved each other very much. Well this spring someone he was extremely close to passed away. He told me not to come to the wake, and he wouldn't talk to me. I told him I'd give him all the time he needed to heal. He told me he couldn't have a girlfriend at that time and that he was dropping out of all his school activities. Well he didn't end up giving anything up but me. So we broke up, but I still supported him, thinking that all he needed was time and that he would need me. A week later I was on the phone with him and he told me he had a new girlfriend, someone that he had gotten to know the week before the person died. Well now he won't talk to me at all. It's been about 4 months and I think he's still with her. I'm dating someone new, but I really miss him. He was my best friend, and I miss having that person to confide in. I need him more than ever, as I'm starting college in the fall and would like someone that I can talk to. I can't call him because I know he wouldn't answer the phone, and he doesn't have the internet. How do I approach him about becoming friends again and what can I say to convince him? Apparently he somehow got the notion that I didn't care about his loss, which is not true, because the person was a close friend of mine as well. I really don't even understand what happened, but suspect that his close friend who was staying with him at the time had something to do with it.

That is a really tough situation. First of all, I'm going to start out by apologizing that you lost your best friend in this whole mess of things. That's the part that usually hurts the most in these things. I believe that your ex-boyfriend is probably still uncomfortable to talk to you. Sometimes it is hard to look at someone you once were with and be comfortable around them. He most likely isn't ready to hear your voice or see you, so your only other possible way of contacting him right now is write him a letter. Explain to him how you feel about the things that happened between you and that you never meant to hurt him. Let him know how you feel (without begging for him to become friends again or be with you.) Because this is a decision that he personally needs to make on his own. Inform him about how your life is going right now and about college, etc. If he wants to try and regain that old friendship, he will answer you back somehow... if not.. give it time.

Good luck and keep me posted on how this goes. I hope I helped.

a couple weeks ago i kinda nicked myself shaving on my bikini line, and it hasnt healed yet. i put neosporine on it and havent shaved over it since, but its kinda turned into a lil red bump .. and yesterday there was a lil tiny bit of puss coming out of it, like if you squeezed a zit. but less. has this ever happened to anyone else & what can i do to make it heal? thnx & i'll rate if you give a good answer =)

Well, I've done that before many times. Its just an ingrown hair... but the only way to get rid of it is to fully leave it alone and let it heal by itself. Don't play with it, squeeze it, or shave on it (because that will make it worse.)

Hope this helped. Good luck

ok like what do i do to make a guy like me what turns them man an i don't wanna look like a slut so please help

if you want to make a guy like you... be yourself. You don't have to dress, act or be different, because you want the guy to like you for who you are.

Hi, I'm the one who asked 4 song suggestions for an alto girl. The show that I am auditioning for is Wizard of Oz. If u have any suggestions of songs I could use 4 my audition it would be a great help! Thx bunches!

Well the most obvious choice that I personally would choose is "Somewhere Over the Rainbow" unless thats not the part you want. Whichever character you desire, listen to their song from the show, and try to find a song from either a disney movie or another broadway show that sounds similar (so you can show off your vocal range and whatnot.) Other suggestions for songs are: A Whole New World (Aladdin), any song from Jekyl and Hyde (a musical with amazing music)... and perhaps even music from the musical The Wiz (which is the more funked up version of the Wizard of Oz).

I hope this helped, darlin. Break a leg and let me know how things turn out.

I am pretty actively involved in musical theater and have an audition coming up soon! For my audition, I need 2 sing a song, but the problem is, I am having trouble finding a good song 4 my voice. Does any1 have any song suggestions for an alto girl? (Broadway or Disney songs are preferred most by the directors, but I'm willing 4 other suggestions 2!) Thanks all!!

I have been active in musical theatre for quite a long time. And picking a song to sing for an audition is always the hardest part of pre-audition prep. However you can do one of two things:
1. A lot of directors like to hear their auditionees sing a song from the production that is going up. It gives them a more outright view of their choices for leads and whatever.
2. You can choose a song that is similar to the music that is in the show that you are auditioning for.

Since I do not know what show you are doing.. I can't give you a name for a song yet. Leave me a message and I will get back to you with it... If not, then break a leg at your auditions.

how will i no if i found the right person. Cause i think i found him but im scared to ask him out?

Found the right person as in? Soul mate? Well the only way you CAN know is to ask him out.

Is it possible to get cold sores on your skin? I have something on the skin above my lip which is either a small zit or a cold sore. I don't want to put anything on it until I know what it is; as benzoyl peroxide will irritate it if it is a cold sore, and if it's a cold sore I'm not gonna do anything. Also I don't want to be popping a cold sore.

Salt is a decent idea. I know someone who uses salt to rid their cold sores.. and believe me.. it works. Yes it does sting a bit.. but it works.

hey, my best friend hasnt really been chillin with me lately at all shes been chillin with sum otha qirl that we hated...i dunno what to do, i dont wanna lose my best friend...please help!!!

I don't think you've lost your best friend. But I do think that you should talk to her about how you feel. If she truly is your best friend, she will understand what you are thinking and feeling.
But I am going to let you know, from someone with experience (since I don't know how old you are, I am going to assume you are younger than I am.) A lot of friendships that start out in lower grades have a lot of trouble lasting through high school and whatever.. Sometimes they do, but I just wanted to warn you... hurt MAY come from this.. but hang in there. Stay strong. And don't be afraid to approach her.

Keep me posted.

whenever a guy and a girl makeout, why do the guys always asked if the girl liked it?

Honestly, I have NEVER had a guy ask me if I liked making out with him. I don't know why... but I've never heard of that before either. Maybe because the guy either truly wants the girl to enjoy the kissing, or because he just wants his ego rubbed a little.

iight...i'm dateing this guy that i love more than anything...but now i feel like he doesn't want me! well i wanna break up...but then i don't bC i love him....and then i wanna get back w/ my ex but my mom told me that i couldn't..i'm jst stuck and confused and things are going right and i jst don't know wat to do!?

I am familiar with this situation. It sucks so much, having parents against a relationship that you really want. (not to mention anything about breaking up sucks too.) But here's my advice... what does your heart tell you? Have you told your mother how you truly feel, and what your ex means to you? If not, I suggest you do. Also, how old are you? Your mother is probably just looking out for your best interest (which my mother was, until she realized that the person I wanted to be with was really an amazing guy who cared about me a lot.) If somehow you can show your mother your feelings, things should start to get better.
Best of luck. Please feel free to leave me a message in my inbox if you need anything else. Because as I told you, I know how this situation feels.

my boyfriend likes me alot he tells me and his friends all the time but I'm not sure if I like him enough to go out with him any more I want to dump him but I dont know how to because hes just so sweet and I dont want to break is heart does any one have any good ways to break up with him with out hurting him to much? :-/
*thnx

Honestly, hun, there is no 'good' way to break up with someone. If he likes you as much as he says he does, then it will inevitably hurt him. I say, try to figure out some things first; like if you want to stay friends with him or if you want to end the friendship all together. Also, make sure you don't break up with him online or on the phone, because thats a sure way to hurt him more. Be sensitive to him and sit down with him and talk about whats going on. Tell him how you feel personally. If you take it to a more personal level, he will understand more.

Good luck. Let me know how it goes ok? Bye hun

How can I make my calf muscles bigger? I hate running unless it's soccer and I'm not playing at the moment, and I'm past pueberty. Also, I have weak ankles (they get sprained a lot when I play soccer), anyone have advice for that?

You could try going to physical therapy. I did that for my weak back, and it helped a lot.
Good luck

I usually give advice, but now I need advice...I'm gonna be a freshy in about 3 weeks and I want some tips (besides "be yourself") on making friends, my problem is that I'm REALLY shy and I always think I'm going to say something stupid. The h.s isn't that big (1,100 students) and all of my friends are going to this h.s, but if I don't have any of them in one of my classes I want to be able to meet new people..

Any tips would be greatly appricated, btw I rate

Ahh.. Freshman year. I remember that well (I am a senior now.) I went to school in a really small town who had about 400 total students (middle and high school combined.) Well, after 8th grade, I decided I wanted to go to the school that was in my city that had about 3600 students. Major change. I was sooo nervous. I knew only like 3 people total who went to that school when I started going there. But the first day I walked in, I realized in order to make friends, I had to be myself. I don't agree with changing yourself in order to fit in somewhere, so my advice to you is be yourself. Being nervous is perfectly alright. In fact, its VERY normal. Things may seem rough at first, but its all natural. Hang in there and be the real you, and people will start flocking toward you. =)

Good Luck. If you need any more advice, feel free to leave a message in my inbox.

Im a twin. Were both 5'4 except im 94 pounds and shes 104 pounds. Im getting harassed constantly. they say "o shes the anerexic twin", "well thats how u tell them apart, ones anerexic", nd just regular stuff like hey anerexic girl n stuff like that. they even call me mary kate! should o try to gain a little weight or should i just deal wit it? thanx

Don't gain wait to satisfy other people, do it for yourself. If you are unhappy with yourself and how you look, then go for it an try to gain weight. But if I am correct, you BOTH are a little underweight for your height category. (I know this because I weight 100 lbs and thats still underweight for 5'2.) Well, good luck in your endeavor. Hang in there and keep your head held high. Stay proud of yourself.

hi. im 14 5'2 and 87 pounds and im tired of being so skinny! ppl r like "do u eat", and say crap like "eat a chesseburger or something gees" what should i do?
tanki

I know this problem way too well. For me, I have been drinking high protein drinks and NEVER skipping meals. Talk to your doctor about what else you can do to help you gain weight, or if have trouble gaining, to at least maintain your weight now so you don't lose any more.

Good luck.

hey i got this boyfriend and me and him have been going out for 3months now.And lately he has not been acting like him slef at all!He never keeps his promises at it seems he does not want to be around me that much.I think he might be up to something but evertime i ask him hes like nothing is going on and he lies alot well he has been lately!i am so confused everyone tells me to brake up with him because he does had not been treating me right!Please help me out!thanks~Kristen

First of all, lying is lying. You wrote that he has been lying a lot to you lately. How are you supposed to build a better relationship on lied? You don't trust him right now, and you have every right now to. Also, do you ask him online, on the phone, or in person if he has been cheating on you? I suggest you sit down and look him in the eyes when you ask him. That is the best way to tell if he is lying. If you suspect that he is lying when he says "No" then I believe that you need to figure out for yourself what you need to do. I personally could not stay with someone who I found out was cheating on my and lying straight to my face, because I feel a relationship should always be based on trust.

Good luck. I hope everything goes well, and that you're suspicions ARE NOT true. I also hope that your boyfriend decides to straighten up before he loses you.

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Theres this girl at skool right and i realy like her but im to shy i first step to a relationship is friendship but im just way to shy and neva now wat to say its like my mind goes blank around her. Wat should i do?

I say, a good conversation always starts out with a "hello." I don't think you should plan out what you want to say or anything, because usually the words you plan on saying automatically delete when you start talking anyways. Be yourself. Its alright to be nervous to talk to this girl, its normal. Just start off the conversation and if she is interested, she will add more to it.

Good Luck.

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