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Q: Hm, I know that I'm not bulimic. But do I have EDNOS? I was reading info. off of google today and there wasn't too much of a help. I hate my body and I'm so self consious it makes me miserable. I will eat dinner or a normal amount of food, not binge, and I'll purge. I feel so much better after I do it. I'll go through periods where I won't do it for weeks, and sometimes I do it multiple times a week. What is wrong with me? (I started doin this over a yr ago)

I think you do have an EDNOS, if not a low key case of bulemia. Technically, you could be considered a bulemic. Binging doesn't have to occur to signify bulemia. Any purging counts. But if you say you aren't bulemic, yes, you have an EDNOS.

Q: f/13.5
i've had my peroid for almost 2 years now, and i've never worn a tampon.
And i want 2 (4 swinmming & such) buti don't know how it feels or how 2 put it in. and i been told if i'm not careful i could get TSS. i don't want this 2 happen what should i do?

The first time, it will feel really weird, unless I guess if you've had sex a lot, which most girls haven't before the first time they wear a tampon.
When I first tried, I couldn't figure it out either, but take a bath, and once you're clean, feel around *down there* for a hole. Once you've found it, there are a couple of ways to put them in. Personally, I prefer sitting, but I know some girls who stand up to do it. Spread your legs, and push gently in, towards your spine.
TSS occurs if it stays in too long. However, this is not something you should truly truly stress about. A friend of mine accidentally forgot that one was in, and the string had broken, and it was in for about 3 weeks before she realized it and took it out. If she didn't get TSS, I don't think you will from a few hours. To be safe, change them about every 8 hours, and more often if your flow is really heavy.

Q: i have been bulimic for several months. i have been trying not to throw up cuz i wanna stop, but i also want to lose weight. any tips on how i can keep myself from bingeing so i dont throw up?or how to keep myself from puking after i pig out?plz and thank you!

If you're eating, say junk food, put a NORMAL portion into a bowl, and eat just that. Don't eat from multiserving bags, because it TEMPTS you to binge.
When you're eating normal food, set out what you're okay with eating on your plate, and then either make someone else eat it right away, or put it in tupperware containers in your freezer. Once its cold, you won't want to eat it anymore.
Make charts of what you're eating at what meal, so you at least have a BALANCE, because bodies love balance.
If you just want big portions, make something thin, like soup, and eat it all, because your body will mistake it for water.
Have someone around when you eat, and eat slowly. Its harder to lie when you're with someone else.
Hope this helps!! If you want to tell me more, its possible that I could give better help. Send a private question if you like.
~Rose~

Q: me and my friends are going to walmart and we need some ideas of fun things to do. we don't want to play tag/hide and seek or get kicked out. we're going to have a scavenger hunt and play a game where you see who can get the most items under 2$. any other ideas?? THANKS!

lol... one thing thats always fun is going to, say the little kids toy aisle, and pressing every "try me" button on every single stuffed singing toy.
Its also fun to reshelve stuff, like toys in the food department.
I remember going there once and picking out the UGLIEST outfits we could.
have fun!

Q:
I started going tanning about 4 week's ago.

For the first 3 day's i went for 6 minutes.
And after that i kept going up on the minutes.
During the 3-4 weeks i went tanning , i only used a stand up bed , and i went 12 minutes everyday. So my question is ; am i at risk for skin cancer ?

yes. skin cancer risk is WORSE when you use tanning beds, because the rays burn your skin closer. Tans are your body's way of telling you that your skin is injured, and the worst way is tanning beds. However, skin cancer takes about 20 years to develop, so you won't see the results for 20 years. Get checked out by a dermatologist, and pray that if you do, you only get basil cells...[my grandad died from melanoma. :(]
Rose

Q: like, one day i asked my mom why i have bags under my eyes and she said it was because its basically hereditary and even if you get enough sleep its still gonna be there.

so i was wondering if there was any way to maybe get rid of it or make it visually less noticeable to me and to others.

or a way to cover it up, but i'd rather not have to.

I don't bother, but I know my mom has a nighttime "wrinkle undereye cream" which is NOT for wrinkles, but for bags. ;)

Q: Ok to start off, i was born with very very dark brown hair but recently i've bleached my hair and now its a very honey dirty blonde. i havent seen my dark hair in a while and i wanna go back to it only temporarily though...i've heard that when u use a black non permanent dye on ur light hair it will not wash out completely..i wanna get the black dye but then again i dont cause i still want to have blonde hair with out having to dye it blonde again..i want to use the loreal color pulse or the one from clairol..will it give me any problems??

color pulse stuff takes wayyyyy longer than 10 washes to come out. It took 6 months to come out fully in my hair, and there was still residue. The second time I used it, we lessened the develop time, and it only lasted 2 days, and the color was off.
The clairol dye isn't very strong, it only lasts a little while. I didn't use black, I used purple on my LIGHT LIGHT LIGHT brown hair[normally an almost blonde color] and it just darkened it a few shades. No real color change. It washed out in less than three washes FULLY, and it didn't really have any issues.
If you truly want NON-PERMANENT color, you should try a spray... but they don't always turn out well.....
Sorry, it probably WON'T work well.
~Rose~

Q: alright. ha. so im 13 (14 in a few days) and my 8th grade dance is on the 15th or something like that. its formal too. and i have to get a dress for it. im thinking like a black or blue one. any good dresses that arent like SO much money. or any like.. other dress ideas?
and shoes too. ah. (i sorta have big feet tho? :[
and i need to figure out how to do my hair. ill tell you what i look like first.
i have blonde wavy hair to my shoulders.
im 5'3 and have blue eyes.
i have long legs? and um theres nothing really else.

so yeah. any ideas on my hair. i think i might just straigthen it.

and the theme for the dance is like bon boi ash (thats spelt wrong) but pretty much like a cruize line thing.

ANY IDEAS for ANYTHING? :] thanks.

http://www3.jcpenney.com/jcp/Products.aspx?GrpTyp=PRD&ItemID=114c4d6&RefPage=Products&StoreRegNo=&catalog_base=&firstpage=&CmCatId=40380|40566|40628|CrossSell&cmOrigID=11306A4&cmPosID=1

I love this dress... this would have been my choice if I went.

http://www.sears.com/sr/javasr/product.do?cat=Womens&pid=054T0091000&vertical=SHOE&subcat=Special+Occasion&BV_SessionID=@@@@0833458312.1180751324@@@@&BV_EngineID=ccjladdldiglelicefecemldffidfmm.0

strappy heels... they go up to a size 11?

I think that if you straightened it and then put in barrel curls you'd look REALLY REALLY cute... idk. Thats just me.

Q: lets call this boy "brandon" i really don't like him i love him and i when i actually talk about it; its kind of weird because i have never loved anyone before and i always thought that 14 was too young to be in love but i have figured out that if any one was to hurt him then i would go to juvi for him

well i just don't know what to do because the apt. he lived in are being torn down so "brandon" had to move and i will never see him again its possible that i could move to that school that he is going to and i was going to go to that school but the fact that gas is three dollars cut that off and i have no way of contacting him so what i am really trying to say is how do i get him out of my head im deppressed i loose weight then i gain it and its bothering me so how do i get him out of my head please help me plz

*hugs*
If you really want to forget him:
>go find another guy
>join a new club
>start doing something new [crafts, sports, ect...]
>keep busy, don't sit around doing nothing
>when you have to sit around, play loud music so that you can't think[use headphones, your parents might be upset otherwise ;)]

If you don't REALLY want to, you can try to have him visit, or you visit him, and go to movies or other things in between your two house/towns. Long distance is hard, but it can work. [you think a few towns is far? try IRELAND!!! ;)]

If you love him, than he'll be hard to forget, but you can. Don't LET yourself remember.

Lots of Love,
Rose

Q: what does it mean if your feces is green? like a dark green. i havent been eating differently or anything. its just green??

it can mean you're sick. I think its something to do with parasites maybe? Go see a doctor.

Q: my dad has been a pastor for 10 years. he was a cop before that and got asked to take his police job back. he accepted and stepped down to part-time pastor at the church. well, one of the committees in the church came to my father last sunday and asked him to take his family and leave the church. so we announced tonight that our last sunday would be fathers day. ive been a little torn up about leaving. ive been there since i was 6. most of those people there remember teaching me and watching me grow up. it pisses me off that they would tell us to leave. its pretty much causing huge drama within the church because so many people dont want us to leave. but we have to. they are bringing in a new pastor. my goddaughters family goes there, my best friend and her family go there... what sucks ass is that my best friends mother is on the committee that asked us to leave. i have a feeling that the church is going to split.

im pissed that they would ask a family such as mine to leave. im not saying that my family is perfect, but i cant tell you how many times we;ve gotten calls at 2am and have gotten out of bed to attend "emergencies". theres been so many times that my father has sacraficed family time to be with someone who only has a week left to live. theres been times when i woke up and didnt know where my father and mother have been, only to find out that they were counseling a family. theres been times when my father has been extremely sick, and still gave of his time to go open the church for someone who forgot their glasses. weve given so much to that church in the past 10 years it seems like they just dont care or dont see how much we do for them. as a family, we have every right to be there.

im not saying that im closed minded. i can see how if youve been a pastor for 10 years and they bring in somebody else to take your spot, how that could affect the church. knowing my dad, i know that it wouldnt hurt him. he would just be happy staying with people hes known and grown to love.

its going to be hard to say goodbye to people whove watched me grow up. some of the young-ish (20-30 yr old) ladies who ive grown to adopt as second parents, we were crying tonight.

everything happens for a reason. but it doesnt seem like it here. we vote over the color of the damn carpet and whether or not to fill the cracks in the ceiling, but we dont vote over asking the pastor and his family to leave?! this whole situation is really weighing on my conscience.

i have mixed feelings. im pissed and im also scared and depressed. any comforting words?

*huggles* My dad used to be a pastor. He's been asked to leave a couple times, and quit a few too. I understand that it feels horrible to leave that church family behind, but would you really want to stay there while the new pastor took your dad's place? Trust me, its not fun. I've returned to places he used to pastor, and everyone was uber sweet and sugary all the time, but they were faking it.
I'm sorry that it happened to you too.
Email me if you wanna talk!!
Rosie

Q: what does goober means? it has a a lot of definition and im confused it says warm-hearted but on the other hand it says stupid or retarded what does it really mean?

Well, this is just in my circles, I don't know about everyone, but it means a lovable dork.
Like, you like the person, but you're calling them dumb cuz they're acting like an idiot.
Example- Carrie asks why the sun comes up and goes down. We all laugh and say "Carrie, you're such a goober!"

Q: is it very abnormal if this is the first year i have had my period and i got it 2 times 2months in a row october and november but havent had it since?? you see i wanted to lose 5 pounds but i was already skinny enough i just wanted to weigh the same as my friend i was 95 and went to 90 now im back up to 95 and not on a diet (when i say diet not eating as much)please help =/

You're underweight. Being underweight will make your period not consistant because your body wants to be sure you can handle a baby. If not, then you probably won't have your period. hope this helps!
Rosie

Q: im 13/f and i weight 165.5 and im 5'9. please tell me.

nope. you're well withing. 150 is normal for 5'5 people, and you're much taller with not that much more weight. you're normal. :)

Q: the otherday i was wearing a really tight shirt, it started to ride up a little because it was so tight. some boy came up to me and said "you got a nasty muffintop, cover that up." what is a muffintop? is it good or bad, if its bad how do i get rid of it?

Technically, its where you're pants are too tight, and they push the fat up and over them.
Wearing the tight shirt probably had nothing to do with it, it was the pants you were wearing and the shirt just exposed it.
A muffintop is bad.
If you wear tighter/lower cut pants, its probably going to happen. Make sure your jeans are big enough and the right cut for you.
If you lose weight, you'll cut back on this, and crunches and activities like running and swimming will tone that up.

Q: 19/F

In less than a week, I'm flying across the country to work at a resort in the middle of nowhere. I'm really excited!

Since I won't be anywhere near a city while I'm gone, I'd really like to sort of spoil myself a bit. Thing is, it can't be anything that requires maintenance... so nothing like getting highlights.

Any ideas as to something I can do to pamper myself?

Go get a really brilliant pedicure and manicure.
Go out for lunch at that expensive restaurant where you never go because its pricy.
Grab a friend and go to a club, dance and just hang out for awhile.
Go get a facial done.
Permanent makeup... this one's iffy... but it could be useful if, say, you're going to be without your favorite colors/brands.
Buy your city's famous food [ie, chicago, pizza, new york, lox&bagels, ect]
thats all I can think of ATM...
I'll think and get back to you.
Rose

Q: What is your definition of skinny enough? And when someone says that to you are they implying that you were never skinny or that you were overweight before: Here is the story so you know what I am referring to: STORY: I am thin and A FEW DAYS AGO when I came home from work I changed into a tee-shirt but wore the same pants I wore to work. She asked me as I sat down to eat if I lost weight, and I said no, but this upset me. I said to her that she always tells me I look beautiful. She said you do look beautiful but your pants look bigger. And she told me that I am skinny enough.

She wasn't saying that at all. What she was saying is, she doesn't want you to continue weight loss, she's worried you might have an eating disorder or something. She's saying you're perfect, and don't lose weight. "skinny enough" means that you're a good weight, don't lose more and don't gain. Stay there. You're perfect!
She wasn't saying you weren't beautiful, but losing more weight isn't going to make you prettier, it actually starts looking gross. Well, hope this helped! :)
Rose
PS- guys, its not the point of Advicenators to insult people's questions. Its rude, and hey, people probably think your questions are stupid too. Back off. and btw person- if you'd read the question, she wasn't asking if SHE was skinny, she was asking what the heck her mom said. Thats all. Okay, rant over. Thankies! :)

Q: weve been bestfriends 7 years but now i think were growing apart. im 14 shes 13. im very perky and peppy. she is very dark hearted. i wear pinks and brights she wears the blacks and darks. we have always been real different like this but now i gues its going to extremes. prep and goth totally different music she listens to screaming and rock stuff i listen to pop. even when we go to the mall i want hollistar she wants hottopic. when we go to dances its just creepy the people she can meet and how she dances. i dont wana lose her shes all i really got. i make it seem like i have alot of friends but its really only her. she has alot of gothic friends that were there for her when she was suicideal. she just scared me so i was kinda away i regret it now. now i realize that i left her when she was dieing literally how meaner can i get to her. leaveing your bestfriend to die. we talk over aim and very little at school but thats pretty much all. i dont like her friends i hate them so much their freaks and just try to kill theirselvs for fun? i told her that it made her scream and go to them. she doesnt cry not even through all the deaths shes been through. i can tell in her eyes shes dieing inside. shes always in trouble always pissed at something. shes very mad im scared of her she talks about death and killing and she can kill someone instantly shes just scarey. shes always with her other friends she said there the only ones in my life to understand me truely. they have kept her alive this hole year. she will not let anyone help her not even her parents but how do i. there is alot of questions about friends on here so i was hopeing anything will help me. anything please shes all i need

I completely understand your friend. I know she's your best friend, but you have to let her be. By telling her how to behave you're just making her want to be around you less. If you can't accept her for how she is, she probably won't want to be around you. Calm down, and think of her clique as the same, just darker. Don't discriminate against those who choose to dress differently. Try hanging out with her new friends some. It could help you understand better.

Q: whats it called when you sign a contract, with other people, and it states that the last living person can keep whatever the contract is for. like in the simpsons? with the flying hellfish. thanks a lot

I just looked it up. a tontine
;) love me!

Q: Please!!!!! help. I am a 13 year old girl. I am pretty small (5 ft, 87 pounds). I want to know when I will get my period. I have had pubic and armpit hair for like a couple years and I have had discharge for probably a year. I feel so left out because all my friends have had there period and I have heard that your breasts get bigger when you get your period. WHAT ARE OTHER SIGNS OF WHEN I WILL GET MY PERIOD BESIDES THE BASIC ONES! I am so insecure at this stage of my life and I do not know what to do!! HELP! Thanks

Calm down. Deep breath. okay.
I felt the exact same way. I was the last person I knew that didn't get theirs, and I felt horrible.
For you, I have a feeling because you're so small, thats why. Usually girls don't start until they hit 100 pounds[or around there] because your body wants to be sure you can support a baby, whether you want to or not.
Its perfectly normal to feel left out, but trust me, its not all its cracked up to be.
Okay, the thing about your boobs growing is SO an urban legend. It happens to some girls, but I kept growing at the same rate I had been. No dramatic increase. Right before I started, I kept feeling sick to my stomach, very queasy and had bad cramps. I thought I had the flu.
idk if this helps...
Rose

bio

Hey Peoples...
I'm a Pennsylvania girl plopped right down in the middle of the nowhere, and hating it.
I sing, act, write, read way too much, and I love my girls.
Currently SiNgLe, but I want someone.
I give okay advice, but I won't bullshit to you. If I don't know, I'll tell you straight up. I'm NOT going to sugarcoat answers, and if you rate me down, whatevs. WHO CARES. I'm not here to be the most popular collumnist. I'm here to give advice.
On that note,
Lots of Love
Rose