hey i dont know if this can be answered on here, but i have given my guy hand jobs and stuff, and he says theyre really good. i wanted to know some new ideas and different techniques to try, that make work/feel better. also if anybody has any realy good ideas to turn a guy on? and what do guys find sexy that a girl can do?? thanks so much. if you can't answer on here send me an email
jamour-tu@hotmail.co.uk
please answer quick.
thanks. X
Using both hands is a good idea.
Also focus a lot on the tip. When I gave one to the guy I was with at the time, he requested that I focus on that area & he really enjoyed it.
Also, don't be afraid to explore the balls either. JUST BE CAREFUL! Those things are mega-sensitive so no squeezing, lol.
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k this is not a question lol i just want to thank you for being so nice i think i reall need to change.
Aww it's not a problem at all.
And don't go changing yourself too much. I'm sure your bf wouldn't be happy if you were anyone else but yourself =)
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17/f
I really like this boy. Hes like everything i ever wanted but I feel like he is too hard to sort or get him I suppose. I dont even talk to him. :S
Its just too hard and I can't do it and I think he is too good for me anyway.
Anyway one of his friends who is fun and really nice is chasing me. I have only just started thinking about him more often. Like wondering what it would liek to be with him. I only started thinking like this after I found out he liked me. Yet without a doubt I would love to be with the other boy so much more.
I don't think I have a chance with the first boy I really like and I've got no confidence at all around him, yet around his friend I am confident and he likes me.
So is it better to keep loving the first boy or to give it a chance with his friend, although I might not be as happy and I would still be in love with the other boy
Please help me, I'm confused.
First off -- how do you know if you're in love with the first boy and that he's everything that you've ever wanted if you've never spoken to him? For all you know you could end up talking to him and getting to know him and then find out that he's not all you built him up to be.
Secondly, I really think you should take a chance with the other boy if you really like him as well, not just because he likes you. Plus if you still like his friend, then what happens if you ever have to hang out with the two of them? That could just be awkward.
But mainly I think you're just in over your head with the whole "in love" thing. You can't be in love with someone you've never spoken to.
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Today is Friday July the eleventh. On July the fourth i was with my boyfriend at his lake house. We took the boat out, and did some stuff in the water. However it was not sex, and i was still wearing my bathing suit. He was not. Basically he rubbed his dick all over my bathing suit clad vagina. I don't know if he cummed or not, but im assuming he did. He also fingered me right before that. I was supposed to get my period yesterday, and it hasnt come. My boyfriend thinks im overreacting, but im a bit concerned. He says that there is no way i could be pregnant, but im still unsure. I am regular with my period, Im a junior in highschool now, and i was regular since the day i got it in fifth grade. Can somebody please tell me whether i am overreacting or is there really a possibility of me being pregnant. I have decided that if i dont get my period in the next week i will take a pregnancy test and decide what to do from there.
I would really appreciate help.
Believe it or not, "stuff" is still possible to get through even while wearing clothes (or in your case a bathing suit). And being in water doesn't prevent that either. So your boyfriend is incorrect in saying that it's not possible.
However, I wouldn't freak out just yet. As you grow your body changes, and so does your flow. So at times you could end up getting it a little late or a bit early even if you had a normal flow before that. So 1 day off isn't too bad, but when it happens after something like that it's understandable to get worried. It's happened to me in the past. I've done similar to things like that in the past, and then my period was a good day or 2 late. I freaked, but it eventually came. However it was enough to scare me to be more cautious next time around. Sometimes I think it's just your body's way of telling you "Whoaaa careful what you're doing there, lady."
But you do have the right thing in mind about taking a pregnancy test if you don't get it next week. Because a week late is more cause for concern than a month. And if it worries you enough than taking one might be a good idea to settle your mind. However, it's possible it still could be too early to judge so just keep that in mind.
It's probably best to not get to worked up about it just yet, (stress also can cause your period to be irregular) and don't tell too many people just yet -- no need to worry anyone else until you know yourself if you are or not.
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Jehmehh,
Hey dis is Lil' Momma again concerning the problem with my bf ignoring me. U kno I think it's him acting stupid like going through one of his male fits. Right now we're sort of taking a week's break that way the whole thing can air out. And doing this break he sent me a text msg. on my cell phone explaining that he is wrong for ignoring me and he's going to change. He also said that we just have to deal with each other, and he asked if I still want to be with him because he still want to be with me. I think that we're just young in love and have to work with each other stubbornness. Do you think that's what it is, because we're not tired of each other. We can't get enough of each other we always want to see each other even when we have a arguement that's how bad we don't want to seperate.I guess I'm going to see if he changes and if I don't see any change then like I told him we won't be together anymore no matter how much it hurts me or him. And the part of giving him his own medicine, that's what exactly I had in mind. I just want him to feel the way I felt. So, what do you think is all of this even worth it?
I wouldn't give up on him just yet. Guys do go through periods like that and, while it can be extremely annoying and frustrating, it's like they can't even control it. The fact that you took a break and let him know how serious you are about the situation, and from that he seemed to realize that he was wrong and is trying to change, shows that he really does care. If you guys are both stubborn sometimes that can cause little problems like that, but I think that in the big picture if you two really do care about each other and want to be together despite your flaws, then I wouldn't let that stand in the way. You two obviously want to be together and aren't tired of each other, so why hurt yourself and him by ending something that could be great? I think you guys could work things out and be happy together.
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17, F
I used to talk to this guy ryan last summer, but I forgot why we stopped. Like I always do when I stop talking to a guy/boyfriend. Hahaha.
So 2days ago we finally got reunited in summer school. Ryan is very popular with the ladies because of his wonderful, excellent, omgoodness, wow, physical experience. So to make a long story short, we ended up kissing in his car, which I now realize I shouldn't have done, but couldn't help it! =)
Well that day he told me he was gonna call me later and after school I ran into him and saw him giving his number to some girl, but I didn't feel the right to get mad because he's not my boyfriend. What a little player he thinks he is! Little does he know I am too, but I'm not a hoochie about it! Hahaha. *Well he never called.
Ryan is the type of guy who expects a girl to be ALL on him. He probably expected me to call him, but no. I will NEVER be on him. The thing about him is he's "shy" when it comes to being with him in person and saying something. So I was being nice the next day. I am really close with his guy friends and talked to them first and laughed with them and hugged. (Maybe he got mad because of it??) After he was staring and deciding if he should walk over to me or not, i said "Whoa why didn't you call me?" he said "oh I will tonight! I will. I will." And he gave me this loooong tight wonderful hug. =). And afterwards, to make it so great, I turned around and almost ran into some guy. Hahahaha. But anyways....
*He didn't call again!!!! I don't know how to act when I see him? He's going to stare and want me to talk. Should I just smile and wave and say a little hi? Should I be mad at him? Should I ignore him? Act like it never happend?
Thaaaanks.
It sounds to me like he's just being a typical player. And though you may not think you're being ALL on him, asking him why he didn't call and talking to his friends is just giving him more power AND feeding his ego.
I think he might be playing the "shy" role because girls find that cute and charming. But he certainly isn't "shy" when it comes to giving out his number to girls. Strange...
I think you should just try and show that it doesn't bother you. At least make it seem that way. If he thinks you don't care, he'll either not care himself and find some other girl (or girls) or it will actually "ruffle his feathers", so to speak, and actually upset him that you don't care. Maybe enough to make HIM start doing the work. It's all part of the chase, you know?
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im almost 16 my bf is 16 and we went to have sex for both our first time and when he was about to put his penis in it went soft we tried later on the same thing happened i gave him a handjob but he couldnt get another erection hes really embarrassed what can we do?
Maybe subconsciously he wasn't really ready for it yet?
I don't think it's anything to be too concerned about as of right now. If later on you guys try again and he's really into it and really turned on and he still can't get it up, then it might be more of a problem.
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Okay well lets say his names bob,well i just broke up with bob like two weeks ago because he was flirting with this girl saying i hit that and hey sexy and stuff.Well anyways bob was talking to me about how his going to change and stuff and i was also talking to his bestfriends and they said that his been acting like a dick. Then when i seen him for the fourth of july for the first time sence then he was drunk really badly. Then awhile i was talking to bobs friends and i asked them why his been acting like that they said because he wont let go of me. Then when I tried to talk to him on myspace today he would barely talk to me.My two closest friends said that they think if he gets drunk that bad again he might
kill his self.
First off: What makes them think that he might do that? Just because he won't let go of you? Or has he said or done something to give them that idea? Because they could just be exaggerating, and if not then it could be a serious issue.
If what they are saying IS true, then do NOT get back together with him just because of that, unless you still like him and want to be with him again. Because doing that and leading him on or just being with him out of pity will not help the situation, only make it worse. Then in the end both of you will be unhappy, or even something more extreme given his situation.
Somethings I don't understand though, if he was flirting with other people and not showing too much interest in the relationship, then why is he so broken up about it now? And if he won't let go of you, then why won't he talk to you when given the chance. I don't know, some of these things just don't really add up...
Finally, how well do you know his friends? Like, how close to them are you? Because I feel like they're giving you very mixed signals. First they tell you that he's being a dick, then they say how he can't get over you and he's going to kill himself. Are you absolutely positive that they're not making some of this stuff up? And how did you find out about him flirting with that other girl/do you know if he was being serious or just joking around? He said he'd made the effort to change, but his friends said he was being a dick. I don't really get that. That he was being a dick to you, or to them?
If I were you I'd basically just try to find out as much TRUE information (pref. from reliable sources) as you can. But don't ask your ex if he ever mentioned anything related to suicide. Because if it's a lie, that could be damaging to him. And if it's true, he could feel betrayed by his friends.
I'd just advise you to make sure his friends are being completely honest with you...
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16/f.
Okay so I've known this guy for mostly all my life around 13 years. Well within the past year we became really close, like bestfriends. People thought we were dating because we were always together and the way we acted around each other. Well here's where it kind of gets tough. I'm not going to lie, I've had feelings for him before, but he didn't have any feelings back. Which obviously bugged me but that didnt bother our relationship. So it's been about 8 months since i stopped having feelings for him. But its difficult. Because i cant tell if i still have feelings for him anymore. Could i have been in love with him? I mean i liked him for a long time.
I can never tell whether or not i like him, but then when people ask i just say i dont know. He knew i liked him, but wasnt going to let that get in the way of things. How do you tell whether you still have feelings for someone, or whether you love someone? please dont tell me to talk to him, because he's not the type to just talk about this openly, he actually hates it. Our friendship kind of fell apart, and now all my friends think i should dump him as a friend. i dont even know if i have feelings for him, how can i dump him as a friend? ugh im confused, how do you know if you have feelings for someone who you thought you were over? How do you know your in love with someone? please help.
"Dumping" your friend doesn't seem like the best idea. And it's possible that your friends could be jealous of the fact that you and him were so close. So it's not worth it to lose a close friend over something like that.
And while you might not be "in love" with him, I think you definitley do still "love" him. Be it as in a significant other, or just how you would love a best friend.
I'm not sure why your friendship fell apart with him...was it because he knew you had feelings for him? Because if you're ok with him not feeling for you back, but you miss him as a friend, I think it might be best to put those feelings on the back burner for now and just work on being friends again. Let him know that that's all you want as well. If you guys are best friends, I think you should be able to repair whatever was broken.
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My boyfriend has a small penis.. it's not important to me I still love him but I was wondering what are the best positions to have sex with a guy that has a small penis... from the back hasnt had the best sucess.. i dont really want to be on top all the time i feel kind of self conscious lol.
I'm not really sure and I don't have much experience with this, but you being on top might not be the best for that. I've read that being on top is better for men with large penises, as to reduce pain and have control.
So maybe just you being on the bottom would be best?
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I'm planning on buying a Playstation Portable over the summer, and I'm wondering what your opinions are on it.
I want to get some games (no action please :P stuff like ssx and maybe car racing games)
and also movies.
So yeah, your opinions & experiences?
Thanks.
I've heard they're good. And I've played on my friend's once or twice and it was pretty fun.
I'm pretty sure you can get Grand Theft Auto games for it, if you're interested in that.
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Okay I'm 14 years old and this summer has been like the crazziest summer. Okay these are the things I did just in 2 weeks
1.Gave a blow job in a public restroom
2.Had sex in a public restroom
3.Flashed a lot a guys at a public pool
4.Sent nude Photo's to atleast 7 different guys
5.Had a 3some (2 other guys)
6.madeout with a way older guy
7.Did a lot of ohter "things" in public places
Is this serious? Because if so I really think you need to calm down and think about what you're doing.
Do you want to be a slut? Because if not then you might have a hard time getting your rep back...
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Hey! Well, I have a bf and we've been together for 9 months. He is 18 and I'm turning 17 next month. He has also been ignoring me. At first everything was great it still is until he starts to ignore me. I just don't get it. I've asked him why does he do this to me, and his reason was if he feels like what I'm sayin is unimportant then he won't listen. I feel like this is wrong, because whether he says something dumb or what not I always listen. I never ignore him. I've even warned him if he doesn't change then we may not be together in the end. I've even told him that what he is doing is hurting me, because I've cried on the phone with him about it. I don't understand. We really do love each other, I mean we've made plans for the future and he really doesn't want us to break up, I don't want us to break up. We can't see ourselves with anyone else. He's my best friend and I'm the same to him. So, what do you have to say about our foolishness?
All I can say is that guys can be stupid. But are you sure that he's only doing this to you ? Because it might just be part of his nature to tune people out. Some people are just like that. And also take minute to think about what you're saying - is it something so important that him not listening could cause an issue ?
Now granted that doesn't give him the right to ignore you based on what he deems "important or unimportant" but if it's something that he's legitimately not interested in or doesn't concern him, he might just be ignoring you out of habit, and not because he wants to hurt you.
Obviously it's annoying and somewhat demeaning to be ignored, so it's hard to say "just deal with it" if he's doing it even if its not about something important. You said you never ignore him, maybe you should try giving him a taste of his own medicine, and she how he reacts. I mean aside from that you've already did all you could by telling him that it hurts you. Now it's up to him. Knowing that it hurts you should give him some incentive to at least make some effort to listen. If he loves you as much as he says he does, he'll should be able to at least try that for you.
If it keeps getting worse and you keep getting hurt and it comes to a point where it just seems like he doesn't care, maybe then you should take time to think about your relationship and where its going.
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hi i am a sex addict i have never acctually had sex but i do it to myself all the time is this bad i mean i am just so addicted i need help on knowing if this is bad.....please help.
Just how addicted are you?
How often do you actually do it?
Because what you might consider "addicted" might turn out to be not nearly excessive as you'd think.
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Okay, I just gave one.
a) I can't get pregnant, right?
b) Am I susceptible to an STD?
c) Does this mean that according to doctors I am "sexually active"?
d) Any side effects that I need to know about?
a) No, unless there was any semen on his hand or your hand or if your vagina was in the area of his penis (even if it was just precum, and even if you were wearing panties)
b) YES. Unless you know for certain that he's clean, it can happen. It doesn't mean it will and I hope it hasn't, but it's never something to be ruled out. I'd be sure to have a long chat with him though and ask if he's been tested if it concerns you enough.
c) Yes. I think so at least, I'm not really sure how doctors would categorize it, but it is a form of mutual masterbation. However according to doctors/science, you are still a virgin. That only changes through intercourse and the breaking of the hymen (or "popping the cherry"). However in moral terms, it's an entirely different story...
d) Side effects? The only side effects I can think of is if he did have some sort of STD. In which case you'd need to go to a doctor ASAP. But if you just mean side effects in general to just having done it, then no, I wouldn't worry. Especially since you've already done it so you don't have to worry about if you gag or get sick by swallowing or anything.
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13/f
so since its summer you hear of girls shaving "down there" for bikini season.
do you shave all of it?
or do you just shave what can be shown through a bikini?
i shaved it all once and it left re bumps that itched ((( is that normal )))???
please tell me what you do.
The bumps are normal. That's caused by the razor and sometimes they can be ingrown hairs - which are annoying little buggers! You can get rid of them with aloe, and there are some lotions that are sold to use when you shave that are made to avoid getting those bumps. They're only about 2 or 3 bucks a bottle, so it's definitley worth it.
It's up to you with what you want to shave. Whatever you feel comfortable with. If you don't feel to great after shaving everything off, then just shave the areas you would be worried about exposing in a bikini.
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Okay, my boyfriend and I have been going out for a few weeks now. I'm very happy and so far our realtionship has been practically perfect. The only problem isn't really a problem between us but between my friends and I, particularly my best friend. My best friend, I'll call her Lexi, isn't really as into guys as my other friends and I are. For a while we were both single and together constantly which is why we got to be best friends but now I have a bf and I think she's getting mad at me for wanting to be with him and talk to him a lot. I know that boys come and go but friends are forever but I love hanging out with my boyfriend becuase we don't see each other very often. What should I do?
Friends should always come first. However, sometimes you just need some alone time with your boyfriend so he doesn't feel neglected as well. I think you just have to sit down and think of how often you've hung out with one in comparison with the other.
If you hang out with her more, I think just talk to her about how she feels and let her know that you like to see him when you get the chance because you don't see him as often as her. Also, refrain from texting/calling him too much when you're with her - because that can make someone feel very pushed aside and it's also rude. Make time to talk to him on your own.
Also, maybe try inviting her to hang out with you when you're with your boyfriend? That way you can see both at once. Just try not to make her feel third wheel'd.
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ok so i meet this guy at a lock in. and from what i have gotten to know him and what his friends has said about him he is great. he is a good guy, and he wouldnt do anything to hurt me. i been on 3 dates with him so far. and know from waht his friend saids he is going to ask me out. and at first i was soo happy and i was going to say yes.
but today his friend was telling me some stuff that he has done before. like he has done weed once and saids he will never do it again. he did it that once cause he got peer pressure into it. then it worried me that he could get peer pressure into a lot of things then. also that he has a lot of friends that smoke. and i dont really want to be around that. also it is long distance so that is already hard enough. and he has cheated before. and my last bf cheated on me and i dont want to go though that again. but i still like him. i just dont know if i should go out with him.
and so far he has treated me really good, and been so sweet.
idk maybe i am just taking this to seriously and freaking out about it to much.
sincerly,
softballbabe2610
I think you might be freaking out just a bit. I wouldn't worry too much about the pot issue. He's only tried it once and isn't interested in doing it again, so I don't think you need to worry about him becoming addicted or anything like that. Plus, almost everyone's tried something or other during their lives. Somethings are harmful, or some they regret. But if we judged everyone based on the things they've tried once, we'd never have any friends. And once again, if it's long distance and he does do that with his friends, then you don't have to worry about him doing that around you.
As for the cheating thing, that's the only part I'm kinda iffy about. Did he tell you himself that he cheated? And if so, how did it come up in conversation? There's a saying, "once a cheater; always a cheater", but I don't know how true to hold that. I'd say that you just casually bring up some of your fears in a relationship, or to seem less pushy about being in one, mention how you felt when you were cheated on. That way it won't be a direct attack and he can know how you feel. And hopefully, like the pot, it will just have been a one time thing.
I say you go for it. He's treating you great and you really like each other. I don't think you should let small concerns like that hold you back, at least not for now. Get to know him even more and see how it goes. I hope the best for you =).
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i was taking a shower and i just got off my monthly period like yesturday. well while i was in shower i noticed a hunk of something come out of my vagina. it was like all bloody, chunky, and kinda looked like skin. idk.
what was it? and is that normal?
16/ f
That was a blot clot. And that's completely normal. When you get bad cramps, its those things forming, and they gotta come out somehow. You just don't notice when it's mixed in with your normal flow. However, when you clean (after or during) sometimes they come out.
Gross? Absolutely. Abnormal? Not at all.
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A teacher this year, that taught me in a subject that wasn't my strongest, so I'd always coming for extra help after school, and naturally we got to know each other, but as the year came to an end, I started to realize that he was treating me different, I started to realize that sometimes he would flirt with me, but he really never did anything that made me feel weird or uncomfortable but after awhile, he started doing things, like making fun of little things I would do in class, or he would say, 'I love you, I just want you to know that.', or you will always have a special place in my heart. and when he saw me before graduation, he told me I looked beautiful, and said that this year has been a year he won't forget, because he feels that he has become a better person, teacher, everything because I opened his eyes to giving people an opportunity to succeed.The year was full of moments like that.
Now, I am starting to question how I feel about him, It's like he slowly seduced me all year? I just don't know if these 'feelings' between us are real? I graduated so I am no longer a student at school and I just don't know why all of a sudden, I find myself feeling this way. Its like as long as I was a student at the same school that he was my teacher I would never have even looked at him like that, but now, Its like things have changed, and I don't know what to think about the situation. He never bluntly asked me out or anything, but he did say at the end of the year that he did like me, and he hoped that any guy who dates me realizes how lucky they are.
I will be 19 next February, and he will be 25 this August. I know all of this must sound pretty stupid, but I just wanted to see what others thought, because sometimes people get caught up and don't see things clearly, and I am starting to wonder if this is just my mind playing tricks on me, or if maybe something is there. I do know that teacher/Student relationships are usually frowned upon, so thats why I felt so unclear as to what I should do next. Do I test the waters with him, or just forget him all together? Does any of this, even sound like he really has feelings for me?? Its sort of like, my heart tells me one thing, but the reality of the way people think makes me feel like I have to think otherwise.
What do you guys think about all of this?!?
Hm, that's a tough one. Student/teacher relationships are frowned upon - but I'm pretty sure that's only an issue if the person is currently your teacher. Since you have graduated that's not really a problem anymore. And 19 and 25 isn't that bad of an age difference.
Also, it was good that, though he may have flirted, he never did anything to make you feel uncomfortale or awkward. Which shows that he may actually have feelings for you, and was hoping maybe for a relationship in the future, and wasn't just being all "predator-ish", lol.
The only part I found *slightly* strange, was him telling you that he loved you. It seemed a bit odd and hasty if he meant it like that. But still, he said some wonderful things to you when you graduated. I think part of the reason you never thought of him like that before was because he WAS your teacher. So it's hard to picture him as anything else. But now picturing him saying all that as just a friend makes all the difference.
Do you have any means of contacting him? Because if so then maybe it wouldn't hurt to talk to him again. But if you're unsure about your feelings, then don't make it seem as if you're talking to him because you want to go out with him. Find some reason to just strike up a conversation so that you two can maintain contact and you can find out more about him. Then after that see how you feel, and if any real feelings form. Then you can test the waters and see if you're ready for a relationship with him. And if you really do like him and things work out between the two of you, don't worry about what other people think, it's up to you to decide how you feel and if the person is right for you.
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