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My boyfriend is ignoring me!
Hey! Well, I have a bf and we've been together for 9 months. He is 18 and I'm turning 17 next month. He has also been ignoring me. At first everything was great it still is until he starts to ignore me. I just don't get it. I've asked him why does he do this to me, and his reason was if he feels like what I'm sayin is unimportant then he won't listen. I feel like this is wrong, because whether he says something dumb or what not I always listen. I never ignore him. I've even warned him if he doesn't change then we may not be together in the end. I've even told him that what he is doing is hurting me, because I've cried on the phone with him about it. I don't understand. We really do love each other, I mean we've made plans for the future and he really doesn't want us to break up, I don't want us to break up. We can't see ourselves with anyone else. He's my best friend and I'm the same to him. So, what do you have to say about our foolishness?
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Maybe you two have grown apart. Why don't you just talk to him and ask him about it, and find a way to help your relationship continue, if you still really love him. If the relationship doesn't work, than, maybe you both are better of as friends, even though you don't really want to. Relationships usually fail because of the lack of communication.
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All I can say is that guys can be stupid. But are you sure that he's only doing this to you ? Because it might just be part of his nature to tune people out. Some people are just like that. And also take minute to think about what you're saying - is it something so important that him not listening could cause an issue ?
Now granted that doesn't give him the right to ignore you based on what he deems "important or unimportant" but if it's something that he's legitimately not interested in or doesn't concern him, he might just be ignoring you out of habit, and not because he wants to hurt you.
Obviously it's annoying and somewhat demeaning to be ignored, so it's hard to say "just deal with it" if he's doing it even if its not about something important. You said you never ignore him, maybe you should try giving him a taste of his own medicine, and she how he reacts. I mean aside from that you've already did all you could by telling him that it hurts you. Now it's up to him. Knowing that it hurts you should give him some incentive to at least make some effort to listen. If he loves you as much as he says he does, he'll should be able to at least try that for you.
If it keeps getting worse and you keep getting hurt and it comes to a point where it just seems like he doesn't care, maybe then you should take time to think about your relationship and where its going.
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