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im kind of nervous about making out for the first time and i dont want to screw things up. any advice? (link)
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I know the feeling.
But it does come naturally. And I know I was nervous about not being good and I wansn't completely sure about what to do and I didn't want to ask any of my friends because, well, how embarassing would that be?
Well, it really wasn't as big a deal as I made it. It was just like you see in the movies; nice and simple, yet really romantic. Embrace the moment.
You definitely won't screw anything up, believe me. Especially if it's your first time and her first time. And like the poster below says, don't slobber all over her (ew!), so SWALLOW!
Also, shut your eyes! It really is creepy if your eyes are just open staring at her. It may seem like, "ofcourse I'm going to close my eyes, duh!"...but I don't think people close their eyes naturally, so don't forget !
Hope This Helps !
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15/f okay so on friday (10/17) ill be going out w/ my bf for like a month. we havent kissed or anthing yet i mean we hug but we dont like hold hands or anything like that yet, evne though i realllyyy want to. i guess you can say that were not really the type of ppl that will go around making out w/ eachother in the middle of the hallway. i just dont know what to do. he tells my friends that he is too nervous to make a move or anything but like i dont want him to feel like that i want him to be comfortable w/ me. should i say something, should i wait it out a little bit? i mean we havent hung out yet because ive been grounded and hes been going away for the weekends. i like him so much. and another thing im worried about is that he only likes me because he thinks im hot. pleaseee hellp! (link)
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It took me like the same amount of time to kiss my boyfriend. I didn't want to hurry into things, and I think he kinda got the hint.
There's a chance that maybe he's uncomfortable. He'll come around soon, don't worry.
I, also, am not one of those people who like to makeout in the hall and whatnot. That's just something to do in private.
If you want to hold his hand, I think all you have to do is take it in your own. It's just that simple. I mean, I know you might want him to make the first move and all, but maybe he needs that push to know it's okay.
If he says he's nervous, ask him. That's what I do. I usually just end up saying, "you're not nervous, are you?" and it comes out naturally and normally.
And you say you're worried that he only likes you for your looks. Well, that's another thing you should ask him. Just be like, "what about me attracted you to me?". Just act normal about it and things will go very smoothly.
Hope I helped !
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okk soo theres this boy I like.....but all my friends say hes too bad for you and all this crap and he doesnt deserve you and stuff....and he likes me 2.....what should I dooo???
Help....Plz,
Kateyy (link)
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Well you have two options: you can either go by what your friends say and have trust in them, or do what you want and have trust in yourself.
If you believe he's not what they tell you he is, then take the relationship farther.
However if you may think they're right (and maybe don't want to admit it) then you might want to refrain from taking the relationship farther.
Of course, if you do go out with him and things don't turn out well, worse comes to worse you just break things off with him.
I think you should experiment. If you like him, go out with him, because if you don't you may never get the chance to do so again ;]
Hope this helps !
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i'm 15, having a really hard time at school getting kicked out of all my lessons, argueing with all the teachers and everyone is constantly going on at me.
then at home it's worse me and my mum argue almost every day and we usually get to the point where we hit one another or say really hurtful things, my dad doesn't get involved because he's recently started working away all week and is with him girlfriend over the weekend.
i don't really go out with my friends anymore because i'm never in the mood and with boys it just never works out.
everything just seems to be going wrong at once and i don't know what to do, i try put on a brave face but i just sit and cry when i'm alone.
i thought about suicide but i don't know if thats the answer.
i have 62 pills (paracetamol, ibruprofen and nerofen) all in my closet hidden for when i feel it all gets too much and i can just end it.
i don't have anyone to turn to because i don't want they're pity and hate speaking to people about how i feel.
i just wished i was happy i'm only a young girl but i'm not.
i just want to know what to do? please. (link)
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First, I think you should seek immediate help. Call a suicide hotline even though you may think its not the answer. Please call a hotline like 1-800-SUICIDE
In the mean time, I think you best bet is to talk to your mom about your problem or a teacher or a guidance counselor (anyone that you can trust) because they can seek the help you need.
I can't say much more than to see help for your own good. So please, tell a trusted adult or older sibling about how you feel and they can get you help. Just tell anyone.
I really hope this helps.
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16/f
Alright well i have never been kissed before. I just got a boyfriend on saturday named david and i really like him. We "talked" for a month and a half before he asked me out. So, we know eachother well. He knows i haven't ever kissed a guy before and he told my friend that he wanted it to be a good one. Now, i don't know when he wants to kiss because he walks me to my classes and we hug and thats when couples usually kiss but i'm just not sure. I don't know what to do after we hug and i just don't know what to do or how to act or when he is going to do it and i am just really confused and nervous. I'm not sure when he wants to do it or what i should do and i am definatly not talking to him about it. Please help!
My name is rachel. (link)
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I was the same exact way up until recently. I totally know your feelings of weird, embarrassed and a bit of awkward when you're together with him.
But, honestly, the first kiss literally comes when you least expect it, and when it does happen, it'll happen competely naturally.
I remember I was so nervous for anything because I knew I'd have no idea what to do. But it was just a simple kiss and it nothing more.
You said that your boyfriend wants the kiss to be a "good one". Well that's okay, but you want to make sure your not forced into kissing (or making out) with him and you want to feel comfortable 100% of the time in doing so.
Just relax and everything will go smoothly. It will come naturally and then when it does you're going to feel so relieved.
Hope this helped ! :]
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is it wrong to want to be popular (in the High School popularity sense of the term)? is it wrong to want to fit in?
i think it's not wrong to want to conform. that is just human nature, and its part of the societal contract that you will HAVE to conform to SOME society's rules if you hope to be accepted in society (ex: dont rape kids, dont go out of the house naked). but it's wrong to change yourself to fit in.
but what happens when you're different in the first place AND you want to be popular?
how do you conform & become epicly popular, if you dont want to change yourself?
im conflicted inside. it hurts.
i really want your opinion on this. (link)
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Is it wrong? No. I think everyone wants that chance to fit in with the popular crowd at least once.
It's not wrong to want to "conform", and as you said it is human nature. However, I think everyone can make their way into the popular crowd with their own group of friends.
Would I change myself to fit in? Absolutely not. If you change yourself to fit in with another crowd, it demonstrates that you don't like who you are and have no confidence that you have to make changes to your personality/wardrobe/etc.
This also plays in with acceptance. You don't have to be popular to be accepted. If you are a nice person, you WILL be accepted in everyone's eyes. And you can be a popular/jock/geek/whatever without anyone judging you.
I know because I am also not a popular, but I am no computer nerd or emo kid. I am an everything. I have friends in each group of people because I am a nice person to everybody, no matter who you are or what group you fit into I will be kind. I won't discriminate you by what clothes you wear or what group you fit into.
I hope my opinion helped ! If not, just drop one in my inbox ! :]
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13/f
okay, so there is this guy, i just met him a couple weeks ago. and he goes to my new school (just moved). he's REALLY sweet and is soo nice. and we have a lot of things in common. maybe like 3 things so far that are different about us. we can usually relate to each other. So we became friends, and lately i started to like him. like, really like him. i thought opposites attracted? because we're like the same person in different bodies and we attract pretty well. but he said he liked me too when i told him, that was the other night. and i was happy to get if off my chest, but things have been a little off balance with us since then. well, not yesterday, but we werent meshing well today.
but i really really like him, and i think he really likes me too, but how do i move it along?
sorry this was long!
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If you want to move things along, it's quite simple ! I think the easiest way to have some time with him when you're not in school is either invite 3 or 4 people (including him) to your house on a weekend or have a nice, small group of 3 or 4 and go to the movies. It'll be fun, but I think you'd be better off if you invited a few people over your house so you can talk to him more, unless, ofcourse, you go to the movies a bit early so you can talk during the commercials !
Hope this helped !
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WARNING:long sorry just wanted to give full story or most of it
ok so im pretty much 14(my bday nov 9)
im not attracted to guys around my age i dont knw i just think older guys are cute and are more mature.well there are these three guys one well call d he is 18 or 19 and the other well call is x but i dont knw how old he is and lastly well call him j and he is 16 or 17.at first me and d werent like friends like we hugged and said hi but ya knw.he just kinda messed with me like put his arm around me and sang to me cause he knew i liked him haha just who he is.well now he flirts with me and kissed me on the cheek twice and he knws my name and one day my friend was like why do you kiss b and he was like have i ever kissed you and i was like only on the cheek and he said see i only kissed on the cheek i havent kissed her yet and kinda smiled at me and all my friends think he likes me.now x he is kinda new haha the first time i saw him me and a friend were waiting at the place cause it opened at 8 and he was alreasy there and he kept looking at me and finally he was like ya im lookin at you and i gave him a look like me? and he was like ya you(i knw kinda weird)but when his bro(i only knw it was his bro cuz he told us) got there they started whispering and lookin at me well then they left and he was like watch my stuff please so i did.that whole night he kept smiling at me and yesterday we had our second hug.we talk and flirt and he always looks at me.all my friends think he is mad sexy and are kinda jealous and they all think he likes me but im not sure cause he dont really knw me and he flirts with other girls.then finally the last on j.he used to always flirt with me and stuff then he ended up breaking up with his girl and i saw him lookin kinda bored so i went to talk to him and he was like how old are you and i asked him the same but he was like i asked you first so i told him and he was like damn i cant mess with you and told me how old he was and then the next week he was dating his ex now he doesnt really talk to me or whatever and its seems he flirts with his girl around me but looks at me to ya knw like see if im watching or w/e.and i saw him in the hall last thursday(i go to his school for math) and he walked next to me but didnt say anything but smiled and kept walking and called his friend and kinda looked back at me so i guess you can say im totally confused so i need major help!thank you (link)
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Honestly, if I were you, I would definitely refrain from hanging out with these guys. Why? Because you are very young and they are not as young as you. Which means they probably want to take advantage of you.
Are older guys more mature? Not really, to be frank. Even though you say you're not attracted to guys your age, I think you're much better off. Because 17-19 year old guys are in a whole 'nother ballpark than someone your age. Guys and girls your age have much more in common than a 15 year old girl has with an 18 year old guy.
Guys in their upper teens have one thing in mind, and that's to take your innocense. Do yourself the favor and preserve it, you won't regret it.
And the fact that "J" said he can't "mess with you" means he had it on his mind. Which is exactly what I was aiming at. They only want sex and then it's time to move onto another girl.
Your best bet: find someone cute your age (believe me, I can guarantee that an older guy has the same maturity level as a younger guy). There's absolutely no rush to go out and get a boyfriend. Take your time and find someone who you can relate with and take it from there.
Hope this helps! If not or you have any questions, drop one in my inbox ;]
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ok so theres a dance coming up and my boyfriend goes to a different school but i wanna bring him and its 10$ to get it...ill pay for myself but would it be wrong to have him pay for himself because im taking him...idk just confused on how it all works
any advice?
thankss (link)
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Actually on Friday night, I paid for my boyfriend and it was quite a relief. Usually he always offers to pay for me (but I never let him), and it felt really nice to pay for him for once.
I think you could go right either way, if you pay for him (he may feel weird, but who cares !), he'll probably think it's a nice gesture (which it is), or you could just have him pay for himself. I don't think it really matters. Either way, it's a win-win ;]
hope this helped!
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k...... so, 1 of my friends asked this guy out 4 me, and he said, "i dont know" so then, a week later, my other friend asked him, and he said, "i dont know, maybe"
so, i looked maybe up in the dictionary, and it said possibly. i looked up possibly, and it said presicely, yes or no.
i asked his sister the next day, and she said that she thought it meant yes...... and i dont know what 2 do about this........
i wrote him a note that said, ""will you go out with me? circle, yes or no."" im giving it 2 him in 2 days.. is that a bad idea??? --HELP ME PLZ!!!!!-- (link)
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I think you should just ask him in person. Guys like confidence, so if you do it yourself, then he might see that you were confident enough to go up to him and ask him out.
I think having your friends ask him out was a not-so-good idea. I think the note is an okay idea, but I think your best bet is asking him out yourself.
I don't know for sure, but I think the odds of him returning the note is slim. Why? Because he may find it kind of weird/awkward to give it to you and he may not even remember to give it back.
Just relax and worse comes to worse, he doesn't return it and you just ask him out in person :]
Hope this helps!
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Hey, just to let you know this will be long...sorry i am a 13 year old. girl
Okay, his name is Matt..he is in my 3 period gym class and he is AMAZING he is number 2 on the football team AND quarter back. In, gym class their
is 7th grade girls(me) and 8th grade boys (Matt) Well, he is an 8th grader but...we are the same age ..13... He is so cute. I have been writing him notes lately ( 2 ) and he hasn't wrote back...the first one I didn't tell him to write back...but the second note i did. I didn't say anything wrong in the letters...i just told him that he was cute...and if he new me...is anything wrong with that...? The second letter i asked him if he new who i was yet...and I described what i was wearing in gym class..and he still didn't know who I was..!! I told him my name. In, gym yesterday...(that's the day I wrote the second note) we played a game wear we stand in the middle and try to get balls in a trash can(i know dumb). He stood beside me so many times during the game...and he still didn't know who the hell I was!!! I also was wearing my necklace in big letters that said my name... and he didn't know who I was... :( The first day i wrote him the note.. at the end of the day i saw him come down the hallway..behind me!!! I put the side of my lunch box that said my name straight behind me so
he can see my name...apparently he is not to bright...he still didn't know who I was!!! Do you think he knows who i am and just doesn't want me to get my hopes up ? Or, does he not know who i am. Please...help ....I like Matt so much...please any advice...and please tell me what to do to catch his attention.. Thanks so much for reading !!!
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There's a very good chance that he just doesn't know who you are. See, I only found out recently (believe it or not), that guys don't really look into things deeply.
Like how I see a piece of clothing compared to how my boyfriend sees it are two totally different comparisons. My point of view would be: its cute, detailed, the print is very nice, perfectly fitted and the length is just right.
But how my boyfriend would see it is just: its really cool.
Now, I'm not saying all guys are like this, but a good majority are. And he probably wouldn't think to look at your lunchbox or necklace. And like you said, he's not too bright. Alongside him not looking too deeply into things, I'd say that he probably just doesn't know you.
The best way for you to know him, is to just go up to him and say like, "hey, I'm _______" and if you want to include that you wrote him the notes, go for it.
Hope I helped!
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My name is Rayelle I'm 13 and in the 8th grade. This is my story. My best friend has gone out with this guy, Dylan, about 10 times and it only lasts about a week or two, but this time she was going out with him and she started to like this other guy Jon and told Jon that she would go out with him, so basically she cheated on Dylan 4 about 3 days and then dumped Dylan. I was going out with Cody at the time, and the next day there was a football game at the HS and I met up with Cody, and Mak (my other friend). Dylan was there and Tucker too. At the game I hung out with Dylan. We talked and stuff about Alivia and everything that happened. After the game was over I walked with Tucker and Dylan to Dylan's house. When we got there we hung outside for a while then Tucker left and Dylan and me just sat and talked and really made a connection and stuff. When I had to go home Dylan walked me to main street and then said "we should go out, because im really lonely." I was almost in shock. I said "ok, I was going to dump Cody anyway, he's a perv." and I gave him a hug and kiss on the cheek and walked home to dump Cody. When I got home Alivia called me and I ended up telling her that I was going out with Dylan. She was pissed! "But you dumped him", I said. She’s like "But I talked to Dylan and stuff and I really like him still." All I was thinking at the time was, OMG! Shut up! Get over it, it’s your fault you dumped him. Dylan and I only went out for 2 weeks and then he dumped me and I asked him why he did and he said he didn’t know (LIE!). The same night he asked out Alivia again and of course she said yes to get back at me. They have been going out for a week now, but Dylan has told 3 ppl that he doesn't like Alivia really anymore and I think he likes me! And I really really like Dylan still and want him back. What do I do? What do I say? (link)
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To start off, this guy (Dylan) seems to not know what he wants.
You should definitely be better than that. Like, don't go out with someone who obviously can't make up his mind.
And if Aliva was a really good friend:
1.) you wouldn't go out with her ex, because that in itself isn't exactly right.
2.) she'd be supportive of your relationships whether or not it's with her ex or not.
I really don't think you should go out with Dylan (again), as much as you may like him, because he really doesn't know what he wants. And the fact that he said he wanted to go out with you because HE was lonely, is wrong. He should go out with you because he really likes you, wants to be with you and try things with you for months to come.
And especially if went out with your friend, Alivia, about 10 times should really ring a bell that he doesn't want to be with her, and that he broke up with you to go out with her, yet again.
If you want to save yourself of some drama and controversy, do NOT go out with him if he should ask you out again.
I hope this helps
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I;m a female and 16 years old. I recently met this guy through an instant messenger. Yes i know it seems very dangerous but i can assure you he is who he says he is. I made sure of it. Well i have been talking to him for mayber 5 months now and we have already confessed feelings for each other and he has planned to come see me when i turn eighteen. All is great and dandy but here is the thing...i like him i do i can't deny that but sometimes i just don't feel like this thing could work out. Is it because he is so far away that i feel like that or could it be something else (link)
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You know, I had something like this as well. Except I didn't confess any true feelings to him and vice versa. But I knew I had feelings for him and I knew he had them for me as well by the things he said to me.
Obviously things didn't work, and even though I didn't want to believe it, I knew that things weren't going to work.
I think it's just being young. Young people (teens) want to be in love and we all want a boyfriend/girlfriend. Because the truth is, high school is like the ultimate test of handling your surroundings and trying not to cope with peer pressure.
Even though he seems like a great guy (and I'm not saying he's not) things like that really don't work in the long run.
You can find a great guy at school (and even though you may say there's no "good" guys there, there are. Believe me, I said the same thing, but my boyfriend is pretty amazing and I only met him at the end of last year) that you like the same or even more than the one online.
The unfortunate truth: long distance things are REALLY hard to keep going. Many don't last long at all. And I'm not saying this to everyone, I'm just saying in general.
And even if he is the guy he says to be, there's always a risk in meeting someone online in person.
I know you like him a lot, but I truly think this is something you need to let go. And I'm saying this for your safety and so you don't get your heart broken if things don't work out if things continue/if you do meet.
I hope this helped !
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I'm losing all my friends because im annoying and the im always being a beep all the time how can i get my friends back or get new ones
P.S. almost everyone teases me cuase im short could u give me combacks to the teasing to (link)
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If you think you're annoying, just chill out. Especially if that's what you think is the cause of your loss of friends. You haven't specified what exactly is "annoying", like do you talk annoyingly, are you clingy..? Things to that effect. If that's the case, then try and break the habit. I know I can get annoying too (or at least I think so), so I try and back off alittle. And if you want to make new friends, just be nice and friendly. If they look like they'd be a good friend, introduce yourself.
I'm short also (5'0 for being 16) and I get made fun of alot too, but I just take it in. I don't know about you, but I embrace my shortness. And if you don't I think you definitely should. When people say i'm short or something I just say "short people are awesome !" and it's not being obnoxious or anything. Just play around with it a bit. You can't change that you're short, but you can change how you react to what people say. It's not really necessary to say mean things to other people about them, so just defend yourself and say that you like being short (afterall, it is pretty awesome...we have a lot of advantages ;] or so I think )
I hope I helped you !
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I've been with my boyfriend for like 1 year and sometimes I just can't stand it. I'm just so jealous. everytime I see his ex girlfriend, I get jealous. she is super gorgeous and cute like a kid and he's a kid at heart and I can see why they went out. I'm so jealous of the relationship they had. but sometimes I still feel like he doesn't love me like he says he do. when I think about it,I just feel so heartbroken and lonely. I can't break up with him cuz I love him. I just don't know what to do anymore. (link)
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There is no reason for you to be jealous. If I were you, I'd make sure my relationship was 10 times better than what he had with the other girl.
Honestly, if this is how you feel, jealous and alone, then you need to make sure you are everything and more of what his ex is. Obviously he thinks you're better if you've been together for about a year. If anyone should be jealous, it should be her because he has you.
Don't be jealous, jealousy only makes things much worse and she's not worth your time.
If you think she's "cute", tell yourself that your cuter, and know it. If you think she's pretty, tell yourself your prettier and embrace that. Don't let an ex ruin you.
Do fun activites, like have him come over and play some fun board games and pop some popcorn and watch a movie. Or plan a movie with him and look absolutely cute. Just have fun and I can guarantee that he'll think your 20 times the girl she was.
I hope this helped!
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my girlfriend is comeing over soon n shes sick so she doesnt think we should makeout bc she doesnt want me to get sick, but im diein for her to! how can i convince her its ok? (link)
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Wow, it's funny how closely I can relate to this.
Well, I was at the movies with my boyfriend and I was also sick and he wanted to makeout with me, but, to be honest, I really didn't know how to actually make-out with him, so I used my sickess as an excuse.
Maybe she doesn't know how to make out with you yet. Or maybe she really sick and doesn't want to give you what she has. Or maybe she's a bit uncomfortable (especially if your early in a relationship).
There is a good risk that if you make-out with her, you will get sick, and there's a possiblilty that she really doesn't want you to get sick.
I can tell you what, you can't make her make-out with you, but you can give her a few gentle kisses, or tell her that if you do make-out, you'll drink a lot of water (to flush out the germ if, in fact, it got in you) and take vitamins. Just give her time, you want to make sure she's comfortable. And if you like her that much, you will be more than willing to wait.
I hope I helped ! :]
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over the last few months, specifically, i've realized that most teenage girls are so fake, myself included. for example, all girls... (1) talk without caps but usually in abbreviations or with all correct punctuation, (2) carry tote bags to school, (3) wear hollister & abercrombie, (4) have a manicure, pedicure or combo, (5) have or had side bangs, (6) either "scrunch" or straighten their hair, (7) have or have wanted a tiffany bracelet / necklace, (8) own converse in any color... (9) have / have worn / have wanted to wear mascara and / or eyeliner (1) usually talk with extra letters (e.g., heyy! how are youu?)
all of the above apply to me, but why are girls so obsessed with fitting in with the popular crowd? it's not even state-wide, it's NATIONwide. all teenage girls are skinny and obsessed with their weight and either all or most of the above apply. why is this? what's your opinion on it? i sometimes wonder myself where my individuality has gone, but EVERYONE does it. so why does everyone go along with it? it's so bad that once on advicenators, i was reading a girl's problem and i was going through the exact same thing and -- BECAUSE ALL GIRLS TALK THE SAME WAY -- i actually stopped and asked myself if i submitted that question, and had to check. i can't even recognize my own voice and way of speaking because everyone talks in the same way. (link)
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Girls just want to be liked. Teen girls want boyfriends, so they'll become like the rest of the crowd to get what they want.
I am one of those people who feel they don't need to wear Abercrombie/Hollister to be popular or well-liked. I don't wear it/have never worn it and, to be honest, that's what my boyfriend likes about me. Originality is scarcely found, and I'm glad I can be one of those girls who confront it.
You (and the many other girls) will grow out of it. It's just about fitting in. People don't recognize the clothes you wear, they recognize the personality behind the clothes. If you're nice and funny (and not fake), people will like you. Like me, for example, I fit into every crowd because I'm just nice to people.
People want kindness, and once they get it, they'll return it and tell they're friends how kind you were. Ofcourse there may be a few people you don't like, but for the most part, you'll like everyone.
Popular is just a label, and every girl dreams of being it, but the truth is, you don't have to wear name-brand clothes and look like you've just come off the runway to be popular.
There's no one real answer (I think) as to why so many girls feel they need to be popular. But some girls have the need to feel better than every other girl that lives.
Also, some girls haven't found their inner and outer beauty. If they knew what their inner and outer beauty was, they wouldn't waste the money on buying expensive clothes and make-up.
I hope I helped !
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i'm 16, female.. and was wondering if anyone had some good halloween costume ideas? but i don't want to spend a lot of money, so something cheap would be great :) ha (link)
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Surprisingly, I went on walrmart.com and they had some costumes that I thought were cute. I ended up getting the poilce one ;]
I suggest walmart.com
hope this helped!
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It's taken me a long time to admit to myself that I have low self esteem and am uncomfortable in my own skin. In most social situations I worry about what I say, how I stand, how I should act, and even how to look at people. It isn't a good feeling because I feel like it's destroyed my understanding of who I am. I know what like, what my hobbies are, and what I want to get out of life, but I just feel so confused about myself. I first started to notice this when I started to like a guy at school. I couldn't even maintain a steady conversation with him for very long and found myself questioning my actions. After that, I couldn't even sit normally. And now see how in denial I've been because I am always conscious of myself. And I take out my frustration on my parents and friends. I feel like I can change and when I do, I know I'll feel wonderful, because this has been going on for a long time now. I decided that I had to let go of liking this guy because I'm not ready to pursue someone if I don't even have a clue about myself. If anyone has any ideas or experiences with self esteem, I would appreciate you help so much. Because wow, I really need help.
thank you :) (link)
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Okay--to start off, usually girls become insecure or have low self esteem issues when they don't feel beautiful. Others, may not have many friends and feel lost because of that. You have not specified which of these you are, but either way, i'll try to help as best I can.
If you feel like you're a nobody and as you said, uncomfortable in your own skin, then what I think you should do is write a list of all of the good qualities you possess (don't say you don't have any, because everyone has good qualities), like you're funny, you make friends easily, you know how to make people feel good about themselves...and read it to yourself as many times a day everyday until you feel comfortable.
Some people feel like they're not beautiful, and if that isn't extremely sad, then I don't know what is. You need to look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful in every aspect of the word. If you need confidence, have your friends help you. Friends are friends for a reason, and that reason is to help you in times of need. If you feel this unsteady, have a talk with them (or even a parent or older sibling) and tell them to help you.
You are you, and that's all you can be, but you can't be down on yourself and questioning your actions. Feel positive. Be positive. That's the only way you're going to get places.
The only person standing in your way of change is you. YOU saying YOU have low self esteem and no confidence only makes YOU feel worse. Tell yourself that you love who you are and love what you do because you're a great person.
If you feel like you can feel wonderful if you change, then do it! No one else can do it for you. You can do it, don't hesistate to feel good about who you are.
Hope this helped!
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my parents wont let me be in a house alone with my boyfriend so how am i ever going to do anything? if im never allowed to be home alone with him?
immm just under 16 by the way (link)
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This is the same exact way my parents are. They were the same way for my other two sisters as well. They're just preventing us from doing something that we'll regret. Once they know and believe you won't do anything stupid, they will let you alone with him. And like it was mentioned, 15-16-year olds aren't the brightest people, so your parents are just guiding you to be smarter and more mature.
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