I'm 16/f and my friend is 16/m. He hangs out with me everynight, and I see him every morning before school. Do you think I should just not answer his calls and kind of avoid him for a couple days? I'm not mad or anything, I just want to see how many times he'll call & what not. Is this a bad idea? I just want to see if he'll think about me more, once he realizes he hasn't seen/talked to me in awhile.
No. It's not nice to play mind games. No matter what happens, you'll probably end up feeling bad--either because you worried him, or because he doesn't notice.
Would you really want someone doing that to you? Are there really any positive outcomes? You'll make him feel bad, and you'll probably feel bad too.
I think that you need a good boost of self-esteem. You are someone, and you are important, and you don't need someone else to prove that to you.
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In your profile, it says a time of reflection...what does that mean?
thanks=]
and by the way...i love your new picture, its wicked cute=]
Well thank you, first of all!
As for reflection, I'm not entirely sure this is an advice question, but I suppose it could relate to one. Basically, after spending a long time feeling absolutely certain that I was an atheist, I've had things happen that make me reconsider. So I'm in the process of rebuilding my beliefs and discovering just what I DO believe.
It came as a bit of a shock to me, really--I never thought I'd be in this position. The uncertainty is a little more comfortable than it was at first, and I think everyone's due for a spiritual quest now and again.
Hopefully that answered your question!
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I wanted to ask what do you think of a male psychologist who acts more like a friend to his client. He would say things to his client "Your boss really hates you", "Dont trust your boss" (the only reason the boss was mean was because he missed his old secretary and wanted her back so he acted mean to the new one hoping the new secretary would quit) and the psychologist would say "I think you should give up your coworker as a friend, she gives you terrible advice she is going to get you fired" I mean if you gave up a friend every time they gave you bad advice you would not have any friends. SO WHAT DO YOU THINK OF THE PSYCHOLOGIST?
The psychologist shouldn't be giving advice like that. A psychologist's job is to help his client figure out what to do, not to give orders, and especially not negative ones like you mentioned.
I would find a new psychologist, one that would help me help myself, rather than telling me what to do.
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Yesterday I talked to my dad about my depression and how it is affecting me. then he scheduled a appointment for me to see a psychiatrist which is tomorrow. When my mom found out she started to freak out and she told my dad that if i get help then the problem will be worse. then she told me that I was stupid to say anything. So now my parents are arguing and now I'm thinking that it was a mistake to ask for help. Was it okay that I asked for help and what will the psychiatrist do on the first day?
It's GREAT that you asked for help! That takes a lot of courage, and I'm proud of you for it. I'm glad that your dad took you seriously.
It's possible that your mom has heard bad things about psychiatrists or simply that she's stunned, or maybe wishes you'd gone to her instead. Whatever her problem is, it's HER problem, not yours. You're doing what's right for your health, and that's a big deal.
I have a psychiatrist, and I've had several in the past. They're great resources, if your personalities mesh. The intake appointment is generally just getting to know you and you getting to know the psychiatrist. You'll probably be asked a lot of questions about family history of mental illness, your feelings, your experiences with drugs, alcohol, eating habits, etc, and general life questions. Your psychiatrist will probably also explain confidentiality policies, and if not, you definitely have the right to ask!
If at the end of the session, you feel like you don't have a connection, you can choose to seek a different therapist.
He or she might prescribe something for you to try, or might not, depending on the situation.
But really, first appointments are a lot scarier in anticipation than they actually are! I get nervous still, but it always turns out to be much easier than I imagine it to be.
Good luck. And good for you. It takes guts.
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KEEP IN MIND TOM SAID IN THE NOTE HE THINKS SHE IS A SMALL, AND SIZE 5 OR 1
and HE EVEN SAID HE WAS JUST THROWING OUT NUMBERS TO MAKE A COMPARISON. HERE IS
THE STORY: Tom and Margaret were sitting in a diner. Tom noticed that Margaret was wearing an oversized coat:
Tom said (as he touched her sweater): "Size 10 body in a size 12 sweater.
Margaret: "Do you think I am a size 10?"
Tom said: "No. All I am trying to do is make a comparison that the sweater is bigger than your body. I could have easily said size 50 body in size 52 sweater or I could have said a size 100 body in a size 102 sweater or even size
300 body in a size 306 sweater. I am just throwing out numbers"
However, the next day when Tom saw Margaret he handed her a note that he had written: Margaret is not extra, extra, large, Margaret is not extra large, Margaret is not large, Margaret is not medium, and has never been medium. Margaret is small and has always been small. Margaret I THINK you ARE a size 5 and if size 5 would be considered a large size than I think you ARE a size 1.;
Margaret told her friends about the sweater incident in the diner and showed them the note Tom gave to her and her friends said to her that: (1) in the diner all Tom was doing is trying to show that the sweater is bigger than the body; and he does not think she is higher than a size 5; MY QUESTION: DO YOU AGREE WITH MARGARETS FRIENDS
Hey, I'm female and I still have trouble judging sizes!
I'm worried about Margaret. She sounds like she has pretty major body issues. She's possibly underweight (size 5s, size 1s, whatever she is, are very small), and she's very concerned with people's perceptions of her body. She seems insecure and she doesn't need to be--I bet she's beautiful!
I wish Margaret could understand that not everything in life is about how much she weighs. There's so much more, things that could give her the happiness she deserves.
But I believe that Margaret's friends are entirely right. Tom doesn't really know much about sizes, and he thinks that Margaret is small.
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The reason this question is called "miracle diet?" Is because what Im about to as really might sound like Im asking for a miracle. I want ot lose 40 pounds by the start of April. Is there anyway I could do this without resorting to Anorexia (which is something I was [and still] considering.) Your help will be greatly appreciated.
No.
In fact, even if you starved yourself, you still couldn't do it. Plus you'd mess up your metabolism, possibly damage your heart and other organs, and wind up in therapy.
Set a more realistic goal. Try to lose 5 pounds by April. Doctors recommend you lose no more than 1-2 pounds per week. Beyond that, it's dangerous.
You need to consume at least 1200 calories every day to keep your body functioning. So do it the right way--consume that many, in good foods like whole grains, lean meats, vegetables, and so on, and exercise. Your body will thank you for it.
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Well, me and my boyfriend have been together for about 4 months, he is 21 and i am 19. i had just asked him if he would give me his myspace password and he said that he wouldn't. He said that he had nothing to hide but that he felt that we should have our own space and if i did look through his myspace i would take things that his women friends write and take them the wrong way, (which i do alot.) He does have alot of women friends and i do get a bit jealous. So i guess i was just wondering if his answer was valid or is he trying to hide something?
His answer is absolutely valid. You cannot expect to have access to every bit of his life, and in fact, if you continue to try, you'll probably drive him away.
Have faith. You wouldn't want him going through your things, reading your emails, reading your journal if you have it, and leaving you with absolutely no privacy, would you?
Trust him until he does something obvious to prove he doesn't deserve that trust (and at that point, if it comes to that, no snooping will really help).
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okay so im 15 yrs old, female, 5'3 and weigh almost 110 pounds. my family and friends tell me im perfect. but i really dont believe them.
for a while me and one of my bestt friends went belimic for a while. like a long couple of months. but then after mega results we stopped knowing it was WAYY wrong. then we just started exercizing regurally and eating better but then every now and then i get this HUGEE urge to puke up what i just ate. usually i overcum that urge by working out but sumtimes it just takes over.
i know its wrong. but it just feels so right after. it just really gets to me fast. i think i need to lose wieght again adn i dont know what to do. please jsut give me a few alternet things to do other then pursue this bad and VERYY nastyy habit. like tips or ideas to lose weitght fast but not wrong. thank you for caring. :]]
I get the impression that the two people before me don't entirely "get" it, but at least they're trying. Anywho.
You need to find something more important. It's as simple as that. You need to find something you care about more than you care about your weight. You're very close to being underweight, and to lose more would be dangerous, no matter how you do it.
That said, exercise is great. It tones your muscles, makes you feel stronger, and it gets the endorphins going. Plus, it distracts you from food if you tend to binge eat, or from feeling that you ate too much when you didn't.
Try and remember what your body does for you. It's amazing, really. It moves, it feels. You can walk and run and smile without even thinking about it. It's an incredible machine, and you deserve to take care of it.
Why is having a perfect body important to you? Is there really such a thing? What are you really trying to accomplish--admiration, pride, attention (that's not necessarily a bad thing, you know). How can you get what you want in a positive way?
Try and find something to keep you busy when you want to purge. I find that knitting has helped me deal with my food issues because not only is it a distraction, but it also releases some physical tension. Maybe you can find something similar.
I really suggest you seek counselling, as well. Doing this with help makes it much easier, and it will help you get to the bottom of why you're doing it, thus helping you fight it and prevent a relapse in the future.
Good luck to you. Be safe.
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i'm 14/f. i weigh like 134 or something like that. i'm like 5,2. & my goal is to be 120 by june 1st. first of all i CAN'T run?! i don't know i have asthma, and i just can't do it. and i don't know the meaning of eating healthy. i ALWAYS eat mcdonalds! uhh. is there anything i can do? i wanna loose weight + shape up my stomache, and thighs. (and get rid of cellulite, uhh.) i'll try my HARDEST to limit the mcdonald's. any advice? tysm. :)
If you can't run, walk. Walking is just as good for you, and easy on the joints. I have Fibromyalgia (which basically translates into chronic pain) and I've found that walking has helped me immensely, with pain, stamina, and weight loss. Plus you get fresh air and a change of scenery.
As for eating healthy foods, fruits, veggies, and lean meats are your friends. Try and eat whole grains instead of processed ones. It's very much common sense, and looking at the labels. Go take a look at the nutritional information on the McDonald's website, and I bet you'll think twice before digging into the food.
Just be careful with the food that you don't get TOO obsessive. It's an easy trap to fall into. Basically, find healthy things that you enjoy, eat when you're hungry, and find ways to get moving.
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Would you consider it "dangerous" to consume 500 calories per day and do an hour or more of cardiovascular exercise plus crunches/push-ups/leg lifts/jumping jacks ever day?
Absolutely. That's a starvation diet. Not only does it make exercise dangerous, but it will also lead to your body eating its own muscle to survive.
Eat properly, at least 1200 calories, preferably more, and you'll feel better, look better, and lose just as much weight if not more. Not only that, but you'll be healthy.
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if you only eat two meals a day or eat only breakfeast you would loose alot of weight right.?
No. You'd screw up your metabolism and set yourself up for an eating disorder.
Eat multiple healthy meals per day, and exercise. That's the only way to lose weight and not gain it all back--you need to change your lifestyle, not go for some temporary, unhealthy fix.
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There is a research project on five religions:
Buddhism
Christianity
Hinduism
Judaism
Islam
I have to find:
1. The symbol
2. Nation or origin
3. Founder (if applicable)
4. Holy books (if applicable)
5. Place of worship
6. Beliefs and practices (min of 6)
7. Map showing location of the religion
For each religion that is.
I was wondering if anyone knew any sites [good, reliable sites] that could help me find any of the information I listed above. NO wikepedia PLEASE!
Thank you so much for any help! I'll love you forever and ever
http://www.religioustolerance.org/
I absolutely adore that site, and I suspect it will tell you everything you need to know and more.
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One of my friends has a paper due this Friday. She's done ALL of the research and the two of us watched the two movies that relate to it. She asked me for help writing it and I said sure. She's a year older than me, but I'm pretty good at writing papers minus the mechanics. So if she were to write it, I were to rewrite what she writes and make it sound smarter (possibly cutting out a lot of stuff she writes and adding it stuff that I think would be better), and then she were to fix my mechanical errors, would that be wrong? I know it wouldn't neccessarily be cheating, but in the long run would it be wrong.
In our eyes it just seems like me proofreading and telling her what to fix, but it also kind of seems like I'm screwing her over by not letting her do it all herself. The only reason it feels wrong though is because she offered to pay me - it makes me feel as if I'm writing it even though I'd just be 'smarting it up'. Now I don't plan on accepting the money, so it's not wrong, is it?
If you are re-writing her essay, it is cheating. Proof-reading consists of pointing out errors, not telling the person how to fix them, or fixing them for the person.
Essays should be her interpretation of the material in her words. You can guide her by telling her if a sentence is run-on or if a paragraph drags, but to actually do any of the writing is cheating.
It scares me that the first two posters disagreed. I don't understand how this can be acceptable.
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Okay I know I'm being totally old school here but why doesn't my bf open the doors for me and whatnot?
I know I know totally weird for asking that but my mom, aunt, uncle, etc, will get on to me about that if she sees how he kinda let the door shut on me.
Also, I'd like for him to do that as well because I dont know im weird like that
But I dont think its right for me to say
"dude, you are suppose to hold the door for me"
so um whats up?
Why not try holding the door open for him a few times and seeing if he takes cues from that? Nothing says it can't be a two-way street. It might even embarrass him enough so that he does it to avoid you doing it for him. Or he might just think it's nice and get the hint that you would like it too.
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how come when you touch the back of your pad when your disposing it, it feels really cold? does the blood like turn cold or something? and how come we dont feel cold when we're wearing them. if anyone cant tell im talking about periods, too
also does PMS stand for premenstrual syndrome or preoccuring mood swings? my mom said the first part and some boys at my school said the 2nd, lol. im sure my mom is right..
I would guess it has something to do with air temperature. When your pad is against your body, it absorbs your body heat. When it's not, it cools. Just like when you first put on clothes, they're generally cold, but they warm up. The fact that your pad is damp probably makes it feel colder.
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15/f/110-115 lbs./5'4"
if i eat 0-500 calories a day and excercise for 10-30 minutes 3-6 days a week how much weight do you think i will lose over the course of a week?
That is an incredibly unhealthy idea. You might lose weight initially, but you will gain it all back and more, not to mention screw up your metabolism. Exercising on very few calories is also very dangerous.
Try incorporating more fruits and vegetables into your diet, eating at least 1200 calories per day, and exercising on that.
Although, you really shouldn't be trying to lose weight at all. You're very close to being underweight for your height.
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How can you find out who someone really is by they're email address someone sent me a nasty letter but they used a yahoo email address and I don't know who it is. So how can I find out?
You could try doing an IP trace. I don't have a yahoo account so I'm not totally familiar with the headers and so on. But there should probably be a number somewhere that looks something like 1.221.113.1 or something similar. If you can find that, you can manually compare it to the IP addresses on emails you've received from people you can identify.
If you google IP address, you should be able to get more information.
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Okay, recently I've been getting sick a lot [mostly form lack of sleep and sickness going around in school] and when I get sick, I tend to throw up [yea, I know, ew.]
I've heard that when you throw up, your stomach acid deteriorates your teeth [enamle?] Anywhos, I was wondering what I could do [without going to the dentist] to help protect my teeth.
Do NOT brush your teeth immediately after vomiting because the acid can cause damage. Instead, rinse your mouth with water, and if you'd like, baking soda to neutralise the acid.
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how come people who want to lose weight drink like, 5-6 bottles of water a day?
Chances are, those people are getting more exercise and need more hydration.
Also, water keeps you feeling full and sometimes when you feel hungry, you're actually just thirsty. Many people also substitute it for high calorie juices and artificial drinks.
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i want to take my dog on a walk. i was thinking about going up to the track at a nearby middle school. is that strange to walk a dog on a track instead of a sidewalk? i havent seen people do it before and dont want to seem weird.
thanks!
The other problem is that the dog would probably get pretty bored. Part of what they enjoy is a change of scenery, and going around and around a track isn't exactly stimulating.
Mind you, if it's that or no walk, certainly that would be better . . . but if you can manage a walk around the block, it would really be best.
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