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i'm Brittany and though I'm only 14, I'm really good at the psycology of teens. I usually don't use the answer "you should go to a counsler" or anything similiar to that. Although that is a good idea in many situations, I tend to realize that most teens have thought about that and most of them refuse to talk to a counsler about it. If you want a straight up answer without all the "you shouldn't have done that" talk, let me know.

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I'm looking for suggestions about a good summer cologne for men. Nothing to "flowery", rather a nice masculine scent.

Thanks!

I totally LOVE the Hollister cologne, Drift! If I was a guy, I would totally buy it. Here's a link so you can virtually smell it. ;)

http://www.hollisterco.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product_10251_10201_125108_-1_12571_12551

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what would be a good age to start shaving your legs? i don't know what age my child should do it. i forgot when i started. and if the hair is pretty noticable would 10, 11, or 12 be good? i need ranges.

i rate.

i started somewhat early- 10 years old. Most of my friends started when they were 12 though.

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I have a new boyfriend. But I got hurt before so I don't let myself get too close to anyone. I have a fear I may check out other guys / think of kissing them or something. I feel really bad. I don't want that to happen and he doesn't ever want me to leave him. But a few minutes ago I had a dream of kissing an old crush and stuff, does that mean I like him? Or is my mind fooling around with me? :(

It is a little abnormal to be dreaming of kissing an old crush, but the mind is weird. Also, it's likly that your bf will still look at other girls when he walks by them and stuff. (but of course he problly won't do it when your around.) It doesn't mean he doesn't like you; he just enjoys girls- thats a good thing, it prooves he not gay. *wink wink*. Don't feel bad. A lot of people have this problem, but just cause you have a bf does't mean you have to ignore half of the people on Earth (men). got to go. Good luck.

Ex's and Oh's
-brittany

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I get angry a lot now...for many reasons...I scream at my dad. Like today, just now, I woke up late, which puts me off schedule, which made me mad, so I started screaming, then I cut myself on my wooden drawer, and I slammed my foot down so hard, that I now have a bruise on my heel. I am afraid I'll go off like this on my friends, and they'll all leave me. What I need is someone to love me unconditionally, and someone to help me stop getting angry; At least that's what I think. Please help! I feel embarrassed about this, and am afraid I embarrass my dad and maybe will embarrass my friends...

ok, I'm really sorry to say this, but plain and simple- you have anger issues. At least they are cureable. Don't hurt yourself, that only works for people that can control themselves with something sharp. You said you get angry for many reasons, well try getting rid of those reasons. You wouldn't have to worry about waking up late if you didnt have a schedule. Get a stress ball. If you feel embarassed to buy one infront of your friends or family, you can make a home made one by filling a balloon with flour and tying it. When you get mad, literally count down in your head from 10 to 1 and take deep breaths. Also meditate once a day for a few minutes, even right when your lying in bed going to sleep. If a thought comes to your head, think about it for a quick second then push it away. Count your breaths and breath slow.

Ex's and Oh's
-brittany

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Is it possible for a 13 year old to stop growing breasts? I'm 32A, my mom is 32A, and I started growing when I was 9. They haven't grown since I was 11 or 12. My breasts are identical to my mom's, and she developed really late. Does this mean that I'm done growing?

have you had your growth spurt yet?/puberty. I was an A32 in 5th grade, then a 34B in 6th, then a C34 in 8th. So all 7th grade i didnt grow, only cus i didnt have puberty til 8th grade.

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ok well i have aim triton and i have made my profile and everything but no one can see it, so does anyone no if i have to like turn something on/off so people will b able to view it?
thanx

dont feel alone, i have that same problem. sometimes mine will work, but sometimes it wont. Sorry i don't really have advice on this one- just letting you know that your not alone on this. =]

Ex's and Oh's
-brittany

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i am 12 years old and i have a boyfriend. we are going on a date next weekend and i need to know how to french kiss and make out with a guy without having sex. how do i do that?

At your age, guys don't expect sex if your making out. A lot of my friends make out all the time and thats all the guy trys for- most of the time. avoid wearing a skirt. Wearing jeans would be your best option because some guys may try to finger you if your wearing a skirt (happened to my friend in a movie theatre). It makes it easier for him to get there if your wearing a skirt (especially at the movies), possibly shorts to, but don't worry about that. If he does end up going 'there' and you aren't comfterble (i think i spelled 'comfterble' wrong) with that, then pull his hand away and keep making out. Also, if starts going to your area, he might try to put your hand on his dick. If he keeps trying, then tell him that your only 12 and your not gunna go that far. I've noticed that in 8th grade is when guys start wanting a lot more. Good luck with you date, let me know how it goes.

Ex's and Oh's
-brittany

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My principal caught me and my boyfriend having sex in the elevator after a feild trip. and now the whole school know's about it what should i do? and my boyfriend wants to do it again. but we are using safe sex.....

WOW, your goin for the gold!!! [lol, sorry, it my new saying ive been using.] If someone menchines it to you, just go with it. Don't get mad at them for talking about it. There ARE mean people out there that will continue to bring it up to make you mad.

Ex's and Oh's
-brittany

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how do you make a picture black and white, i tried paint but it just come out black.

lol, ya that happens to me too. I do copy/paste the picture onto Word.
-open Microsoft Word
-copy/paste the pick on there.
-click on the pic
-click 'veiw'. (at the top thingy next to file, edit, ect.)
-go to 'toolbar' and make sure 'picture' is checked.
-one it is, go to the picture toolbar and click on the icon 2nd from the left.
-go down to 'greyscale' and click on it.
-if you want to copy/ paste you pic back to 'paint'... then hilight the pic- not click. (if you click on it to copy/paste, then the pic on paint will come out weird.)

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Here is the deal.. Lately I've been thinking alot about if god is real or not.. I don't know if I should believe it.. I mostly think that life was created by mostly scientific reasons.. The bible could really be made up from along long time ago..Nobody really knows right? Has anybody ever been touched by god? If I do not believe in god what would I be?

I have never been touched by God, but I usually try to not think about if God is real or not... I just beleive. if you dont beleive then you are athiest.

Ex's and Oh's
-brittany

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i dont know what to do
he always says he hates his life and wants to die

there is stuff EFFED up in his life but not to where he should die i mean its not THAT THAT BAD considering his mom died and his dad sometimes beats him. but his dad really loves him a LOT he can just be an asshole to his dad.

hes like 'im going to cut myself like rite now' and all this stuff because it "RELIVES STRESS FOR HIM" i dont know what to say

sorry, but there is nothing you really can do. I have cut once- okay, twice, and no one can tell me what Im gunna do. After my friends found out about it the first time, they made me proomise to never do it again. I promised, but i still did it again. So anyway, just try to keep him away from his dad as much as you can. Hang out with him a lot and let him often know you love him. But if you start getting negative yourself (because that sometimes happens to people that hang out with other negative people) then you should try to part with him.

Im not gunna lie, when he says cutting releives stress, it really does. Its impossible to explain how, i guess cus it makes you feel like you have control of your life or something, but it really does help. The first time i cut i was dying inside because of a guy. (ya, i know, stupid reason to cut.) After I did it, I felt so much better. All the emotional pain was gone with only a little bit on pain on my forearm. When i did it, it didnt bleed... it just bled after. It didnt hurt- i think thats sometimes the reason queezy people like me can actually go through with it.

by the way, a guy at my school's mom just commited scuicide a few months ago.

Ex's and Oh's
-brittany

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um..... this may be a wierd question but i'll ask it. when is about the age girls start shaving their legs?

i started in 5th (really early) but most of my friends started in 6th grade.

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I have been getting really sad/depressed lately, and for no reason or for small reasons. I overreact to everything or just have breakdowns. I have been getting more and more of them recently, and I don't know what I should do. Sometimes I'll be really happy and then sometimes I feel like I have no friends and want to die. Is there something wrong with me? Do I have manic depression?

ya, i have almost the same problem. I don't wanna die, but ill just start freaking out at night because my life has been so..... grrrrr... i dont like it anyway. Mines for small reasons also. Im going to guess that you do the same as me: you don't talk to your friends about your problems, its about a guy sometimes, and other peoples sadness affects you too. k well, got to go. Good night.

Ex's and Oh's
-brittany

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What's the best way to get over a guy I like?

I've known him since I was like two (when I moved here) and was like best friends with him back then. Now he's still one of my really good friends and I've liked him for about 2 months, and I mean REALLY liked. Now he's taken by one of my other really good friends (yes, they both knew I liked him but I told them it was ok so it's my fault). Now everytime I talk to him, I fall faster, but I can't not talk to him because, well he's my friend.

sorry, but your heart beats your mind in love. No matter how much you try to convince yourself to get over him, it won't work. You won't get over him until your heart agrees with your mind. -beleive me, i've tryed getting over the guy i like TONS of times, but it never worked, heck i still like him =]. But you could try looking on the worse of his qualities. For exaple, if he has an ugly voice, then whenever your around him think "dang, his voice is so weird!" Stuff like that may help a bit.

Ex's and Oh's
-brittany

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I'm taking my dog to get put down on Friday. She has cancer and is really sick. I've had her for 10 years and it's going to be really devastating. I don't know how I'm going to handle it. Has anyone else had a pet put down, how did you get over it? What's it going to feel like, no one close to me has ever died before!

get another puppy a few weeks after your dog is put down. The dog i had since i was born was put down and a new puppy really helped. While you are looking for the type of dog you want though, you may feel a little sad... but its worth it. Best of wishes.

Ex's and Oh's
-brittany

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My friend's birthday is coming up. She'll be 15. I asked her what she wanted and she said she wants me to kiss her (we aren't going out). I only see her once a day at school and we just hug, say hi, and go eat at our different tables. She said she wants me to kiss her on the lips. When and how should I kiss my friend?

i think she seems a bit stalker-ish, but oh well. Kiss her when it feels like the right time. Ya, i know thats cheesy, but its true. As far as how; I wouldn't try to make it too romantic. she seemd like she would get clingy and automatically think you 2 were "meant to be". What would be even worse would be if she thought u two were 'together'. Well anyways, close your eyes and don't go in for the tounge.

Ex's and Oh's
brittany

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I have light brown hair, a little longer than medium length. What are some pretty hairstyles? I'm sick of putting my hair in a pony tail or keeping it down. Pictures help too. I'll rate good.

its an up-do, but i love it. i pull it up then i take the shorty peices out and i lightly brush the roots to have a few fall out. heres a pic of it when i tries it.
http://i45.photobucket.com/albums/f98/fresiangrl/DSCF0622.jpg
Ex's and Oh's
-brittany

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i have a girlfriend and we have done smooches and physical contacts. but she isnt ready to do sex. tell me what shud i do to make her do so with me??????

just like what most of them said, if shes not ready then shes not ready. You can wait or leave her. If you really love her, you would wait. If you dont, then you won't feel bad when you leave her.

Ex's and Oh's
-brittany

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is it shallow of me to want guys only for my butt.. i don't have much of a nice face or body for that matter but i do have 'a great butt'.. as i've been told.. so just tell me if im that shallow or not please

if oyu got it, fluant it. lol. Show it off and be proud. Everyone has something they want guys to notice more than other things. For example, I love flaunting my boobs and sometimes my tummy. If thats shallow, then Im in the same boat as you, lol.

Ex's and Oh's
-brittany

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my best friend bethany iz 12 and had SEX with a 14 year old and might be pregnant she asked me to help her but i dint know what to do!-H-E-L-P- PLZ

wow! 12? if i were you, i would try to stay out of it. but if you really wanna help her, make sure she gets a pregnancy test. Also, if it comes out positive, it is better to tell her parents sooner than later. If she is preg. then not matter what her parents will find out eventually.

Ex's and Oh's
-brittany

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